Askhole Poster Flairs
As many of you have probably noticed, there are at times users who have patterns of posting where they never bother to fix their shit after receiving countless hours of advice on their posts.
It usually (but not always) tends to go like this:
They make an account, maybe even lurk before posting, and then post what looks like a good faith post. But post after post it becomes abundantly clear that they have no intention of taking the advice given, thus wasting good faith commenters' time and with bad faith posts.
Bad faith posting need not be on purpose. Asking a community questions and then ignoring the advice given from people more experienced than you or who have been in your shoes is by definition bad faith, especially when you fuck up in forewarned fashion
NO MORE
I am introducing askhole user flairs so that before you even see a post, you have the benefit of transparency of whether to devote your precious time on a post that is likely to be a verified time waster because OP won't fix their shit
Getting Flaired
If you get advice, and you do not take it, post after post, when you have all the entire manosphere at your disposal and the valuable time of more experienced users answering your specific problem, you're gonna get flaired.
You'll get a mod warning first unless you're being particularly retarded and/or combative in the comments
How to get UnFlaired
If you get slapped with an askhole flair, start actually taking the advice you asked for, you askhole.
Then a mod will remove your askhole badge
"I have an alt bro, you cant..."
Fuck your alt, I'll flair it too
"But I didn't mean to..."
No excuses, especially if you got a warning, refer to this announcement
The Flairs
Askhole
The askhole, the basic unifying root of all of these flairs
The user posts their question(s) post after post and never actually takes the advice. Their follow up posts always make it abundantly clear they don't take the advice on their previous post(s).
This is the biggest askhole of all, they do this on ALL problems they post about
Didn't Read Sidebar
Similar to the askhole, the didn't read the Sidebar bro comes in posts or asks questions in such a way that it is clear they didn't read the sidebar. The dead giveaway is the butchering of basic RP concepts, doing things plainly advised against in the sidebar, or evident they have not unplugged
These askholes expect users to spoon-feed basic RP sidebar knowledge into them instead of reading it themselves. Most (but not all) are brand new accounts that claim they read the sidebar, but if that were the case, wouldn't have posted their post suggesting otherwise
Has Oneitis
This askhole has one particular girl he always posts about. 95% of the time it isn't even his girlfriend, much less a girl he's even banged yet. These posts are bad faith because OP knows the answers but won't mentally accept them because "muh unicorn/muh only option"
99 Problems
The lateral cousin of the askhole. This one is more insidious because they have a new problem every time, so you can't actually notice them being an askhole by virtue of not knowing if advice was ever taken on their old problem(s)
Won't Improve
This kind of askhole is always asking why women don't like him in SMV posts. They always let it slip that they won't lift, improve their style, socialize, advance their career, nor any litany of things other users have advised them to improve on ad nauseum
Reaps & Sows
These askholes consistently fuck up their lives with all manners of drama imaginable, and then wonder why their lives suck. They tell us in every post what their involvement is in these problems, and often how they started it, but keep being retards anyway
Needs Therapy
OP has problems that transcend any possible RP advice that could be given. Even after receiving eloquent comments from solid and outpouring community support, and the most hopeful "you've got this dude" comments imaginable, decides to still ignore it. This kind of askhole will only find peace in therapy, yet refuses to get it.
Suspected Troll
This askhole is probably a troll. There is not necessarily enough evidence to ban them but their repeated retardation usually drives an unusually high amount of post engagement. Best not to engage them, especially if it's consistently sus
Doesn't Go Well
This kind of askhole, even if his questions aren't inherently bad, and follows the advice given, is just a dick to everyone that gives him advice. He can't reply to most people without a brazen lack of gratitude for the help
Beware, even if you don't post questions, but routinely act like a dick in the comments, you'll get flaired with this one, too
LARPer
The LARPer is the kind of poster that repeatedly has a ton of questions about basic game, trivial situations, and relatively beginner-esque questions despite claiming to be a high SMV Chad pulling women all the time, having a roster, or other braggadocious accomplishments.
The very fact that they are asking n00b questions despite allegedly being Chad Thunderfucks is what makes them a LARPer. Poster is likely either faking it for internet points or is genuinely retarded about the basics and somehow managing to successfully fail upwards.
List and flair names may evolve over time *
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
cc: @redpillschool, @mattyanon, @JamesSkepp, @adam-l
Credit to @Durek_The_Bald for "99 Problems," "Needs Therapy," and the concept/definition behind "Reaps and Sows" as well as "Won't Improve"
Credit to @MentORPHEUS for "Won't Improve" and "Doesn't Go Well"
Tagging @typo-MAGAshiv for no reason
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mattyanon Admin about a month ago
hahahaha this is epic! :D :D :D
You need one for ..... "determined to be blue pill / beta"...
