Dedicated to exposing all the women who complain about wanting a "good man", to show women's poor dating behavior and unreasonable standards while offering little to no value themselves.
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We're just a bunch of clueless NiceGuys™ with kindness coins that don't seem to work in women's holes so that the sex we're "entitled to" falls out. Because apparently we weren't demonstrating good relationship material through the attention, respect and stability that women demand. We were only "pretending" to be nice just to get laid.
In response to r/niceguys, this forum is dedicated to exposing all the women who complain about wanting a "good man" after dating jerks and riding the cock carousel in the prime of their youth, and think they're deserving of commitment and financial stability when all they have left to offer is their depreciating looks, narcissistic mentality, used-up vaginas, and another man's kids.
Women in their 20s have numerous opportunities to date the decent men they claim to want, but many reject or friendzone these men for jerks and promiscuity. She takes advantage of a good dude's kindness for attention and favors, then accuses him of being a bad person who thinks he's entitled to sex.
But when she's in her 30s with depreciating looks, jerks who won't commit, the likelihood of being a single mom, and the social pressure from her married friends, she asks "Where have all the good men gone?"[1][2] Funny how back when she was chasing the bad boys "Being nice is the bare minimum", but now that she's past her prime and needs a bailout, she wants a man with nice guy traits.
Furthermore, dating jerks and riding the carousel before settling down with a good man is planned by many women, and encouraged by feminists. They then come to the dating market with unreasonable standards while offering little to no value themselves. Such women are totally unaware that the mature, stable men they now need are the same decent men they rejected, except these men remember the rejection and are responding in kind to avoid unstable, unappreciative women who view them more as ATMs than romantic partners.
The reason women end up here is because their behavior is not exposed as the lucid, self-destructive, feminist ideology that it is. And we're here to help Good Men guard their commitment and resources by exposing women who would make poor life partners and mothers of their children. Providing observations and opinions on the posts here allows us to better understand women's psyche and later depressive/miserable state when they are not held to a moral standard required for healthy, functioning relationships.
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Recommended reading:
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Dating profiles showing women's Dual-Mating strategy and unreasonable standards
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OkCupid study shows women reject 80% of men based on looks alone
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Milo - The Sexodus: The Men Giving Up On Women And Checking Out Of Society
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Women Want to Know Why Men Don't Want to Marry Anymore...Allow Me
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WAATGM mod explains why promiscuous women can't get good men to commit.
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Okay, I get it. You're sick of hearing men complain about girls only dating assholes.
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Dear Girls Who Are (Finally) Ready To Date Nice Guys: We Don’t Want You Anymore
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Dear Single Moms: I wasn't your type then, why am I all of a sudden your type now?
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The Truth About Single Moms Who Bring Young Children To The Dating Market
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Carol asks WAATGM for the harsh truth after riding the carousel
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The Big Question- Carol asks "Where are all the good men?", "Why can't I find a decent guy?", "What happened to chivalry and respect?"
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Bailout- Carol wants a man to help raise her kids and provide financial stability.
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Leftovers- Carol whines about how hard dating is as an older woman.
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Dual-Mating Strategy- Carol admits to promiscuity and dating jerks but now wants a good guy to settle down with. Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.
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Cock Carousel Rider: Carol complains about being single while having a history of promiscuity.
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Entitlement Princess- Carol has unreasonable standards while offering little to no value herself.
- New Carols Unlocked!- A list of all the Carols we've identified.
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40moreyears 3y ago
Although... what more is he missing from her that Tom got? Her tingles? The husband still had 99% of what the woman had to offer over the 20 years. You think Tom still wants her after her husband had her through all her good years? No. I think we know there is always at least someone in the world that a partner would prefer to be with, so isn’t it naive and greedy to want every thought to be of you also? Seems like hubby could just laugh that off and keep that in his back pocket.
uell23 3y ago
Is this in r or r_a. I can't find it
AliceGaveMeTheHerp 3y ago
the audacity of that man to have standards. must be an incel. /s
OpenImagination9 3y ago
Divorce is the correct answer.
Greenteapls 3y ago
proven to be a fake post lol. dumbass circlejerk
[deleted] 3y ago
Family and relatives are not the same thing.
Aldabruzzo No busted Pillsbury biscuit cans 3y ago
M, 45, married for 20 years.
Older child is 21 year old woman.
What does that tell you?
He "had to" marry her. Either he knocked her up while they were dating, or his then-girlfriend conveniently "forgot" or "messed up" the birth control, or she was pregnant with Tom's love-child and decided to cuck the OP.
negressnig 3y ago
That caught my eye too. Might wanna have his daughter DNA tested, both kids for that matter. Not that it changes much at this point, but it's always good to know the truth.
Aldabruzzo No busted Pillsbury biscuit cans 3y ago
maybe. Water under the bridge now, really. Nothing he can do about it now. If one or both of them aren't his kids, the damage is already done. And she got away with it.
[deleted] 3y ago
would be stupid to do that, if his relationship with the kids is good there is no need for that, he already paid all the bills anyway, would only make him realize how much a fool he really was
autonomousfailure 3y ago
Won’t that fuck up the relationship with the mom and kids though?
negressnig 3y ago
Personally, don't care. Truth at all costs, at all times.
gprime 3y ago
The relationship with the mom is at this point dead, and so not material. You're probably right with respect to the kids, but there are potentially salient financial considerations like college, where he may be paying for the ongoing educational expenses of two adults who are not his kids and whom he may not care support if testing proves he was cuckolded.
Porphyrogennetos 3y ago
The desire to know the truth would consume me. I couldn't not think about it almost every free moment of the day.
shrinkshooter 3y ago
There was another reddit post I saw somewhere from some months back about a guy who was lamenting an awful truth he just discovered. He and his wife has been married for a couple decades and had three or four children together. I forget the details, but he discovered somehow, some way, that none of those children were his, and he had raised them all from babies assuming they were. Oh, I think it's because they all decided to just have a family DNA test for fun or something but the mom didn't know about it.
The man confronted his wife and she just blew him off. Like literally said "yeah that's true, whatever." She didn't care. By that point all the children were grown and could take care of themselves. I remember feeling so fucking bad for the guy reading that post. He wasn't even angry because he was still in shock. He didn't even know what to think or how to feel. He did mention that all the kids were on his side and agree what their mom did was fucked up, but my god, can you imagine that bullshit?
And as it turns out, that sort of situation is estimated to account for 15-20% of human raising, historically. Men being unwitting cuckolds. And you know how that cuckoo bird phenomenon came about in humans? Female dual mating strategy.
Whocares727 3y ago
I think I'd probably beat that bitch to death. Idk if I could hold in that type of betrayal and rage holy shit
Gongodoudan2 3y ago
Oh no its even worse. The wife didnt admit it. She just refused to acknowledge it. She just said "oh they must all be mistaken" ignored the argument and nonchalantly went back to her day. Whenever he tried to trying it up she ignored him.
Aldabruzzo No busted Pillsbury biscuit cans 3y ago
no i can't imagine what that would feel like.
She knew from the get go that her husband wasn't her kids' bio father. It's one thing to tell him that at the get go. It's another thing to lie about it for decades.
