I think it's time we coin a neat little phrase for this. I'm gonna go with "hidden standards". Women always use language to make themselves seem more reasonable than they actually are. That's why they ask "where are the good men?" which is worded to make it sound like the only thing they're asking for in a man is that he simply be "good" - that their choosing criteria is so humble that it's based solely on the quality of a man's character and nothing else. As men who have lived a life, we all know that this is bullshit. Put this statement under a little bit of scrutiny, and the hidden requirements start coming out of the woodwork.

What does a man's height, or physical attractiveness, or propensity to pay lots of money on a first date have to do with how "good" he is? Present the women who ask "WATGM?" with a man who's only quality is that he's "good", and nothing else, and she'll certainly have a litany of "red flags/icks" (ie; hidden requirements) that magically appear out of nowhere right after she claimed that all she wanted was a man who was "good" or "marriageable".

These statements are loaded in women's favor. They're basically humble-brags that scream "I'm only single because I'm such a virtuous person that I can't find a man to match my virtue." Thank God we have tons of receipts via women's own social media footprint that guarantee virtually no men today actually believe this.

You claim your only requirement is that a man be "good" sweetheart? Hey, why don't you try being nice and talkative to that guy at the office who's a little shy and dorky, but treats people respectfully? How about that clean cut guy fixing his driveway who doesn't have tattoos or an attitude who you just run past without making eye contact on your morning jog on the weekends? We know why. It's because you have hidden standards that, if said out loud, will betray how shallow you are.

Good find! So much to unpack. This one is almost an educational tool to illustrate to young women how NOT to wind up a bitter inspin at the relatively young age of 32.

Let’s start with she hasn’t “found” the right man. What she means is she wants one to ride up on a white horse or “court” her. She can’t imagine doing the “bare minimum” and going up to a man she finds desirable, who “meets her standards” and risk rejection. So she sat around “finding” a man until she hit her “best sell by” date at 29 and then after 3 years, loses patience and shows her inner-inner self: Men are sub-humans who didn’t please her and she’s not happy about it.

Does anyone here who understands how this woman thinks find her desirable as a person aside from her (aging) sexuality? Would you want to be around her for the rest of your life much less even dinner date?

She claims to be “normal” and reasonable and merely asks for men to do the “bare minimum”. In some cases, this has truly meant that if a man dressed up nice, bought her that precious 3 (or 5) dinner dates, and avoided any of her red flags or shit tests, they might get some transactional sex, and if they’re lucky, marry her and have kids and perhaps roll the dice that 50:50 she won’t trash the marriage for the fun of it. Any takers?

I know guys who got this deal with women like this back in the 1980’s. Some got lucky, some didn’t.

But in this modern era, it truly is unlikely that a woman like this would wind up an inspin at 32 unless something was really wrong with her due to the dating apps utterly insanely low standards for women to get that deal. Even Pig Woman could get decent looking men buying her dinner.

Finally, her rant illustrates her entitlement further and this is perhaps most important: She stomped her widdle feet and men didn’t perform as she demanded so she wants all women to go onto inspin island with her. She wants to drag them down with her.

Ok, not finally: She mentions the 1940’s. Back then, men paid for dates, approached, and so on like this woman no doubt desires but she says it’s not the 1940’s anymore. Indeed, she doesn’t respect men of that era, or now, but wants the benefits of it.

I've been single for three years and haven't found a single man that meets my standards.

Oh no!

I'm 32

That explains it.

Interestingly, 32 minus 3 means her problems began when she was 29.

I believe Jordan Peterson said it, and it's been said here too: love and romance are for the young.

Something happens as humans get older and more experienced. If you're paying attention, you pick up on patterns and see where situations are leading to - a greater ability to predict outcomes. I'm rarely surprised by a movie plot anymore.

It's really not that hard to court a woman. [...] to show basic respect. [...] to provide the bare minimum.

"hard"? I don't think it is difficult. I think it's just not worth it. It's just that markets have changed - she's changed; the men have changed; the environment has changed too. Most men are simply performing a cost/benefit analysis - a simple pros and cons list. Conclusion: no thank you.

The internet has really changed the market too. I'm not referring to dating apps and social media specifically. I'm referring to the abundance of information available to men and pure direct evidence of woman's behaviors. I remember the first time I heard Kevin Samuels explain SIGN language. Shaming, Insults, Guilt, and Need to be right. This brought back years of misery living with my ex-wife. She never apologized for anything and constantly shit tested me. The trope that women refuse to be held accountable can be seem in 1080p via thousands of videos of police interactions, not to mention female violence and what they say directly from their mouths.

No thank you.

Now I just look forward to spending some time camping on a property I bought when it gets colder.

Weekend content because she isn't seeking commitment, but rather has given up.

I don't care what ChatGPT tells me

Anyone who goes to AI to answer questions beyond basic research, ie surrendering his or her thinking to the machines, doesn't deserve to be taken seriously about anything.

the irony of a self created incel woman who has ruined her own dating life with unrealistic standards and wasted her youth riding the carousel calling dudes who want nothing to do with her stanky roast beef self created incels

I can't find a young Cindy Crawford look a like with natural double d tits and a low body count. There are no good women left! Unfair.

Her: "It's not hard to provide the bare minimum."

Me: "OK, how about we meet for coffee to discuss this further?"

Her: "I don't do coffee dates. I didn't mean THAT kind of bare minimum."

Juice and squeeze, That's all it comes down to. Men love sex, will do more for it than just about anything else on earth but the juice has to be worth the squeeze.

I am sure the lady is right. There are no single men who are good enough for her left ...who also think that life with her is worth the squeeze.