She's probably being hypergamous considering her job the average man isnt even gonna come close to coming close to her "standards" or demands to be specific

Imagine working in a 99% male environment and STILL she is single AF.

Hypergamy knows no satiation. The more men they get to fuck the more they refuse to settle.

I usually dont comment here but can someone tell me what a kubernetes admin is? is she a computer science major? I'm choosing majors next year and I'd fucking love to make 250k at 40

What k8s admin makes 230k?

Emmanuel Macron… she can thank me later

Buy a dog,die alone (dont bring a kid into the world if he is at a major dissadvantage and prone to failure).

Sry but where can I get such a "side hustle"

As if any man who has a net worth of 2m+ is going to be seeking a 37 year old... She could probably find some miracle man who is, but I feel as though that would be super hard to do.

Dear women: Men don't care about your career.

If any ladies are reading this, all you need to do is not be fat, be under 30 (35 in some instances, though I wouldn't recommend this) and don't bring other man's children to the arrangement.

Most men are fine with this. As long as you work at something, we're not really fussed at what.

Edit: Onlyfans doesn't count!

A dogsitter on the side when you have all that money? Very unlikely this is true.

Anyone earning that much would just have their own dog

Sure, if she’s dating men who are way out of her range but are relatively poor compared to her, of course they’re only with her for her money. If she “shopped” in her dating range, then she’d find some good man who would respect her for her and love her for her, with just a little bit of filtering to make sure the guy wasn’t out for a payday from the start. But alas, she’ll never lower her standards (even to a realistic range).

Instead, she’s gonna start that kid off with the best chance of failure, with no father and a pre-made broken home.

She's in debt

So much for the bullshit "Women are Fine with Being Breadwinners" they keep spewing.

Women are just fine with marrying men who outearn them and administering their husbands' assets which means they have access to all the money.

Women are NOT AT ALL fine with marrying men who earn less than they do and giving those men access to their funds.

Women want men's money and demand that men share their money, so they can spend their men's money as if it is theirs.

But women will NEVER EVER share their money with a man and let him spend it as if it is his.

Breadwinning for thee, but not for me. I get to share your money, but you men keep your grubbies off MY money.

Hypocrites.

I'm always skeptical when people claim large amounts of income but don't seem to understand numbers very well.

Assuming she worked right out of college she would have to have made 133,333$ a year net gain after taxes (age 22-37) to reach her "2m networth". This net gain would have to be after expenses and investments, just the net average she would have to gain per year until age 37. According to ZipRecruiter a kubernetes admin as of 2022 in America makes 104k(before taxes). She could not have had had this role for more than a few years as this is a newer company (2014), and if the salary is 104k now you can assume it was much lower the further years you go back.

If it possible? Sure. But whenever I read these income claims I just laugh a bit because its unlikely.

The cost of raising a child is easy to estimate, that shouldn't be difficult, a basic google search u can be in the ballpark.

This seems like a "I can't get a man" type of rant, with exaggerated finances. If she really wanted she wouldn't worry about his "finances".

Also as other commenters have already pointed out, men DGAF about her career.

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230k as a kubernetes admin. they made a job for her! pretty sure most developers have to do that as PART of their job, not the job itself

2 million net worth and walks dogs as a “side hustle” lol

Continue to work. Find a widower with kids who wants to be a SAHD, marry and adopt.

Equality.

“I’m 37 and want kids” a little late for that thought huh? Lol

Imagine being 37 with zero relationship prospects and saying you want a kid ...eventually.

She could be pregnant tomorrow and the kid will still be in high school when she's 56.

There is no eventually for you now. You used your eventually to get awesome job and finances. That is your reward. Retire early, comfortable and alone.

I hope she says what clinic is going to. I will see if they are publicly own and take a flyer on the stock. 37yo and just NOW thinking of having a kid? What a mess.

I have been to a lot of 3rd World countries. Seeing this girl lament about her wealth and status while wring her hands about her 1st World issues just really pisses me off. Only in the western world can a 37 year old single woman be a millionaire and debate whether or not she should go to a sperm bank and become a single mother. But keep in mind she is being kept down by the patriarchy. Her fat ass will never worry if the crops dont come in that half her village will starve or an invading force will come in to her hometown and kill everybody. I was going to say "only in America," but I read enough to know that Western Europe and Australia/NZ have the same self entitled spoiled women.

What amount is enough?

That number is irrelevant - it's never enough.

You're a middle-aged workaholic with zero prospects. You made your choice.

She's gonna "need" a guy her age, who makes a killing, looks great, and loves being home alone.

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37 years old, and succesful in a traditionally male sense, great, congratulations.

Should I find a man to have a child with or go with a sperm donor?

Neither, you will ruin the kid's life either way. Get a cat.

37 and 'eventually do want kids'. Well she may earn lots of money but when it comes to statistics she seems quite unaware that her fertility is dropping off a cliff. And anyone who voluntary considers becoming a single parent should be summarily executed.

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This chick does not need a child Jesus that would be another train wreck of a kid raised by daycare television and social media This chick needs a fucking brain transplant if anything not a child. No real dude is going to want this one and any that would would not match up for her anyway. In either event its a 100% loss for the child.

Lol funny thing is idc how rich or successful a woman is, all I care about is if she's loyal and hot.

