So let's get something straight for these two poor, struggling souls [sic]. Men never went to a bar for drinks. You can drink much better liquor, for less money, without the inconvenience of flagging down a bartender, at home (don't even need to wear pants!).

Men go to bars and clubs to meet women. That's what they're paying for. A club promoter once referred to his job as slut-herding: rounding up hot sluts into a single location, so that guys could pay money for the convenience of shooting their shot with a bunch of women in a single night, women that they otherwise would never meet through work or friends or the rest of their normal lives. The alcohol is just social lubricant.

But now, the slut herders aren't necessary, because they've been replaced by the biggest slut herder of them all: Tinder (and other OLDs). Now, you can shoot your shot with far more women herded into a single location, much quicker, and much easier (don't even need to start with small talk). And even a paid subscription to Tinder is cheaper than a cover charge.

Eespite women's lies to the contrary, even in bars, it was never about conversation. It was about your looks first (which is why everyone dressed up). Then money ("So what do you do?"), then maybe a little extra credit for personality. Which is the same on Tinder. So it's not even like you have a better shot in a bar because it's in-person (maybe at church, or at work, or being setup by friends, the priorities are a little different, but not at a bar). Why would any man who has a decent shot at attracting a woman at a bar, not just spend their time swiping on Tinder? Far more efficient, cheaper, and you only need one set of curated pics rather than having to dress up every time you go out. No small talk, no buying drinks, no dealing with friends being cockblockers, it's open 24/7, you can literally go through more women during a bathroom break at work than on a full night at a club.

And let's be frank. Neither of these women is celibate. They go to a bar hoping some deluded person will buy them free drinks all night, while lining up a fuck session with a hot guy off tinder. And guys know this. If you go to a bar with the intention of hooking up, or even actually finding a girlfriend (you sweet summer child...), you're no longer just competing with the guys at the bar. you're competing with the thousands of guys available to her on OLD that night. What advantage does meeting them at the bar provide you? It's far better to be the guy meeting them on Tinder. The cost is basically free (not just in money; in time, and most importantly, emotional damage of being rejected).

Honestly, even the women prefer this: they have access to many more guys than they do at the bar. What they're really complaining about is that they no longer get free drinks, and they no longer get the dopamine high of rejecting a man to his face after he's invested several hours and a hundred bucks on drinks for her. That's really the only thing that bars provide for a woman that they can't get from Tinder.

Theoretically, swiping is better for both parties: neither one wastes time with someone they see no potential in. But only women complain about it, because the old system had something more valuable: seeing just how much time/effort/money you're willing to pay for the chance of dating her, before she rejects you. Guys' emotional pain at rejection was always the inverse of women's emotional satisfaction at seeing how far on a limb a guy would go for her. It's why when experienced players, who might spend the same amount of time on her, easily move on to the next one when she says no, the girl feels cheated, or "played". What exactly was she cheated of, if the PUA still spent time chatting with her and flirting with her? And the answer is of course: she didn't get to see him suffer from her rejection. He robbed her of that emotional high.

That's what these girls are after when they go to a bar. They can find men more easily on Tinder than any bar, just like men can find them with much less effort. But the high of rejecting dudes on Tinder by swiping left isn't the same as seeing their confidence shattered face-to-face, especially when you know the guy you swiped left on barely even remembers swiping on you amongst the hundreds of other girls he swiped right on. And for sure will never spend the rest of the night thinking about you and what he might have done differently.

Do check out the comments at the bottom.

Also, @polishknight has already posted the video that this article talks about.

Only women could start a global movement to end flirting of any sort at any location, and then get upset that men have stopped flirting.

Always have [with Chad]

In 2007, I was on a FPSO off the coast of Nigeria. Nigeria at one time was a colony of the UK. When Nigeria got its independence, it kept its main connection to the western world via the UK. On the FPSO we had internet. The default page was based in London, thus all articles online were based in the UK. I was on-line looking at the side bar stories, such as what pubs were the best in London, and soccer scores etc. I found a story titled "Tall women complain shorter men don't approach them," I thought to myself, on what planet has this ever happened? So I read it. The story centered on 5-6 women who were 5'9 to 6'. So what was the problem with them getting dates? They all were early to mid 30's.

Me: Too bad they didn't have this benevolent attitude to shorter men when they were 22-26. Now, that they smashed through the wall and were aging out and losing out to younger and shorter women, they were in panic mode. Now, any single male was welcome. Again, too bad they didn't think like this when 22-26. Boo Hoo we limited out options and now our options are limited.

Remember, she asked about the cute guys. Its only the cute guys. If you don't think you qualify as a cute guy for her (the girl you don't know over there) better stay away or you will be a creep harassing her.

Second thoughts, unless you are a true Chad maybe leave it. If you are a true Chad, you probably have something better lined up anyway.

Men approaching women is so 1950's. This is 2026. Woman up, bitch. If you want a man, go approach one.