This is an example of women misunderstanding how men work. She thinks that by projecting the things she finds attractive in a partner (money and status), she is entitled to the same. She brags about being a busy, wealthy medical resident, mentions her looks a bit then says nothing of her attitude, though we can infer a lot from what she is writing.

For someone so intelligent, she cannot figure out why men don't want to be with someone who puts their career first. If she is supposedly so attractive, she isn't offering more relationship-worthy traits for men to stay for more than sex. She had like 15 years to find someone but if other doctors, nurses and other medical staff are avoiding her, there is clearly something else very wrong with her.

Until modern women learn to compromise and stop being hypocrites about appealing to men's preferences (while expecting someone to appeal to theirs), they are more than welcome to take themselves out of the gene pool and collect cats into retirement.

“Buy a dog, die alone”

• The Godfather

I look 10 years younger than my real age

Yeah, keep telling yourself that.

This sub is slowly becoming an advert for forums.red

Sad that this sub is definitely on the chopping block from the reddit mod overlords.

But this is a nice middle ground for discussion. Forum.red will get no traffic from people that are not already firmly set in TRP mindset

A few points here:

First, She's 36 and still a resident. That means most likely she worked for several years and went to medical school late. That, or she did an MD/PHD and is in a long residency like surgery. The typical pattern is finish undergrad at 22, med school at 26, and residency by 29-33 (depending on specialty). Either way, the big point with this is that the vast majority of male residents are significantly younger than her.

It's very common for doctors to marry other doctors. Frequently they meet in medical school or residency and get married. But that's if they're close in age to one another. She's most likely looking for another doctor to marry (when you're working like a dog in residency, you don't have much time to meet anyone outside the hospital). But she's not meeting them. Because male residents younger than her are looking at other residents the same age, or perhaps nurses and other people in the hospital who are younger than them. They're certainly not looking for someone much older than them.

Why not older doctors who have already finished training, and maybe are in their 40s? For 2 reasons. Most of them will already be married (if they finished their own residencies in their early 30s, they typically get married within a few years after that), and the ones who aren't married are now making bank and can easily attract younger women, including younger doctors if that's what they want.

Second, thanks to #metoo, no attending dares even ask a resident if she's single, much less actually go on a date with her. It used to be common for young attendings, residents, and even med students to hang out after work, get to know each other socially, etc, just like any other workplace. And given how much time doctors spend in the hospital, it was inevitable that many of them got to know each other well and became romantically involved. As long as you weren't both in the same department or otherwise had actual supervisory powers over a resident, it was generally considered fine. That's all dead now. Now, if she wants to date an older doctor, she has no "home court advantage" with doctors that she can easily get to know at work. She's forced into the OLD dating pool to meet doctors and other rich men who know nothing about her, and where she has no advantage compared to the other strangers those doctors are evaluating, many of whom will be younger, hotter, etc.

FWIW, this is a problem for nurses now too. Many of them work at a teaching hospital specifically because they're filled with young med students and residents that they might be able to snag as future husbands. And plenty of them succeeded, because for the guys, it's also easier to date someone you already know and see every day rather than go through the drudgery of filtering out strangers. But with #metoo, anyone you work with is off limits, so the ability to be in daily contact with a bunch of young, upwardly mobile guys gives you no competitive edge in dating them.

Finally, as others have stated, it's ironic that she's looking for someone richer and more successful than herself, but rejects guys who look at her with the same eyes. Rules for thee, not for me?

You married your job, lady. What's the problem? What are you complaining about? You wanted to work 12 plus hours a day and be self sufficient without needing a man, now you can't find something you don't need and have specifically set your life up to evade. This is what you wanted.

Is it just me or does she talk like an idiot?

Oh, poor thing. Her hypergamy is all dressed up with nowhere to go.

Sounds like she should have focused on getting the MRS. degree rather than a MD. Oh well, perhaps she can serve as example of life decisions and consequences to the next generation of sloots.

Doubtful.

Something-ish like this just happened to me and I totally noticed the difference.

I was out of town, and my cousin landed in that town with her girlfriend (girl who is friend) Girltrip!

I was like NO WAY, what are the odds? hey cuz lets meet up for a drink haven't seen you since.

We meet up:

MY cousin is all about "lets not stray too far, I want you to meet my friend, she's single"

Rut-ro.

So I meet her and she's decent, 48, and good enough for face-down ass-up work, but not daylight in plainsight so me no bite.

we were walking behind back to the hotels

when MY cousin asks: so how do you like her? She's got a master's degree in X...works at Y....

And I cut her off, not rudely, but abruptly, the words just shot out of my mouth.

Me: I don't care about degrees, I saw the front and back of everything that's important. She's ok. (but I'm not making a move and not biting, just being polite. I have plenty of things to keep me from getting hungry in Vegas).

My cousin smiled and shook her head at me. "she's got 2 kids, one is 23 and the other 16."

Oh I said, "2 years to freedom? That means 2 years till she can go on a date."

MY cousin shook her head.

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What got me, was how fast and certain I was about not caring about the education. Only the skin she was in as a maybe, and the 2 kids slam dunked it to a no.