Again, men don't give a **** how much you make. Are you feminine, in shape, and pleasant to be around? Bingo! We'd rather date the cute waitress than the ball buster exec. Women don't want to date guys who make less than them though. The wall is approaching at warp speed. The single guys her age making that much money can date younger.

None of this story makes any sense.

She wants to find a man and have kids but chooses to walk dogs in her free time? Why is she not going out regularly to meet men? She's exchanging precious fertility time for $100/day?

She's worried about the potential guy's financial situation? She can make/withdraw roughly 90k/year in retirement. Is an additional 50k from an average guy (what she can realistically get) a big consideration? Aside from health insurance, what big expenses will she have in retirement?

She talks as if she has all the time in the world for her plans to work out. Her priorities are misplaced and aren't contributing to her goals. Why would a financially savvy, intelligent person be doing that stuff?

She's asking the internet to make important life decisions for her based on a few paragraphs of backstory. I don't think she's telling the truth.

This reads more like a dog-walker who wants kids, but isn't satisfied with the caliber of men she's meeting and is lost on what to do.

These women are SO fucking dumb. Had all the cards in your hands and fumbled it. What a waste.

37F

I'm single atm but eventually do want kids

"I have my final project that us worth half my grade due next week and I am waiting for just the right idea to use for the project. Am I on the right track to get an A for my class?"

Not necessarily the best comparison, but I hope my point is made. She really does not have time on her hands to be using the words "eventually" with having children. She will be lucky to have 1 child at this rate, as she is still at square 1 where if being a mother was a real priority, she would already have children by now.

A woman does not need to be a mother to fulfill her life, but more women need to ask themselves what is most important. This woman clearly does not find being a mother important because she has spent this long not getting serious about that. Some women really need a reality check, because if you are getting to the point where you think becoming a mother when you are getting close to 40 is a reasonable expectation, you are in for a world of hardship and disappointment. But hey, maybe she will be able to afford some fertility treatments with all that money she has made! She will need all the help she can get.

whenever people lead with how much money they make (espscially in such detail) i never beleive them

My lord, how either powerfully ugly, repellent, or insanely picky (or all three) would you have to be to not find a guy? I know the field. A DevOps conference has a 90/10 male/female ratio and damned near half of that 10% are trans-women. She has unavoidably been wanted and worshiped by dozens - hundreds - of six-figure guys. And yet, not a single one....

Looks like content from a feed giving “relationship techniques” to a specific gender. You know, the place where you absolutely must know what the other gender is earning.

Why do women think men care how much they make? I mean yes I would prefer they be independent but how much they actually make is not really a thought most guys have, can she pay her own bills? Then that is good enough for most guys.
And she is wondering if she should wait to have kids at 37 ??? She should be more worried that if she does have kids that they may have issues due to her age.

Administering an open source project pays $230k a year? I'm in the wrong business.

Wow if this is true I am definitely in the wrong field. Although IT and coding seems even more dull than my current job (which is saying something)

Regardless - she’s left it rather late to find someone to have a child with. And left it late for a sperm donor as well

The selfishness and entitlement of this woman is astounding. Creating a child from a test tube using anonymous sperm is horrible. What about creating a Fatherless child? Creating a child that from birth will have deep psychological issues and unhappiness? Can you imagine the amount of hate the child will have for their Mother when they find out they were robbed of having a Father? To realize they were born not out of love. But to simply fulfill a selfish womans needs...

37 and asking if she should keep waiting to have kids. She should’ve been thinking about this in her 20s, but her career was more important. Newsflash: men that age aren’t looking to have kids. We’re already looking toward how to have the most relaxing retirement. Part of that is increasing your wealth through your 40s, and having a young child in those years can put the brakes on those plans.

A few notes for any women reading this thread:

We don’t care about your career or how much money you make

You’re right to assume men will be put off by “strong independent women” types. You clearly don’t need us, so why would we want you?

Those girls night out cocktail nights are fun, but eventually you’ll find yourself back at your apartment, alone, surrounded by cats and boxed wine, and you’ll see your other (married) friends on Instagram happily living with their families.

If you want kids, don’t wait until you’re almost 40.

If you’re over 30, you more than likely met “the right guy” back in your 20s, but you sent him to that black hole known as the friendzone. He’s probably moved on by now. Oh well.

damn kubernetes admin. thats big bucks there, and i dont know containers :(

fuck cloud, keep on prem.

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This is a classic example of the dating woes - and unreasonableness - of independent spinsters who get the financial success that feminists have pushed for. They commonly ask "Should I keep looking for a man who is wealthy like myself to have children with, or raise a child myself?" She wants the former for the family and companionship aspects, otherwise she wouldn't have asked the question. But her hypergamy and love for money dismisses the millions of 5-figure men who would make suitable partners and family men. She's more worried about "providing for a man beneath her" than considering that that same man could provide her the family and companionship she's looking for.

But she's also considering a sperm donor because being independent for so long, she's worried about letting go of being in control and "submitting to a man", and thinks that the only way she can let go and "be a woman" is to find a man who is wealthier and better looking. This and the money is why she doesn't come across as desperate for commitment.

But when you add that virtually no wealthy men are seeking an "independent" woman pushing 40 to have kids with (because they're busy banging models), it explains why such women inevitably take the sperm donor route.