Have a similar post to the one vermillion rx posted
However I don’t know his age I know mine ( 30) and I am leaning towards LTR for the right one but am not where I want to be life wise.
I still pick up girls from real life ( friends of freiend and our) and OLD. OLD is a minefield it’s so easy but it’s easy for everyone. I’m an interesting and charismatic character so girls normally are into me quite quickly and sleep with me soon after.
After one date they are trying to see me in the weekdays ( some say weekdays are better for dating but for me I like to keep my work, gym balance tight during then). So I know they’re into me but not necessarily only seeing me.
Am I being unfair that they’re hooked after one date or two but not closing all their options ( neither am I) this is a common theme around OLD
Also on another side note, it’s been some years since a girl I’ve broken as a plate has come crawling back. It’s weird to say but it used to happen not frequently but every once in a while. Is there something I’m doing or is that the new age ?
Intrepid_Place53900 3 months ago
(am I being unfair that they're hooked after one date or two but not closing all their options)?
It's not realistic. Assume any girl you are dating is also at a minimum "talking" to other guys. They always have one or more in the wings.
And, what I say below is only if you care to eventually have a LTR or want a LTR.
The key is, does she drop everything for "you". Does she prioritize you?
If she's not, move on. Or keep her as a plate , with the realization of, she's just a plate.
OPPTRP 3 months ago
That’s what I mean they do. I feel if you reciprocate they don’t like that
Intrepid_Place53900 3 months ago
it means they want to keep options open, so she's a plate, have fun with her
Durek_The_Bald 3 months ago
"Fairness" doesn't really matter when it comes to your boundaries. You don't need a better reason for any particular boundary, than you simply preferring it that way. It's not something you have to defend through morality or validity of argument.
Besides, men and women are so fundamentally different, that you hardly ever can directly translate a certain behavior, or expectation, to mean the same for the opposite sex. You seeing other people, and her seeing other people, is simply not the same thing - due to (amongst other things) how we gauge eachother's value respectively.
So if you want the freedom to date multiple people, while at the same time disqualifying for a potential LTR women who do the same, then that's perfectly fine. It's no more absurd or "unfair" than you having a penis, and yet expecting her not to have one. We are not the same creatures, men and women.
The only way you really should assess whether your boundaries and expectations make sense or not, is via enlightened self-interest; whether your boundaries prevent you from having whatever it is you wanna have, or not having what you don't want to have
mattyanon Admin 3 months ago
What exactly is your question?
whytehorse2021 3 months ago
You have to understand the difference between dating and courting for marriage/LTR. It's the same as the difference between whores and housewives. You need to start adding housewives to your friend-zone so that when you are where you want to be life-wise you can check your friend-zone and there will be a fully vetted LTR-ready woman there.
This is exactly what women do except with alphas and betas. They think they might find alpha buxx but all they find is alpha fuxx and then when they hit The Wall they settle for beta buxx and cheat on him with alpha fuxx. So, as a man, you're alpha fucking the whores and beta buxxing the housewives. The complete opposite of what women want you to be doing and what you've been told all your life by blue pill. This is what men have done historically but instead of dating you just went to a brothel and fucked a whore for the price of 2 meals and 2 drinks.