Hey guys looking for help in how you do it, I mean, being attractive at this age and with experience whats your usual goal in dating? Im a 32 year old recent surgeon graduate and came back to my city.
I have always been handsome and had decent girls, but now that im also making a lot of money and got a high status jobs, women are jumping and IDK how to manage dating. Before I used to date monogamously in LTR, cute, submissive family oriented women, thats was fine, but realized that marriage is not for me, atleast not now dunno if later, and stopped doing it because i was "wasting" this good material girls time. Plus I moved cities so it was impossible to continue a relationship by distance.
- Do you guys are still looking for "the one" unicorn to marry, and avoid spinning plate meanwhile ? (Cute, young, submissive, and family oriented)
- Do you guys just spin plates? carelessly? Forever or until you wanna settle?
- Do you date and just have an honest talk with women saying you dont wanna be monogamous?
I dont know what to do, I get a lot of cute girls hitting on me, but I know most of them will inevitable end with the marriage talk, which is also tiresome to deal with. So thats why Im asking for your advice. What works best for you?
mattyanon Admin 10h ago
awesome.
Work out what YOU want.
Then stick to it at all costs.
The hardest part if you're successful is stopping women from doing "make him wait" dating to try and get your commitment.
Right
Gave up on the one. No intention of ever doing monogamy again, because it's frankly shit.
I go for more like multiple relationships. I wouldn't say "plates", it's more like MLTR.
Yep
This is not true.
Tell them up front (after mutual interest is established, but before sex) that you date multiple people at a time and then say "are you ok with that?".
50% will bail, and that's great.
I know this is hard for you to believe, but 50% will be ok with it..... some for a few months..... others for literally years.
You need to recalibrate your expectations..... if you think most will end with a marriage talk, you're doing it all wrong.
You need to not lead with anything beta or provider-ish. Do not provide for them. Drinks, meals, ...... you start paying, and you start to make them think you are investing rather than them, and they'll pretend to be a nice girl, and start with the "make him wait" shit.
Instead you flirt hard, sexually escalate, have "the talk", fuck and enjoy.
And when they do the old "make him wait", you politely tell them that you don't think you want the same things and you escort them to the door, thanking them for their time and buying them a cab.
kardon93 7h ago
Hey there, I really would like to thank for such an amazing answer. You got the right kind of knowledge I was hoping to find around here. And yes im a bit naive or ignorant in this level of field play, since i was stuck in an hospital residency for some years and just came out back to the real world with a cheat code to play with.
1.- Could you expand on the "make him wait", thing? I think I have experienced this already with an older women (37 y.o.) hot as phuck,but somewhat crazy, that flirted hard with me and escalated, but wouldnt let me have sex unless I promised atleast, that we were going to get married.
2.- How do you manage your MLTR? I mean, do you openly say that you are non-monogamous, or are you vague about starting an exclusive relationship with every chick you date?
3.- I believe your point, that maybe 50% will stay after this. Im naive at this field, but from what I´ve seen i think you got a good point, however I havent tried it myself, but the way you manage it, sounds amazing, No lies, no cheating, just honesty, and letting whoever wants to stay. I like it.
Thanks again, your post gave me a lot of insight.