This is why I say. The truth always comes out one way or another.
hewhoisnotyou 3y ago
These kind of stories always remind me of this
FarfromaHero40 3y ago
Excellent synopsis of male mating strategy and female reaction to it
StrawhatMucci 3y ago
Yes i remember this post. And then she committed sucide after she was found out. Good riddance
Worse the kids had different fathers too.
PresidentOnFirstTry 3y ago
True? Or your fanfic?
StrawhatMucci 3y ago
Nah. That is what happens in post iirc. Tried to find it but I couldn't guess they deleted it.
PresidentOnFirstTry 3y ago
Fuck. That's tragic for everyone involved.
Gongodoudan2 3y ago
Nah theyre two different stores both off the top all time of relationship_advice. The one where the girl committed suicide was a guy who caught his gf cheating and broke up with him. Woman in this one with the 4 kids was remorseless
Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 3y ago
It's good that you're trying to correct the record, but please don't directly link to other subreddits.
Gongodoudan2 3y ago
Oh whoops forgot sorry will fix
Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 3y ago
Thanks. Reapproved.
anonyree 3y ago
gross exxageration of cuck rate. do you have source. the science i've seen on it is much lower.
shrinkshooter 3y ago
It came from a scientific article, I believe it was published in an anthropological journal, but when I saw it was some time ago, like a year or longer. No idea what the name of the submission was or the journal, not sure how I'd go about finding it again either, I don't think "cuckolding" is used as the term for it.
Aldabruzzo No busted Pillsbury biscuit cans 3y ago
You need to be prepared for the onslaught of response when a woman gets caught in this.
1) "How dare you eavesdrop on my conversations"
2) "it's not what it sounds like"
3) "I love you! He was just animalistic sex! That's nothing compared to our love and what we've built together!"
4) "Are you really going to throw our love away because I was talking about some guy I
fuckeddated years ago? Sexual excitement is just SEX! It's not love, it's not family, it's not time spent! That's gotta be worth SOMETHING!"5) (Breaks down crying, heaving, sobbing, waterworks) "I'm SORRY!!! I NEVER MEANT TO HURT YOU! I ALWAYS JUST WANTED TO BE A WIFE AND A MOMMY! I NEVER WANTED TO HURT ANYONE!! I LOVE YOU!!! I JU$T NEED U$ TO $TAY $TRONG AND TOGETHERNE$$!"
6) You're really going to leave? Fuck you, asshole! You're just a bitter small dicked loser who can't get laid! I never loved you! I never wanted you! The only reason I married you was because you had a job and some money, and you were there! I'm gonna take your ass to the cleaners!"
7) (Gaslighting) "I didn't say that."
"I didn't say what you heard me say. You heard me incorrectly."
"Ok, I said that, but I didn't mean it. You misunderstood what I said and took it to mean one thing when in my own head, I meant something else."
downzeitor 3y ago
nevermind the "love we built together" is that she starfishes for him 1 or 2 times per month.
Corvious3 3y ago
27KHHV 3y ago
I think most men here have personal experience with this.
For me it was in the form of having shit hidden behind my back until i found evidence and confronted the person in question about it. Doing things with another guy behind your back.
Of course, i should mention, the guy was the typical classic Chaddy. You get called paranoid, stalker, creepy and other shit when you're fishing for a direct straightforward answer until you find proof that can't be refuted.
Women are very very fucking good at that. Manipulation, evasion, turning things around on you when you feel and know something is going on and calling you crazy.
Don't ever let them control you and make sure that you get the truth you deserve and expect. Don't let a woman manipulate you into being a sucker and not confronting her.
Women love to use waterworks and crying as a final resort to try to disarm a man, but he has to stay strong and not put up with her shit and keep to the point he originally intended for.
Make her regret messing with you.
MGTOW_BEASTMODE 3y ago
1) You talk so loud, everybody heard you.
2) No, it's much worse.
3) I stopped loving you the moment I heard I was not your first choice.
4) You threw it away, not me.
5) You should know me by now that crying and theatrics don't work on me.
6) I am leaving. Bye.
7) .... ( I left )
hittincervix 3y ago
He kows a thing or two because he's seen a thing or two.
where_muh_good_mens 3y ago
She'll keep up the facade as long as possible until she realizes there is no more blood left to squeeze and then flip immediately into scorched earth mode. Depending on the state, she'll get to live in the marital home, reach half his pension and alimony. What justice.
Texan2116 3y ago
Reading that....I cannot believe how lucky I got in my divorce. I kept the home, and didn't give her a dime for equity. I kept the entirety of my pensions. I did split a 401k w her though, but wasn't much. I paid 300 a month alimony for 8 months, and that was it. She left me for someone else..and am glad she did.
Aldabruzzo No busted Pillsbury biscuit cans 3y ago
I forgot the most important one:
"What's in the PAST is in the PAST and it doesn't matter anymore!! Why are you throwing that shit in my face!? It's just TALK, that's all it is!!"
To which the response is:
"If it's in the past, why are you bringing it into the present? If it doesn't matter anymore, why are you talking about it now? If he's in the past, why are you lusting after him now?"
TheApricotCavalier 3y ago
'You will soon be in my past. You do not matter'
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Taguroizumo 3y ago
I never thought of that before, cheers
pigs1n5p4c3 3y ago
Yep. Just do what you're gonna do.
DeeplyDisturbed1 3y ago
A horrible, but totally enjoyable retort would be:
nnnnawalt 3y ago
Watch her then burn bridges with the two that she thinks are the most likely to have done it. Maybe actually do em afterwards.
DeeplyDisturbed1 3y ago
Ha! My guy! I would never actually do such a thing, but I was always a sucker for revenge porn.
Gongodoudan2 3y ago
Man maybe Im a raging asshole but I would relish doing that. I would absolutely do it in a snap second
SoloTheFord 3y ago
Ya when i was trying to get away from my ex who was trying to get me to argue i would leave the apartment and go for a walk to think and calm down instead of escalating. She lost her mind this time; crying profusely,beggimg me not to leave. When i refused she physically blocked the door. I was much bigger than her, picked her up and moved her. When i was out the door and told her to leave me alone, she realized there was no chance of her to change my mind she went quiet and said "you Hit me." i was like wtf i moved you out of the way. Then she went into a rage and screamed so loud our neighbors heard. "You Hiiiiit me im calling the cops!!!!! I was dumbfounded. I just told her "its over call the cops if you want" and i left. The neighbors complained to my building manager i moved out a couple days later, i literally let her have everything except my pc and gaming console and my clothes. I didn't care about anything else. I just wanted to get gone.
IcariusFallen 3y ago
Dated this girl who was an absolute piece of trash. We got into an argument, I told her I was packing my shit and leaving. She let the air outta my tires (via the gauge, not by slashing them) to "Try to make me stay". I used my air compressor to refill my tires, left anyway. She called the cops, cried that I left her alone in the dark. I'm sitting at a wafflehouse, drinking coffee, debating whether I'm gonna sleep in the parking garage near work.. or just stay up until it was time to go in, when my phone rings.
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Police department basically tells me I was an asshole for leaving her alone in the dark, that she was terrified for me, and that I need to go back home and talk with them, or they'd arrest me at my workplace. Two female officers.
