After reading "the tool of ASD", I was very enlightened by your view on the concept. However, a recent real life situation made me question the idea that ASD is merely a tool used by women to optimize sexual selection. I went out recently with a girl that is in a LTR but an open relationship since she is an exchange student in my city. She expressed her attraction explicitly and everything was going smoothly until I mentioned a past experience with a girl in a LTR who cheated on her bf with me. I believe I said that in a way that could be misinterpreted as judgmental. This immediately led her to keep a distance and act cold for the rest of the date, in return I acted uninterested and didn't make a move. The next time I contacted her she came up with excuses to not see me. This led me to start thinking that every woman needs to protect her self-image as a " good girl " and would go far enough to reject a guy she was obviously interested in sexually just to protect this image. I am not sure if its me who misunderstood your article though.

On a side note, I wanted to tell you that it's because of your blog that I "unplugged" and spread the word ( already unplugged 2 of my friends ).

What would you tell the men who believe it's too late to change? Men who have been stagnated by depression, addiction, hopelessness; and wish to find a reason to wake up in the morning?

Let us have these premises:

1. It is advisable to spin plates.
2. In the first stages of dating, one should not overtly tell the girl that she's just another in the rotation. It may be covertly expressed via behaviour, but the girl should be left in suspense.
3. In later phases of seeing each other (ideally not before having sex with the girl for at least 2 times), the rules should be clearly voiced and an open relationship is established.

My hypothesis is: isn't it possible that by this time, the girl is already hooked/in-love with you and this is the only reason why she agrees to these terms? In order to cling to you and keep you, even though you're not exclusive to her?

She would not have agreed to these terms were they verbalized in the first stages of dating. She only agrees to them later when she's already psychologically hooked.

What I'm asking: is this moral? Doesn't it sound like psychological manipulation?

I know the standard TRP explanation is that I'm brainwashed by feminine blue-pill conditioning, which may be true, but I actually wish for someone to prove me wrong in this case.

How tall are you? If you are over 5'10 I'll skip reading your material, because tall man have things so easy cause height...

What is your opinion of nofap?

I really hate my parents for turning me a nice guy, not achieving my goals, and instead of saving my money for my better future and ended up using my money for my parent's favor (bills, electricity, food, debt, etc.) while trying to hide my 10% of salary as I can. I was planning to leave the house from my parents once I become rich and started to become an "alpha male" to improve my wealth, sexual life, and status. I can still appreciate and sense some of my dad's trait since he has good social circle with the friends from Saudi since my dad is an OFW (Overseas Filipino Worker) working as a sales manager for Kanoo Cargo. He even had a background about living as a group against pesky assholes in a non-violent and judging way and sometimes my dad taught me some good valuable skills that is somewhat related to RP (word power and conversational skills redirected as a reference from MACK Tactics by Dean Cortez) but coincidental. I'm proud that my dad has a manly testosterone and lifestyle including some of his friends and his brothers back in his old days from the 80's and they also used to be excellent trainees during military drill exercise during martial law in Philippines, circa 1970's. Even my uncle, living now in USA, was a great military strategist and even aced out the military exams. So good, they even tried to promote him a higher ranking officer (lieutenant and above) for war but he turn them down.

I still believe I have some remaining genes of strong man. But still, my parents doesn't understand my journey on reformatting my lifestyle and the problems such as being a bullied victim and having cluelessness about different people's culture as my parents assumed they're bad guys due to sex, vulgar words, and the way they live in this such social life. Drugs is out the line and won't do good obviously. Even worse, my parents taught me to be a nice guy which is suck. I have to improve myself more on something what's lacking and the struggles in learning PUA-related skills to build my balls and mentality and game. i was a lone wolf, currently struggled for self-help and I'm 25 years old.

Anyways...What's the best way to hate and deal with my beta-related parents for raising me a shitty version of myself instead of understanding the culture, money, and my respect? I hope I didn't over-complicate my introverted thoughts as I tried my best to explain my situation after I took the red pill. I have a lot of question in my mind trying to get the every right question needed to ask.

You've expressed that porn is an anesthetic for men, and you've expressed that enjoying the services of escorts can be used as a "buffer" (not sure how that word is appropriate), but my question is, do you think enjoying the company of escorts will improve, or hinder, a man's game? Or perhaps do nothing at all with respect to one's game?

Is seeking the companionship of escorts, in your opinion, a wise decision for a young man (20s) who has already been successful in most of his endeavors (with the exception of becoming a successful player) and has more than enough discretionary income (after saving for house/retirement) to see them 2+ times per month?

