I am not sure this fully fits here

It's outside of our weekday scope as outlined in rule 5 (accessible on the sidebar via that half-black, half-white square button near the top right corner of the forum):

Submissions must show a woman who is looking for commitment while also either complaining about jerks or promiscuity, needing her kids provided for, being entitled or unreasonable, or complaining that she "can't find a decent guy".

There is no sign of her seeking commitment.

however...

but I think this is the pinnacle of entitlement.

It really is. Holy shit, what a great object lesson in both female entitlement and solipsism.

That, combined with the great commentary so far, is why I'll make an exception for this.

I really enjoyed Better Bachelor's video on this story

Now that UBI is paradoxically accepted as a mainstream policy item despite being nothing more than financial alchemy, this is the next item on the agenda list: The elimination of personal space and personal time. You don't just owe single mothers money (which you already do via the taxes you pay to the bloated welfare state) you also owe your personal space and personal time, because absolutely nothing should be left out of the collectivist redistribution table.

I wish more people understood that collectivism goes way beyond money. After all, the slogan "from each according to his ability, to each according to his needs" doesn't limit itself to money for a reason.

If you think I am paranoid, prominent leftists like Patrisse Cullors and Alicia Garza have already asked for "the disruption of the nuclear family structure requirement by supporting each other as extended families and ‘villages’ that collectively care for one another, especially our children, to the degree that mothers, parents, and children are comfortable", and they are trying to slip that demand wherever they can, no matter how out of place it is:

https://nypost.com/2020/09/24/blm-removes-website-language-blasting-nuclear-family-structure/

You have been warned.

Solo Mom by choice

As American author and solo mum Mikki Morrissette writes, “The goal of a single parent is not to raise our children alone. The goal is to consciously create the village in which we and our children will thrive.”

Doesn't have the social skills to hold down a father. And I think she either doesn't like stats or thinks too highly of herself because a father is very important backed by statistics. And I think it's the latter, she probably knows the stats but chooses not to believe. Women been doing that too much lately.

Goes on a rant about how motherhood is hard, and childcare workers are underpaid.

I tend to agree, raising children is hard and childcare is expensive. But the poster brought it upon herself, single mom by choice.

Know that I’m capable as hell, but I’m also constantly tired and often stretched thin.

What will you get out of it? You will get the giggling hilarity of my toddler as he hurls himself onto your back; you will gain a sense that we are all part of a messy, connected family. You will be inoculated against loneliness. You’ll know that you’re needed and required and loved; that you have a purpose, a part, in this sacred and shit-smeared job.

You are here to raise a child, to teach it about words and weather and the crime of double-dipping. You can show a kid how to be in the world – to teach him to be a person who stands up from his porch and asks, “Need a hand?”

This has to be hilarious highlight of the article. You get to LARP as the father. As if men are competing to raise other men's children.

This portion actually tells you why she's a "single mom by choice", you're projecting what you want onto men and expect them to see this as an advantage. Men are totally different people who want things drastically different than women. And this woman has not taken the time or effort to try to pry around. I am sure you've met people like this. 0/10 experience usually.

In any given situation it is unwise and in some situations unsafe to interact with a female. I have been been insulted about my age, height, gender and generation for doing nothing more than walking by women. I want nothing to do with women ever again. As a male I am only useful to hang the blame of whatever problems their having. LIKE THE AUTHOR IS DEPICTING. A guy having a cigarette is supposed to drop everything and rush to help her. HA. Her next story will be about her creepy neighbor guy always trying to help her.

Aldubruzzo already answered this (he literally saw her writing this from the past)

https://www.forums.red/p/whereallthegoodmenare/299817/well_the_good_men_are_gone_they_woke_up

https://www.forums.red/p/whereallthegoodmenare/299962/why_didn_t_anyone_stop_the_nyc_subway_hair_puller

She says

At this point you might be thinking: I’m here, I’m willing to help. Let me tell you how. Offer to carry shopping inside. Put a child into a car seat. Lift a pram up the stairs. Ask a mother if she needs to go to the bathroom (alone, without a child-barnacle) before you part ways. Pick up some groceries or coffee on your way over (we’ll pay you back, we promise).