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When I got there, they tried to give me the third degree, talked about how I needed to "suck it up and be there for her, because she was alone and scared and told them she moved there for me" and tried to shame me for dating a 19 year old when I was 27. They also talked smack about us not having more than a few pieces of furniture and the place being dirty. I told them "I didn't twist her arm, she begged to move in with me, hasn't gotten a job, doesn't clean the house. I left because she was escalating an argument to the point where she was getting ready to be violent, and I wasn't going to tolerate that. By the way, look at her arrest history.".
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Well, a few months back she was arrested because she got drunk, I caught her flashing her tits on the internet to someone on omegle, and she proceeded to kick a TV (She actually managed to break this TV twice.. I fixed it the first time, no fixing it the second), try to pull over a bookcase, slammed a computer monitor down on the desk, smashed my head with a can of soup until the can was dented while I drug her out of the house, and smashed all of the windows of the house (We were renting it). She got arrested because SHE called the cops, told them she was "Afraid for her safety" and then when the cops showed up, they questioned us separately (And she was still very drunk), during which I told them the truth, one of our other roommates told them the truth, and the girl told them that I was an asshole, turned off my computer and wouldn't let her use it, and was dragging her out of the house, so she "tried to bash my head in with a can of soup, but it didn't stop him".
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She went to jail for like four days for that. Judge ended up dismissing the case entirely because the public defender and prosecuter decided to present the case as "disturbing the peace" instead of "Domestic assault".
When those two female cops looked at her arrest history, it was still listed as "awaiting trail for domestic assault", so they looked at her, looked at me, then told her she had better be thankful that I left when I did, because she was going to get herself in trouble, then told me to dump her and send her back home.
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I wasn't expecting the system to take my side either time, being the male in the situation. She wasn't, either. I was pleasantly surprised when they actually made an attempt to punish her behavior. Talk about pussy pass denied.
Aldabruzzo No busted Pillsbury biscuit cans 3y ago
That's fascinating that two female cops are telling you to "suck it up and be there for her because she's alone and scared". Telling you that even though you had a fight, you shouldn't have left the house to cool off and let her cool off.
The cops' job is to defuse the situation and keep it calm and controlled. Telling the guy who left the house to come back to the house and "talk it out" is likely to make it worse. "Sure, the guy left, but he needs to come back here so that tempers can flare up again." Sheesh.
11bNg 3y ago
Women cops are shit anyway
gprime 3y ago
It's also wildly inappropriate insofar as he broke no laws, and was under no obligation to be her emotional tampon. The threat of arrest absent a valid basis upon which to charge him was an abuse of power, and exactly the sort of thing that warrants a formal complaint in writing to their department.
LghtrThrstngGods 3y ago
Women cops... why? Just... why?
I can understand woman correctional officer, but cops... Why?
SoloTheFord 3y ago
Whoa what a story man. She is so lucky she didn't get worse charges etc property dmg and the likes and assaulting you with "a weapon" you know damn well as i do if she was a guy he woulda been dragged away and spend hard time for assault or worse. But you did the right thing, glad you got away and the cops actually sided wirh you...why they would show up and lecture you on relationship isues and rhe status of the place is beyond me, they just assumed you were the scumbag.
IcariusFallen 3y ago
Yeah, I find most people (not just cops) automatically assume the younger girl is in the right and the older guy is the scumbag exploiting her, until they get the facts.
The same girl once almost caused a pawnshop owner to pull a gun on me, when I started arguing with her about how we were leaving after I caught her trying to shoplift some stuff. I had taken her there because we were gonna get some DvDs, and she decided that she was (very poorly) going to try to stuff some small items underneath her hoodie. I told her she was being an idiot, she was going to get caught, and to put the shit back. If she wanted to get that shit, get a fucking job and buy it, or clean up the house like she said she would, and I'd give her some pocket money to spend, since she'd be contributing, even though she didn't have a job. He heard us arguing, and walked over, putting his hand on his gun holster and telling me "you don't want to talk to a woman like that in front of me" and I turned to him and go "If you're going to pull that, then pull that. Just know that you'll be the dumbass for not minding your own business." and put down all the shit I was going to be buying, then turned my back to him and walking out of the shop. She got in the truck real fast when I fired up that engine.
I've had some crazy relationships over the years.
SoloTheFord 3y ago
Oh manthats a doozy. Ya ive had my fair share too. If a roomate or an SO doesnt have a job theirjob should be household cleaning and errandss and stuff until they get one. One of my exs would help put like that and i didn't mind paying for things. Its just a given you pull your weight aeound the house. Sounds to me like she had it easy and was taking advantage of the situation to do jack all.
Aldabruzzo No busted Pillsbury biscuit cans 3y ago
When a woman says "i'm calling the cops" during a fight, it's over.
When a woman lies that you hit her, it's over.
When one party in a marriage says "I want a divorce" or "I want out of this relationship", it's over and there is nothing you can do to come back from that.
You can't ever again trust a woman who threatens to sic the cops on you for any reason.
You can't ever again trust a woman who lies about you hitting her to get an advantage over you.
You can't ever again trust a woman who drops the "D" word. Because if she says that to you, she's already been thinking about it. She's already got something of a plan for it. She's already talked to a lawyer. She's already lined up your replacement.
When a woman files for divorce, it's been MONTHS in the making. She's planned it. She's figured everything out. She's talked to her lawyer and they already have a litigation strategy.
You'll receive not only a divorce petition, you'll receive an order of protection against you telling you to stay 100 feet away from her and not to talk to her except through her lawyer.
You'll also receive a petition for exclusive possession of the marital home, which means you'll have to move out. (You'll get a court order telling you to immediately vacate the premises because your being there is a violation of the order of protection.)
You'll also get an order preventing you and your soon to be ex spouse from spending a lot of money, selling anything, or getting rid of anything, meaning you'll have extremely limited access to money. The purpose of the freeze order is to prevent anyone (meaning the man) from moving or concealing or wasting marital assets.
So you'll find yourself ordered to leave, with 15 minutes to gather some clothes and personal effects, and with no money.
wadekinde 3y ago
Wow. Your description of what happens when she files for divorce is unsettlingly accurate and eerily familiar.
27KHHV 3y ago
I think if men seriously still want to consider or risk marriage these then getting a prenup is a must now. Too much risk involved with insane women everywhere.
moorekom Urban Hoe Guerrilla 3y ago
It's easier than that. Just don't get married and don't live together.
SoloTheFord 3y ago
Ya im not a violent guy never hit a woman before. She was physcially holding me inside and i couldn't leave i had no choice but to lift her up and place her to the side so i could open the door to get out, i habe no idea why she chose to cry police in that instant, maybe because she lost control over me? And that was the one thing thar popped into her crazy head?
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SirKolbath 3y ago
On top of this, any time you are arguing with a woman (Which should never happen, BTW. Just leave.) you should immediately record what’s going on. Audio and video if possible.
I have a video security system in my home. There are many types of security, and dealing with breakins is just one of them.
SoloTheFord 3y ago
Ya i knew what she was doing was wrong and illegal after i thought about it. If the cops had shown up id tell the truth, but i knew she was bluffing with her phone. I was worried the neighbors would call them for domestic vilolence. My only option i saw was gettkng away at the time.
