She's clearly for recreational use only while also not being much fun.

Thus her results.

Dinner date for first date

Single mom

No shit he cancelled. First date dinner date when he's 1) from out of town and 2) you come with kids in your life

This is what you get by having kids with a man you either didn't want to marry or couldn't stay married to.

This was the price you paid for not planning adequately for your future as a woman. You can't have it all. You may have to look for someone who doesn't mind you having kids or can't have kids of his own, because 95% + (being quite liberal with my numbers estimate here) of eligible bachelors who are baby free are not going to entertain your circumstances for long.

any takers?

I'll make a date with her as long as I can also cancel on her too

(Mod note - this would have been more appropriately flaired "single mom tears" than "bailout", as there was no mention of needing provision)

I'm a single mom, [scheduling issues]

I can't even get a date

What am I doing wrong?

Seriously? You can't see how your kids come across as nothing but liabilities and obligations to someone not related to the kids by blood, and that they might want nothing to do with that?

You can't see how the very loud message that you couldn't even make things work with the father (or is it fathers?) comes across?

I mean, she's physically attractive enough for a bit of fun, but single moms do not qualify for anything remotely serious.

Bastardy has become so common, and the false narrative around it so ubiquitous, that women have forgotten how much it damages their prospects with HVM. Take this woman for example: unless the camera frame is hiding a pear-shaoed body, she's quite attractive... she should have no problem meeting men who want to spend time with her, even just to get in her knickers (and single mothers are notoriously easy lays).

Obviously we don't know why this particular guy canceled this particular date, but if it's a recurring theme for her (and her perception may be way off), there's something about her that's hindering her from connecting with men who aren't looking for wives.

Then again, this is 2022, and dinner dates imply a level of interest beyond, "I'm in town for two days - let's meet somewhere and bang." I wonder if she hid the fact that she has kids and he noped out when he figured that she was going to be constantly checking in with the baby sitter and then leaving right after the waiter scanned his card.

Nobody wants to be some loser's foodie call.

I thot I could get a hu$band, but I can't even get a date. I ju$t don't under$tand.

Listen bitch! You're an aging single mom wannabe blonde with sagging tits.

You already had sex with many men. You already have emotional baggage. Your schedule is so busy, you hardly even have time to date. Worst of all - come with kids!

You need prince charming to swoop in and assume all the responsibility for your mess of a life. You wish to still maintain all your authority.

It doesn't work that way.

Authority without the corresponding responsibility is tyranny, responsibility without the corresponding authority is slavery.

Seen this one before. My guess is that she was a B option and the A option came through. They’re learning in real time about what it’s like to not be the first draft choice, a lesson us men learn fast.

In Japan, single women over the age of 25 are referred to as “leftover Christmas cake” in reference to items that remain unsold and no longer desired after the 25th.

If they're leaving after they fuck, it's not them... It's that you are so insufferable that men don't even want to stick around for the pussy.

Sounds like he found a local chick willing to smash for a cup of coffee instead.

Think about all the prep this woman had to do to make this vid. She had to put on gobs of makeup to look decent, choose a dress to hide being overweight (but still showed some cleavage), and then get herself in the right mood so she was almost crying but not enough so her makeup ran all over.

This is just attention whoring. These women can never get enough attention. The funny thing to me is that either way her date goes she will use it to garner attention from other females. "Look at the guy I went on a date with ladies" vs "He stood me up, men are pigs".

This was a huge revelation to me. Women dress immodestly, wear makeup, and make "poor me" videos not to change the world but to increase their position in the female pecking order. The victims at the top get the most attention and validation for their crummy life choices.

Also, this girl reminded me of that French girl last week crying "show me what to DO and I'LL DO IT!" No you won't. You'll do exactly what you are doing and then play the victim when it goes wrong again, because it gets you more attention and validation from women.

If you're only available less than once a week in a good month, maybe you should be just looking for sex - on night stand, semi-regular lover, FWB, whatever. You've still got the looks where you'll be able to pick an choose somewhat on that front. If you're only rarely available in person, at least give some value for the little real in person time you'll spare him. God knows any guy with half a brain or a little experience doesn't want to feed your attention whoring online every day for only an outside chance at that.

Your kid(s) are your kid(s) to you; to every other guy (except maybe the father) it is just somebody else's kid(s). All too likely a financial or at least time, emotional, and social liability in any close relationship with you.