If you’re sitting at home scrolling away your evening then relocate your screen time to my place so that I can step into the night air as my child sleeps. Make concrete suggestions: food or furniture assemblage or taking my son to the playground for an hour. Know that I’m capable as hell, but I’m also constantly tired and often stretched thin.

Really.

Try this on for size, bitches:

At this point, you single women might be thinking, I'm here, I'm willing to help. Let me tell you how. Go make me a sandwich. Take out my trash. Do the dishes. Vacuum my apartment, sweep the floor. Ask a single man if he needs some help straightening up the bathroom. Go get me some of my favorite bourbon on your way over.

If you're sitting at home shoving ice cream into your mouth, relocate your home time to my place and shove my cock into your mouth instead. Here's some concrete suggestions: Get to my bedroom ass up or legs up. Know that I'm horny as hell, but I need a stress reliever.

How's that sit with everyone?

Why does a man have to help her? Where is her tribe of "You go, girl" "Slay, Queen!" "We don't need a man" gals to step up and help?

Y'all (women) wanted this. Welcome to the society you created.

OK so true story: There exists a feminist commune in the US called Twin Oaks Community. They follow this same type of logic to make everyone else pay for other people's kids. The key caveat is that anybody who takes care of the kids gets credit for those hours as work and the women must take birth control and get approval from the community before having a kid. This woman just doesn't want to take responsibility and be held accountable. She should pay any men who come take her kid to the park or play with them. She should also get approval from all the neighbors to have the kid if she expects the neighbors to get involved in this type of arrangement.

If this were a town square, a hundred years ago, my neighbour…

… would call you a slut or whatever word they used back then. You would be shunned. Also, IVF probably didn’t exist 100 years ago. The village helped raise babies of mothers whose husbands died in wars, not of feminists who chose to have a baby because they live longer than dogs and can be a heavier duty emotional tampon.

Okay mofo, you are just trying to make my head explode with this shit. Nice try - almost worked.

Let's discuss, shall we?

If this were a town square, a hundred years ago, my neighbour would no doubt get off his arse and help carry my bags or watch my child

Prove that lady. You have been watching too much TV. it is not a wonderful life like that for most people and never was. Besides, a hundred years ago, indoor plumbing, dishwashers, microwaves, and takeout food were not yet a thing yet. Get your head out of your ass.

parenting and all its attendant domestic minutia has become increasingly atomised.

What the hell are you talking about? I am a single father and have been for about 8 years now. Never ever has someone done anything for me except babysit - and I paid for that the few times I needed it.

I don’t ask my neighbour to help because my generation of parents has swallowed the belief that parenting should be shouldered alone.

NO BITCH! YOU got IVF - ALONE. Oh Lord help me. I am going to have a fucking stroke rn.

Many people have moved away from their home towns to other cities or countries and find themselves without the support of family or the easy reliance on old friends.

That's called Decisions and Consequences. Look it up.

Parenting, instead of being shared, has become isolating, exhausting, and expensive.

Since when has parenting been shared? Sure, in big families, small tribal communities and places where there is a FUCKING PATRIARCHY TO KEEP IT ALL IN CHECK! You fucking half witted moron.

Ouch. My fucking skill bones just got cancer from reading this shit.

We believe that by asking a friend to babysit or a neighbour to carry our groceries we become a burden.

YES,. you ARE a burden. And your child will be a burden to society once it grows up.

We’d rather pay a stranger to enter the intimate, ecstatic and porridge-smeared corners of our life than feel indebted to a friend.

Lady, if you knew how bad this sounds on the other side of this screen you would take that back.