I should tell you our couples couselling story which she insisted we goto prior to all of this. I forked out hundreds of dollara for that. Everytime we went it my ex wouls just complain and whine about not being able to control me. She would tell the couseller i caused all fights and how nad of boyfriend i was for leaving during arguments. Our lady couseller litterally said to her face. "ok thats enough, you aree in the wrong youhave no righr to comtrol your boyfriend or anyone else." my ex was like "buuut bur bur but hes doing it!!" After that session my ex didn't want to go anymore. She continued being abusive ocassionally pummeling me when she was mad about not getting her way .
Aldabruzzo No busted Pillsbury biscuit cans 3y ago
her blocking your movement is a power play, plain and simple. Yes, she lost control, and she wanted to hurt you and regain control and power in the situation.
This is why divorce laws are the way they are. Women couldn't get men to do what they wanted, so they get stronger more powerful men (politicians, state legislatures, etc.) to make their men, ex husbands, and baby daddies, do what they want. They get powerful men to do their dirty work - ordering them to leave their homes, fork over money, give them an income stream and child support, and become wage slaves.
SoloTheFord 3y ago
I honestly feel for legitimate victims of domestic abuse when it involves a woman and koids getting hurt. Thats what the system was for. These days women abuse the system, lie, embelish and try to take as much as they can and often THEY are the abusers and get away with it. The system now allows them to literally commit fraud and ruin men's lives.
Alturius 3y ago
Ditto your sentiments on domestic abuse, but would add that men are probably just as likely to be the victim as women. It is very easy for women to lie and destroy a man's life, literally, and rarely face the consequences of their actions.
See what happened to Brian Banks, a student with promising NFL potential, who had consensual sex at school. Only the girl later claimed he'd raped her, so he was arrested, told by the defence counsel (a woman) that he was a big black boy and the all white jury would convict him and get over 40 years, unless he took a plea deal for a shorter prison sentence. The false accuser's mother, sensing an opportunity for financial gain, sued the school district and received a $750,000 settlement.
Brian Banks went to prison on his 18th birthday for a crime he did not commit. He lost 11 years of his life, was a registered sex offender and wore a GPS ankle bracelet whilst out on parole for 5 years. Then out of the blue, his false accuser got in touch on Facebook and wanted to 'let bygones be bygones'. She met with him and confessed on video camera that she made the whole thing up and agreed to retract her accusation so long as her mother didn't have to pay back the insurance money. The video was 'inadmissible in court' because Banks hadn’t gotten prior consent to record the false accuser to be filmed.
What happened to this evil lying bitch? Nothing!!
Did the school or their insurance company file a law suit to reclaim the monies paid out on a false compensation claim? Not that I've heard.
The accuser is not named and continues to hide behind her anonymity, so outsiders are blissfully unaware of the pure evil she has perpetrated. Her victim, Brian Banks on the other hand, was in the full glare of the media, had a criminal record and was registered as a sex offender. His personal background information is readily available in the public domain and can be purchased from sites like CheckMate.
Consider also Nikki Yovino who made up the false rape allegations against two football players in 2016 at Sacred Heart University because she worried her consensual encounter with the two players would damage her relationship with another student. One student had his NFL scholarship cancelled, even though no formal charges were laid. Her lawyer had previously stated to the media that "they were going to get this story in front of a jury." However, once Jury selection was underway, she admitted she'd made it all up and took a plea deal. Her Arrest Warrant Affidavit for making false rape claims stated that …
"... it was the first thing that came to mind and she didn't want to lose (another male student) as a friend and potential boyfriend."
Nikki Yovino also believed that when this other student "... heard the allegation it would make him angry and sympathetic to her."
As a side note, her statement is an admission that she is Cock Carousel Riding and was already planning her next monkey branch.
To add insult to injury, her lawyer who previously bragged to the media about having a great case now had this to say once she admitted to making false rape allegations:
"This was a very difficult decision for Nikki, and a sad day for her and her family. She will now begin the process of healing and rehabilitation as she awaits her final sentence."
She is still playing the victim card. No apology to the young men who's lives she has destroyed, not a shred of remorse in this statement. The one year in prison (plus 2 on probation) pales in to insignificance compared with the shattered lives of the 2 falsely accused men, nor the 20 year sentence the men were facing.
The 9th commandment is "You shall not bear false witness", however the predominantly Christian legislators deliberately downplay this one to appease the toxic #MeToo feminist agenda.
I say if a person, man or woman, falsely accuses an innocent person of a crime, then the false accuser should serve exactly the same sentence that would have been handed down to the accused if found guilt. Yet for the majority of cases, nothing ever happens to the women who blatantly commit perjury, or what I would call "Gross Contempt of Court" for making false allegations.
SoloTheFord 3y ago
"let bygones be bygones" holy fucking wow. I am all for supporting victims of abuse and rape - women and men alike, but you have to be a really special evil person to lie about something like that and ruin someones life. Its unthinkable. And then to get as much as a slap on the wrist. I don't consider myself a sexist guy, but stuff like this doesnt help the metoo and other feminist movements. On another note i spent 2 days reading the scathing reviews of how they butchered the last of us 2 just to push the whole sjw agenda. Like its fine to depict minorties in games movies and media but lately i really don't understand this really divisive, belligerent way they are going about these topics its at the point now quality of stories are being completely ignored just to cram shit down peoples throats about how all men are such sexist pigs and women can do no harm and are completely opressed which isnt even usually true these days. I just can't wrap my head around these issues. And as a man who has been in relationships with abusive women, i basically kept my mouth shut and suffered because if i tried to call for help or talk about it i would be laughed at and mocked and told i was over exaggerating. I was a victim and i know how it feels. This shouldnt give some women the right to treat all men badly because they were slighted, or this take over agenda and rubbing it in an open wound. Femisim is suppose to be about equality and its just turned into an excuse for witch hunts.
Alturius 3y ago
Sorry you had to go through this, but any reaction on your part, even raising your voice nowadays is being classed as 'assault' by these SJWs. Your conclusion is sadly correct about being mocked and ridiculed for being the male victim of female abuse. This toxic fourth?? wave of feminism is telling boys to stop bottling things up and show their emotions, then when they do they are shot down as cry babies. Of course they wouldn't dare try this with a dark triad cad/chad/chancer/jerk alpha who would feel absolutely no empathy smashing her in the face and manipulate the situation to convince her that it was all her fault and she deserved it.
Sadly the very thing women claim to hate in men 'violence towards women' seems to be the very things that attracts them, arouses them and makes their legs fly akimbo. They love seeing an aggressive man punching weaker men and subduing them. Later they wail that they are drawn to 'the wrong type of men' but persist in repeating the same viscious cycle –
shag cad > abused > have baby cadlet > pine for good man > REPEAT
I gave up on the female of the species 6 years ago and absolutely no regrets.
