This is actually pretty common with a lot of people, and it's been talked about here as well. It'll take some practice but start off by talking a bit slower, then focus on a bit deeper.

I am late 40's.

What I see with a lot of younger guys is either peacocking or lots of nervous energy, deferring to the women they are with, even if its a group of friends.

Older guys often have sorted all that out, and have richer personalities which is appealing to all sorts of women.

Supply and demand. There's more thin young guys than thin old guys, hence value in scarcity.

I think people just accept that we get old , fat, and die . Like getting fatter is a natural uncontrollable occurrence. So when they meet an older guy who's still fit he is essentially opposing the narrative or understood progression of life. Because he hasn't succumb to the the magical external forces of weight gain like everyone else he must be a superhero .

Here's my observations. A few weeks back I had to take my daughter to an orthodontist appt. late afternoon with a full waiting room. There was one woman with 4 young kids who looked good and was dressed well. One man had a mild belly. Every other adult was overweight to really fat. I used to be one of the fat guys. I've got a way to go to get to 12-15% bf, but I look skinny and good with clothes on now. Obviously this sample size includes parents with youngish children.

An older man who is not overweight clearly signals that health is important to him. Shows a willingness to work towards and achieve long term goals. These are respected ambitions. A younger man should default to a healthier form unless they completely let themselves go. You don't get beyond a minimum of respect for only being alive.

Because they stick out among the mud.

You'll get judged among your peers. If most of your peers are in shambles, keeping a good figure brings you automatically in the top 20%. If you're muscular, it's the 5%.

Your body is your temple, do you think women want a ruin or a temple? An older man in great shape show that he got self-respect and determination, all traits of an alpha. Women will like you by default if you keep in good shape, the rest is up to you.

When you're younger, being fit is the default status. When I was a teenager, I could eat shitloads of junk food and I would somehow just burn it off. My sugar levels would spike but then drop right back down the next day. And yes, almost all teenagers are like this.

When you're older, you have to work like hell to be fit. I knew one older guy who was trim and in great shape. He said that he was pretty much hungry all the time to maintain his low body fat. I had lunch with him once and he ordered an entree and only ate half of it and left the rest without taking it home. He said that he always did that as a rule. The guy was disciplined and it showed.

There are tons of fit young people. There are relatively few fit older people. Very fit seniors like Jack La Lane or Sylvester Stallone are probably one in a million.

My suggestion here would be to do a search for "Man affections vs boy affections". The dynamic between you and your mum is/should be completely different than the dynamic you will have between yourself and your partner.

Your mum is one of the only sources of unconditional love you will ever find. The other source is yourself. Cultivate that, because your mum will not live forever.

Having your old lady around is a great thing. She's someone you can always talk to unconditionally.

Just don't take her advice too seriously and you'll be fine.

Accept the fact that no woman will ever love you like a mother loves her own child.

You should be good otherwise.

Read nmmng, he covers it very well in there.

Dont distance yourself unless there's a reason, such as her slow poisoning you.

Dont distance yourself unless there's a reason, such as her slow poisoning you.

"Mama's Boy" doesn't refer to a healthy love for one's mother. It refers to an overly-favored child, or a maladapted adult.

For example, a child who can do no wrong in Mother's eyes, and evolves to become self-centered and imposing upon the boundaries of others by being protected from healthy negative feedback while growing up. Or, an adult who has an unhealthy attachment to his Mother that intrudes into his relationships with women, none of whom ever seem to meet her approval. This type of "Mama's Boy" will gang up on his spouse with his mother.

If you have a healthy relationship and boundaries with your Mother, maintain that.

Beware of manipulative, abusive partners who drive a wedge into every other relationship the spouse has; this type of abuse may begin with unreasonably characterizing a healthy man as "a Mama's Boy" when there is no objective basis.

I love my mom to pieces, in my mind she's the greatest woman alive . The thing is your relationship with your mother and your relationship with other women should be worlds apart , even if you bring her into the fold of your life and introduce her to mom . The relationship you have with the woman who brought you into this world and raised and nurtured you should look drastically different from The relationship you have with the women who want you to be their captain and Pin them down in bed every night .

Most women know how much I value my mom but I also never make it a point to talk about " Mother" like some creepy Reincarnation of Norman Bates . If you don't make mom some super common conversation piece when she's irrelevant or make it seem like women are competing for your attention against mom then you should be fine .

I make it clear with any women who enters my life that Family comes first but that doesn't mean we can't enjoy and spend time together as well .

There is nothing wrong with loving your mom dude. I say keep on staying close to her. What you need to do is treat women differently than how you treat your mother. I say as long as you keep those two aspects of your life separate, there will be no troubles.

How do I avoid talking about this stuff?

By avoiding talking to her at all.