I’m part of a movement that is trying to reclaim a village-model of parenting.

There are many places in sub-Saharan Africa that agrees with you. Go give that a try.

And when you are in your little women- only space with a few men to protect you, just remember all the shit you did to get there when some ACTUAL toxic masculine tribe comes along, kills your children and takes you as spoils of war. Maybe you can convince them about your little pity party movement.

t goes without saying that the task of parenting falls mostly, squarely upon the aching backs of mothers.

Once upon a time your mom hung out with you most days. Also you did have communities with women who were all stay at home moms. But you wanted a "career" and you wanted to be like men.

Now you have that and you are complaining. That's not very manly now, is it.

And beyond that, to other women, who work for paltry wages to care for our children or wipe our kitchen benches.

Yeah, that's a good one. I laugh inside every time I pull up to a Drive up window and some 30-40 year old woman is in there enjoying her "career". The schadenfreude is thick.

Lady, fuck off. No one cares.

So she decided she didn't need a man for raising a kid until it got difficult and now she expects random guys to help her without her even asking? The level of entitlement amazes and disgusts in equal measure.

Her plea for the "village" of 100 years ago reeks of ignorance as back then no women opted into single motherhood by choice and unless she was a widow a single mother was a pariah. Back then the community did help out, but said community was mostly composed of your extended family and people you have known since childhood. Also, you would likely have elderly relatives living with you and everyone would be very much in your business. You cannot expect early 20th century community treatment from strangers in the 21st century. You cannot be a strong, independent woman and still be part of a village.

This isn't even getting the risks a man takes these days by approach women or children he doesn't know. I would bet that if the guy actually did offer to help her she would call him a creep.

Finally, IVF, fertility treatments, and donor sperm should be banned for unmarried women.

If this was the old school village she fantasizes about, women like her would have been shamed by the other women or outright stoned.

I couldn't even get past the title of that article, mate.

The BALLS on this bitch...

She chose to have a child via IVF, which eliminates even the possibility of child support from the baby daddy. She met her biological imperative to reproduce her DNA... well bully for her, but why is that her male neighbor's problem? Did she ask him to put a baby in her? If she had then at least the guy might care about her self-imposed problems, but I'm sure the answer is a resounding, "No!" She spent a small fortune to get a turkey-baster full of Chad DNA... she doesn't want to reproduce with some scrub who lives on her street, even though Chad is anonymous and the guy on her street would be there to help and would be required to pay her.

So now she's feeling overwhelmed and isolated as she longs for a time a hundred years ago... when women with bastard children were shunned rather than aided.

After women telling men that we are not - under any circumstances - to assume that a woman needs our help, she wonders why random men are not approaching her offering to help without being asked (which she refuses to do).

Let's do a thought experiment: imagine that you're a guy who sees a woman with a small child struggling to get bags into her house. Offering to help her is prima fascia evidence that you're a patriarchal $#!+-lord who assumes that a "Strong Independent Woman" like her bad self needs a man. There's also a non-trivial chance that she (or a bystander) will think that you're trying to gain entry to her house because you're a rapist or, even worse, a pedo. All sorts of mischief may come your way from that. Which leads me to her suggestion that a man take her kid to a park so she can get a latte or a nap.

lolnope.

What would she think if a grown man offered to take her kid off by himself? Not only would she not allow it, but there's a fairly good chance that she would brand him as a pedo to the neighbors. But let's say this particular woman trusts you and you take Junior to the park... how are the other kid's mothers going to react to seeing a kid with a strange man... at a park... near their kids? Will they confront him? Will they call the cops, and will they believe you when you tell them that the child in your care is there with the mother's permission... and "Sorry, Constable, I don't know where she is. She said she needed some alone time." Will you end up in handcuffs? Will you be the "Creepy Man Hanging Around the Playground" on the neighborhood Facebook page?