Individual451 3y ago
I saw my buddy's partner pull this shit a few times. She went crazy violent at him for coming home late, and when he just laughed at her she called the cops. Luckily, in the UK, the Cops don't (or at least didn't used to?) get pulled into this kind of bullshit, but he still got a night in the cells and a £50 ($70?) fine
SoloTheFord 3y ago
I wouldnt retaliate when one of my exes would just run up and hit and punch me. Id just put my arms up and ask her what the fuck. She would aplogize and cry then do it more the next day. It got to the point i actually hated going home, i couldn't do anything like play games or watch a show without being verbally abused or told how fucking stupid i was for my hobbies and things that gave me joy. Its so dehumanizing and traumatizing to be treated like that by someone who says they love you then turns on a dime. I was living in hell for a while. Its another reason ive stayed single for a long time. I am actually scared and must have some sort or mental damage because of the abuse experiences. For a long time i was convinced it was my fault and i still have trouble liking myself and felt like a total little bitch for even admitting it, i lterally made up reasons and excuses for why she was doing those things to me which now i know is text book abuse victim, i would apologize for HER outbursts and do what she said just so there wasnt a huge arugement everyday and so i wasnt being screamed at until 2 am when i was trying to sleep. Systematic mental and physical abuse and constant gas lighting really does take its toll.
siuside 3y ago
You were getting downvoted, but welcome to the sub. This is exactly what has happened to a lot of us. Take the time to read the brother sub and get back in life on top.
SoloTheFord 3y ago
What did i say something wrong? I mean if people want to downvote me its their choice. I was just being honest, the system is there for those that need it not to cheat it and take what isnt theirs out of spite. Thast was my point.
siuside 3y ago
No you didn't. We have feminist lurkers here who go on a downvoting spree from time to time. They also want to get us banned over at a newly formed sub called BanFemaleHateSubs
Lion-Slicer 3y ago
Happened to me almost to a T
SoloTheFord 3y ago
Its scary how familar all of these statements are....
goodmansaysfuckyou Big Dick Energy Misogynist 3y ago
Dude, do you know my ex-wife???
Only real difference is that the gaslighting is first on the list not last.
BluepillProfessor 3y ago
I think the order is wrong. Gaslighting and denial is first. Righteous indignation is second. Then anger when it doesn't work.
[deleted] 3y ago
so beautifully said, this should be a book on its own.
Squigglycate 3y ago
This sounds so familiar. Their ability to deny what they said, and what vicious things they can say, it’s something.
TheApricotCavalier 3y ago
...its just like the shaggy song says...
J_bird39 3y ago
I love the $’s, cuz it’s easy to see that’s all she cares about.
Truedough9 3y ago
Sounds like trump
KlayThompsons_Weed 3y ago
Oh also add to #6 where she says that you’ll never find anyone better than her.
d00bsack 3y ago
They all say that.
datduckyo21 3y ago
someone give this man another flair or something, he is RIGHT on the fucking money
moorekom Urban Hoe Guerrilla 3y ago
We've run out of flairs for him.
goodmansaysfuckyou Big Dick Energy Misogynist 3y ago
WAATGM's Melvin Udall -- Soothsayer of Slut's Depravity
datduckyo21 3y ago
lol well then...
b_a_d_r0b0t 3y ago
This all started when society allowed women to choose who they fuck.
TruthSeekingPerson 3y ago
It’s nice to see that many comments supporting his obvious decision. I wouldn’t want to speak to her again let alone live with her.
[deleted] 3y ago
“I value myself”
Good thing, because anyone else worth a shit is unlikely to do so.
[deleted] 3y ago
I thought it was messed up how she trusted her friend with the secret over her husband. Any person that values their friends over their spouse is just fucked up.
derealchad 3y ago
Blackpilled, I'd go straight to take a paternity test.
Uhtred_McUhtredson 3y ago
Am I unique because I never had “the one?”
I dated a lot in my youth and met a lot of chicks who could’ve made good long term partners. But I honestly never think about any of them.
Peschkowskaja 3y ago
yeah. Only missing one, and thats because she had the perfect body, but then I remember, that she was a drama queen and is getting fatter nowadays , and smile to myself :>
Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 3y ago
Not at all.
https://medium.com/@RationalMale/there-is-no-one-313d8ed916b8
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where_muh_good_mens 3y ago
Banned for Rule #4 violations.
Bing_Bang_Bam 3y ago
He shouldn't have said anything just filed first, file hard, file fast.
Now she has every chance to go after that guy. He shouldn't feel too bad he raised two kids with her. Put that old cow out to pasture.
Stpcomplaniningicamp 3y ago
Post locked by Reddit.com and people calling this incel bait, their level of denial is just astounding.
goldmedalflower 3y ago
Obviously fake
plainnsimpleforever 3y ago
The problem is that every woman thinks this way, and this one happened to get caught. If your world is dominated by the tingles, then a stable relationship is the antithesis of this. If your world consisted of being validated by hundreds of men in your 20s, then a stable relationship is the antithesis of this. So one of two things happens: 1) she decides to stay with you but ultimately despises you based solely on her fantasies (which is what this woman did), or 2) she succumbs to the tingles with Joey the co-worker.
mjladieman 3y ago
Harsh Reality.
TimeyWimey1467 3y ago
Fucking hell. I can't imagine how devastating that would be. To know that the women you loved and lived with for 20 years thinks of you as her 2nd choice and only settled.
If Tom ever gave her a chance, she would probably dump him.
Why the fuck do these people settle? Either marry someone you truly desire or get pets.
And the responses. My god they are all about how he shouldn't throw away 20 years of marriage. No, 20 years of lies. He may have been happy during the good moments of the marriage but now the memory of each of those is tainted by the knowledge that she preferred to spend all those moments with Tom and not him.
Hope he divorces her and the assets are shared in his favor. Bitch chucked him for 20 years.
peguy2000 3y ago
I hate how whenever a guy has a issue, ppl recommend counceling
When a woman has a issue, she deserves so much bettee and needs to leave his ass and be empowerd
Fuck this clown world
[deleted] 3y ago
HONK HONK!
pranay120195 3y ago
Which sub is this on ?
TheApricotCavalier 3y ago
I think its a fake story; fake isnt good for anybody
maverick9428 3y ago
You leave her king. Don't stay with someone who doesn't appreciate you.
otakuzod 3y ago
Tom alpha-widowed this woman HARD.
mediocre000 3y ago
Our boy Tom left a permanent dent with his monster schlong. I doubt she’ll get over it. It’s already been over 2 decades. Now that chick is a loser.
rreot 3y ago
"Tom the alpha just took me and ravaged from behind"
"my husband of y years had to work for it on top of the fact that he had to be patient, respectful, go through dry spells and learn my body first"
Empathic sex indeed
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Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 3y ago
Your "if i had it my way" statement can be construed as a call for violence. Removed.
mediocre000 3y ago
Lol that may be going too far. I think I’m okay with the good ol Nelson point and laugh
kin3tiks 3y ago
I know we are not allowed to brigade (for good reason) but holy beans I wish we could all come to this poor mans rescue. Hope he finds this sub someday.
Wtfbyamey 3y ago
Heck , he should even try doing DNA test, because maybe even the children are born when she might have cheated on him , with her “Alpha” ex. And not only this guy was betabux for 20 years, but also got cucked in the process
Mitosao 3y ago
The path to that situation goes like this:
Rides the Cock Carousel
Notices the wall is coming
Rushes to marry a betabux
Cacho__ 3y ago
Ugh I struggle getting into relationships but it’s shit like this that doesn’t make me want to try at all.
Iwassleepingawake 3y ago
I hope he made the right choice...would love to hear of the follow up.