I'll think of catchier wording
Lone_Ranger 2 weeks ago
How about "BlueTillDeath"
or "TrueBlue"
mattyanon Admin 2 weeks ago
TrueBlue! That's great :)
Durek_The_Bald about a month ago
Lmfao!
Typo-MAGAshiv Doesn't Go Well about a month ago
You don't go well and are literally coping and projecting and I hereby dismiss you!
...or whatever that guy said when he went off the deep end.
Typo-MAGAshiv Doesn't Go Well about a month ago
I just noticed my flair, @Vermillion-Rx.
You are literally projecting not going well because you don't go well. You are dirty gypsy donkey incel hanging out with preteens who needs to chase doctors to get pills while crying about not going well and sperging like gypsy.
RRRREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
Lmfao I was trolling
REEEEEEEEEEEEE
I can remove it lol unless you want to keep it for the lolz
Typo-MAGAshiv Doesn't Go Well about a month ago
No, you are serious and projecting and coping and seething about being gypsy donkey who doesn't go well.
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
Guess you wanna keep the flair then you projective retard boomer
Reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Reeee
¯\(ツ)/¯
Typo-MAGAshiv Doesn't Go Well about a month ago
a) lol u suck at formatting
b) boomers were born between 1946 and 1960. I was born in 1980, you millennial fuckstick!
c)
YOU DON'T GO WELL!
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
All you had to say waz
"Plzzzz VRx plzzzz"
Screw the formatting I have flairs
Durek_The_Bald about a month ago
"You don't go well" is the gift that keeps on giving. Imagine that, the dude actually managed to (involuntarily) bring a bit of value to the place.
Lone_Ranger 2 weeks ago
How about "HumbleBragger"
I see quite a bit of it.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2 weeks ago
I considered it. It would hit too many people
whytehorse2021 about a month ago
We need to add a Wahmens flair like over at WAATGM. This should always remain a male space and maybe we have female allies but what does that even mean? As soon as women are in here it changes the dynamic.
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
Women are already banned from TRP and AskTRP. They don't need to be flaired. An alleged woman posted here the other day and I immediately banned her from the forums
Women can post in .RED and WAATGM but they aren't allowed to post in anything especially meant to be red pill
whytehorse2021 about a month ago
Haha I didn't know that. I remember the controversy that kicked up when Rollo let Torshaa into red pill spaces. He's still kinda flustered by the blowback that came his way.
Overkill_Engine about a month ago
Haha "Reaps & Sows" reminds me of that one fool a while back that would do emotionally incontinent shit like getting shoving matches with friends and screaming insults at his girlfriend.
Like....you need to learn self control before even dreaming of learning how to influence other people into doing what you want.
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
I know exactly who this was lmao
ObliviousDuck about a month ago
Do you get a special flair if you collect them all?
Lone_Ranger about a month ago
Gotta catch em all!
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
Yep!!! It's a nifty little flair called
BAN HAMMER
:D
Lone_Ranger about a month ago
A simply capital idea
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
Thank you, it was a random thought
whytehorse2021 about a month ago
I used to have flair over on reddit WAATGM. It was "Biddy busting big brain". lol
Typo-MAGAshiv Doesn't Go Well about a month ago
I had thought that was you. I remember asking you that if it was, to message me on reddit. Why'd you never do if?
Custom flairs are a pain in the ass here, but we'll at least get you Junior Hamster Analyst flair
whytehorse2021 about a month ago
I no longer use reddit. Haven't used it for years. Probably a banned account. Couldn't message you even if I wanted to. Glad you remember me. I think I've contributed enough to warrant the pain of a custom flair but I want something hilarious. Junior Hamster Analyst is all wretch and no vomit... it never really gets there.
Typo-MAGAshiv Doesn't Go Well about a month ago
I have since been permanently suspended from reddit, so I couldn't receive it anymore anyway.
TheExAlpha Reaps & Sows about a month ago
I feel like I’ve contributed to this becoming a thing lol.
Tbf it’s not exactly easy to change your patterns of behaviour because of advice given on a forum bro… maybe if it was face to face like therapy. But it’s not easy to just change.
It’s a work in progress.
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
You definitely were not the first one
This place has seen more askholes than a proctologist
Yes it is. And if someone isn't capable of changing their behaviors by posting in the forum, then why post at all?
The askhole badge is a sign that someone is going to ask a question and then not take the advice. The community deserves to know which users will take advice and which won't
There are plenty of users who ask advice and actually take. Why ask for advice you won't take? If a user doesn't take advice they're just asking for confirmation bias, which is asking in bad faith
whytehorse2021 about a month ago
I nominate @maxtheberger for the askhole flair. What ever happened to that guy?
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
Too late, I already gave him a different FLAIR before you said anything
No idea what happened to him. His last login was May
whytehorse2021 about a month ago
Maybe he took our advice and is busy putting a dent in the universe.
