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Overkill_Engine WAATGM Endorsed 7h ago

Oh, so she's fat, fucked in the head, and chases men that she should have known better than to chase from her experiences growing up....but did it anyways and predictable results ensue.

And of course wasted her entire early adulthood on this shit instead of actually fixing it. All of these issues she had control over and this is the end result.

Can't imagine why men would take a look at that and realize she's never going to get any better and just write her off.

First-light Jr. Hamster Analyst 7h ago

Victim, victim, victim, fat victim, aging victim.

I am genuinely sad for her but she is just another statistic of what happens when you don't shoot for what you actually want but assume you can have it all because "girls are amazing and deserve it all". If you want to be a wife and mother, aim for it form the get go, through your education and then seek a good husband early. otherwise this kind of thing may happen.

woodsmoke Respectful reprobate 7h ago

One from the archives. I found this one years ago, back when I still regularly visited/posted to faggit. This particular gem came from a subreddit purporting to be all about the users getting with the metaphorical program, owning their shit and transforming themselves into the kinds of women men actually want as mates.

Believe it or not, this was one of the better examples I found in my time there.

Even taking her at her word about the abusive childhood and ex, she still frames the whole thing in a fundamentally passive way. She's not single and childless at 29 because she's overweight and chose to spend her prime reproductive years pursuing a career as a corporate cog, she just hasn't been lucky.

Her circumstances aren't a natural consequence of the choices she's made but a result of Mean Old Life happening to her, despite her being the "nicest, most loving, generous, caring" bump on the log you ever could find.

polishknight WAATGM Endorsed 4h ago

I had several thoughts on this one and about how men-women from troubled backgrounds differ.

Many of us come from less-than-ideal backgrounds and childhoods and then get propelled into adulthood having to deal with it: Pay the bills, figure out how to socialize outside of high school, and get on with life but also, you want to enjoy your early adulthood as well.

During my 20's, I watched a lot of wonderful movies, went to shows, and developed my own personality and interests. I got my career going. I was a nerd and geek, but I was developing. If you haven't "made it", you're just another basement dweller to many women but that doesn't stop one from otherwise enjoying life just like the corporate nuns.

In my 30's, I finally got my act together and then found a wife, married, and started a family. This is what many men do, if we get through it. If a man was to say he's a victim of childhood trauma in his 20's, the reaction from society is: Tough. Go to therapy if you like but no sane woman is going to handhold you through it.

There are veterans in their 20's who went through far worse stuff than she did with PTSD. They are expected to deal with it.

So her epiphany isn't one of: "Here's the challenge I face due to me being past my peak, I guess I can lose weight AND get a better attitude and find a decent, albeit not sexy guy, and get engaged by 33" but rather "It's hopeless so I needn't bother"

Which is a teenager entitlement attitude: "If I have to make an effort to clean my room, what's the point?"

For all this talk of the "work" they did in therapy, what did she learn? That if hot guys don't rescue her, it's hopeless?

Women weren't ALWAYS this way. My paternal grandmother went through two world wars, co operated a Polish market, raised two children, AND ran a Catholic charity to help mothers with newborns.

My other maternal grandmother went through The Great Depression, her husband died leaving her a widow, she ran a business, and loved to go to boxing matches, the bloodier the better.

The Soviet women I met were all tough. I have always had high standards and was flummoxed when I realized how different the crop of American women were when I was single.

Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 7h ago

I must have missed this one on the first go 'round. In fact, I don't recall your ever having posted before, either here or at that other platform, but rather just commenting.

Edit - and so many flairs fit this one! Leftovers, damaged goods, inspin tears, etc. What made you decide on epiphany phase?

woodsmoke Respectful reprobate 6h ago

I haven't posted this one before. "From the archives" was referring to the fact it's been sitting in my downloads folder for years while I "got around to it."

I didn't really think about the flair beyond her age. I suppose those others do fit a bit better.

Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 6h ago

sitting in my downloads folder for years while I "got around to it."

I'm at several months for some of mine haha

SpiritualEnema Jr. Hamster Analyst 5h ago

I like the hammer and nail analogy in this case. Some people are hammers and some are nails. This lady is a nail, she can’t be attracted to another nail, she goes looking for hammers, and all the problems that they bring. She seems to want a nail, but we all know she wouldn’t be attracted to him if she found him.

All this text to say that she is broken, and can’t be fixed. All the validation she likely received in therapy obviously isn’t working. Her picker is broken. She is a perpetual victim. We know how this story ends.

Land_of_the_losers the-niceguy.com 2h ago

She wouldn't have interest in a man who wasn't an unstable basket-case. There would be no 'spark' for her.

PoopBeast Jr. Hamster Analyst 26m ago

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