-Semaj- 3y ago
King.
incelposter 3y ago
Better alone than cuck. Have some pride and self worth, man.
Worst comes to worst, you'll just take occasional trips to Tijuana/Bangkok/Manila. It's better than sharing your life with a woman who hates you.
loneliness-inc LvL 99 Rogue NiceGuy™ 3y ago
The discussion regarding virginity comes up often.
Men say: no hymen, no diamond!
Women respond with: eeeewwww you inkel loser... real men don't care about silly things like virginity. Real men can and do get multiple women. Therefore, sexual past doesn't matter.
Back and forth the argument goes ad nauseum.
Here's the deal. Women have two contradictory sets of needs. That's why it's called the dual mating strategy.
The overwhelming majority of women, during the overwhelming majority of their lives, during the overwhelming majority of their monthly bitch cycle, in the overwhelming majority of mental and emotional states of being, regarding the overwhelming majority of men - are not at all interested in sex, but they're very much interested in being protected and provided for.
OTOH is a small minority of men, during specific times of her life, in specific settings, during a very specific time in her bitch cycle, in a specific type of mental and emotional state of being, when specific stars all align perfectly - she gets oh so wet and horny and will fuck anal on the first date, behind a dumpster.
Thing is though, the character traits that are found in the first type of guy ARE OPPOSITE of the character traits found in the second type of guy! In simple words this means: the hawt, sexually attractive man will likely make for a bad husband and father and the good husband and father will likely be sexually boring to her.
So what's a woman to do?
First thing they all go to is to dream of a man who's the perfect balance of both worlds. However, 1. If this man exists, he's extremely rare. 2. If she gets with him, he too will become mundane with time, as is explained in the linked post.
Next best option is to settle with the good husband and father type of man. However, he does not satisfy her sexually. He's boring to her and she will always compare him to past lovers.
This is why virginity in women is valued by marriage minded men and has been since forever. Because when you're her only sexual partner, she has nothing and no one to compare you to. It's easier for her attention to be kept on you. It isn't foolproof, but it does help.
This isn't as effective anymore because quick and easy sex is so attainable to women without the traditional slut shaming. Therefore, even if she marries as a traditional virgin, it's easy for her to change her ways to sluttery. Much easier than in the past. However, for the aforementioned reasons, virginity is still valuable in marriage.
Additionally, the marriage tradeoff entails male protection and provision in exchange for female sexuality. Therefore, every past sexual partner drastically diminishes her marriage market value. Why pay full price for her sexuality when others have been there already?
Of course, there are many reasons why marriage today is a bad deal. Without getting into those and sticking to the topic in this post - this is why you should never marry a non virgin if you're getting married.
Gongodoudan2 3y ago
Exactly. Indeed all studies show marriage with 0 prior sexual partners has by far the highest success rate. Maybe our ancients knew what they were talking about when they wrote such rules in our Holy Books that modern society pretends its above of
lurkerhasarisen A Strategist Among Tacticians 3y ago
Yep. I've been beating that drum since the 1970s. Even back then I was constantly told how wrong I was and how unrealistic it was to expect a bride to be a virgin.
A lot of time has transpired since then, and if anyone has a good argument against my position I have yet to hear it.
loneliness-inc LvL 99 Rogue NiceGuy™ 3y ago
Shit, that's before I was born!
Especially back then. That's when the bullshit convincing was in full swing!
Alas, human nature remains
[deleted] 3y ago
living in the west seems like a bad deal. im in a country where i never would have to pay a dime to any woman ive choose to spend my time with. and the consensus of the police is mostly women cray cray
Tannhausergate2017 3y ago
Where do you live? Asking for a friend....
[deleted] 3y ago
thailand. but basically most south east asia is like that.
DarkDoomDoom 3y ago
create a YouTube channel or twitter account
loneliness-inc LvL 99 Rogue NiceGuy™ 3y ago
Why?
DarkDoomDoom 3y ago
The way you structure yours ideas is good but in Reddit we are in an echo chamber.
You are convincing people who are already agree with you even if you help giving words to ideas like the dual mating strategy and how it works.
I think you will help more men outside of Reddit
loneliness-inc LvL 99 Rogue NiceGuy™ 3y ago
Thanks for the vote of confidence, but I'll have to decline.
I do this for fun. I'm here to help those who want my help, but I'm not on a proselytizing mission.
Furthermore, those who do put themselves out there in that way are constantly hounded. I'm not interested in that.
jihocech 3y ago
The only reason for marriage is religion.
where_muh_good_mens 3y ago
The only reason for marriage has always been for protection. Only in a gynocentric society, that means protection for the woman at the expense of the man. In a traditional, patriarchal society it is equal protection for both partners.
[deleted] 3y ago
funny thing is modern feminism sees marriage as jail, even when it was created to ensure womens and especially their offsprings survival.
Chiliresident 3y ago
women today are so flippant toward the men in their lives it never dawns on them it could come back to bite them. Here it did - if she really knew her husbands personality she would never say this aloud, but she didn’t care because she thought it was nothing - just her being honest (and narcisstic). Good for him having self-respect, what this degenerate culture wants to purge out of men: It’s “toxic”says the herd.
VetteVet83 3y ago
She has no respect for her husband. She did not see him as man enough to leave her. My ex-wife made the same fatal mistake.
She’s 45, I’m 36. She is getting pumped and dumped by men up to 50. I’m dating 30-year-olds.
shrinkshooter 3y ago
You can easily drop that by another 5-10 years minimum.
VetteVet83 3y ago
I applaud your accomplishments but I kind of like them little closer to my age. More mature. Just personal preference.
Krampus1313 3y ago
my ex was the same way...
caught her cheating after years of being accused of cheating. She financially destroyed me, spending all my money basically making me stay with her because I had no where to go and no one to rely on. She was such a bitch I had no friends thus had no one to lean on. I caught her cheating and was on crutches from a recent surgery and just threw my clothes in a suitcase and left her ass..
She called me 8 hours later asking when I was coming home thinking I was just going to cool off. When I was already in another state she realized the gig was up. Then the tool she was cheating on me with moved in three days later haha.. She accused me of beating her and all sorts of bad shit then ironically the tool she was with was a heroin addict and alcoholic. He ended up beating the shit out of her and she called me expecting me to come and "save the day" I laughed on the phone and told her to deal with it.
VetteVet83 3y ago
You are a hero. Congratulations for taking your balls back. It felt great, didn’t it?
AgreeableHelicopter2 3y ago
I swear I've seen this before...
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loneliness-inc LvL 99 Rogue NiceGuy™ 3y ago
Rule 2
PersonalIndividual 3y ago
Reddit also suspended the poster's account, soo...
polakfury 3y ago
why?
PersonalIndividual 3y ago
IDK, an automod wrote that under OP's post.
chateauhearstielive 3y ago
A man who knows his worth. If she wants Chad so badly, she can have him
jjetter 3y ago
Good for him. No one should be forced to live their life with an emotionally abusive partner.
EvilKlownz2 3y ago
Well, now she can go back to Tom. The problem is he will laugh at her and walk away to his younger and much hotter GF.
