DEAR ABBY: I am 21 and on my second marriage. My husband of two years is every girl's dream man -- the kindest, gentlest, most patient guy. He loves me for everything, including my flaws. I honestly believe he is the only one who could ever handle me.
So tell me, why am I cheating on him? I never thought I could find myself in this situation. I have a lot happening in my life, but there is no excuse for why I am straying from such an amazing husband. I love him, but when I get a text, I hope so badly that it's from the other man, and when it's from my husband I feel disappointment.
We see the other man. He works for my parents. This situation is messy, and I don't know what to do. I can't tell my husband -- it would ruin his life. I'd rather just leave him without giving any reason than tell him the truth. I want to leave him and live my own life, but I'm afraid to be on my own. I don't know why I stay. I'm lost and confused. Can I have some advice, please? -- RECKLESS IN FLORIDA
DEAR RECKLESS: You're playing at matrimony as if it were a game instead of a deep, enduring partnership. Staying married to someone because you're afraid to be on your own is doing both of you a disservice.
If you think leaving your husband "for no reason" would be less hurtful than telling him the truth, you are mistaken. You owe it to him to level with him about the affair so he won't blame himself for your leaving. When you do, I strongly recommend that you get counseling from a licensed mental health professional to help you slow down and more carefully consider what you're doing before you marry a third time.
Lesson Learned - Nothing you do will ever be good enough.
oldredder 9y ago
LOL - every girl's dream cuckold-bux is more like it.
Dr_HoaxArthurWilmoth 9y ago
21 and second marriage. Anything she has to say after this is null and void.
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thiasus 9y ago
This one's easy but I'm sure someone will still benefit from a translation:
"I am a huge, huge slut and also incredibly good at roping guillible weak men in."
"My husband is a complete Beta bitch"
"Please tell me that I'm not morally responsible for my whoredom"
"I get the tingles from Chad but my husband dries me up like powder. I'm 21, what do you expect?"
"I can't tell my husband -- even if the existence of his balls is the subject of an ongoing investigation, he might stop being my provider"
"I want to ride the CC like any 21-year-old but I need an exit strategy that salvage my easy income"
"Pity me, for I'm a child and not accountable for my actions"
RealRational 9y ago
lol, it was easy but the way you put it makes it so much funnier!
_the_shape_ 9y ago
I love this one up against the "strong, independent, working womyn" backdrop.
In other words, who and what I am is entirely contextual and dependent upon that which serves me best. If being a pseudo-man doesn't get me what I want (or proves to be too much work), then tears and tantrums will do the trick.
KartagoPill 9y ago
Sir, you are like woman-man translator.
After reading true meaning, I want to puke and forget it.
mrmeyhemn 9y ago
another talented "whore whisperer"
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That phrase is so awesome my head just exploded
mrmeyhemn 9y ago
i can't take credit, i saw it on here somewhere and fell out of my chair laughing.
TylerDurdenRP 9y ago
Holy shit. She is 21? Wow okay I an finally over my oneitis. Damn, to think I could be in that guys shoes right now.
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RedPill4LYF 9y ago
Whoah. I forgot what oneitis was.
TylerDurdenRP 9y ago
Good lol. That means you truly aren't affected by it. Its crazy though I don't know what I was thinking. The girl I was talking to was 20 and about to get a divorce. I was retarded.
Scarbane 9y ago
Well done, that's one less Cap'n-Save-A-Ho in the world.
TylerDurdenRP 9y ago
When it comes to beta bitches I was probably like 9/10. I am still figuring out stuff though. I am not a very social person hah. It takes a lot of effort for me to talk to people. So I have been working on improving myself so the girls will come talk to me!:D
turmoggy 9y ago
Never get involved with a divorce woman as they didn't honor their vows the first go around. Why marry a woman who can't keep her word?
Have some standards.
