Always trust your gut. If it tells you she’s playing with you - she is.

Also, please stop with the online dating.

Protip: Every woman should be assumed by default to be looking for free attention, and it is her job to prove otherwise via her actions.

If she is clearly not working towards/receptive to invites to being in a position/situation where she could physically hop on your dick...you have your answer.

This is why overinvesting in "text game" is a retarded strategy for men. You can't fuck her thru the phone and she god damn well knows that, which is why women that are just looking for attention looooooooooove texting.

You're playing the attention game,some push-pull, friendly and joyful banter. it just reads like a cyber friend so far, you lose nothing just waiting for next weekend. Try and sexualize the convo a bit, and be spontaneous, tell her to ditch whatever plans she may have to go out for a fun date with you. You do lose a chance by not being a bit risky here, and that is the worst. Try not too care too much about the result and actually have other plans.

First, you gave no context on how you know that girl. Did you meet IRL? DM slide? OLD? I assume IRL since she's talking about a party.

Second, stop beating around the bush and give her a clear invitation, especially since it seems like she's fishing for one.

She practically begged for a date at least 3 or 4 times, strike 1. Then you finally wake up and ask "Nice are you free next weekend?" strike 2

Dude, come on, just say it: "I'd love a massage, I'm available Saturday evening I'll give you one in return, but first I need a drink at that place" or whatever. It doesn't matter if the day is bad for her, you will figure it out, but offer her something concrete to start with or reject you on.

she was busy but didn't come up with an alternative

How can she offer an alternative to "what are you doing this weekend?" if she doesn't even know when and what you want to do.

Her answer will have the same impact as your question. Make a wishiewashie invite, you'll get a wishiewashie answer.

"what day works best for you?" strike 3. Unless you know her IRL and are very attractive, you are now out.

By being direct you don't give her the opportunity to weight her options and give you vague excuses such as "I might see my family" or some bullshit escape plan like this, she either accepts or refuse. If you want a clear answer you have to offer a clear invite.

You need to think like a scammer or a telemarketer. Your goal is to get rejected as fast as possible so you don't waste your time on non-prospects. Embrace polarization.

Third, every single line of text you send should be an escalation toward 1) reminding her that you have a dick 2) trying to see her again. Leave the discussion about what you ate yesterday and what kind of day she had to when you actually see her. Don't let her suck you into those, it's a trap. She wants the dopamine hit of her phone constantly buzzing from guys trying to get in her pants. Don't play her game: get in, propose, get out.

I've been spending a lot of my spare time working need to make more time for fun events.

Remove that sentence from your repertoire. Don't try to look busy using work. It's the worst kind of busy. If work is all that's exciting about you, work on changing that. In the mean time, stay vague about how you spend your time.

Honnestly, all I see in that exchange is a girl serving you a date on a silver plater and you fumbling. Was she fishing for attention? Maybe. She did fade out but not before having to put the IRL meet planning back on track at least twice. We can't really know because you were not polarizing enough.

Now, try again with a direct and clear invitation, with a proposed place, day and time and tell her you are a bit flexible. If she rejects or fade again you'll have your answer.

blah blah blah......... why are you handing out all this free attention and time?

you suggested a meetup, she didn't go for it, therefore NEXT

Ugh, I barely want to read what women I actually know text. I'm not reading all that.

I will say that you need to combine what @Overkill_Engine, @ObliviousDuck, and @mattyanon said.

Always escalate. If she wants you, she'll work with you to make it happen. If she doesn't want you, then either the inevitable rejection is over sooner and you waste less time or she keeps trying to string you along, and you recognize the lack of interest for what it is and just drop her and move on to other options.

She is not sounding super interested but you really can't tell yet. Women who have been burned a lot before by their own haste can want to slow burn it a bit before they take a risk and do the same again as usual.

She is talking to you. You are not a "creep" you are in the possibles box. How much effort does it take to keep replying and making a good conversation? Probably not as much effort as finding another girl. Do that anyway to have options and a surplus mind but this might yet work out if the conversation heats her up. She wants your attention. Just work on being an interesting guy, no need to be constantly perma flirty and she may suddenly start to crave attention in person when the hormones drive her to. Women like attention but if they consistently like attention from a guy, it usually means something. Women are too lazy because the world is too surplus for them to invest in a long conversation without actually liking a guy. If a simpy guy is driving the conversation keen and thirsty it means nothing but if she drives it for days and weeks, it can mean something.

75% it comes to nothing but talk is cheap, so may be worth the bother, provided you can do it investing nothing emotionally.