SoloTheFord 3y ago
This is fucking brutal.i feel bad for the guy, betrayed like that after a 20 fucking year marriage? He did the best thing he could though. He doesnt deserve this shit. I would do 100% the same thing in in his shoes. I learned the hard way, walked in on my commom law and our mutal guy friend fucking her from behind. I left that night almost jumped off a bridge at 1am. Anyway looking back i can laugh now at what a terrible fucking person she was. I packed my shit and left the next morning never spoke to her again.
Joykillah 3y ago
This is why older women are becoming single so often. They keep thinking the grass is greener on the otherside dreaming of their old cock riding days. They are getting bored because of the situation we are all in at the moment and with that extra time they do this shit.
Funny thing is, when they get divorced they always want back with their ex husbands. But unlike them who were unable to get a new partner, Their old husbands already got into a new relationship, normally with a younger women. This is why we see that "high spikes in silver singles" or w/e the fuck they calling them selves now days.
HWGA_Gallifrey 3y ago
The gaslighting will be cranked up to 11 on this poor sap.
frikabg 3y ago
Women ladies and gentlemen.... the 'caring' gender. The amount of times i have seen this story is mind blowing and it is always a fucking woman! Men are just not capable of such deep level of deceit! I imagine spending the majority of your life wishing you were with someone else while having 2 children and family with another woman while pretending and lying to your partner that she is the one. Jesus Christ why would i do this to anyone EVER? Unless I am the scum of the universe that is...?
[deleted] 3y ago
“Everyone has the one that got away”
No, women who’ve fucked a lot of guys have this, which is part of the reason why they aren’t relationship/marriage/anything serious material.
Why would you commit/sacrifice yourself to someone who has a high chance of being like the 45 year old woman above, feeling like she “settled” for you and that you don’t “excite” her in the way her abusive douchebag ex did.
Women who have a history of dating or having sex with abusive/douche bag guys are also red flags to avoid when looking for something serious.
BlondFaith 3y ago
Taking advice from that sub is a good way to die alone and lonely.
thelastfirebndr 3y ago
He should get that divorce...She was never meant to be wifed anyways
Jake4523 3y ago
Fuck man, u can't imagine going 20 years with someone to hear that shit. Hell being dumped a year and half later for me was hard enough. Sorry this dude has to go through that, but atleast he will be happier!
Aldabruzzo No busted Pillsbury biscuit cans 3y ago
either he can leave now on at least some of his terms, or he can be forced to leave later on hers.
Jake4523 3y ago
Yup exactly, just a shame he wasted 20 years on this....I'm not sure what you would call her, but this thing he called a wife
StrawhatMucci 3y ago
I bet you feel a bit happier about your situation now. Damn 20 years. Atleast he has enough respect for himself to leave
Jake4523 3y ago
It was awhile back but because of it I realized my self worth, and I also realized that being nice is only going to get me so far in life.
Centenarian010 3y ago
After the initial phase of being in love a woman can never remain content. It doesn't matter how successful her husband is, her hypergamous instincts will telll her she can do better. If that women would have been married to this Tom, the same would have occurred.
I've experienced it myself in a LT relationship with a woman, that in hindsight clearly was below my SMV. Two years into the relationship she out the blue broke up, while everything was fine. Couldn't give a reason for her wanting to break up. I immediately starting dating and found a new girlfriend, who was prettier and younger. Guess what, she came crawling back and begged me to take her back, which I did.
A few years later she pulled the same stunt again, braking up out of the blue. Again i started dating and found a new girlfriend, 20 years younger then me and a solid 8. This made my ex green with envy. On SM i found posts of her stating she underestimated my SMV. Again she begged me to take her back, though this time i didn't fall for it.
Five years back the 8 dumped me with a BS reason. After I lost my job around the same time I started trading in the stock market and had a lot of success. Two years ago, this last ex got word of that and contacted me to get back together. Having taken the red pill I didn't go for it
Moral of the story: women take you for granted, they only appreciate you fully, when it's too late.
jihocech 3y ago
Because good men care. Everything longer than ONS creates some binding ang good men can not just "monkey branch", we are better in maintaining friendships than creating new ones. Women know this instinctively, that they have a place in your heart after sex and some time together.
wathon2 3y ago
when will men learn. ALL women settle for their beta buck.
It's literally in the name: "Settling Down".
MarshMallowNynja 3y ago
I’m a bit confused. I understand the post but not the title. Why are they insulting the redditors? I’m lost
Yarchening 3y ago
And in the thread many of the comments are justifying what she said and even defending it by saying that everyone has these thoughts after that long a marriage.
No. Almost no one spends 20 years with their spouse while constantly wishing that they were with another person.
ExMuzzy 3y ago
These women refuse to see how hurtful her comments were and try to paint her as the victim because they have done or are doing the same thing to their partner. Acknowledging that this is shitty behaviour would mean they themselves are assholes.
No woman would be okay with knowing that their partner desires another woman over her, their ego could never take it. The fact they think OP should man up is really sickening.
Staying with someone who’s settled for you is how you end up with a dead bedroom. I’m so glad OP has some fucking self-respect.
CelestialAmorphous 3y ago
DON'T EVER GET MARRIED FOLK.
thelastfirebndr 3y ago
Exactly... I’m 19 rn and with all the relationship issues I see online, all I hear is “don’t commit to women”
RRFdev 3y ago
The irony is that women love you and treat you much better if you don't commit.
Women nowadays treat their FWBs like how they should rightfully treat their soulmates.
Gongodoudan2 3y ago
Facts. Im not joking Ive had several ONS girls etc who Ive brought home. Not only do we split on everything but next day they do shit like clean my place or iron my shirts. If this had happened once id be like eh okay but its happened multiple fucking times. And I am like 100% no commitment dude.
taoofmojo 3y ago
Men think they found the one and women think the grass is greener on the other side.
houseoftolstoy Unchivalrous Christian 3y ago
This is a perfect example of "I'm sorry I got caught," which is by no means genuine remorse. No matter how much she cries, she is not truly sorry that she said anything, but rather she is sorry that he heard her say it. She only cares that the consequences are going to be bad for her, not that she said something hurtful that he overheard. There is no way she has never said any of these things before about this guy, as 20 years is a long time to hold on to such feelings.
Hopefully this man can have a much happier future in light of all of this.
Profitglutton Jr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago
For some reason (I can’t imagine why) that guy’s Reddit account was banned. Not by the subreddit but by reddit itself. I’m guessing he was confirming a lot of red pill talking points and judging by the comments there were women that were none too happy about that post spilling their can of beans. And that was just too much for the Reddit overlords to handle so banhammer for him.
SoakMyBigCork 3y ago
Yeah the women in the comments were losing their collective shit. They couldn't believe he wouldn't accept his role as Billy Beta and allow his wife to fantasize about Tom every time she gave him maintenance sex.
polakfury 3y ago
damn losers behind computers
kapitalidea 3y ago
This hero of a man can get a much younger woman and not pay child support? Priceless
OarzGreenFrog 3y ago
"You're not supposed to have self-respect! You're supposed to be grovelling to give me all your money!"
MuleFool42 3y ago
Be ready to walk at any moment, even after 20 years. Better yet, don't ever get married in the first place.
SirKolbath 3y ago
“No, I am not/
your fucking second choice.