London-Bananas 9y ago
This is code speak for how much of a beta schlub who can't possibly turn her on he is. Every woman reading that article immediately understood this, and to most men the article doesn't make sense at all.
youngbulker 9y ago
yup she pretty much sees him as a big bro now hahaha
MentORPHEUS Senior Endorsed 9y ago
Any woman whose identity includes the notion that someone must be capable of handling her is not LTR material.
As if difficult, antisocial, bond-challenging behavior is a positive attribute.
2comment 9y ago
And if she's 19 and already divorced once, I'd know I have a problem on my hands.
ericatx 9y ago
Agree - if you ever hear this from a woman (Needs someone to control her) run for the hills ASAP!
Obio1 9y ago
Exactly. The concept of her hubby being "capable of handling me" is an effort to remove agency from her actions. The pretext is that she simply "is the way she is" and cannot change. She claims to not be responsible for what she says or does (or who she fucks) because sees those actions as innate characteristics of her being that she can't change.
1kernelshort 9y ago
As slave to their feelings, how much choice do women really have? Isn't a woman who is deeply introspective and accountable for her actions automatically a unicorn?
I kind of feel pity, because this woman is indicating awareness that she is destroying her own life and the life of her husband, but doesn't have the ability to rein in those impulses. It's sad.
redpillschool Admin 9y ago
And yet you've described a majority of American women.
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OlanValesco 9y ago
Video games and the internet. The time ravagers.
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BlackHeart89 9y ago
I've encountered women like this and for some odd reason, they seem to be proud of it. Proud to be difficulty and bitchy.
RedPillionaire 9y ago
I've noticed that this pride increases proportional to the amount of time she's spent on the carousel. It's a defense mechanism for the Alpha widow.
Surely, all of the Alpha males I fuck won't commit to me because they can't handle me.
Right, sweetheart. That's exactly it.
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SleepNowMyThrowaway 9y ago
Well in another 10 years when their poosay looks like 5 lbs. of chipped ham, they'll moderate their behavior.
But it won't matter by then.
StarDestinyGuy 9y ago
This is making me laugh far too much
MadeSomewhereElse 9y ago
You want a good girl, but you need a bad poosay
ramot1 9y ago
Or maybe they will moderate their poosay. There are operations for that now.
But that wall will still be there waiting for them to crash into. -TheRedPill
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"Well in another 10 years when their poosay looks like 5 lbs. of chipped ham,"
They call that the Hope Solo look.
Obio1 9y ago
Modded up for "poosay". :D
Cyralea 9y ago
Basic female solipsism. Hard-ass, dominant men are attractive. Therefore, bitchy, dominant women should also be attractive. That and the pervasive "You go girl, you an independent women who need no man" tripe that they often spout.
bebestman 9y ago
I'm always annoyed when the strong, female lead is just a female actor playing a male's role. However, I am always impressed with a movie or series where a female character uses cunning and wit to further her goals instead of a domineering attitude or using ridiculous displays of brute strength.
Tarkleigh 9y ago
This, unfortunately this is ridiculously common (though most female characters in TV suck imo). The only exception would be Gemma from Sons of Anarchy. She is pretty powerless on her own but an expert manipulator and uses this almost to perfection.
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Tarkleigh 9y ago
Yes, with a good mixture of Lady Macbeth as well (probably since Sons is loosely based on Hamlet). She is not a member of the Sons and usually does not get involved herselve but with her son as VP and her husband as president of the charter (which she both often uses in different ways) she is easily one of the most powerful people in the show. And it also shows quite nicely how much her power fades when she can't use them.
Nicholas_ 9y ago
Confirm.
Whenever I'm at my skinniest, I hardly get looks. Whenever I do full-body workouts and gain an extra 10kg onto my frame chicks just fucking gawk at me and almost drool.
Evolved_Red 9y ago
"If you can't handle me at my worst..."
Blah blah fucking blah.