You shouldn't do it, unless you MUST because she is a work colleague. If this is the case, its a shit test you pass by avoiding answering it or telling a clearly obvious lie, a stupid huge number.

almost always pay back

If they're getting more of your time and resources than you do of theirs, while not having sex with them, that's still beta. Doesn't matter if you don't spend 2 hours every day talking about their feelings, even if you're not getting the shittiest deal you are getting a shit deal.

 

If you are not using a woman for sex, menial tasks, pre-selection or meeting other women there's nothing she can offer you that a male friend won't do ten times better.

What kind of man do you imagine girls want to touch them? Become that man. First step is convincing yourself that girls want you to touch them. If she won't let you touch her you're not going to have sex, so it's better to find out sooner rather than later so you can move on.

Read the side bar materials and the top upvoted stuff of all time on this sub. Exercise, eat right, and don't be afraid to go out and experience the world on your own. And no need for sad faces, you can do it!

Start using the extra time to meet other women.

Move the fuck on mate. You should've never left all of those "leaving messages" that just further digs your hole. You should've just let it happen for the potential of future plating. Don't text her again, hit up other women, and if she comes crawling back don't let her be more than a fuck buddy. Good luck and quit pouting

Ass.

An absolute flat-chested woman with amazing firm glutes and legs will always win me over a woman with the best tits of the whole mankind but a small floppy ass and thin legs.

it probably does but if your smv is high enough they will ignore it.

Get the braces. See if you can get the clear plastic ones. If not, get regular.

Thinking your confident. Thinking your sexy looking. Saying in your mind "I look sexy, I'm hot ASF", "I am The Prize"

It's all about mind set

If he can do it, I can do it.

They've never met anyone like me before.

She'd be lucky just to get to know me better.

EDIT: The key, however, is to actually believe that stuff

Men bond through common struggle. Join a sports team or find a masculine hobby. If you want to really bond with men you should do it when there's no women around.

You'll need to learn how to banter though, there's just no getting away from it. Watch some stand-up comedy and start light, it gets fun after a while.

Your brother's right, you can't save him. It will only ruin your relationship because he will put her in front of you.

If you want to help him out be there to pick up the pieces once she breaks him, until then keep the red knighting to a minimum.

How to Win Friends and Influence People. No More Mr. Nice Guy.

Accept your feelings, control your actions. There's no magic cure for it, no switch in your head to turn the feelings off so just accept them and control your actions so that you interact with her as little as possible. It gets better after a while, for me it's somewhere around 6 months.

Stop worrying about the women behind you and start worrying about the women ahead of you.

Learn how to do oral, if you're worried about performance just make her cum once before putting your dick in her. If you feel like she deserves more in between sessions just keep licking, but make sure not to cum inside her unless you like the taste of semen in your mouth.

foreplay and oral, but with the attitude that its just extra pleasure for her after the good dicking, aka dont aknowledge your bad performance even if you both know it was bad.

They prefer their Wives' happiness over yours.

Yes and no. If we still had Marriage 1.0 I could respect their decisions, I would never be cool with my wife travelling somewhere with her girlfriends. When a group of guys travel somewhere there's usually alcohol and women involved, so I can see how they wouldn't want their wives to worry about it.

 

However Marriage 2.0 is absolute fucking horseshit and they were stupid to get into it in the first place. With the threat of divorce rape hanging over their heads they will never dare defy their wives and do what they really want to, and unfortunately there's very little you can do to save them.

 

Try flipping the script on them without seeming annoyed. Ask them if they would let their wives do the same. Try to make it seem like their wives want them to go because they want to make them happy.

Not sure from their standpoint but you go solo tripping. Hopefully meet some cool folks on the way. Also, you can move on your own schedule so you won't miss anything that you want to do.

For me it was 'What every body is saying', by Joe Navarro. He is an ex-cop with years of training in body language recognition. I highly recommend it as it has lots and lots of photos and illustrations. I have it on hardcover, but I once found it around as an E-book.

edit: crap. Cold reading isnt what I though it was. I thought it was reading aloud.

Cold reading should be an elective in high school / college. I've been reading great amounts through my life, and am older, yet never could cold read that well. When I read silently I read in 'bursts' faster than I can talk followed by 'stall's where I think about what I just read.

I think there's some $$ opportunity for someone (especially younger) who can cold read well, since many people can't or don't read and everyone enjoys being read to. Examples. Putting together media for internet, voiceovers, owning your own youtube channel (be it informational, political, etc), or even a manager, or someone moving up through a work force.

I never knew of any resources for Cold Reading. Think I'll google 'cold reading now'

If anyone knows some resources, pls let me us know.

I learned to cold-read by taking up Tarot cards. The secret behind them (and any other mystical "psychic talent") is that the mumbo-jumbo that they pretend "explains why it works" is really nothing but a way of focussing. The mumbo-jumbo shuts down the usual background noise in your head so that you notice things about the other person. Once you understand this, you don't need the cards or the "explanation" any more, though they can still help.