I have a problem. As soon as I know that a woman is having sex with other guys, she's completely uninteresting to me and it really turns me off.
But, especially when it comes to simply having several women as "plates" and communicating this openly, it causes problems.
How is it with you? Do you really not care if a woman you're having sex with also has sex with other guys? How do I get to this point?
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 11mo ago
I personally don't like when they're seeing other guys, although i suppose my biggest problem with them doing it is every girl I've been banging who did it completely lied about it or withheld it from me. More than half of them unsolicited told me I was the only one without me asking
I've never had a plate or FWB be honest about it so I've never been able to process being mature about non-exclusivity. I've never been able to sit there and just contemplate the sharing aspect of plates since plates are by definition just for sex
As a result I'm very biased, no woman has ever given me any kind of healthy non-exclusivity so just leave them as soon as I'm aware of what they are doing. It turns me off well above and beyond the mere fact they're seeing another guy because it's always been deceptive in my experience
That being said you're losing interest for completely healthy evolutionary reasons. Men are evolutionariy geared to avoid situations in which there could be paternity uncertainty. Your loss of interest is a completely healthy male evolutionary function
BecomingABetterMan1 11mo ago
Hey @Vermillion-Rx Did you ever share your Red Pill journey? If not, would you be willing to? It sounds like you've got some stories to tell.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 11mo ago
https://www.forums.red/p/theredpill/320165/my_origin_story_don_t_give_up_there_is_always_a_path_forward
Yes but this story is very sanitized
My life is full of red pills. This field report of my whole life was more mild than otherwise would have been
financehardo420 Should i (x1) 11mo ago
So here’s my take:
Once you fuck enough you realize what’s up - pretty much AWALT. Once you see it happen enough you become jaded enough to not give a fuck.
Example: fucked a plate Wednesday night. Friday night saw her at the bar w completely boo’ed up w another man’s. So I fucked a dif broad. It’s all part of the game.
Even Tom fuckin Brady’s literal wife cheated. Tom Brady’s smv arguably shits all over any of us simply by fucking status. You can do things to mitigate but it’s better to just assume it’s gonna happen regardless… and move accordingly.
It’s the woman’s job to earn exclusivity and by sleeping around she immediately disqualifies herself.
Mindset wise: options and abundance; in doing so yes some of them will be fucking other guys. Would you rather not get laid at all or have options?
First-light 11mo ago
I think this one is quite personal. on one side guys like me will be turned right off, on the other there are cucks who actually get aroused by the idea of it.
To my mind, if your biology is right its a perversion to be happy with the idea. You are supposed to be knocking women up, that is why you have a sex drive. You don't want another guy doing that and leaving you with the child to raise, so if you are having her you don't want him doing so, its going to be a turn off. I think it brings out the competitor in some guys but in others it just makes you think -trash.
So I don't think its a case of cultivating mindset as much as learning yourself. If it feels wrong, it probably is wrong for you. We can change in life but if we don't why force it, especially when in the end wasting resources (even if the resource is only time) on sluts you will never reproduce with is a vice anyway. A bit of vice is not a crime but it is a waste,
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 11mo ago
I used to be like you.
You pretty much have to come to terms with reality: they're all sluts, but it's a matter of degree. Almost all of them date non-exclusively, so it's in your interest to do so as well.
Or don't, and just go without any sex at all for most of your life.
Your choice.
Lone_Ranger 2 11mo ago
It's normal to be disgusted by 'your woman' sleeping with other men. That's just mens nature. The entire idea of monogamy is a male invention. Men benefit from monogamous and romantic LTRs, and the entire basis of civilisation is based on creating societies in which the females can be shared out into monogamous LTRs.
Women on the other hand benefit much more from having every guy in town treat the like a cum dumpster.
That feeling that you have, being disgusted and uninterested in women who you know are sleeping with other men is entirely natural and normal.
A big part of growing up is learning to deal with the real world. The whole reason why women pretend to be not sluts is because they want to attract male mates. This is also the reason why feminists with blue hair and tattoos and face piercings boast about having 300+ body counts - they want to demonstrate that they are not pandering to the patriarchy. Being ugly and fat and having a 300+ body count is the sign of success for a modern independent woman - think Lena Dunham.
oowiw 11mo ago
To me the issue is the disease risk. I much prefer unprotected sex, but if I know a woman is seeing other guys, I won't risk it. They won't always be honest but I try to be non-judgmental in a way that will get them to self disclose. If I am able to get enough sex from women who I don't think are seeing other guys, I'll stop seeing ones who are. If I can't, I just get head from them and give with hands/toys. I also pay attention to their period timing and put it on my calendar. If they're not coming to me for sex around their horniest portion of the cycle, it's a pretty good tell there's someone else. If they're consistently hitting me up on those days, it's a good sign.