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Wanna know why men don’t want to get married?

Well, you deny us a chance to make a legacy and expect us to raise a jobless druggie’s bastard instead. That might be why.

Notice anything missing in this article? What I see is a lack of why many men would not want to get married. My guess is that is either the result of the author not caring about that topic of discussion or that she knows the answers that would come from that would be entirely at odds with her politics and preferred policies.

What I do notice is an emphasis that can be summed up with the women thinking "the men are not good enough." She brings up the lopsided ratio of college educated men and women as well as women being too picky, so she can identify symptoms. But she is not able or willing to dig into the perspective of what motivates men to want marriage. All she has is the perceptions of women who are saying that the men they meet are not ready for marriage. Granted, this may be the experience for many women, but it again does not address why men do not want marriage.

And what is the reason men do not want marriage? It is because marriage is a bad deal for men with the current laws and enforcement of said laws. Men have far too much to lose if his wife decides that she no longer wants to abide by her marriage vows. Being financially ruined and not being able to see your kids is a pain many men do not want to go through. So instead, they opt out entirely. Thus, less men are going to be considered "ready" for marriage in the dating market.

No amount of asking women about their experiences is going to help if you are not willing to deal with the other side of the equation. In other words, we also need to consider what men are thinking when it comes to the question about why marriage is on the decline.

“Money is seldom the primary reason” mothers say they are no longer with their children’s fathers. Instead, mothers point to far more serious offenses, Dr. Edin and Dr. Kefalas, write. “It is the drug and alcohol abuse, the criminal behavior and consequent incarceration, the repeated infidelity and the patterns of intimate violence that are the villains looming largest in poor mothers’ accounts of relational failure.”

Y'know, I've heard of "saying the quiet part out loud," but fuck me if this daffy bitch ain't screaming into a megaphone hooked up to a PA system.

I would bet that every one of the women in this trash NYT article would score 5/5 cat food bags on the female delusion calculator.

“women in this study were ‘trying hard’ to find a loving partner,” mostly through dating sites and apps.

Mainly by swiping left all night, looking for The One Who Ticks All the Boxes and expecting him to make all the first moves, sweep her off her feet, knock her socks off, blow her away with his whole song and dance, and so on. While she flutters her eyelashes and judges the hell out of him.

Every time she goes on a date with someone new, she fills in a circle. She’s committed to going on at least a hundred dates as she searches for a male partner with whom she can have a family. In two years, she’s filled in nearly half of the circles, and she’s still single.

Oh no, nearly fifty people took her out and they ALL had something disqualify them?? It sounds. JUST. SO. HARD.

Odd how she doesn't complain about the expense of it all.

how about a little empathy that we’re living through a juncture where various forces at play have made meaningful companionship hard to find?

"Various forces at play." Since perpetual female laziness in dating is a kind of inertia rather than a force, that doesn't count.

the many women out there trying...

Because sitting there like a lump and eating free meals is JUST. SO. HARD.

“There are women that are just out here trying, and the men aren’t ready,” she told me. “They don’t care, most of them.”

You picked Chad, Tyrone, Ray-Ray, and/or Kyle from county lockup. Of course they don't fucking care, you stupid cunts, because they can just replace you in a heartbeat with another cookie cutter cunt that will spread her legs for them.

Here's a litmus test for you all. Before reading anything in the MSM (esp the NY Times), just substitute the word 'men' for either 'blacks' or 'jews' whenever you see the word men. And then see how it reads. I call this my "Patented Black or Jew Test". It is a failsafe way of spotting hate speech. In my samples below, you will see that I have inserted BLACKS whenever she says or means 'men'.

What you will notice is that the same article is completely and utterly unacceptably racist. In the UK, it would be enough for a prosecution, and probably the end of the newspaper in which it appeared. Hate speech is a crime that leads to custodial sentences. But, not if it is misandry. My own personal view is that unless we have equal protections, we will never have equality.

As I always say, 'if you can't say it about blacks or jews, you can't say it about men'. That is what equality means. So go on, have a read of the extracts below, and tell me what you think.

"But harping on people to marry from high up in the ivory tower fails to engage with the reality on the ground that heterosexual women from many walks of life confront: that is, the state of [BLACKS] today."

