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Forums.Red / WhereAreAllTheGoodMen / The Big Question

What if the common denominator in these failed relationships has been me the entire time?
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polishknight

Posted 1y ago in The Big Question - Permalink - Locked - 6.7K Views



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Overkill_Engine WAATGM Endorsed 1y ago

Reminds me of that aphorism that all woman are Bi - the only question is, Bisexual, or Bipolar?

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Gondola_the_Observer 1y ago

Do these women really think that men don't notice that they are insane and on a ton psychotropics?

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Vermillion-Rx Penchant for plastic dolls 1y ago

Yes.

That or they wear it as a badge or honor if they can't play it off with an explanation

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Lone_Ranger Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago

Yeah. The guy that walked her to the car and then said 'bye' was probably literally afraid of her! 3 hours on the bench chatting was more than enough to establish that she was a class a lunatic.

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orbilius 1y ago

Yeah that part of the story should have been a wake up call for her. I’d give her the same advice I’d give a dude (and that’s rare) do a double date with a friend so that you can get some honest feedback

…unfortunately women do the “crabs in a bucket” thing so her girlfriends will probably listen to her talk about her various psychosis for three hours then tell her she did nothing wrong.

But a dude will tell you how you fucked up. So, be thankful for that

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GimmeTheUsual Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago

Its the trendy victim stigma all the idiots on TikTok love emulating.

Getting hard to tell when they genuinely have it, but if they volunteer that they're Bipolar, that of course is time to pull the rip cord. A whole medicated generation and they're not even past 40. Insane.

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Impressive-Cricket-8 Founding member of FapGPT 1y ago

Wasn't there a whole trend about people pretending to have multiple personalities - despite the actual incidence being 1.5% or lower of the general population?

Oh, your friend may indeed have seen me with the guy from the gym, but it wasnt me me. It was Brenda, my alter.

I blame it on the unconditional acceptance of weird behaviour of this generation. Everybody can be whatever they're feeling. Though I am rooting for my government to make it easier to declare oneself as a woman; car insurance is getting too expensive nowadays.

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Boar_excrement Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago

Yup sweatie, it's you. When you are in your hot girl 20's these issues are not a problem since everything is transitory for your hoe phase. Then, you hit 30 and things start to change. Quickly.

So now that you are on the downhill slide in attractiveness and you feel the need to lock down resources, those little 'quirks of personality' have suddenly become red flags and deal breakers for men. Most men who are still looking for a woman worth commitment have been through their own wringer. And the lessons they have seared into their psyches all boil down to the mantra of 'hire slowly, fire quickly.' And more men are doing this.

And it is only going to get worse, for you that is. So, enjoy whatever cocktail of head meds the docs will put you on next. That chemical buttressing and your plethora of cats are all you have going for you. Well, that and your 'career.'

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Seagram7 Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago

those little 'quirks of personality' have suddenly become red flags and deal breakers for men. Most men who are still looking for a woman worth commitment have been through their own wringer.

In other words, most of us learned the hard way the old saying: "Dont stick your dick in crazy."

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orbilius 1y ago

There’s been a sea state change in the last few years. I only see it from these women’s posts, but it’s clear. Men have stopped putting up with them

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Land_of_the_losers the-niceguy.com 1y ago

If I recall correctly, buproprion (Wellbutrin), used to be considered a heavy-duty antipsychotic when it first came out. A small dose of it was sometimes included with a mix of less-potent drugs.

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whytehorse2021 Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago

No, it's a SSRI.

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Land_of_the_losers the-niceguy.com 1y ago

Ok. Are you aware of what drug I mistook it for?

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whytehorse2021 Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago

It's one of the antipsychotics but I don't know the names anymore. Lithium maybe?

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Land_of_the_losers the-niceguy.com 1y ago

Aripiprazole!

Okay, had to look it up. Ugh. This is not my strong suit.

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orbilius 1y ago

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I think that birth control fucks these women up. I bet this one had been on birth control since she was 16. She probably needs an anti-psychotic at this point

It’s sad. It’s legitimately sad. She could have had a happy life. 32? She could have three kids with a decent man. The youngest would be 7 and off to school and she’d be thinking about an optional job to keep herself busy and have some more disposable income, but still be home when the kids are home. She’d watch them play and be happy, in a way that the real her will never know - never even imagine.

