Just wanted to comment; I am deep into my PGY-1 General Surgery residency. I work on average 90 hours per week; but sometimes I cross the 100 hour benchmark. I am somewhat tired, 30 years old.
I did manage to fuck a medical student that rotated in my service; only after she left my service obviously.
Now I am technically still a student; so my focus should be still to master my degree; no? I mean, it's kind of discouraging to think that after everything I have been through I must still focus on getting good evals, scoring decently on exams, gain proficiency.
I am this close > to risk developing oneitis, mostly because my lazy ass won't talk to different women; albeit it's hard to get to know more women, bc I spend SO much time at the hospital. Alas, finding time to keep my body in shape is hard as fuck. I mean; I am now doing strength training on my after-call...It sucks lifting weights on no sleep :(
tl;DR : I am a surgical resident, PGY-1, my focus should be still to master my craft ; no? I am technically still a student; so spending time hooking up should be still on the backgroung
deeplydisturbed 1 2d ago
I was called into this so I’ll share a few thoughts:
Men are designed by nature to pair bond very powerfully with a woman. It’s in our DNA. It is also in our DNA to fuck other women. Oneitis is a feature - not a bug. But just like fucking everything that walks, we have to have disciplline to manage (if not completely control) our base instincts. Being less lazy will absolutely NOT get rid of oneitis. But having a few women in your bubble does help.
For some reason, I have been able to attract almost exclusively younger women. I am quite old and as @Typo-MAGAshiv said, my last two “girlfriends” were 20 and 30 years younger respecively. My gf before that was 8 years younger, and my ex wife was 7 years younger.
A part of this is being flirty with younger women.
Rather than spew bullshit tactics, just read up on the material available here.
I will give you ONE big caveat.
IF YOU PRACTICE GAME WITHOUT THE ABSOLUTE CONFIDENCE THAT IT WILL WORK, YOU WILL COME ACROSS AS AWKWARD.
I am a seriously cocky, and sometimes borderline arrogant asshole. I know this. I am not intentionally mean, nor autistically/cluelessly honest. It’s all about being brutally honest with a smile on your face.
The shit I have gotten away with saying to women on first or second dates would make you hate my guts.
For example, I once (okay, maybe a few times) told a woman “ I want to cum on your tits right now’
And i got the whole “tee hee. OMG. you’re soooo bad…tee hee”
True story.
BUT- you HAVE to know deep inside, instinctually that this woman is open to that kind of coversation.
Not sure? Steer the conversation in that direction.
IIIIIN The meantime. Go to a massage parlor, get a rub and tug and focus on your work.
Once you are done, you are going to suffer with gold digging whores who want to get their nasty little grubby paws on your income. Be careful not to lead with that.
Downplay your success. the right woman (if there is such a thing) will get it.
Good luck.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 2d ago
Bro, you know I love reading your shit, but I tagged you in the subthread started by @Newbie-Casanova. The OP wasn't the one who really needed that, though I still think it'll help him.
Anyway, you suck at the internet.
deeplydisturbed 1 1d ago
Bro. There’s all these lines and arrow thingies.
I am old AND lazy AF.
You know this.
lol. Thanks. I need to stop posting on mobile. I spend more time fixing typos (no pun intended) than paying attention to other details.
But what else am I to do on the shitter?
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1d ago
That's all I ever use. I can't think of the last time I did anything on the dot reds while on a laptop or anything other than a cell phone.
Lone_Ranger 3 3d ago
You are presenting a false dichotomy - focus on career or focus on girls.
There are pleny of vital other things that you need to be doing -
Point number 5 is the key one. By chasing dumb 21 year old sluts, you will be literally damaging your brain cells. Sure, its nice to smash now and then, but we've all met dudes that have made it their life goal, and they really do end up washed up.
Instead - focus on your social and professional networks. The company of other ambitious (intellectually ambitious) men is the most rewarding way to spend your time.
Jackmoter 4d ago
What is your Mission? How does each decision bring you closer to realising your mission?
Mountainman 4d ago
90 hours a week, still closing and still hard on yourself? Dude you’re KILLING it. Just leverage “I’m a doctor” and you’ll have an easy lay once a week.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5d ago
You haven't been on here in a while i don't think but
Consequences of asking basic should i questions in AskTRP
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 3d ago
Where's his flair?!