NidStyles 9y ago
No sense of responsibility for ones behavior equates to being a bitch.
i_raid_planets 9y ago
It's the ultimate red flag since no sane woman would directly advertise herself as hell in a handbasket, even covertly
StarDestinyGuy 9y ago
Yep. If I ever hear or see that from any woman, that's a woman I have absolutely no intention to associate with.
TRPn00b 9y ago
If you can't handle me face-down dead in a pool of my own vomit, you don't deserve me at my best!
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I actually said that quote to a girl once. I love to speak nonsense to girls. the trick is to beat them to it. become the hot chick in the relationship.
PlanB_pedofile 9y ago
If can't handle you at your worse, your best isn't worth it.
TheKorken 9y ago
I still like this quote though. But I guess I have a diffrent sight on "handle" for me it means more like "If you cant keep frame at my worst, i wont give you a chance to keep frame at my best."
Redpillwhiterabbit 9y ago
I flip it and make the delivery obviously sexual- "If you can't handle me at my best, you don't deserve me at my worst". Not really much substance but its recognized by most everyone and helps with the "be constantly sexual" thing.
JohnGalt316 9y ago
it should be
because you can handle me at my worst, i don't think you are good enough to deserve my best
the_number_2 9y ago
Because you put up with me at my worst that's all you'll get because why should I try my best when you seem just fine with my worst.
romegas314 9y ago
I always laugh at that quote, for two separate reasons:
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SleepNowMyThrowaway 9y ago
...or killed by the CIA.
Either way, your point stands.
emblasochist 9y ago
Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.
BlackHeart89 9y ago
I hate that phrase now. At first I took it to mean that if you can't assist someone when they are down on their luck, then you shouldn't be allowed to reap the benefits once they stand tall on their own.
Now, this little fucks twist it to mean, "If you can't handle my bitching, then you don't deserve me". That shit doesn't even make sense.
Nicholas_ 9y ago
The real question is "Why should you be insufferable and bitchy in the first place?"
No man or woman has to take that unwarranted crap.
MentORPHEUS Senior Endorsed 9y ago
It's deeper than that, more like a manifestation of hypoagency.
"My behavior is consistently bitchy and insufferable, but the onus is on the entire rest of the world to 'handle' me."
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I read it more like- "If you fail my shittests i'm leaving you". Plates often give me shit, I put them in their place or dread to soft-next. The real lesson is- don't listen too much to what women actually say.
renzy77 9y ago
Imagine two pictures side-by-side: the picture on the left is a woman with a black eye cowering in the corner with a man's clenched fist in the foreground. The picture on the right side is the man bringing that woman roses. That's what "If you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best" looks like with the genders reversed.
HellbillyDeluxe 9y ago
That is an excellent spotlight on the absurdity of that quote. Your illustration impressed upon me just how lost in the blue pill most people are. I had read that quote many times over the years, and while I thought it was bullshit, I never once pictured it in the way you described it. I think your description is an excellent highlight of the "doublethink" women and western society go through regarding gender roles. That most people never look at it in the way you described, which quickly reveals the quote to be an utterly ridiculous attitude and not something to be championed, points to how ingrained the "doublethink" is.
bz1028 9y ago
Picture for reference.
detachedbymarriage 9y ago
Is it wrong that I want to troll FB with this picture?
bz1028 9y ago
That was my first instinct too.
rporion 9y ago
Which comes from a woman which was a druggie and alcoholic, could not fill the hole in her soul with fame, fortune and elite dick and finally overdosed.
(Or got killed, who knows).
A woman who thinks Marilyn Monroe is inspirational is insane.
exit_sandman 9y ago
"If your worst needs handling, your best isn't worth it."
London-Bananas 9y ago
I think Zyzz was in many ways like her.
Yeah he was aesthetic but he was also deeply insecure about himself, and no amount of coke or roids or cumsluts could ever fill that for him. When I see videos of Zyzz I don't see an inspirational hero, what I see is a large man with an underdeveloped sense of self-worth taking it out in destructive behaviour leading to his death at age 22.
rpkarma 9y ago
Yeah but he was aethetic as fuck.
