I'm so touch starved and lonely i cant even bring myself to go outside anymore. I quit my job and have just been sitting inside all day. Going outside is torture, so many hot girls wearing revealing clothing. I usually love summer cause i like going to the beach and the sun and warm weather and all that but idk whats wrong with me. Im resenting going to the gym now too cause of all the hot gym girls. I've been thinking about seeing an escort lately to relieve my frustration but i feel like it would just make me feel worse or inadequate that the only way i could get laid was by paying for it, idk. I might be low testosterone or something but I can lift a lot so im not sure. What do you guys think?
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whytehorse2021 4mo ago
Why buy when you can lease? But you have no job. Go out and touch grass, absorb some sunlight, and make a few friends with some chicks. Everything I just said will raise your Testosterone.
No-Stress-Cat 4mo ago
Who let the fem-bot in? Stop feeding the fem-bot, gentlemen. You don't want to get shit-post all over your face. It probably has cooties.
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Problematic_Browser 1 4mo ago
Oh boo fucking hoo. Life is hard and you don't feel happy joy joy feelings.
You know what?
Get over it.
You're a man. If you want to be loved and valued, you have to actually provide value to people. It sucks to hear that but you have to accept it because the sooner that you do, the sooner you can get to work at it.
You don't get to quit your job, quit lifting, and become a shut in and then expect people to magically make your life better. You want things to get better, you have to go out and make them better.
Only women and children get love without providing value, and that's because men are the ones who make the lives of women and children better.
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Lestat 4mo ago
That’s not good man but sure yea just go see an escort if you feel like that will satisfy you for now. I get how you are feeling but you should want to do better in life yourself not for none of these skeeezers you get me? But I understand the touch deprived thing, if you’re having trouble getting girls just get a hooker for now and work on yourself. Don’t think of it as the only way you can get laid is paying for it. What if all women decided they don’t like you, then what? Just work on yourself man, do what you gotta do to get in a better position to attract women. For now satisfy yourself with a sex worker.
Jayrog 4mo ago
Getting laid seems to be the least of your problems. Quit porn, lift, change your downer mindset.
Otherwise change your name to Soyboy
Redpillpusher 4mo ago
You have not only chosen to accept my prediction of bad fortune I saw in your future, but you have decided to take an faster, worse path to the outcome I predicted. You have refused to apply any of the advice I or others gave. You're young yet behave like a washed up 49 year old after a bad divorce. You are truly a loser, you don't deserve to win
Typo-MAGAshiv 2 4mo ago
Let him learn the hard way. Most men have to.
First-light 4mo ago
I think you do need to look at the big picture here -your life as a whole- as well as the smaller question of whores.
Whores is fairly simple -why not? Take it as an interesting novel experience. Just don't get addicted. If you take it as "my only way to get human contact and sex" it is much more likely to end badly than if you take it as a bit of an interesting experience that brings you a bit more knowledge about women. Don't expect too much form the first time -it can be a bit embarrassing first time around. Don't waste too much money on it.
Unless you have been on steroids or SARMS your T as a young man is likely to be just fine. Until you actually get in front of a pussy, its hard to tell how excited your dick will be. Women differ in their excitement to you and if you are stressed it can make a big difference. First time I ever went to a whore I was so up tight, I only just managed it. I was worried about myself but 3 or 4 months later I was routinely doing it 5 to 10 times a night with a girlfriend I really fancied. If you don't have much experience with women, it could make sense to pop a dick pill or if you supplement nitric oxide boosters then make sure you are well topped up before you first go, then you can at least relax about that and enjoy it more.
The bigger picture is more important. You do need to take yourself in hand here. You seem to suffer form depression and some social difficulties. Random internet guys like me can't really comment too accurately on what to do about these things but they don't just get better if left along by themselves. From the things you post, it seems like you suffer more from being unable to know what is socially appropriate than from great anxiety. So I would look at ways to learn social skills. It won't fix staying in by yourself, so do your future self a favour and do something, good or bad just something that breaks you out of this situation.
adam-l Moderator 4mo ago
Yes, get it over with. It's not a big deal. It won't spoil your virginity or smthg. Just make sure she's clean, and you like her.
joyboy 4mo ago
Thanks that’s a good way of looking at it. now i just have to find a real one and hope i don’t end up in a sting op
Redpillpusher 4mo ago
This is not the case for him, just check his post history. I predicted that he would go down this route months ago in a reply to his numerous posts. He lacks basic communication skills with women and is autistic or something in regards to them. For a young man in college who is nervous around women because of his upbringing, this advice would work. But for him, going down this route is the equivalent of a guy who comes from a family with history of addiction and a turbulent past being told to just try a bump of coke for the first time; it won't end well and his foundational problems will still remain
adam-l Moderator 4mo ago
I admit I haven't checked his post history.
