I met this girl through socials - I know it isn't preferable, but it works on younger girls.
I met up with 1 of her friends couple of months ago and she almost turned it into a friendzone, basically she wasn't interested in me. I stopped talking to her and time went on.
This girl I'm writing this post for - I added her through socials and her friend (which friendzoned me) basically showed my picture and all that.
That girl first said we can only be friends and this convo with me is your "sidequest", also she said her bf is super jealous - I took that like I'll fuck the shit out of her and she'll go back to her bf.
At first she didn't want to add me back, so I forgot about her and went back to my life. She again found me through her friend and added me - this is basically cheating tbh.
We talked and she invited me to come to a bar where she works and I agreed.
I also knew her from a party we went to, but she was very drunk and was with my acquaintance at the time.
Mind you - I did go out with her other friend a long time ago, I also wrote a post about her. I asked what her friend thought about all that - since she blocked me right after our date and she said she was bored, and I knew that, I was bored also with her and I had more anxiety and wasn't as comfortable as I am now.
But that didn't stop her from meeting me today, she can even ask some of her friends about me which have different opinions about me - I know less about her than she knows about me.
As soon as I came to a bar, she went all friendly-mode and started talking about her bf for a little bit.
I tried to maneuver convo into my favor, and we kinda did light flirting. She did kiss my acquaintance at the party where I was and ofc he's a womanizer and she hates all men apart from her boyfriend - you didn't hear this anywhere am I right lol.
The funny thing is I'm a "womanizer" just like that guy she was with and she put me in the same category as him basically - which is a good thing for me in this situation.
As time went on on our "date" she needed to get back to work and she didn't even come to my table - her stepfather came and her colleague she works with and they all sat and talked.
As she didn't come again to me I left, we said bye to each other and now she's dry over text.
I have more options now, but I still can't get past the 1st date - even if they're single or if they're "cheating".
I think girls like me because of my looks and that attracts them since they be looking at me at the clubs and my male friends said I'm the best looking one, but they don't get hooked right after - but that's just my opinion.
It's crazy that I went on the first date with 2 of her friends - 1 blocked me, 1 just left me on socials and now her it seems.
Where did I fumble?
throwaway415 1w ago
who cares.
Fuck bitches and get money
JPCantell 1w ago
She pulls back, you pull back. I’m talking even in text length.
Do not chase. Ever. That includes double texting, texting longer, hitting her up more than she does you, etc.
SSBPikkon Can't think for myself 1w ago
So that means mirroring her? Isn't that like entering her frame instead of owning your own frame?
JPCantell 1w ago
You should be less invested than her at every stage of the relationship, giving her less is merely a side effect of that.
SSBPikkon Can't think for myself 5d ago
Every time I do that it always seems I do too little. She doesn't get hooked, moves to another guy and just leaves.
They still invest more than me, it's just I want to invest even less.
Musicgoon78 2 1w ago
Did you escalate? Did you try anything? Did you sexualize the conversation or flirt.
I found that reading this was rather dry.
If you don't do playful things to give a girl tingles, she's going to lose interest.
Getting her attention is the first step. Keeping her attention comes immediately next.
SSBPikkon Can't think for myself 1w ago
Also it's harder for me to escalate more on a limited time and during the day.
Musicgoon78 2 1w ago
If you can't escalate, you won't have success. It's a simple as that. It's part of the process. I'm not interested in excuses.
SSBPikkon Can't think for myself 1w ago
I think I did, the problem is they can be reserved at first.
What do you suggest that I try?
Musicgoon78 2 1w ago
What do you mean "I think I did"?
What exactly did you try?
SSBPikkon Can't think for myself 1w ago
as much as i could, some touching, leg touching and thats it
she came all friendly-mode nothing i could do
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1w ago
Bullshit.
1) You can escalate and make your intentions clear.
2) if she playfully rebuffs, you try again in a bit. Repeat until you get laid or get a clear, total rejection.
3) you can bail on the activity if you think she's being too cold and distant and uninterested.
Or 4) you can do what you did, and just kind of hover around her like a too-eager puppy.
I'd have bailed at that point and moved on to better prospects. This entire thing reads like she's not interested, but enjoys the free attention you give her.
Attention has a price. She isn't paying that price. Next!
Lone_Ranger 3 1w ago
Holy overthing batman.
You are asking about women on socials? Get off the socials and get out in the real world.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
I forgot to +3 you the other day, congratulations on the flair change
SSBPikkon Can't think for myself 1w ago
I've had multiple girls from socials, why is that wrong?
Ofc it's better irl, but this is a good option especially if you're attractive
Lone_Ranger 3 1w ago
ok dude - if you think / know / beleive that hitting up girls on socials is the way forward, just go ahead. you don't need us. you have it all figured out. go for it.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
When are you going to stop egotistically arguing with heavily flaired users in comments and have the humility to see that people far more experienced than you are giving you good wisdom
SSBPikkon Can't think for myself 1w ago
Come on man I just asked a simple question.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
Different way to phrase your inner disagreements dude. You have quite a bit of friction and tension in receiving advice
You want to believe what you want to believe despite being inexperienced
Lone_Ranger 3 1w ago
agreed - we've seen it all before - guys come on the platform, ask for advice, and then say the advice is all wrong.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
Their responses saying "BUT I did XYZ guuise!!!" As if self determination is doing things that work
Smdh
They could come on here and reflect about what experienced men are telling them without getting butthurt about what they should have done instead
@SSBPikkon
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
"Her boyfriend"
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1w ago
Also post one more field report without asking a newbie question and I will remove your flair