Brah.
youngbulker 9y ago
his fixation on his own appearance was feminine. same with bodybuilding to be honest.
splinterbeard 9y ago
Haha anyone who quotes her as an idol is immediately a dumbass to me
musclebound92 9y ago
Amen to that. When I call women out who idolize her, they say she was an amazing person who stood up for womens rights. This kind of logic I will never understand.
AnnFranklyMyDear 9y ago
It's not even a Marilyn Monroe quote IIRC, it's falsely attributed.
nuesuh 9y ago
That might be true, but this is about the the vapid women that use her quote when engaging with men, not Marilyn Monroe herself.
She's dead, and doesn't deserve the amount of attention she's getting today.
MentORPHEUS Senior Endorsed 9y ago
I love responding to that quote with, "You know who couldn't handle Marilyn Monroe at her worst?
(Pause while uh-oh look crosses her face)
Marilyn fucking Monroe!
EscapedTheMatrix 9y ago
This will forever be my response to that god awful quote.
razorwan 9y ago
Add me to that choir as well. Go figure that women pick a shitty human being as their sex symbol idol
PedroIsWatching 9y ago
Or who love Breakfast at Tiffany's and have Holly Golightly posters.
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PedroIsWatching 9y ago
Having read the novella and watched the movie, these are the two biggest differences -
Movie: Holly is riding the cock carousel, trying to lock down an Alpha
Book: Holly is basically a prostitute, Capote just doesn't call her that.
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the_number_2 9y ago
Maybe, but dat Audrey Hepburn tho...
redswitchgo 9y ago
Why are you cheating on him? Because he fails all your shit tests, bends over backwards to accommodate you and puts you before himself like the spineless pussy he was trained to be
CuntyMcFagNuts69 9y ago
If you are the smartest person in the room, it's time to find a new room. Always keep growing because you'll never peak. Never rest on your laurels. It's great knowing I'll never be good enough. It's motivation
BallisticTherapy 9y ago
Shit, the only new room I've been able to find is online exclusively for about the past 12 years.
R_E_D_1 9y ago
Counseling? This bitch just needs to keep dickhopping until her time on the cock carousel is over. No need to shell out tons of money for therapy for a biological need that just wants to run its course.
AdonisHera 9y ago
It's all about the game and how you play it boys. Personally I don't endorse any LTR, but some guys like that shit. This is a new era and a new crop of women, with the same old women mentality. Rotate plates fellas. Learn the game, study the game and execute in the game. You're in the game whether you want to be Or not. It's up to you to decide if you're gonna shoot and score the ball, or get it stolen from you. I'm literally laughing while reading this: typical AWALT.
Nebulose11 9y ago
The OR got shut down today. Been rocking out all day to motorhead and see that first line
Motorhead-The Game
The song of frame control.
brokenshelf 9y ago
Oh snap, I just read this about 2 hours ago in my local paper. Dear Abby is one of guilty pleasures (scheidenfreude) and a gold mine of RP wisdom. This one was especially delicious.
21, divorced, already on a second marriage and cheating? Pretty much the definition of a stupid cunt that doesn't deserve respect.
ShekelBanker 9y ago
The fucking nerve on this twat. Like things aren't bad enough, we got to also have some shills who preach divorce (who, surprise surprise, are women). She talks about quitting on the marriage like it's about quitting eating doughnuts: well, find out that it's not that easy. You ruin a man's life and you fuck up also the children, who guaranteed will find out later in life just what a great mother you were for bailing out just for a different dick to bounce on.
TylerDurdenRP 9y ago
I think she is right about that though. I mean that poor guy. He needs to know that his wife is sleeping around. I would want to know. Of course I would never get married in the first place.
Lt_Muffintoes 9y ago
Uh, this is not the lesson learned here.