What the hell happened to Sosuave? That place is a cesspool.

A new girlfriend said she is totally in to me but wanted to warn me that she has considered swinging with past boyfriends after their sex life went stale. Is this a major red flag or is it just AWALT ?

When does the Third book come out, what is different about it?

Also, what's the best advice you can give to a 24 year old graduating from College who does not know what to do?

Why do you recommend the book Mastery so much?

What should I dress up as for Halloween?

Dropping to in to pay homage to a legend

Recently bought your audiobook and had a go through multiple times. Enjoyed every bit of it but having trouble really "killing the beta" and recreating those old paradigms that were set. I know you introduced a lot of information about it but what would you recommend to someone who is struggling with this? (Any advice from the trp is appreciated as well!)

General advice for someone who grew up without a father?

In one of the chapters you made the claim that "Women's sexuality is schizophrenic" they seek a man that other women want while actively behaving in a manner to reduce that male's sexual options binding him to her but the moment that happens she'll lose all interest. Couldn't the same be said of our sexual strategy?

We want "decent quality women" but our biological inclination is to spread our seed and play the field. By actively practicing the latter not only is the collective pool of women diminished in value through the CC but women who may have otherwise been "decent" in exposure to an AF becomes transformed into a typical CC slut further decreasing the "quality" of the female pool.

Women are 100% accountable for their behavior. In this context though doesn't it seem like we as Men are adding to the issue?

Does your wife know about your blog? Does she agree with what you write?

Rollo,

My question pertains to the future in regards to red pill philosophy and feminism. In your opinion, when can we expect feminism to die out and the western western world to move towards a more healthy culture of gender dynamic acceptance and aclnowledgment? I'd be very interested in any further reading into this topic as well if you can provide me with any.

Rollo,

do you think The Red Pill is compatible at all with Christianity? I am a born again Christian but struggle with deciding if TRP and Christianity has common ground. Are there any good Christian based TRP authors or material ai could read.

Thanks

What do you view as the best way to reset your brain after a BPD ex and a financial crisis soon after?

What are your thoughts on The Power of Now? Are we spiritual beings even? Is enlightenment achievable?

Or is this all nonsense and moral values are all part of our social conditioning and we should just maximize our own utility instead while deprogramming us from the moral barriers and go full dark triad?

What is your opinion about female promiscuity and how it could correlate between a males beta mindset. A.k.a. Sluts and Betas are the same. One gives away time freely, the other gives away sex freely. Their respective sexual currency. And so both are examples of low value. Men don't commit to sluts, Women don't have sex with betas.

I've not seen you cover any of this in your past articles, yet it would explain allot of dynamics. For example, when a man breaks frame and proves himself a beta- the woman is disgusted. When a woman slips up and turns out to be a slut- the man is disgusted.

Both end up in loss of attraction for the opposing sex. Is this the missing link the Manosphere has been ignoring all this time?

Where do you find your motivation or discipline? Did you develop them or was it something that you always just had.

What would be your advice and plan for a hardcase newbie (definition of RSD is virgin, skinny/overweight, no friends, no experience with girls, women or very little and he ended up deep in the friendzone and being emotional tampon...) ?

What's your take on the Red Pill movie in australia thing.

Also, sign my dick?

Hi Rollo,

What signs do you suggest I look for to figure out whether I am a rebound for a girl, a friend suggested this is the situation I'm in, but I am the one who initiated any interaction beyond the activity we have in common. For reference, the girl and I are in the same social circle. She had been with the same guy since high school and recently 10yrs later they are divorcing. When i first met her i was attracted to her but kept my distance. I am positive she has very low N-count, if not only her ex-hus. What do you think?

Hello Rollo, I'm new here. I've lurked this subreddit on-and-off for half a year or so now. From what I understand, you are one of the few individuals in this sphere who is able to maintain a "traditional" marriage/long-term-relationship.

What is you advice to find women compatible with this goal? If you want to link some of your articles on the subject, I'd be game to read them.

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Is it possible to be RP without having the pick up artist mentality/drive?

I ask because I find I actually find it a lot more satisfying to sate my sex drive with a low-key but still sorta monogamous relationship and I wonder if not caring about pua and "game" is adversely affecting me.

How do I get a chick to grind on me without asking? The music is too loud!

