So I had this plate for almost 2 months. First month, sex was great, made her cum and squirt countless time with my cock. She's been texting me good morning every day since we met up and we agreed to date exclusively to see where this goes.
For the last 2 weeks, this bitch started to tone herself down on the affection and excitement she's been offering me and always used to be very sexual with me on all media, including when we met up.
She rarely tells me anything sexually related and she has stopped initiating sex (she used to tell me how horny she was and that I should come over) and when I tell her something sexual, she just giggles or sends some bitch ass emojis.
My senses are on alert since I believe this bitch is seeing another fag. So I've started building up on leads, I have 2 girls I'm supposed to see this week behind her back. On the weekends if she doesn't come up with a proposal to come over or to see each other (because I'm the only one who initiated until now and I want to see if she does this) I'll go salsa dancing.
This bitch wants to text with me a lot, but I don't like this, since I want to fucking see her but I want to see if she can show interest by fucking initiating for once (she actually already did this in the past by telling me to come over or that we should see each other).
I started to withdraw my attention through texting and gone cold and she asked me what's wrong and why am I being cold. I told her I am not that talkative through texts. She responded by saying "is this a subtle way to tell me this because we haven't seen each other this week?". So this fucking bitch knows what's up but she does not want to act on it and see me. I went cold on her responding with "There are alternative ways to texting" she said "Ok" and I left her on read.
I am planning to not contact her until she either calls me or asks to see me. You have to understand that this bitch went from 24/7 horny sex to cold ass shit. So my bells instantly went on high alert.
I've already planned an aggressive hunt for girls until the end of the week by going out and OLD, to keep my mind off of her, fuck something else cause I have fucking needs, and build some other plates.
Am I fucking insane, clingy or controlling?
Mountainman 13h ago
You’re right she has someone else. She’s stringing you along while seeing if her hottest prospect pans out…I had a similar situation with a blonde bartender. Fucked her the 2nd night after I met her and she squirted, let me fuck her ass and said “wow you really are daddy.” We fucked a few more times and then she moved onto another guy. A few months after that, she replied to my story, I asked her to come over and she just hit me with a bs emoji.
She ends up in a relationship for 3 years with an oofy doofy. Early last year we link up again and as I’m taking her pants off, she’s telling me how bad her ex was at sex.
Women are dumb. Pull back and she’ll come around eventually again, but never take her seriously.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 12h ago
Mistake. How did she earn a commitment to exclusivity from you?
You "see where this goes" when things are loose and undefined.
Heh. Odd way to confess your gayness..
Good.
That's a great set up for a little fogging: "I can see why you'd take it that way".
Or just have fun with it: "apparently it wasn't that subtle; you figured it out rather quickly".
None that I can tell, but you have oneitis and little to no frame. Your entire post was about her.
What do you want? What are you willing to tolerate? Why are you giving your exclusivity away as if it's worthless?
lambOfGod 11h ago
damn man, you're right. Except the fag part.
It's crazy how sometimes a BPD hoe can make me lose frame and shit on myself.
By the way, update, she tried to gaslight me into saying "I don't know what you're saying or what you want from me you're acting cold", when, in fact, she started acting cold and I acted cold back. It's done, she said that she won't have sex with me again and I said "cool".
Of course, this was a set up, because she is clearly seeing someone else. She be giving trash ass excuses to me when I tried to come over like "I have a presentation at work tomorrow and I want to rehearse tonight because it stresses me out" or saying that she can't that day and bullshit like that.
To be honest, I don't feel anything right now. I am a bit at ease because I don't have to deal with this girl anymore and I can pursue playing in a band and seeing other girls.
dreams 8h ago
That's what happens when you fuck a BPD hoe... especially if they are physically attractive .... you got to be careful not to get addicted to their pussy. TBH I'm wondering if it is worth fucking these whores at all...
pofkaf 1 9h ago
It's clear that you have oneitis. The entire post was about her. You're hitting up other chicks just to get some type of revenge on her. You're Your being passive agressive in communications with her. language is needlessly aggressive because you feel upset at her.
This is a one-way train to misery. Hop off of it right now.
dreams 8h ago
You're not insane. This is the game they play because the want to see if you really are the guy she should be fucking. She knows exactly what she's doing. Somewhere along the line you decreased the amount of respect she has for you and she may have found someone else she is respecting more at the moment. This is the game they play... you think you're juggling plates? They are the masters of that... you were the best at the moment and somewhere you lost a little ... not that the other guy is better (could be) but also the other guy maybe hasn't fucked up (yet) like you have.
Don't text as much, prioritize your own self interest in life outside of her. If she texts take a long time to respond to it and she'll wonder what is going on.
Second, you may be clingy or controlling because she was fucking you and you got addicted to the sex and validation and now that is being taken away from you. It's normal.
She is like, "why aren't you texting me like before while my mind is on fucking another guy? do you have other options? should I readjust my respect for you and leave the other guy for you? what's going on im starting to feel anxiety about what the right choice i should make is please tell me".
Make the choice for her by ignoring her and going for other options but don't let on that you are salty or mad that she is doing what she needs to do to survive.
Also it is okay to text but don't be a rag for her.... just scroll back to your texting history and try to act like how you were acting in the first place with her before you got comfortable
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Musicgoon78 3 5h ago
Bro, she's fucking with you and you are halfway tolerating it. At the very least soft next with zero contact for a week or so.
I personally would just tell her what you want directly. Either she steps up or she can fuck off.
Let's be honest, If you had other options, this shit wouldn't bother you. You care too and this is too new of a relationship to be putting up with this garbage.
You're not insane, she's stringing you along brother.
First-light 2 1h ago
I don't think we can be sure what exactly is going on here. There is a problem. But if you escalate your response too fast, you may not get to find out if it was a solvable one.
She might indeed have someone else.
One must also bear in mind that female sexual interest falls off as they secure you. This is why men tend to hold on to the women that don't drop their sexual interest off a cliff. Its probably why you went exclusive with her because she was keen.
Women rarely initiate in long term relationships, even when they are keen on and good at sex.
There is also another possibility -that she is simply questioning if you are the right guy? From her perspective, she met you, fell for you and you fucked like rabbits but is that all this is? Are you only interested in the sex? Has she just whored out to end up being used as a booty call, again? (yeah in this case its likely to be her usual story and she disgusts herself but can't stop doing it).
Is she a bit BPD? Is she coming off being manic?
My point is you don't know her very well yet.2 moths is nothing. You may find its bad news, perhaps she has met someone else or that really all she was good for was taking dick and when she stopped being enthusiastic all you had was a miserable boring or unbalanced woman to deal with. But you don't know yet.
If you escalate your reaction, you might string out her compliance through dread but it won't touch the underlying issue and it might also convince her that a break up is the right thing.
I would take her out, get her relaxed and then talk to her about it before actually pulling right back. The its clear what this is about if you pull away. You need to have realistic aims -24/7 horny women do not exist outside the first weeks of a relationship. But she still needs to satisfy you or you will move on.
A woman not giving you sex and acting like its nothing while you burn with frustration makes you feel angry but acting angry or cold never fixes the problem (might get short term compliance but at a worse long term cost). You will need to be kindly in how you approach it to get any positive result and of course there may not be a positive outcome to be had anyway. With sex its always about how she feels not how she thinks. You can't change her mind only her feelings, first you need to find out what she is feeling, so talk directly and kindly to her about it when you have her relaxed and feeling secure.