The other day I went on a coastal walk with a work friend (female). We both have dogs and I usually upload photos of my dog/ activities with dog to my Instagram story. I don’t commonly upload other people in my stories.
We were sitting down and I recorded a short IG story which captures my friend giggling abit (not capturing her face, just hand and abit of upper body), patting her dog, who looked happy , and then panning into my dog who also looked happy and then video ending with about two seconds of ocean.
After uploading that story a few people 2-3 asked who’s that etc. I didn’t think much of it at the time but now I’m not too sure how it will be perceived ie) friend or potential romantic partner etc, but given people asked who’s that etc, its probably more romantic.
For women I have on Insta that were interested in me, but I haven’t met yet or have met once - would I have shot myself in the foot? I’m not sure if it would be a sign for them to give up/ get turned off, or if it’s not that deep, or maybe it’s beneficial?
Would appreciate an independent opinion on the situation.
ogrilla99 2h ago
Don't worry. You didn't shoot yourself in the foot because you have no feet to begin with.
Let me see. You post a single short vid of a woman sitting next to you and both of you playing with your dogs. And you think somehow everyone is going to assume you two are madly in love with each other and going to run away and live happily ever after?
It's like dudes who go to the gym once, do a single set of bench pressing twenty lbs, and then ask if they're going to get stretch marks from the muscles growing too fast.
Trust me, no one thinks you're fucking. That said, the fact that a girl found you tolerable enough to sit in your vicinity for five minutes is not a bad thing and, based on the level of concern you're expressing, probably a step up on the social proof ladder than anything else in your Instagram feed.
Stop worrying about women getting turned off because you're suddenly a world class player. Focus on actually getting a woman or two to date you and then you can start worrying about how it might affect your reputation (and even then it's almost purely a positive).
Musicgoon78 3 1d ago
Jesus bro,
Let me tell you what a secure man does and doesn't post:
A secure and successful man posts whatever the fuck he wants. An insecure little bitch will worry about what people think and come off as a punchable phagget.
qzone 3d ago
bro you're overthinking this shit. it'll be ok. the girls you have added won't know if it's your sister or some rando or some friend. the people messaging you are nosy and hoping it's a soft launch
Frostyvolcano 3d ago
Thanks lol ur assessment is spot on they think it’s a soft launch, which I totally didn’t want. But people I don’t know that well - as long as they don’t think so it’s all good.
First-light 2 3d ago
Its OK. There are some paranoid women who are looking to see if you might be a player because they have been badly burned by players (and will probably get burned again anyway) but there are also far more who will be glad to see that you are pre-approved. Some woman is comfortable with your company. That's a plus.
Frostyvolcano 3d ago
Thanks for the insight, appreciate it.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 3d ago
This is a good thing. Social proof and preselection at work.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2d ago
Would you be asking this question if you had multiple bitches and didn't give a fuck about it?
No. You wouldn't
They want you to be desired by other women stop overthinking this
Women actually have a biological need to know they are fucking a winner so stop worrying about winning
SeasonedRP 2 2d ago
To the contrary, that will help with attracting women.
No-Stress-Cat 2 2d ago
Social credit, Young Jedi.