Well, at least she is on her way to a well paying career. The types of men she is complaining about, those are the ones who would go for an almost middle aged workaholic.

She became the man she always wanted.

...making sure no man would.

All magic comes with a price, dearie.

This woman has already married - her job. Polyandry is extremely rare, and most Western men do not want to be second husbands.

First of all, she's 36 and still a resident? What kind of residency is that? At least where I live, you finish med school at 24(it's 6 years), and by 29-32 you are already an attending depending on the specialization you chose and the waiting times.

Second, most of the time a woman says she looks younger than her age and all that just means that she actually doesn't look younger than her age and all that. So she's probably an average looking 36 year old that might look decent with tons of make up, nice dress and heels, in a low light environment. Maybe.

Third, she thinks men care about her job, "career", income, and all that crap, when they don't actually. Add to that the fact that men who would even give her a chance, basically men in their 40s, have probably already tried marriage and kids and it didn't work out. And if they haven't already, they probably have no intention of ever trying it and are just content with keeping it casual.

She is just another naive victim who was sold a lie when she was young, attractive and fertile(at least comparatively to her current state). It is what it is.

P.S. I find it kind of funny when these types of women ALWAYS and I mean ALWAYS imply that men are intimidated by their career and money and all that. Ladies, unless you are twice the guy's size(and I mean MUSCLES not FAT) and holding a gun, then believe me rarely if ever will a guy be intimidated by you. Common sense just says the guy just doesn't find you attractive, that's all there is to it, why make it complicated?

She is definitely her biggest fan. Not only does she tell us how attractive and young she looks, but also mentions three times that she’s a resident. We get it lady, now go home to your boxes of wine, geez.

At least she's unlikely to be yet another girl doctor who quits or goes part-time after a few years because she has kids.

That's a real thing, too. The British National Health Service has a doctor shortage that is artificially created by admitting so many women into medical school. Men who become doctors tend to stay doctors, and many go on to specialize. Women who become doctors tend to gravitate toward GP or pediatrics and then either cut their hours or quit entirely within ten years because they want to be with their kids while they're young. They try to square the circle by importing doctors from "the Empire," but that just means that kids in India die so upper-class girls in London can say they're doctors.

Nobody is going to wife this woman up. Any guy she would want can do better than a 36-year-old workaholic with a bad attitude and a terminal case of baby-rabies (not to mention the fact that he'll have to take on her student loan debt when she scales back or quits). That leaves guys who are in her league, MMV-wise, and she would look down her nose at those men. She's priced herself out of the market for what she wants.

This woman isn't a doctor. She writes like a fucking gang banger, and again the best test of "I look 10 years younger than I am" is sticker her in a bikini contest with a bunch of 22 year Olds so she can see how out of her depth she is.

Another woman whom thought she could have it all.

She needs to either:

1. Shut up and finish her residency, or
2. Shut up and drop out of the residency program for a lesser job so she can have more time to find a man and start a family

Either way, she needs to shut up.

Part of me actually feels sorry for her

Society keeps selling women on the idea that they will be the second coming of Christ and solve poverty/racism/whatever

Then, they find out too late that a job isn’t nearly as enjoyable as being a wife and mother

But, the only way society is going to change the way it manages the expectations of females is if the next generation of females has a aunt who never got married and that aunt serves as a cautionary tale for the next generation of young females

I will never understand why people use abbreviations nowadays. "Weight n height appropriate". She saved two letters. Things like that and "soz" were from when text messages were limited by characters. Something like 20 years ago

And on that - what on earth does "appropriate" mean?! Conveniently vague I guess. "Appropriate" weight doesn't mean a good figure. Given her career I we are looking at someone in their mid 30s who doesn't go to the gym. At all. (I expect she would mention it if she does)

I already commented on the looking younger in another reply - just because you are ID'd by over cautious bartenders or supermarket check out people it doesn't mean anyone actually thinks you are 26. And if people have told you "you look 26" then you need to consider who has said that. If it is a guy then it is likely worthless. And not much better from a woman. How many times have we seen crabs in a bucket syndrome? Or just women giving bad advice in general

As a final musing - does anyone here really believe that the 41 year old guy actually tried to get back with her? After actually asking her "what is in it for me" - which took some stones I expect. And being the one who did the dumping. More likely is she tried to chase him up a week later and he said "no" again. Or asked the same questions and didn't get a satisfactory answer. I don't think many guys are so flippant with decisions to the extent of trying to reverse it a week later. I guess he might have thought he had someone else lined up and it failed. But that is more common among women

And the guy seemed super happy with her except for the job that took up close to 50% of her time and I assume 70-80% of her waking hours in a week and is clearly key to her identity (mentions it three times). Sounds like he wasn't happy at all really and she is utterly oblivious

Somebody sell her some dildos already!

What went wrong? Someone should tell her: "you!"

This woman is a resident, soon to be MD, and has not calculated that the chances of having a child are already gone. At the rate things are now even if she found someone you could figure she would be 38 before she even conceived.