The lesson is that this:
Will lose to this:
Had the husband been this:
She would not be writing in to Dear Abbey
ferengiprophet 9y ago
21 and already on her second marriage. I wonder how many men need to get burned before we as a society realize that girls who have been with even one previous partner make piss poor LTRs.
This is something that is hardwired into most eastern cultures and it's something that Americans prior to the sexual revolution were aware of. I used to hate these posts when I first subscibed to the red pill but now I enjoy seeing these guys get burned. If you try to talk some sense into them, they will argue like stubborn donkeys to defend their worldview because they are simply unwilling to change. Pass me some of that popcorn as we watch yet another "nice guy" get cuckolded...
friendlysociopathic 9y ago
How are men as a whole going to ensure all their partners are virgins in the modern age?
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Social media/internet.
Its not that hards.
friendlysociopathic 9y ago
Think about this for a second. How many men are in the world, and how many female virgins over the age of 18?
hirjd 9y ago
And how many of those are virgins only because they're weirdos with strange hangups, unrealistic expectations, fragile sensibilities, no sex drive, and no self awareness?
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Oh you are very correct sir. The chance of landing a decent looking low N count girl who isn't a religious weirdo or deformed in some way is almost zero.
friendlysociopathic 9y ago
So yeah, the outcome of men trying to ensure all their partners are virgins will be that most men end up being virgins.
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My comment was just on HOW to find out lap count a girl has seen on the CC, not any sort of advice on what your upper limit should be.
Thats up to you.
I'll hold my nose and smash used up girls, but I would never stoop so low as to LTR one.
Harry_Teak 9y ago
That's really all she had to say. The rest is window dressing.
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"Every girl's dream man" = every girl's dream beta. All the warm fuzzy comfort feelings but no rush of dopamine like they get when Chad texts them three letters ("DTF?").
Overkillengine 9y ago
She's worried honesty would "Ruin his life?"
Bullshit projection tactic to salve her ego. She know goddamn well he'd be better off without her skank ass, and is scared her gravy train will get ended unless she can get some sort of ironclad excuse to use when her behavior eventually comes to light.
Even bluepilled men aren't completely stupid, and thus most the valuable (financially exploitable) ones will instinctively shy away from committing to a woman that has managed to fuck up being married three times before she even hit 25.
Plus women that behave that badly also tend to hit the wall sooner and harder, since poor sexual impulse control is rarely isolated to just their sexual choices. It's a good bet she is starting to look rode hard and put away wet even at her age.
She knows, and she is scared. But yet, she continues to choose poorly.
Caveat Emptor.
watersign 9y ago
hubby is a beta, parents employee is obviously tattoo'd chad thundercock
RPthrowaway123 9y ago
Well this is an easy one - she's a slut who can't give it up.
Sdom1 9y ago
She wants to protect her reputation, period, end of story. She would be fine with it if he got run over by a truck. That way, she keeps all his assets!
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Ya, she said that now. How much you wanna bet she goes for blood in the divorce??
Because you know, she cares lol
Swanksterino 9y ago
Yeah, in FLA automatic halfsies, unless adultery, so...math.
Mihawk01 9y ago
That husbamd needs to use that dread game, hit the gym, act like the man, abbudance mentality, give her pussy a good hard fuck while slapping her ass harder than it has ever been slapped, and she will come begging back. That works, what he did before, des not.
oldredder 9y ago
NO, he needs to disappear so she gets nothing in the divorce and never be married again and fuck 10 new women every week.
Any man who wants this woman back after this is a stupid idiot.
rpscrote 9y ago
Because you're a whore with absolutely no inclination or ability to control your animal instincts.
Talon1212 9y ago
Dat lizard brain is strong.
KartagoPill 9y ago
Women are capable as men in thinking and decision making, but they dont wanna do it! They wanna be kid. Merry-go-around till die.
RemyPrice 9y ago
I would actually ready Dear Abby if the answers were like this.
We should soooo make this a thing.
DrXaos 9y ago
I've always imagined a two-fer advice column. First answer, the usual wimpy nicey stuff.
