If marriage really was that important to you, then why were you not able to lock down a quality man in your prime 15-21 years ago?

My guess is that she wasted her best years riding random Chad cock.

Translated:

without the title of "wife" and the status it confers and the ability to take half his shit when I get bored in a few years, there's no point to being in a relationship with him.

Last girl I dated for 4 months broke up with me cause I didn’t want her to move in, in the 2nd month of knowing each other and didn’t want to propose to her in the 3rd month of dating her. She thought I was stupid, I was not.lol

They grew up using an approach to relationships that could almost be described as "slash and burn" and are surprised when later in life the only fields left are now barren where no fucks grow.

This is exactly why I advocate for having a serious and straightforward conversation about your goals and intentions, as it prevents situations like this where you suddenly find out you do not have your goals aligned with the person you are dating. My wife and I did in less than a month, and we were not disappointed to find out we both wanted marriage in our future.

As for this woman, she did not have any winning moves that could be made. He did not want marriage, and there is no way she would convince him otherwise. And if we factor out this man, what does this woman offer for a man who would want marriage? She is too old to be having children (at best she might get a buzzer beater baby, and that is a big IF), and most men her age that are unmarried are that way for a reason. They are either divorced and do not want to go through that song and dance again, are happy as unmarried men, or are the men she would never give a real chance to. She is 2 decades too late to be thinking that marriage is a likely prospect for her future.

So when I say that women need to take things seriously for relationships early on, I mean both in terms of their age and within the context of a relationship. Any concern about "scaring off" someone with relationship talk is wrongly placed, as the people you would scare off are those who do not want a relationship. I don't mean you have to get married immediately, but rather you should know where the other person stands before the relationship advances too far.

She was probably reasonably attractive when she was younger. Another woman who has no one to blame for her failures in life but herself.

Why is it so important to be a wife now? Why wasn’t it important fifteen years ago?

It sounds very much like he is nexting this chick, but she is too dumb to realise it.

If he really did want her to stick around, he would not tell her what he just told her. There's nothing to be gained from this. He is obviously just dumping her.

By the picture, she looks pretty good. She isn't fat, not a single mum, no tats are other signs of insanity and she looks very good looking.

Which is probably the problem - good looking 41 year old women are a fucking pain in the ass. They have spent their entire lives on easy mode, being treated like a princess. I bet she is as crazy as a celebrity by now - because her life has basically been very similar to a celebrity.

I'm guessing her boyfriend is simply sick of her shit.

I got the second plate as a friend for the first plate. Now I have two needy plates that demand all my attention!

A man's lifelong commitment is the prize here, what all women desire. They crave the security that comes along with this.

I don't want to be someone's girlfriend forever

Why not? Because it means SHE is disposable, and HE is not. After entering our culture's caricature of marriage, this is reversed.

The whole situation is just insane

No, it's actually one of the few sane situationships, and you're going to see way more of these. Women are going to have to continually earn a man's commitment by actually being a good partner - making herself useful, being respectful, and having a good attitude.

This is so crazy to me. I know two girls who are kinda hoes. They’ve now ranted about having multiple men offer them the world. These are dudes in their late twenties with good jobs, nice paid off cars, and that live alone in an apartment or at least have only ONE roommate.

Every time they find a man like this, they tell me he asks one thing “I know we hooked up kinda easy so I know you’ve got other guys you’re fucking with. You drop them and stick with me and I’ve got you set”.

And every time they’re ranting to me, it’s always the same thing: I’d love to be with him, he’s a great guy, he’s just not interesting and the sex isn’t good.

IE there’s no tingles off a well-educated, successful man.

I no longer talk to those two because I realized I was just a beta to rant to for them. But, now that I’m turning into a successful man with my own apartment and middle class income, I wish I could see how both of them will end up in their 30’s.

If successful men are identifying the girls sleeping around and moving on when they’re asked to stop sleeping around and tell the man “no”, then it means women might get fucked over really hard once the new gen hits their 30’s.

Speaking of money, and exploiting men:

Just few hours ago, i had an """exchange""" with a Filipina (!) woman [disclaimer: I am Filipino now - not a pinoy, but when I needed, that country helped me - so I became Filipino]

In one group, she says that women don't leave men when the men are broke, but when the men mistreat them ... etc.

In the same breath, she comments, in the same group, to another post, that if you are broke as a man, then you should not even think about women - let alone date.

[ Tangent: You can now justify that men need to protect and provide lala la la ...

Then what do the women need to do? The usual answer is """nurture""" - If she can't nurture me when I am broke, why do I need her """nurturing""" later?

Children? Why would I want the genes of such a woman in my bloodline?

I myself fell in that trap once, then went totally broke, and she left. So I am not a red pill benchmark either, but I have learned my lessons; and my life is limited, so not gonna play such compromise games now. Doll > woman, etc. I understand that I am speaking some clichés but I should be honest about my BP history. ]

Back to the point:

Women and their lies around money and exploiting me for it and their ability to lie in the same breath will never cease to amaze me.