So, i am in a dead end. Stupid job, low pay, no alternative jobs, almost no skill(just basic computer stuff, some knowledge of a foreign language). A small debt to pay, school to pay(the school suck tho...). No father, 23 years old, no savings. How the hell i climb this shit when i am 23 years old... Everyday i go to work, come back, eat, train, read some books or learn some new words on duolingo but then its time to bed. I can feel my soul is dead in these conditions.

lately people seem to have calmed down about TRP, with respect to that, how do you see TRP evolving over the next few years?

also which is faster your greyhounds or your skidoo

Missed the chance last time:

You asked on Twitter how would you open a table of girls all on smartphones. How would you?

What's your thoughts on the treatment of greyhounds In spain, especially after hunting season

Do you prefer skidoo, bombardier, or the Japanese brands?

Also, you never talk about your wife, but you Made it through raising kids without an incident as best I can tell. How much of her was about quality vetting, and how much was proper 'bitch management' as humansockpuppet would call it?

What are your most rewarding hobbies/pursuits? Thanks for all you do

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Rollo, your post and discussions on sexual fluidity were EXACTLY what happened to my family this year. Dad got sick, mom in mid 40s started dating this younger butch girl and now they live together. She is now "I have a second chance at life to do all the things I never did" This was a big factor in finding red pill.

Will we be seeing this more in our society?

Can i skype you , i would like to talk you for a few minutes. Thx my skype: live:frincu_daiurs

copy everything from ,,live:frincu_darius " Thx ,wish you the best.

I have read both books and just wanted to say Thank you Rollo!

Rollo, how old were you approximately when you began this passion for writing?

Can you type out one of your blog posts in a few hours?

Hi Rollo,

What advice, if any, would you have for a woman working on herself? I've been following TRP for 6 months and it's done wonders for my relationship, but I find female guidance is extremely lacking.

I've learned how to sew, and am working at initiating sex n a more seductive way. Can you recommend anything else I can do to improve my relationship even more?

Rollo, thanks for your invaluable input into the collective body of knowledge we call TRP. I have read your previous responses to the marriage question, to marry or not to marry? To my redpill brothers living in the western world, I understand its a big NO. However, I am Kenyan and over here its a fault divorce system. Even though Divorce rates are steadily climbing as the feminist wave steadily hits these shores, I personally don't know a divorcee yet. That's no reason to celebrate though, marriages over here take a huge toll on men. The betaization process by women who don't see a way out of marriage can be quite vicious. I'm 25, just finished a STEM degree, with a 30+ notch count that includes married women (this opened my eyes more than anything) and i'd like your perspective. Would you advise me to get married?

question: is mgtow a valid path to choose?

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What are your views on porn ?

Do you think feeling a deep connection with a girl and not wanting an LTR with her are incompatible things? Is it possible to feel deep connection and rapport with a plate without implying a one-itis or long term relationship? (I mean, just living experiences, traveling together, doing things different than just fucking, but also plating more girls at same time).

Of course I have to add that I liked your books too much and I really enjoyed your style of writing, even when my mediocre english skills made it difficult for me sometimes to understand it (being difficult does not equal not enjoying it, challenges are always enjoyable, and you learn a lot).

Are you planning to translate the books? (to spanish for example) I started my blog in spanish exactly because there are almost no real resources for men in my language. And I would love to have your book, translated, to my kin and friends.

Whatever became of Roissy? A lot of his earlier stuff (07-10) are some of the best there is out there. I see a lot of you and Roosh, but nothing from Roissy. Are you in touch with him? Any detail would be much appreciated.

Two questions about what I perceive to be contradictions in common Red Pill conversation:

First, how do we balance outcome independence with having goals and purpose? I'm supposed to persevere towards my goal, but not care if I lose it?

Second, how do we balance social proof and preselection with the idea that we don't want women to use us as girlfriends/orbiters?

What is something about women or game that you wish you knew when you were 16?

Rollo, there have been recent posts made regarding imposter syndrome. I am able to keep it at bay for the most part recently, but it still rears its head sometimes. From your experience, is this something that I can realistically expect to grow out of in time?

Hi Rollo, just want to say thank you for everything you do - I was fortunate enough to discover your writing when I was 19, and I can't tell you how grateful I am that it wasn't any later than that. It's kind of interesting - I see an LCSW through my healthcare provider every month and he's a big fan of yours. In fact, he said I'm the only person he's met in real life who knew about the red pill/manosphere.