Next answer, the drill sergeant's view.
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There are a pair of twins on youtube who do that. One is like a married dude who is still alpha, the other is like a 39 year old man child who still is just a fucking highschool senior at heart. Its pretty hilarious. I think they call themselves Hodge Twins or something like that.
BallisticTherapy 9y ago
Do whatever the FUCK.... you wanna do!
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What /u/reisli said is true. Also, I think they nearly always have the same opinion on their advice videos.
reisli 9y ago
Must be someone else. Hodge Twins are both married with good looking wives.
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Yeah you are correct. I conflated them with another pair of advice guys.
The Hodge twins are cool too, but not the ones I am thinking of entirely.
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TylerDurdenRP 9y ago
Are you a god damn poet???
"Romance is theater, not reality"
That is an awesome line right there man haha. So true.
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Honestly there are some vaginas out there that would make a man gay.
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hirjd 9y ago
You should have put a trigger warning in there. I have my red wings and it affects me every day. I still don't feel safe around women and every time I find out one is bleeding I become afraid and can't be alone with her. I was naive. I didn't know people were like that. Maybe it's all my fault. Maybe I should have asked if she was bleeding. Maybe I should have fingered her first. Afterward I felt so dirty and used and she just sat there and smiled and acted suprised that I didn't like it. And to add to my shame I came. Into a condom but still, I came. I cut deeper every day but the nightmare never ends. My blood is never enough to stop hers. My barf is holy water. I've turned to the bottle for peace but it only lasts until morning.
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mister_barfly75 9y ago
"If you can't stand me acting like a cunt, you don't deserve me when I'm dtf"
Way_Of_Man 9y ago
What's sad is that you don't have to be the push over submissive "good guy" type for this to happen to you.
I've had 2 different LTRs with women in where I feel as though I kept a very good frame with little tolerance for drama and nonsense. Attraction was high and sex was good and frequent.
Both ended up fooling around on me. When questioned why, none of the reasons they gave made any sense.
When I got more analytical about the time lines and lined up events in the relationship with the most likely starting point of the infidelity there was one constant.
Both girls started seeing other guys once an event or conversation had happened in which they realized they had me "on lock" and I wasn't going to fuck other girls. The instant that happened they started shopping elsewhere. No matter how great everything was before.
You wanna see a girls true colors? Convince her you're committed to her and only her. If there's ugly shit in there, it will come out fast.
sezamus 9y ago
f*ck me... when I comitted to my ex-LTR and failed shit-tests like "would you ever cheat on me?!" (read: "Are there any girls you would fuck?") her pussy dried out and she was telling me "I don't know what's going on but I'm NOT turned on with you anymore" - all this month after fucking me like crazy. Just like that...
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Yup same thing happened to me brother. Solid frame and everything, Great phone sex and real sex blah blah. My constant noted was alcohol, the moment this girl had any sort of alcohol in her she became a raging slut. Without alcohol she was good with her "you're my capn-save-a-ho" woe is me. But with that alcohol chad was quick to pull her.
whenfoom 9y ago
Man, that last sentence is really good.
RPthrowaway123 9y ago
I'm gonna put that on a post-it on my mirror haha
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But as we all know, it's her life that would be ruined.. Not his
MadeSomewhereElse 9y ago
Also, look how highly she values herself. It would sting the dude, but "ruin his life" is a little hyperbolic.
antariusz 9y ago
He's probably told her that. Source: I used to be that big of a beta.
"I love you, I want to be with you forever, if you ever left I'd be ruined"
SilentForTooLong 9y ago
What advice would the girl get really other than to come clean and stop being a whore?...
Dis_mah_mobile_one 9y ago
She'd learn why she does what she does, what she likes versus what she says she likes, the hamster she spins to rationalize the difference, and the actions she desperately needs to take to salvage any attractiveness she has
SilentForTooLong 9y ago
Hard to tell how she could salvage anything... but basically that's what the therapist is supposed to do I guess haha
Dis_mah_mobile_one 9y ago
No her current marriage is toast she just can't admit it. I meant for the future
SilentForTooLong 9y ago
Even then... 2 divorces by 24? What is there to salvage?