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3d ago
Fuk
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 3d ago
u get vcards
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5d ago
Jesus dude
Why do some of you guys mentally masturbate till your psychological dick falls off
If you want to fuck then fuck. If you don't then don't
This shit is not that serious
FrancoAP Should i (x1) 5d ago
You are right man
Newbie-Casanova 5d ago
Nope. You're 30 years old, you're getting old. The girls who are 18-21 will not be fuckable for you anymore. The younger girls will slowly fade out of your grasps. Learn game and focus on girls. Balance is required especially if you're doing 90 hours a week.
It's the same bad advice people give to teenagers, "focus on only school". You know what that breeds? Socially incompetent and awkward people.
Lone_Ranger 3 3d ago
this is some of the dumbest advice I have heard in a while
Musicgoon78 3 4d ago
You have zero idea what you talking about. This is garbage advice. 30 isn't old. It's peak smv years.
Lone_Ranger 3 3d ago
he doesn't have a clue what he is talking about.
30 isn't peak in my experience. it comes later. At 45 I was fighting them off with a stick.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 2d ago
Oh, you just like hitting people with sticks.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5d ago
This is absolute bullshit
You can still pull girls that age when you get older
throwaway415 1 5d ago
im older than that and im still banging girls in that age range. I dont know why people think that once youre in your 30s you cant bang 18 to 21 year olds
Vermillion-Rx Admin 5d ago
Men who do not have enough experience commenting that
Newbie-Casanova 5d ago
Naw it's absolutely true. I've traveled over dozens of countries, pulled girls from every one. Met multi millonaire chads who smashed thousands of girls. And their words were, as you age, the younger girls 18-21 will start giving objections such as you're too old. So this is not only my experience but guys who does way better than me in the dating market .
Like obviously you can still bang 18-21, but your chances are a lot lower.
There's literally no reason for me to lie. If I was a troll, I wouldn't be on this forum for the past 2 years posting.
On top of that, I'm in a group of 50 dudes who travel and slay hoes. Everyone 30+ says, word for word "I lie about my age because I noticed the older i get. The harder it is to fuck younger women."
Musicgoon78 3 4d ago
Doubling down on your retardation I see.....
I wish I could sit you in a corner with a dunce cap on.
Newbie-Casanova 4d ago
Insults doesn't disprove anything. At least provide credible advice or evidence.
Since you can't, ill provide one.
OKCupid Data Analysis (2009-2014, n=millions of users): In a comprehensive review of messaging patterns and stated age preferences on the platform, women aged 18-21 set their maximum acceptable partner age at 23-25 on average. Men over 30 received response rates under 5% from this group, dropping to near 0% for those 35+. The study notes: "Women in their early 20s rarely message men more than 5-7 years older," with explicit filters and preferences making matches with 30+ men "statistically improbable" (response probability 10 years). This reflects active selection against large gaps.
Source: Rudder, C. (2014). Dataclysm: Who We Are (When We Think No One's Looking). Crown Publishing. Peer-reviewed elements corroborated in Evolutionary Psychology journal analyses of online dating.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3d ago
How are you this determined to focus on what women say versus what they actually do
Cc: @Typo-MAGAshiv
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 3d ago
The issue with that survey/study/whatever vs what everyone else in this thread is telling you (and there's a bit of a failure to be thorough on their parts), is that the men in that survey are average men.
That usually means fat, weak, somewhat effeminate, etc.
If you're following what TRP and/or MRP teach, you'll find that it's easier as you get older, as long as you have your shit together.
Examples:
1) In the Married Red Pill Subreddit, lots of dudes who finish their MAPs and end up either cheating on or divorcing their wives end up surprised at how much easier it is to get laid with women from all age groups than it was when they were young and still plugged in. Rian Stone (one of the moderators at MRP and a senior endorsed contributor at TRP) mentions this on his YouTube channel all the time.
