No you didn't do the wrong thing.

I would have ignored it and tried to escalate gradually and subtly over the course of the date and then ghosted her if I didn't get my way.

I wouldn't have been so overt if I were in your shoes. But no, fuck that. She's already fucking a guy and wants commitment from another man before she fucks him while another guy gets it for free

Fuck that shit. You didn't do the wrong thing in taking her out of the date. But I would have done it in a less forward way. I would have said that I don't think our goals align or some bullshit

I'm torn.

Obviously she's low quality and a retard (shit tests have a limit and girls typically don't kiss and tell).

Also something tells me she was indeed hoping you would plow through her bullshit to plow through her.

My question is, what do you want?

Because you're sending mixed messages. Refine your aim and screening filters.

This seemed disrespectful to me, because I was spending time with this girl who is getting railed by another dude, and she was actually telling me about it. She was saying all of this stuff as we were pulling into the location of our date, so I told her that I was trying to fuck, in a way that suggested that that’s what I was expecting (not in a way that was asking her to fuck me or if she would fuck me).

She doesn't owe you respect. She is being honest with you.

She said she wasn’t going to so I calmly said we shouldn’t go on the date.

Good, but "we shouldn't" isn't what you say. Instead you say "ok, we're not going to do this, we want different things, let's not waste each other's time" and then take steps to bring things to a close.

However, the thought of spending time with a girl who I’ve never fucked, who is literally telling me that she’s not thinking about fucking but tells me she’s fucking someone else just disgusts me. It’s also disrespectful.

Don't think about this in terms of respect, think about this in terms of her being 100% completely unsuitable, but impressively honest.

However, did I entirely make the wrong move by going home? Part of the reason I went home was because when that previous girl checked out another dude on our date, I still wasted another hour talking to her and still chased her afterward. I never want to do that again.

You called it right.

No way that this girl would fuck you - she wants a provider while she fucks someone else.

If she wanted you to fuck her, she would not be talking to you like this.

Not everything is a shit test.

I'm gonna venture to speculate hypothetically that she may be hypersexual and is lining up multiple sex partners. Supposing that is the case, it would be a bit like getting freebies from a prostitute when she's off work. At first you feel like you're special and getting away with something but at the end of the day you're sleeping with a prostitute and slurping other men's cum out of her vagina. If that's your thing then great.

Vermillion-Rx's approach has the advantage of leading up to that. My approach would be to go nuclear and run asshole game.

4c.) Nuclear Shit Tests:

A nuclear shit test colloquially referred to as “going nuclear” or “the nuclear option” is when someone does something which violates conventional social boundaries in order to see how you will react. These are a step up from “advanced level shit tests” being more extreme in nature, usually bordering on psychological/emotional abuse. They can be covert (removing all the money from your bank account and feigning ignorance to see how you deal without money) or overt (somebody taking a bite out of your food and then staring at you in the eye.)

Nuclear shit tests are designed to test your reaction not by probing your psyche with words, but by probing your psyche with actions that would typically be expected to offend, hurt, disrespect etc. Say you’re with a girl and you’ve hooked up a few times. She’s pushing for commitment, but you’ve not acquiesced to her demands. You’re both out at the club and she starts grinding on another guy. She’s doing this to make you jealous in an attempt to force your hand. She’s using dread game and trying to get you to commit to her by inspiring competition anxiety within you. Dread game when used by women is a nuclear shit test. How do you pass this shit test? Go talk to other girls, when it inevitably comes up later she was grinding respond with “that’s cool” (it signifies you don’t care in a positive manner) or “you can do what you like” etc. Realise she did what she did for your benefit, to test you: it’s all about you. If you weren’t there to see it, she wouldn’t have used another man as an instrument to manipulate you into giving her an offer of exclusivity.

So, my friend, this was a nuclear shit test. The correct response is:

Ridicule Reframe – This is major asshole game or what I personally refer to as “Patrice O’Neal Game.” You use this kind of game to bring incredibly narcissistic and angry women off the ego pedestal. Don’t use this on timid sheltered women if you ever want to sleep with them, they’ll get too intimidated to act upon their attraction. Ridicule reframes are particularly helpful in bantering with other guys, who relish in the verbal violence and ensuing laughter it can inspire. In relation to the shit test at the beginning of this section: “I bet you’re single because your face looks like a 9/11 crash site “

In this particular situation, I would indirectly call her a whore by saying "Look, I know where this is going. How about we skip the date, I give the money directly to you, and we get on with the sex?". This gives you both the Vermillion opportunity and ends the date if she's not dtf. Oh and it knocks her off the pedestal.

You've posted the story with the girl checking out the higher SMV guy before. Boo fucking hoo, now forget about it.

You did good in the car. I applaud you for not going through with it like some shmuck. You were the chooser, and a girl like that wasnt worth your time. GOOD.