Crotch_Snorkel 9y ago
This sounds like BPD behavior. Probably why she recommended seeking a licensed mental health professional. There is AWALT... and then there are women with mental health issues. It's like NAWALT... but not for the good reasons. Sadly its the crazy ones that know how to seduce you, and make you think "THIS IS NAWALT!"... and in many ways you're correct... but in even more ways, you are essentially selling your soul, and are dating a psycho with a pretty face... NEVER EVER EVER DATE A BORDERLINE.
SComm 9y ago
Exactly this. Crazy people always have a way of making you think there's some kind of connection.
Cyralea 9y ago
Could be, though I've seen flavours of this in regular women too. Attractive women her age have powerful hamsters. She's never had to be personally accountable her whole life, why would it start by getting married?
SilentForTooLong 9y ago
I'd rather be with a crazy person than a normal women.
According to TRP normal women are ruthless psychopaths that only really exist to destroy your soul, while pretending to be cute and cuddly.
At least the borderlines are fun, and interesting.
Crotch_Snorkel 9y ago
Yes... that is if you think poisoning your dog is "fun and interesting" then by all means, date away sir.
SilentForTooLong 9y ago
I would rather have a woman poison my dog, than have a woman poison my soul (what all normal women do).
Dis_mah_mobile_one 9y ago
AWALT means any woman can be, but most men using RP actions can mitigate their bad behavior and build better behaviors.
A BPD woman is broken. Too much effort even if you could change her
SilentForTooLong 9y ago
Doesn't matter. The certainty of knowing what you have with BPD is worth almost infinitely more than never knowing what you are dealing with in terms of a normal woman.
exuals 9y ago
Just to be clear here, you realize BPD is a mental disorder right? You responded like the normal woman will act more irrationally and random than the woman with BPD?
SilentForTooLong 9y ago
Yes. That's true. BPD in a woman = you deal with BPD.
A normal woman is infinitely crazier than a woman with BPD.
I can deal with BPD quite easily. It's a mental disease with documented symptoms that I can spot and look out for. It's predictable, and relatively simple to manage.
Compare this with the chaotic, insane, and awful nature of normal woman who are cold, calculated psychopaths that only seek to destroy you at every moment. To me, BPD is the clear winner.
friendlysociopathic 9y ago
Ever been in a relationship with a girl with BPD? Or plated one for more than 2 months?
SilentForTooLong 9y ago
Yeah, for 2 years. By far the best woman I've ever experienced.
friendlysociopathic 9y ago
Do you have narcissistic personality disorder?
SilentForTooLong 9y ago
Are those the only people that enjoy dating people with BPD or something?
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dr_warlock 9y ago
Hamster food, non-judgemental, and aligned with her self interest.
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"You deserve" is absolutely one of the most powerful phrases used in marketing and selling. It makes people feel special, entitled, and superior. You're gassing up their ego. You see it all the time.
"Get the money you deserve!" is always the message from those lawyers that you see on daytime television.
"Take this magic pill and get the happiness that you deserve!"
Countless other examples but you definitely get the point. "You deserve" is such a powerful phrase because the vast majority of people want to believe that they are special and deserving of special treatment. It goes back to the victim mentality that most people walk around with.
"I'm a victim and I deserve sympathy and help!" is the name of the game here. But hey, who are we to tell them that their entitled mentality is just a fantasy, or worse, that they themselves are the root of all of their problems? As for me, I'll be selling that married woman all the romance she "deserves."
JumpXVI 9y ago
Wait for it...
Waiiiiiit for iiiiiit...
