Mod note:

Re-flaired as "single woman tears"; here's the writeup on the "early bird" flair.

She sounds fat/so visibly ran thru and damaged that of course Trust Fund Thaddeus ain't having none of that.

Maybe Bitch-Icarus should stop trying to fly so close to the sun.

...and we wish you weren't such an insufferable bitch, but there you go.

Seems your friends have no trouble, hmm, what is that elusive denominator pointing to. Oh right, accountability isn't your strong suit.

This is what always happens when women fuck out of their league. If only they had listened to Omar:

Eh, a lesson here bae: you come at the king you best not miss.

Theory: preselection is the reason she envies her friends’ relationships and yet can’t bring herself to date similar level guys.

When Brad is on Jennifer’s arm he’s preselected, she sees Brad and goes “why can’t I have a relationship and a boyfriend like that.”

Then when she meets or accidentally swipes on Brad, sans Jennifer’s preselection, she goes “ugh if he’s all that’s available I’ll try again another time.”

This would explain how women whose friends are of similar MV simultaneously want what they see with their friends, but reject guys equivalent to their friends’ guys.

A less charitable alternative would be she secretly thinks she’s better than her friends and settling on an equivalent level guy would collapse that fantasy.

Finally we can add the problem all gamblers face - the longer the losing streak the bigger the win has to be to finally end on. If a Chad finally picks her to settle down it will all be worth it, she can retroactively make up for her losses and then some. So she stays at the table; maybe even looks for stuff she can pawn to keep pursuing the win that will make it all better - that will change her self image from tragically behind to a genius all along. (I can relate to this feeling as an entrepreneur.)

What was the thing women tell us? That is we valued female friendship, there will be no friendzone lalalala?

Now is your time to value male friendship?

Also what happened to the bears? Why dont you ask them for mutual feelings?

What caught my eye about this one is she claims to have been in 2 long term relationships since (calculated) the age of 16.

When women shame chads such as Leonardo DiCaprio dating 19 year olds is "women that young don't have their brains fully developed yet" but yet they are given the keys to the kingdom when most insurance companies wouldn't trust them to drive a car.

This is why, in the past, dating was heavily chaperoned by the parents (usually at home) or they were required to go out on group dates. it was tough for teens to wait to have sex but they were expected to hold out at least until the late teens or early 20's.

What changed with "the pill" was the notion of having serial monogamy (at least at first): It became the norm for young women to have sex with someone they weren't engaged to because they were expected to get married after finishing college presumably to someone else. Serious dating, where a man wasn't considered to date a daughter unless it was clear they wouldn't mind him as a future son-in-law was vetoed as "too controlling".

It's from these hook-ups that the army of single mothers have arisen from: From relationships that would have been utterly verboten 50 years ago. These truths have been long forgotten by most. It's just "normal" now for most young women to ride a CC, even a slow one, until their mid-20's or later.

Perhaps they're starting to catch on that men aren't marrying anymore. Young men have been schooled in the manosphere on the pitfalls of marriage. Some of these women are in the dark ages thinking young men of today are as stupid as their boomer dads.

Everything she says is rationalization of someone who wants to have her cake and eat it too.

If she ACTUALLY wanted a relationship, she would change herself and her expectations. Instead she follows her feelings like a blind bat, and hopes to have a convenient boyfriend who is there to take care of her feelings while still living life like a party girl.

Sorry, that only works when you're in college and hot.

What caught my eye is how she doesn't even think about being a wife and mother. Terms like SO(significant other), partner, etc are all ways of avoiding objective reality.

No explanation for why she's not interested in the guys who are interested in her. None of the relevant details someone would need in order to help her, and therefore no chance of any actual outcome in response to her post. Just a standard, unadulterated, boo-hoo-fest to strangers on the Internet...

...God, women are tiresome...

She acts like a dude, and then complains that masculine men don't want to date her. I wonder why...

of course with my luck

I guess you're just not lucky. Better step aside and let the lucky girls play the game.