Innocent men have been murdered for stuff like that, and even if it doesn't lead to violence or police involvement, that's a stain that is never gone. It is a measure of her blindness to her female privilege that she thinks a man offering to watch a neighbor's toddler is a rational thing to do.

The whole "it takes a community..." thing isn't license to be a single mom.

It does take a community to successfully raise and socialize children... a community of actual families - a mother, father, and their children.

You cannot raise whole children in broken communities with broken families because that ends up modeling socially destructive behaviors as the norm.

Her:

I don’t ask my neighbour to help because my generation of parents has swallowed the belief that parenting should be shouldered alone.

Also her:

I get by with a lot of help from my parents, my brother and the angels I pay, like childcare educators and babysitters. More occasionally, I ask friends. Another mother is watching my son so I can write these words.

Her:

Parenting, instead of being shared, has become isolating, exhausting, and expensive. [emphasis added]

Also her:

I am a solo mother by choice with a donor-conceived son and no partner at home

Her:

It goes without saying that the task of parenting falls mostly, squarely upon the aching backs of mothers.

Whom else should it fall to, for a solo mother by choice with a donor-conceived son and no partner at home?

At this point you might be thinking: I’m here, I’m willing to help

Show of hands, gentlemen - anybody who did not think that?

Pick up some groceries or coffee on your way over (we’ll pay you back, we promise).

Of course she will. Maybe paying back in kind (wink wink, nudge nudge).

It is not all downsides though, you see:

What will you get out of it? You will get the giggling hilarity of my toddler as he hurls himself onto your back

And who wouldn't want that? Now admittedly I'm not a native speaker so I'm not 100% sure if I get this right - but it means the boy will bump into me? I got a bad enough back already, thank you.

You’ll know that you’re needed and required and loved

it's a win-win scenario: You'll be the provider without even the pretense of duty sex (now nasty people would ask where this differs from a regular marriage, but I digress... ;) )

that you have a purpose, a part, in this sacred and shit-smeared job

Wow, if she puts it like that, how could anybody resist? Those babysitters she mentions should be paying her instead the other way around!!1one

This article is just pure gold

despite knowing that I am a solo mother by choice

Not his choice, so why should he care?

It’s not entirely my neighbour’s fault.

So it's partially his fault?

“The goal of a single parent is not to raise our children alone. The goal is to consciously create the village in which we and our children will thrive the consequences of our decisions are not ours alone to handle.”

FTFY.

And beyond that, to other women, who work for paltry wages

Wages that you pay. You could pay her 50 bucks an hour and fight the patriarchy/wage gap, but let's not talk about that right now, right?

But what if we all saw ourselves as parents, no matter [...] our parental status?

What if you paid my bills, no matter the complete lack of relationship between us?

Do stuff for me for no good reason at all (except maybe being acused of having eyed the child innaproproately). What will you get out of it? Nothing, since it's not really your family, but maybe you could do even more chores.

And don't you dare trying to enforce limits, I'm guessing.

So....she is so angry that the neighbour guy doesn't help. She's struggling to get the groceries into the house, and she wishes the guy would help. Well, I'm sure he's got his wishes as well. Maybe she could suck the guy off? He's got something that he'd like done, she's got something that she'd like done. There could be a useful exchange of labour here that could result in a net positive gain of utility for both parties.

She'd likely be appalled at this suggestion. I'm an economist by profession, and I can tell you that all human (and animal) interactions have a transactional foundation at their core. As humans, we freely and gladly enter into mutually beneficial relationships, with the expectation that the sum value of the outcomes (for both parties) will exceed the costs that we suffer to create those outcomes.

For example, you and I agree to meet up to to have pizza and beer and a fun evening watching football. We rightfully expect the aggregate value of our shared experience to exceed the costs (financial and opportunity) that we suffer. If it were not so, we'd lose interest in this type of interaction. Friendship is based on the creation of utility for both parties. Marriage is the same. We all admit that there are substantial costs (effort, loss of privacy and autonomy, financial, etc) of getting married and raising children together, its just that we expect the aggregate value of the outcome (children, stable family life, company etc) to outweigh the cost of inputs.