This isn't even out of context, as the ellipses are "journalistically integrous". This chick not only verbalizes but literally writes out something her hypergamous hindbrain is still incapable of processing. She can't see the answer, literally, in front of her eyes, with words she wrote herself, that she is cheating on her (second) husband simply because he puts up with her shit.
Because he, in all his "kindest, gentlest" ways, probably pedestalizes the shit out of her, which her forebrain tells her she wants, but her body tells her—in plain, dry, tinlgle-free terms—is unattractive.
[deleted] 9y ago
It's funny how blue pill society tries to convince everyone that a "kind" and "gentle" man is "every girl's dream man".
The truth is this - there is nothing "dreamy" about a man who is kind or gentle. A woman cannot get wet from a man who cannot protect her. Her DNA tells her that these types of men are a huge waste of reproductive resources. So why bother?
The truth is this - there is nothing wrong with this girl. Her behaviour follows red pill theory exactly. It's standard procedure, She's just confused because her biology is contradicting her blue pill conditioning. Blue pill society is trying to convince her that there is something wrong with her.
But guess what fellas... AWALT.
BlackHeart89 9y ago
I'm strongly in favor of a woman's need to have some sort of drama of adversary in her life.
Things are going too well. Especially in her marriage. Whats the solution? Strange cock.
Enter: Chad McThundercock
edit: after reading max_peenor's reply, I'm thinking that maybe my view is more of a surface view.
max_peenor 9y ago
The female prime directive is stability. Like in the early version of the matrix, if it seems too easy, there must be something wrong and it isn't believable. They will cause all kinds of shit, unless it is super, extra clear that the only thing she better believe is you will curb her ass the second she strays. She will internalize that threat to her stability as enough to make it feel real.
Cyralea 9y ago
Scottish Chad's are doubly dangerous. That accent kills North American chicks.
Chuckit_ 9y ago
Chad McThundercock knows he can always go... OCH! DOON TOON!
Gr8UncleRuckus 9y ago
A hearty chuckle ensued this comment.
BetterRedThanRed 9y ago
This also makes me believe it is fake. It is just too perfect. Like some guy from here wrote it.
Semper_I 9y ago
If you put a woman on a pedestal and then tip toe around it, you will knock it over.
CreateTheFuture 9y ago
If you put a woman on a pedestal you are making her look down on you. Don't be an idiot.
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Swanksterino 9y ago
It's like I always say; Virginia may be for lovers, but Florida is for fuck-ups.
Nieben 9y ago
So... stop trying?
How about, "Nothing is a guarantee. Make calculated risks like a man and take the hit when it comes around and get back up."
oldredder 9y ago
which also includes seeing the risks are too high and walking away for decades. Women aren't important to a man's life stability or income, they often destroy it.
[deleted] 9y ago
Red flags everywhere the eye can see.
The lesson to be learned from this clusterfuck of a relationship?
Never be Captain Save-A-Ho.
[deleted] 9y ago
A girls game is to make you think you are her Captain save-a-ho. It is done by various means but usually by boosting your ego which guys are so easy to fall for:
"Your cock is so huge"
"The sex with you is amazing"
"Your so big and strong"
And this is just the tip of the iceberg. Theres nothing wrong with a good compliment, but just realize she was telling the guy before you and will be telling the guy after you the exact same things she tells you because feels creates her reality.
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the_chaoticist 9y ago
This is actually the reality you come to aspire to when your still plugged in. I just recently unplugged and this "dream guy" that the article is referring to is the quintessential beta even I was aspiring too. Its only after I started the inward journey of self realization that I found media's depiction of every "dream guy" to be a lie. Now what if this woman is realizing that this "dream guy" notion is also a lie on a subconscious level being attracted to any guy demonstrating an inkling of TRP? As a novice to to TRP I've noticed changes in female interactions with me and I just started implementing the strategies. As a student of sciences, you learn that nothing is absolute, just as AWALT is at best a generality. I would say more aptly that RPW is the invisible woman that will require x-ray vision to find. So STFU about AWALT this and that and become a SUPERMAN.
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