No, I am not/
turning down my voice.” — Groove Coverage, Runaway
Kudos to him. Most men have been brainwashed to believe they should settle for being settled for.
Aldabruzzo No busted Pillsbury biscuit cans 3y ago
"I don't want to be someone's second choice."
Problem is he was probably her 22nd choice.
onlypinhead2000 3y ago
I second that motion. As you get older and older, it gets incredibly difficult to date. I'd rather be single and happy, than, in a relationship where I am miserable.
SoloTheFord 3y ago
Im single and love it. Been single for a few years noone bossing me around causing trouble for me while i deal with my mental health. It wouldnt be right for me to date righr now in my state anyway but in this time ive learned i don't need a woman to be happy.
plainnsimpleforever 3y ago
Agreed. I'm 60 and the thought of starting the whole date process with dinners, meeting the kids, etc, all knowing of the inevitability of shit tests, and arguments about how she didn't appreciate what I did/said/what-ever-the-fuck. Rub/tugs are good and peace is better.
d00bsack 3y ago
Yeah I get lonely sometimes, but it helps to give myself the reality check that I am a bazillion times better off now than I was with that psycho biznatch.
simpslayer888 3y ago
He might not be Chad in her eyes, but to us he is a King
Evocatus_Preliator 3y ago
The sad part is that most upvoted comment is a woman telling him to go to one of those "marriage counselors".
Yet every other thread about a woman complaining about a man's behaviour is settled with "leave that jackass/get rid of that sexist dude he doesn't deserve you".
Only thing that grind my gears is the double standard narrative...
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feanors_gem 3y ago
It seems like all of reddit (Facebook) is SJW/Feminist. I can’t even look at puppies without the comments getting political. I like True Crime and apparently it’s starting to get big with feminist too. There’s no escape anymore.
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Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 3y ago
This is a great discussion, gents, but I removed your comments for directly linking other subs.
If you reply to this comment after editing out the direct links, I'll reapprove your comments.
CC: /u/Evocatus_Preliator
Sonicmansuperb 3y ago
That's because anything involving a person's choices and potential criticism leads the people who are self centered posting their own side of the story without fair representation of the other side as a means of feeling good about themselves for being horrible people.
qazpol 3y ago
I’d give it a decent chance at least one of the kids isn’t his. Typically that kind of talk from the wife is the tip of an iceberg he’s not been seeing for 20 years.
markosfaust 3y ago
I'm totally aware of women using and exploiting everything in their path , this is their sad nature and is up to the individual to either accept this and maneuver it or don't
yet, considered this, I too caught myself in locker room smalltalk against my girlfriend of 8 years and thought "if she heard me right now I don't know how I could redeem this" and the fact was I only trash talk and compare her because...it's kinda expected of me , you know? Now he said 20 years marriage, I'm not buying that one instance is enough it must have been many many other events that led to this ,. Op present this as the catalyst so, with that in mind, I think r/ThatHappened
Not being a white knight at all but many of these stories either have holes that their op are missing by mistake and other reasons, or they are total fabrications, or atleast leaning to their side.
My point is that as the years passed you see how the change from realistic stories with reasonable context turned slowly to clickbait karma farming and in that noise, the extraordinary true stories are bound to be mistrusted, at least by me. I am not typing this with malice or to be an adversary , it's my honest observation.
Tl;dr : I call this story SHENANIGANS.
heyyy-kiddo 3y ago
Sad thing is his family left him for doing the right thing. Heard a story from my dad about a co-worker that married a women that simply slept with whoever she could.They had a son ,but she was the one raising it cuz well,his dad was working a lot in that stress filled environment.Goverment work is if you are a manager.You risk a lot. The guy stayed married to her to not ruin his "kid's family".Turns out it was worthless. In the end his son hates him,not his whore mother and when the guy finally found a good wife they are too old to have children. Add to this allimony,even though the kid is over 18,she still gets money off him. So,don't waste your time.If you don't think it's worth it walk away else you will be left with nothing.
datduckyo21 3y ago
not only did she settle for you, she will resent you for settling for you, even though its zero percent your fault. she will somehow blame you that she was only able to get with someone like you and not someone like brad pitt. NEVER EVER EVER be in a relationship where she decided to finally be with you after other guys told her to fuck off and she was left with no options but you. It will be a sad pathetic waste of time relationship, which you will regret. Save yourself
Arnold_Incelinator 3y ago
What happens to a 5/10 woman who tasted chad’s thundercock and fails to trap him with marriage instead marries a fellow 5/10 for 20 years even though she thinks she can do better but chad fucking her for a one night stand doesn’t mean she can do better it means she is only good for being a cumslut for chad and not wife material but everyday she remembers chad’s thundercock , masturbates to chad’s pictures and possibly cheats ? She ends up alone .
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time to end it and move on! Her friends and family have nothing to do with this. The person she was talking to on the phone is not your friend. If they were they would have told you about this from the beginning. Because for sure this is not the first time she is saying this, its only the first time you heard it being said!
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There are things you can say and do that will nuke a loving relationship of any length of time to hell.
A woman pining for another man twenty years ago is such a thing.
leartistoflife 3y ago
Man wtf is wrong with those idiots saying he should calm down and rethink this?? HE just found out someone literally wasted his entire fkn life. Why can men never win in these situations?
ExMuzzy 3y ago
My bet is that these women are guilty of doing the same thing and can’t accept the fact that they are complete fucking cumbags.
They do not even consider that they are in the wrong despite their partners feelings. They literally think that they are way too good for the man that they are with and that he should be grateful to be in a relationship with her.
I don’t know if they are psychopaths, but the narcissism is overwhelming. There should be a word/name to describe these people.
Also good luck when your husband leaves. I hear women aged 35+ have an easy time finding a man that they want
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where_muh_good_mens 3y ago
Good way to get banned yourself.
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where_muh_good_mens 3y ago
No need to report. You have this place to discuss.
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where_muh_good_mens 3y ago
What I mean was, "No need to comment on other subs and then report back here what you found." You are free to have a discussion here about our content. I don't give a fuck and don't want to see any comments detailing your adventures anywhere else. That's how we get stung for sad shit like, "brigading". Ya dig?
closer_to_the_lung 3y ago
Got ya. Point made. My bad. Wasn't rallying anyone, just bitching about how I couldn't get my last word in on that thread.
BluepillProfessor 3y ago
I am willing to cut the girl some slack on this example. It is equivalent to a girl overhearing her hubby talking trash about how good his ex that got away screwed him or blew him. It's just trash talk. You need a good reason to go thermonuclear and trash talking with your girls on the phone isn't it. A couple hand grenades and some artillery shells would have been sufficient.
loneliness-inc LvL 99 Rogue NiceGuy™ 3y ago
Cringe.
Why the hell would you cut her any slack for her choice to be a shithead?
Also, have a look at my comment on this post.
therealpkg 3y ago
Personally, I respect the hell out of your (and loneliness-inc, the guy below) contributions to "these" subs and have been digesting this post for the better part of the day. Granted, we're missing a fuck ton of details, but it's one of the first posts where I think I would be truly ambivalent. The fact that two contributors I would heuristically default to as being correct are at odds with each other likely speaks to both complexity and uncertainty of the situation.
Other than knowing better than to get married to begin with, I really don't know what I'd do in such a scenario.