What this idiotic woman is demanding is that the man in question simply provides value to her without her having to provide anything of value to him. Amazing.

She simply has no idea at all how humans or society works.

LOL this bitch:

"I’m part of a movement that is trying to reclaim a village-model of parenting. As American author and solo mum Mikki Morrissette writes, 'The goal of a single parent is not to raise our children alone. The goal is to consciously create the village in which we and our children will thrive.' ”

No godammit, no. The goal as a single parent is to accept your responsibility and not shift it off to others. Government already helps you, and if that isn't enough -- maybe don't have a "donor" child? What the eff is this chick even thinking. She got knocked up from some donor sperm by choice, and now it isn't good enough that she has to be responsible for her decision.

"What will you get out of it? You will get the giggling hilarity of my toddler as he hurls himself onto your back; you will gain a sense that we are all part of a messy, connected family. You will be inoculated against loneliness. You’ll know that you’re needed and required and loved; that you have a purpose, a part, in this sacred and shit-smeared job."

Oh, how enticing. I get to be part of the parade of men that interact with your kid, and somehow that is supposed to comfort me. Lonliness? That's for people who don't value their own time. I'm not a bitch, I'm a man. I can handle being on my own. My purpose is what I want to do, not to help you, not to clean your house, not to wash your fucking dishes.

If it was so sacred, you'd get your pious ass to work and not complain about it endlessly.

I know, what am I saying - asking a women to a) not complain, b) take responsibility ... yes, that will never happen.

There is a real question about if kids from the tribe used to spend a lot of time with other kids kids from the tribe.

If this were a town square, a hundred years ago, my neighbour would no doubt get off his arse and help carry my bags or watch my child while I do the return trip to get the second load.

No, people would shame you for being a single mother, you would barely receive any help from them or the state and your live would be MUCH MUCH harder.

Gosh, women and their illusions and romantic transfiguration of the past.

I don’t ask my neighbour to help because my generation of parents has swallowed the belief that parenting should be shouldered alone.

In a tight-knit, homogenous culture with strong families the men feel comfortable around even kids from other families. There's no instant label of "creeper" or "pedo" if you're seen near a playground or school. I've even heard stories from older folks that back in the 50s or so, if you got in trouble at school, you'd get smacked by every parent on the way home, including your own parents. In my neighborhood, I can't imagine this, I put myself at risk just being near other kids.

So no, it's not us that changed, it's feminists who don't trust or need men. They can have it their way, but they will not be happy with it.

TFW when a feminist single mother realizes their kids need a father, and they can't do a thing about it except shame men into being "an extra set of hands".

Although this is labeled as "Entitlement Princess", it really falls under the category of "Bailout" in that she bore a child for "Chad" (a tall sperm donor via IVF) who isn't in the picture to help her raise her own brood so she wants to shame the rest of us to help her raise "her" kids.

In the (recent) past, women married a beta bucks guy, bore him a child, then divorced him and collected "child" support and alimony where he would pay for a kid that was technically hers. She had the legal lasso around him. Chads who sleep around and knock a woman up and pay child-support become tainted as marriageable mates. This one was unable, or unwilling, to secure a man's resources to pay for "her" child.

If she wanted a man to help around the house (as she puts it, wink), then there's a way to accomplish that: SUBMISSION. Even single mothers can go online and land some average schmuck happy to get laid in exchange for helping with her brood.

Even as we live in a society that caters to women, nonetheless there's other competition for the share of the pie: corporate elitists, cheap labor immigration, government pork barrel lobbyists, the military-industrial complex all regard this woman as cattle, not the customer. The feminists have a whole system that bashes men and largely all responsible citizens and sucks us dry in taxes and she gripes that's not enough. Too bad. Welcome to the world of men.