2) the men replying to you in this thread are all older, and have been there, done that. @Vermillion-Rx is the youngest one, being in his 30s. @Musicgoon78 is a year or two older than I am, if memory serves (I'm 45). @Lone_Ranger is ancient, being in his 50s. All 3 of them have their shit together. All 3 of them have muscles, can hold a conversation in which they're charming, confident, and congruent. And all 3 of them fuck a lot.
3) I'll tag my good buddy @deeplydisturbed so he can weigh in. He's one of the oldest men on this site, and one of his regulars is 30 years younger than him.
4) myself. Although I'm married and faithful to my wife (at least for now), I pass up opportunities from women of all ages all the time. I've caught women as young as underage teenagers and as old as menopausal checking me out and smiling coyly when I catch them. I've had women as young as in their twenties open on me, and some persist even after seeing my ring. Again, I'm 45, and I have a beer gut. But I have enough muscle mass to offset that (I look like a cross between Wreck-It Ralph and Shrek when he was in human form).
Women love older men, but only when that older man has his shit together.
Lone_Ranger 3 18h ago
Your comment is all correct, except one minor flaw.... you write
"I've had women as young as in their twenties open on me, and some persist even after seeing my ring."
It's BECAUSE of your wedding ring that they are persisting. Women are far less capable of independent thought than men (which is why there are bascially zero female philosophers (feminazis don't count)) and rely soley on social proof and pre-selection to guide their preferences. This is one reason why femals frequently seem to fall in love with celebrities that they have never met.
Most men that have experienced being single and being married will confirm: you get way more interest from females when it is known that you are in an LTR or marriage than when you are single. Even being a known playa is a ring of endoresment in the female brain. The biggest ick known to women is that of 'incel' - a man that does not fuck.
Musicgoon78 3 4d ago
I can speak firsthand to this. I'm in my 40's still sleeping with women in their 20's. When I was 33 I got divorced, started over and had zero problems getting women of all ages.
You come on here spouting some black pill defeatist bullshit.
Go sell your phagotry to weak beta chumps. No one agrees with you here and your loser speak.
Newbie-Casanova 4d ago
Exceptions to the rule doesn't disprove a point. For someone 40 years old you sound angry at life haha, sounds like you need some growing up to do.
Your single experience doesn't disprove a big study backed by millions of data points.
And once again, I stated it's harder for men 30+ to pull 18-21. Which is true. Not impossible, but improbable.
Learn to read faggot.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3d ago
Why should I not just ban you on the spot?
You're not only wrong but combative about it too.
Even if women generally prefer similar age partners doesn't mean you can't fuck down to their age and it's often far easier than you think
Musicgoon78 3 3d ago
Cool story bro. You can tell guys with experience have really upvoted your post.
Newbie-Casanova 3d ago
Good job toning it down, you sound less angry now.
Props for trying to disprove my point, but you failed horribly.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3d ago
No one on the site agrees with you.
Convincing yourself doesn't win an argument
Newbie-Casanova 3d ago
It doesn't matter if anyone on this site agrees with me. I'm backing my own statement because of what I saw, heard, and experienced from verifiable sources
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3d ago
You are quite literally ignoring men who are attesting to the contrary, who are endorsed and flaired as such on a forum where we discuss these matters
You have ignored every single man on here telling you he fucks 10-20 year younger women on here
You are a damned arrogant fool. Why the fuck are you even here?
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3d ago
@Typo-MAGAshiv
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 2d ago
This is the only thread I can recall in which he acted like this, and to be fair, other users insulted him first.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2d ago
I'll consider that.
I already left him alone
I still think he was on his high horse though and also wrong
Newbie-Casanova 3d ago
Yes I misworded older men can't fuck younger women. The statement I've been defending is it gets harder as you age...
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3d ago
If that really is your point it is hard to understand it through the shit talking our endorsed users
They are endorsed, and for a reason, you are not
Respect the tag is widely considered an official rule here
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 2d ago
It's actually a portion of rule 3, which I will now quote verbatim:
In fairness to him, I was the only EC in the thread and he never even replied to me. Also, just about everyone violated "attack the idea, not the person". Faggot.
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 5d ago
Dude you are just wrong
Yes it gets harder than being same age or a few years older than them but you claimed they're not going to be interested and you can still pull some of them
Your assertion that you cannot pull girls 10-15 years younger than a man is wrong