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
Yep he's a giga Chad now. Running laps around our asses
TheExAlpha Reaps & Sows about a month ago
So you’ve lived one way your entire life, post about its downsides, and 5-10 comments from anonymous strangers are supposed to motivate you to completely change said behaviours? It’s more of a drawn out process than that man, people don’t just change overnight, it’s trial and error, no?
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
If you yourself (or any poster) comes on here, and does not have the humility to see that they are the problem, and they ask advice across 5-20+ posts having no commitment to changing, they are positing in bad faith
If someone makes 5 posts where they have not changed anything, they didn't come to the forums wanting advice, they came on to the forums wanting sympathy and having their preexisting behaviors and intentions to act a certain way confirmed and validated by Internet strangers
You can tell who asks questions seriously wanting to change and who does not have the humility nor discipline to make use of the advice they receive.
You can tell who is just posting for comfort and confirmation bias and RP is not about that. It is about making guys men who take action to improve their lives
So yes. Posters that don't have it in them to actually take actionable advice have different motives than wanting advice and will be flaired accordingly
TheExAlpha Reaps & Sows about a month ago
You are not a headteacher (principle) bro. Life is more nuanced than what you make it out to be. IMO your autism makes you think and talk in a very black and white way. Life is not black and white.
In no way do I mean disrespect by this. I just disagree with your “strict” stance on this. And I have pondered the above for a little while, reading your posts.
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
I never said I was head teacher. But why is them that a bunch of other mods and a ton of long time users love the askhole flairs?
I am not black and white. I describe comments with more nuance than most would. It's ironic to call a guy head teacher when 20 other guys gave you the same advice
TheExAlpha Reaps & Sows about a month ago
Let me sleep on it and I’ll get back to you.
whytehorse2021 about a month ago
No need to sleep on it. In my first post, way back in the day, I was told to read the sidebar. I read the sidebar. It's obvious from the questions when someone didn't read the sidebar. They are putting extra work on me to read it for them and deliver the answer. Sometimes I just have an AI answer it because I don't have time. Now, if I see an askhole flair, I can spend my time more effectively on men who have read the sidebar.
I don't really come here for advice. I come here to find questions I don't know the answer to and learn more. It's an exercise for me. I also care about men and have a crusade against suicide. Did you know suicide was the reason Rollo wrote The Rational Male? This is a very serious endeavor for me and I don't appreciate trolls or askholes or whatever.
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
DM me I do not want to clutter a post with personal back and forth
Jumping4Jack about a month ago
I have skimmed the convo.
I would hope this tag wouldnt be attached to anyone in at least weeks because patterns might not be easy to change right away.
But also. Depending on circumstances. STFU can be exercised to reflect on advice given, flair could give that extra kick in the ass.
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
That's what temporary posting bans are for
Jumping4Jack about a month ago
Skimming⸮
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
If someone is on a posting time out I just delete their posting perms till their timeout is over lol
Jumping4Jack about a month ago
Took me a while to get it.
Quite laborious if it's not automated
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
Not really
It takes like 10 clicks
Jumping4Jack about a month ago
It'd be great to ban myself, for certain periods, to control reward system.
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
Well if you wanna have a temp ban just lemme know I'm the right guy I can give you a timeout for however long you want/need
You'd still be able to comment just not post
Jumping4Jack about a month ago
AAA
thaNks for offer, I need full on ban haha
User4566 about a month ago
Thank fucking god
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
You're welcome (;
Jumping4Jack about a month ago
Very good initiative.
One suggestion. If you make a machine complicated you will need people to train someone new to operate it. And if you have people coming to factory to look at operations through glass only, they wouldnt know what this machine does altogether.
Meaning. Askhole is pretty cool when I have seen description, but before that I took it as a insider humor. If I have never seen this post I might have never know.
To simplify machine:
Askhole > always asks, but ignores answers
Clickbait > Troll / Troll?
Just right to the point/descriptive otherwise it'll end up as insider info. Troll name is widely recognized and should be pretty clear to anyone new to forum + will avo'id meaningless replies.
99problems is (almost?) always didnt read sidebar
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
Askhole is generic, it exists across the web
Yes. I do see your other point.
I should probably change clickbait to "troll?" That was actually my first choice.
99 Problems isn't necessarily didn't read Sidebar bar but I'll consider changing the name or eliminating it
Some of these I just simply didn't have a better name and it was funny but I see the point and that was one of my concerns
99 Problems might be redundant
Jumping4Jack about a month ago
Im neither super young nor super old and never heard it before in relation
99, yeah I could only see this being extra workload rather that anything else.
Vermillion-Rx Admin about a month ago
Askhole Urban Dictionary
I mean I first heard it here too but then noticed it everywhere
I'll probably change 99 Problems to Matty's idea of askholes that purposefully try to stay blue pill or some other good, not yet covered flair
Jumping4Jack about a month ago
https://www.linkedin.com/advice/3/how-do-you-balance-simplicity-detail-sops-skills-sop-development
;)