God damn this is tragic

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hornetsfalcons12 Sr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago

The tragedy of modern society, really. We get a chuckle at a woman who used her peak sexual attractiveness for selfish ends and is now facing the reality of being an average woman with no negotiating power with the men that she wants. But in actuality, if she wasn’t raised in an insane time, she would likely be the kind of woman you mentioned. Which would mean another man has a high quality woman and a family that serves as inspiration to be better. Instead it’s another case where that man is now better served staying single, versus opening himself up to the headache of dating this kind of woman.

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orbilius 1y ago

if she wasn’t raised in an insane time, she would likely be the kind of woman you mentioned.

For sure. I know that the "cultural construct" excuse is overused, but in this case it's undoubtedly true.

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PoopBeast Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago

"Ladies... How come I can't get exclusive commitment from one of these scarce men that 90% of us have decided to chase after and give easy sex to?"

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Land_of_the_losers the-niceguy.com 1y ago

You know the old saying: Men should stop taking the free milk and do whatever the cow tells them to.

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No-Stress-Cat Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago

Here's the thing about medicated women:

  • They are medicated because they are crazy.
  • If they get pregnant they have to stop the medication.
  • Then you're dealing with not only a hormonal pregnant woman, but one who is also crazy and can't take medication for at least 9 months.
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Impressive-Cricket-8 Founding member of FapGPT 1y ago

not only a hormonal pregnant woman, but one who is also crazy and can't take medication for at least 9 months

Maybe they'll cancel each other out. Maybe she'll run after you with a knife because she dreamt that you were hanging out with that girl from the bakery around the corner. Why not take a chance on love?

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ogrilla99 Pez "The Pussy Dispenser" Pimp 1y ago

A few things that caught my eye;

  1. After the first relationship was over, she got another date on OLD within a few days. She probably got a ton of matches, narrowed it down to a few that she conversed with, and then one to see on an actual date. IOW, her success rate on these apps rivals superstar Chads, and yet she feels like she's been put through the wringer. This is further reinforced by:

  2. She's exhausted after two months of rejection, and looking for some emotional support. Most guys, even chads, go through dry spells measured in years and yet we're just told to deal with it, and get mocked as incels.

  3. Guy #3 had a bunch of options which were better than her. IOW, the type of guy that she's matching with and meeting up with are the top of the heap, most desirable guys on OLD, the type who juggle multiple matches and women on a routine basis. You wanna snag one of those guys? Best bring your A game as the competition is fierce. And if you're 32, you're already starting off with a big handicap compared to his other options.

  4. I love the euphemisms: "self compassion". ROFL. You're not being compassionate to yourself. You're coming up with excuses to be lazy. Red Pill is all about the need to always be improving. It actually has nothing to do with finding a partner. Even if you have lots of plates spinning, you should always work on improving yourself, achieving your next goals, etc. Waiting around for someone to "love me for me" implies you have no desire to improve yourself even with the carrot of finding a mate, nevermind due to any sort of inner drive to make the most of your life.

  5. You're 32 years old with a known chronic health condition and you haven't prioritized getting into a career that provides stable health insurance. Because stable careers like engineering, accounting, or even HR office drone are boring man! She's still figuring herself out! Travelling the deep blue yonder! Like a flaky goddamn 20 year old child, rather than an adult rapidly approaching middle age. I realize this is a uniquely American problem, but if you know you have a health condition, and you still haven't prioritized getting good enough insurance to manage it, then your priorities are whacked and it doesn't speak well about how you'll set priorities for the rest of your life, so why do I want to hitch my life to someone so irresponsible?

Anyway, I'll at least give her credit for briefly, temporarily, partially considering that maybe, possibly the problem is her, with her rapidly aging looks, mental health issues severe enough to require active management of multiple medications, and poor life choices that lead her to being uninsured, likely underpaid in a shitty career, while being delusional enough to still be aiming for some top tier Chad to bail her out. But then she rapidly retreats to practicing "self compassion" again. I'm sure she'll still chase those guys while still wondering "what could it be that keeps them from committing to me?"

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Vermillion-Rx Penchant for plastic dolls 1y ago

This was a really long-winded way of saying she deserves the best

/s

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whytehorse2021 Jr. Hamster Analyst 1y ago

First they hit The Wall... then they get angry... then they get cats and boxed wine and say "I haven't been dating for 6 years".

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