I'm late to the party on this one but, for the sake of sparing the vision of any future readers, I'm going to transcribe the OP here into readable text.

It's been more than a year since I've decentered men and romantic relationships from my life - understood thoroughly that my thoughts, my being, aspirations and existence need not revolved around them in any manner. Not to say I actively went out on a mission to eliminate them from my life - just not make it my life's aim to make them a priority.

I still in fleeting moments feel the need to be loved and understood but honestly I've realized that no one can do it better than my girls. The kinda vulnerability and transparency that exists in the sisterhood that we've made for ourselves is honestly more than enough as there's no shame attached to anything or any conversation.

Recently, I downloaded Hinge after a long time and decided to date cause why not honestly? I met someone and I honestly haven't had this vibe with someone in a while. But here comes the catch - he's only here for a month and I'm not looking for anything casual.

In an interview with Nikki Giovanni she says "awareness of a relationship being framed as an experiment impacts or directs the interactions that unfold" then she goes on to explain when we remove judgment from a relationship we give more room for it to flourish (exactly how I find it in my most intimate friendships)

This past year more than ever I've had the realization that every person I come across might just be passing by, they don't necessarily have to be constantly present in my life to for me to love them.

Having conversations with girlfriend, I've come to the realisation that I'm gonna give whatever 20-25 days I have my all, because if one night stands can be a thing, why can't one night relationships be? In simpler terms is I've been able to risk my vulnerability in physical relationships knowing there's an end in sight, I wish to do the same for an emotional relationship knowing it wouldn't last beyond a certain period and see the possibility of love in whatever number of days we spend together. We plan on caring for each other and then saying our goodbyes. It's like a piece of our heart is in transit. I see some of merit in experimenting and just experiencing things existing in whatever this can be called (just not a situationship)

It's too soon to call it love obviously but in any romantic relationship the most terrifying part is the departure of love/connection and by facing the objective truth, does it take some sort of pressure of the relationship?

I don't know what the purpose of posting ie here is but I do hope it resembles with some or if there's an opinion anyone has on this to share!

Ignore whatever typos

because if one night stands can be a thing, why can't one night relationships be?

This is perfect for that "They're the Same Picture" meme from The Office, since she is trying to make this short term "relationship" seem more meaningful by repackaging it with different words. Perhaps if no sex is involved, she could claim it is somehow different, but I am going to doubt this will be the case since she still wants to have a "relationship" with a man who clearly stated that he will be out of the picture soon. I really doubt that if she is still interested despite claiming she is "not looking for anything casual." So it is a safe bet that she has the tingles for this man, and is not going to be refraining from sex.

It is not surprising that she is still single, as she shows that she was not all that serious about finding a relationship in the first place when she had not "decentered men" in her life. Women who are serious about finding a long term relationship are not spending a moment of time with a man who they know will not be available to them long term. And given that he was clear about him not being available, there is no "he lied about wanting something more" excuse available here. Perhaps this is just one data point, but given she is still willing to do this, this is evidence against her ever being serious about finding commitment.

Good lord. That's a lot of

• mouth noises
• cope
• therapy talk
• delusion
• justification

Let me run it through the Mansplainer 400 (with fully integrated Womanese translation tech)

"I am a feminist slut, that wants to reject the patriarchy, but I still somehow 'need a man' (debt, incapable of adulting, existentialist dread re. a future with no man to look after me). Sadly for me, men don't want me anymore because I am a toxic cunt plus I've aged out of the CC. So I'm going to use 'reasons' to justify slutting around. How am I doing sisters?"

She could have just skipped all that writing and just said she's for the streets.

Isn't it beautiful seeing that hamster work hard?

there's no shame attached to anything or any conversation

#ImAfuckingSlutAndProudOfIt

I do find it interesting there seems to be some kind of stigma in referring to a slutfest as a "situationship". I wonder what that's all about.

"I dOn'T kNoW wHaT tHiS iS, bUt iT iS NOT a SiTuAtiOnShiP!!!"

You are correct. It's a SLUTFEST.

I continue to find humor in all of the word-salad that is created to justify their behavior. If it were edible, western women could feed the world and justly take credit for their contribution to society.

Instead we get to read (on a computer network and website engineered by men, along with her Macbook or iPhone) about how she "de-centered" men, finds "love" from her girlfriends, and then takes relationship advice from Nikki Giovanni (who mind you, had a child out of wedlock, was castigated by her peers for doing so, and later became a lesbian) to embark on a journey to lock down a guy who she barely knows and is only in town for a month.

At the end she acknowledges that she isn't asking an actionable question, but is looking for validation from the same hive-mind that has guided many, if not all, of the bad decisions she's made when dealing with men. You really can't make this stuff up.

Why is this so blurred, did you photograph the screen with a potato?

"I've followed all the hivemind programming fueled by self-sabotaging girlbosses, and I'm still not haaaaaaaapppyyy"

Feminutz was never about women, maybe in the dusty old times for voting, but other than that its all been downhill.

I don't know what the future holds, maybe a crash in birthrate and all the problems that result from economies imploding is what it will take, I'm not sure. I'd prefer not to age out in a scenario where things are getting 'real', but it may be unavoidable.

Men will be fine, they grind it out every day without validation/praise, so collectively we're mentally there anyway. What I think will be interesting is how the hivemind and the collective amplified insanity of unbridled female 'choice' turns out. Will it ignite in a large conflagration and take down society with it? A slow whimper where women finally get their heads out of their asses and wise up?

Still, not sure - but I know either way its going to be quite a show.