On the rare occasions that women are actually asked about their experiences with BLACKS, the answers are rarely what anyone wants to hear. In the late 1990s, the sociologists Kathryn Edin and Maria Kefalas interviewed 162 low-income single mothers in Camden, N.J., and Philadelphia to understand why they had children without being married. “Money is seldom the primary reason” mothers say they are no longer with the [THE BLACKS]. Instead, mothers point to far more serious offenses, Dr. Edin and Dr. Kefalas, write. “It is the drug and alcohol abuse, the criminal behavior and consequent incarceration [OF THE BLACKS], the repeated infidelity and the patterns of intimate violence [BY THE BLACKS] that are the villains looming largest in poor mothers’ accounts of relational failure.”

Ms. Camino, for her part, has dabbled in dating since her partner left but hasn’t yet met anyone who shares her values, someone who’s funny and — she hesitates to use the word “feminist” — but a [BLACK] who won’t just roll his eyes and say something about being on her period whenever she voices an opinion. The last BLACK she went out with ghosted her, disappearing without warning after four months of dating. “There are women that are just out here trying, and the BLACKS aren’t ready,” she told me. “The BLACKS don’t care, most of them.”

For as long as people have been promoting marriage, they have also been observing that a good BLACK is hard to find (see: William Julius Wilson or early Nora Ephron). But what was once dismissed as the complaint of picky women is now supported by a raft of data. The same pundits plugging marriage also bemoan the crisis among BLACKS what has come to be known as BLACK drift — BLACKS turning away from college, dropping out of the work force or failing to look after their health. Ms. Kearney, for example, acknowledges that improving BLACKS economic position, especially BLACKS without college degrees, is an important step toward making them more attractive partners.

"Navigating interpersonal relationships in a time of evolving RACE norms and expectations “requires a level of emotional sensitivity that I think some BLACKS probably just lack, or they don’t have the experience,” he added. He had recently read about a high school creative writing assignment in which BLACKS and girls were asked to imagine a day from the perspective of the opposite sex. While girls wrote detailed essays showing they had already spent significant time thinking about the subject, many BLACKS simply refused to do the exercise or did so resentfully. Mr. Cox likened that to heterosexual relationships today: “The girls do extra, and the BLACKS do little or nothing.”

It crazy that writers like this can slam men again and again and again while declaring that the women in this little drama are all magnificent catches. She doesn't hesitate to call her college-educated friend, "beautiful" and "accomplished," but these are the same people who say idiotic things like, "Beauty comes in any size" and think that a woman acquiring a six-figure debt for a humanities degree (that she won't use after the first kid arrives) makes her more desirable than a cute 20-year-old barista with a high school diploma and a pleasant disposition.

She bemoans the plight of poor, frustrated single mothers whose absent baby-daddies are cheaters, thugs, and layabouts without blaming those women for choosing to bear the children of cheaters, thugs, and layabouts... even though they're surrounded by men who are none of those things. But those men are booooooring, so clearly it's not the women's fault for choosing trash over treasure.

Bitch, please. If women are incapable of wisely choosing who gets access to their baby-makers, maybe they should stay home and learn to bake while their fathers choose their husbands for them.

But if we're going to relentlessly criticize the Marriage Market Value (MMV) of men, surely we can turn the lens toward the MMV of women for a moment, no? A woman who has borne another man's child is simply not a woman with high value in the marriage market. So since we're relegating "unsuitable" men to the Outer Darkness of the mating market, why don't we do the same for women who have rendered themselves unsuitable by becoming baby-mammas? Does that not solve the alleged problem of mismatching, since "unsuitable" (i.e. low MMV) people don't count?

In fact, it reverses it. If we discount people whose situations place them outside of the realm of marriagability due to unemployment, debt, substance abuse, rejection of gender roles while demanding that others abide by them, or single parenthood, the shortage is not caused by a lack of suitable men, but rather by a lack of suitable women.

It should go without saying that a woman who has bastard children and a feminist mindset is nowhere near prepared to be the kind of wife a HVM wants.

Women who are not prepared to be wives should not complain about men not being eager to become husbands, especially when those men have multiple women throwing themselves at them. Each woman complaining about the AlphaBucks man who won't commit believes that if he did commit it would be to her. The math says, "Not so fast."

Last time they told us women dont owe us anything.

why do we owe them "readiness to marry"?

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