However, if he's autistic and hasn't managed to implement basic RP stuff, I don't see a problem to using paid sex to relieve his craving, even if it becomes a lifelong habbit. We all pay for sex one way or another, after all.
That's just for the sex part, of course. You might refer to more general things, which I don't know.
Redpillpusher 4mo ago
It's a problem mainly because he can't afford it, he admitted he's unemployed. And yes, like we're both saying, it would temporarily relieve his sexual tension but his main issues will be unresolved, possibly leading to more resentment since the only time he'll be able to get some is when cash is in hand. I'm noticing that the as time and generations go by, the age it gets more acceptable to pay for prostitutes get younger. When I was his age, the concept of paying dollars for sex was as foreign as Japanese
adam-l Moderator 4mo ago
If the issue is he hasn't got money, it's a valid concern.
If it is some hidden morality thing about paying for sex, it's not.
Durek_The_Bald 5mo ago
Do you have any friends? If not, do you do any activity, where, over time, you're likely to make friends? I think this should be your first priority, way further up the list than getting laid. If you're not physically active, and you're socially isolated, you can't expect to be sane.
Musicgoon78 1 5mo ago
You sound like you're choosing to be a loser. Plain and simple. You have taken the path of Little bitch instead of doing the work. Continue to lift and talk to women you lazy bundle of sticks....
Redpillpusher 5mo ago
So you rather pay an escort than do what I suggested and talk to females lower on the 1 to 10 scale, even without a job?? got you, you seem like a real winner
joyboy 5mo ago
I dont think i could even get hard to a unattractive girl. i must be low T or something
Redpillpusher 4mo ago
If you are able to, go back through some of your posts and look for some of my responses, specifically when I stated you should focus on talking to those type of girls to improve your game and interactions with women, as opposed to befriending women. I specifically predicted that if you don't drastically alter your interactions with women you would continue to advance in your profession and start to spend a significant part of your income on prostitutes. Not only are you about to prove me correct, you're on a worse path since you truly can't afford it. You really need to sit down and devise a way out of this, it's not looking good
Whatsnext 5mo ago
do you use porn? usually when guys say shit like this they are porn addicts. "touch starved."
get your test checked if you think your low t? its prob not low T but you fucked your dopamine baseline. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QmOF0crdyRU
why are the guys that can date better than you? how can you get there?
joyboy 5mo ago
Im trying not to, if i have to jack off i mainly do it it to my imagination or softcore
yeah i should get my levels checked ill ask my doctor. i also dont wake up with morning wood anymore which i think is a sure sign of being low T
They're just better socially and know game, how to talk to girls and have a good mindset. I'm sure thats the main thing holding me back since I maxed out my looks to the best of my ability
Maturin_nj 5mo ago
Yes. Make sure she's good looking. IOW be willing to pay up. Get this behind you. It might even be fun. By doing so you're taking control of the who when where how much on your terms. Instead of the other way around. I see no shame in it so long as you don't become obsessed with these women. I distinguish between sugar baby relationships and straight up escorts. Sugar daddies are volunteer ATMs. And a little off mentally. Needy types.
Going to an escort however will likely build your confidence as well. My advice. Do it. have fun and get on with your life. Start making you own decisions instead of seeking approval. That's what boys do.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
Also, I've told you I don't know how many times that your social skills are the reason you're not getting laid and you keep not meeting more male and female friends to understand them better
You're being terrible right now at taking advice
MrSupreme 5mo ago
Lift,jog,run, calisthenics, you can socialize with other guys during your workouts. Then stop jerking off for 10 days and use the drive to pick up some girls,even old is valid.
Prostitutes are fine if you don't get attached to them like some guys do, it's just for fucking around a bit
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
So you just did the exact opposite of everything we told you.
Damn.
Gonna stop trying i guess
joyboy 5mo ago
Dude i don't even know what to do anymore i just feel so hopeless. Is it possible to be low testosterone despite lifting heavy? I tried going out alone to try and meet new people and make friends but i get ghosted by everyone after asking them if they want to go out together. I feel like im giving off depressed loner desperate vibes and people dont want to be around me
Lone_Ranger 2 4mo ago
" I feel like im giving off depressed loner desperate vibes and people dont want to be around me"
yes, you are giving off depressed loner desperate vibes because you are a desperate desperate loner.
Solution is to stop being a depressed, desperate loner. Read the side bar, process and live it.
ffs
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
For starters stop ignoring our advice
It's such a slap in the face. You stopped working, you stay inside, stopped lifting
Fucking hell you just wasted hours of people's time
Go do all that stuff. You're fucking yourself (and us) over
joyboy 5mo ago
How am i "ignoring" it when i tried my best to do it? Im just completely demotivated. you could never know how i feel
also im still lifting i just said im resenting going there now
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5mo ago
Read my origin story on my profile and stop being a hopeless fag