Recently you've written about the feminization of the western church, and being an active church go-er, I've seen a lot of it first hand - which of course, makes me a bit skeptical about taking relationship advice from some of these folks.

I can't really see myself in a relationship with a non christian, just due to differing wold views. There aren't many young women in the church scene where I'm at, so where does that leave me in the meantime? Casually date outside my religious views? Or just self imposed celibacy? What am I missing out on by not dating? Thank you again for your time.

Hello Rollo, How do you maintain a frequent sex life when you've been married a long time ?

Most of the married men I know tend to seem like they never get sex and only a select few claim to get it almost everyday but I'm a sceptic.

Maintaining SMV is of course key, but what do you do if she starts swatting your hands away and saying "no" or getting an excuse when you go for it more times than her submitting to you. Is it simply a loss of attraction? The great Patrice would say "let a bitch know you have options" but if you're doing everything by the book and you're noticing she's slowly tapering off wanting your cock and starts duty fucking you less and less frequently.

Attraction cannot be negotiated, talking to her about it would be pointless and only temporarily work, if that all. Besides "upping the dread" or pitching her and getting it elsewhere, what would you recommend

I really hope you see this, I've wanted to ask you this for a long time. Love your work, thank you for everything you've done for myself and the community

Is the character (bad guy) in 'L.A Confidential' based on you?

Hi Rollo I'm currently writing a college senior research essay on marriage laws in the united states. Part of the research includes interviewing 2 people relevant to the topic. I was wondering if in the near future you were willing to answer some questions I'd have prepared? Cheers and thanks for your contribution to TRP

I've havent actually read the book (planning to) but the price is really good. Also, Is there an online version?

Can you talk about the pendulum swing of the Misandrist movement. Has it reached the tip top and stalled? Tell me I'm in not a bubble, the pushback seems real - it will take some time, but it seems feminism is on its way out.

EDiT EDIT EDIT: I just managed to solve this riddle myself, answer at the end. I'd love to hear your opinion mr T if you like.

I n-closed a petite 23-yo Asian girl at the gym a few weeks ago, she's from Taiwan and she is studying in my town. I'm 37.

me: is that your boyfriend or your bodyguard?

her: boyfriend! I'm [xxx] by the way.

me: hey. good, because I'm afraid of bodyguards. so, would your boyfriend mind if I take you out for coffee this evening?

her, smiling: of course he would!

me: but you don't know that for sure! go ask him

and I go to another part of the gym.

She came back, looked very interested. She fucking went and asked the boyfriend if he minds that. Wow. But then, then she asked me if I mind her boyfriend coming out with us - I said "no problem" - and she gave me her phone no. She then exercised a bit nearby, then came again to me to say "bye" and we had a short chat. She looked like DTF, proliferative phase for the win. I'm white, muscilar and I probably weight 2-3 times as much as her. Her Asian dude, shit, maybe he's got more IQ, but he looked a bit feminine.

I texted her 2 times - 1st time she was busy, 2nd time she did not reply for few days... then I got a reply from her today, something about her studying a lot recently and that she wants to meet for a lunch next week, with her bf.

Basically I don't do food dates AND her bf is going to be there. But, she is thousands of miles from her home, she is very small and she may be an easy target for a thief or a robber or a rapist. And, she doesn't know anything about me.

So basically I wonder if I should rather go there for a lunch date (and build some rapport, not sure how would I handle her bf or if I even should handle him) -- or text her my proposition instead.

How would you proceed? Or, should I just n-close another Asian girl there?

I texted her that... I don't want to go out with her boyfriend, that I find her somehow interesting and this doesn't mean that I want to do her in the backseat of my car when I see her, but let's meet for a coffee and see how'd we go from there. That I understand she's alone thousands of miles from her country and that she may be afraid, and I understand that she knows shit about me and I may be a polar bear hunter or a thug or an anaesthesiologist and that's why I propose she chooses the venue she feels safe in (and I still propose a club near the place she probably lives and give information I'm available tommorow). Give it some thought girl and let me know when you're ready for your intercontinental adventure.

Whew. Inspired by Mark Manson. A bit gay, but on the other hand, I think that's the best way to reach her and not look like a man who wants to kidnap her for a ransom.

Any advice on how to avoid triggering "buyer's remorse"? For example: a woman regretting sexual/emotional interaction after the fact; saying she "should've have never gotten invloved", etc. once she sees you are not going to commit to her...

For the record, I have a tendency to act more serious with women than I intend to because I like to take them on lengthy, couple-like dates; even though they're just plates.

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