Hey guys looking for help in how you do it, I mean, being attractive at this age and with experience whats your usual goal in dating? Im a 32 year old recent surgeon graduate and came back to my city.
I have always been handsome and had decent girls, but now that im also making a lot of money and got a high status jobs, women are jumping and IDK how to manage dating. Before I used to date monogamously in LTR, cute, submissive family oriented women, thats was fine, but realized that marriage is not for me, atleast not now dunno if later, and stopped doing it because i was "wasting" this good material girls time. Plus I moved cities so it was impossible to continue a relationship by distance.
- Do you guys are still looking for "the one" unicorn to marry, and avoid spinning plate meanwhile ? (Cute, young, submissive, and family oriented)
- Do you guys just spin plates? carelessly? Forever or until you wanna settle?
- Do you date and just have an honest talk with women saying you dont wanna be monogamous?
I dont know what to do, I get a lot of cute girls hitting on me, but I know most of them will inevitable end with the marriage talk, which is also tiresome to deal with. So thats why Im asking for your advice. What works best for you?
mattyanon Admin 15h ago
awesome.
Work out what YOU want.
Then stick to it at all costs.
The hardest part if you're successful is stopping women from doing "make him wait" dating to try and get your commitment.
Right
Gave up on the one. No intention of ever doing monogamy again, because it's frankly shit.
I go for more like multiple relationships. I wouldn't say "plates", it's more like MLTR.
Yep
This is not true.
Tell them up front (after mutual interest is established, but before sex) that you date multiple people at a time and then say "are you ok with that?".
50% will bail, and that's great.
I know this is hard for you to believe, but 50% will be ok with it..... some for a few months..... others for literally years.
You need to recalibrate your expectations..... if you think most will end with a marriage talk, you're doing it all wrong.
You need to not lead with anything beta or provider-ish. Do not provide for them. Drinks, meals, ...... you start paying, and you start to make them think you are investing rather than them, and they'll pretend to be a nice girl, and start with the "make him wait" shit.
Instead you flirt hard, sexually escalate, have "the talk", fuck and enjoy.
And when they do the old "make him wait", you politely tell them that you don't think you want the same things and you escort them to the door, thanking them for their time and buying them a cab.
kardon93 12h ago
Hey there, I really would like to thank for such an amazing answer. You got the right kind of knowledge I was hoping to find around here. And yes im a bit naive or ignorant in this level of field play, since i was stuck in an hospital residency for some years and just came out back to the real world with a cheat code to play with.
1.- Could you expand on the "make him wait", thing? I think I have experienced this already with an older women (37 y.o.) hot as phuck,but somewhat crazy, that flirted hard with me and escalated, but wouldnt let me have sex unless I promised atleast, that we were going to get married.
2.- How do you manage your MLTR? I mean, do you openly say that you are non-monogamous, or are you vague about starting an exclusive relationship with every chick you date?
3.- I believe your point, that maybe 50% will stay after this. Im naive at this field, but from what I´ve seen i think you got a good point, however I havent tried it myself, but the way you manage it, sounds amazing, No lies, no cheating, just honesty, and letting whoever wants to stay. I like it.
Thanks again, your post gave me a lot of insight.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 4h ago
If she tries to make you wait, don't put up with that shit. Next!
Related reading, from the sidebar: Wait For It? by Rollo Tomassi
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 4h ago
Have you read the sidebar yet?
Apparently not. Read it.
Start with these two posts, but read the entire thing:
There is no "One" by Rollo Tomassi
HumanSockPuppet’s Guide to Managing Your Bitches by HumanSockPuppet (duh).
I mean dude, the whole reason a perfect woman is called a "unicorn" is because it doesn't fucking exist.
As a man, your goal is to get sex. If a woman chooses to give this to you and waste her own time, that's her problem, not yours. I don't advocate lying to them or making promises you have no intention of keeping, but there is no reason to let a woman go if she's doing the things you want (primarily sex, but anything else, too).
Anyway, read the sidebar. I recommend reading MRP's sidebar as well, even though you should never get married (and I say this as a guy who celebrated his 20th anniversary a couple of months ago). From their sidebar, I especially recommend these two books: "No More Mr. NiceGuy" by Dr. Robert Glover and "When I Say No I Feel Guilty" by Dr. Manuel Smith. I don't think TRP has those in its sidebar, which is a shame.
MidgetSpinner 1h ago
Everyone here is going to have a slightly different answer because the truth is that it comes down to what you ultimately want.
We've established you're not into marriage, at least not for now. So vet for that early with the girls you are interested in - let them know you're not interested in marriage, and see if they either feel the same way, or if it's a deal-breaker. This will filter out a lot of girls.
You're still young, technically, still good looking and your financial situation is good. Girls aren't going to stop showing interest in you any time soon. So this is good. This means the ball is almost indefinitely in your court, and you have no abundance issues.
To add to that, what @mattyanon said too. Don't flash the cash, don't provide for them. Money is irrelevant to a girl who's all in on you. So filter the gold diggers out early too. Vet vet vet.