Most of the times when i meet new people (mostly people I respect) in my head imagine my self as a little kid (but in reality I’m 6’0) talking with a giant (literally) so I’m afraid to ask them questions about themselves? I’m taking some steps to improve this and I’m experimenting, but now the way I talk feels like I’m dismissing their idea and being arrogant. It’s hard to explain but i hope you got my point. So what should i do?

My advice to you is: Start being nice to the MEN around you. Help them with something, give them a compliment, strike a conversation and listen to their stories. You'll learn to get rid of your anxiety, and also learn a lot, especially from older men.

This gentleman, Mr. A (70 years old) owns a grocery store with his wife near my apartment. I went there to buy some snacks, complimented his birds. And we had a long talk about birds, even when I know nothing about them. It's mostly him explaining to me about the birds he keeps and their behaviors. Now whenever I go there, he gives me some freebies. His wife and children know me by name.

Another gentleman, Mr. B (about 60 plus), helped me when my scooter had a giant fuel leak under the tank. I had no tools to remove the tank and close the valve and didn't know what to do. Gasoline was pooling under the bike with nothing to stop it. He suddenly came with a hose and bucket and sucked all the gas out for me, even got some in his mouth, without asking anything in return. I bought him a gift as thanks and he invited me to dinner with his family, introduced me to his teenage son and told me about his prison time, his war stories (a war vet), and his history with women - pretty traditional macho man who has a clear moral compass very similar to TRP. He also taught me about fixing motorcycles and introduced me to his mechanic friends. Now I have drinks with him from time to time, and help his son with weight lifting and studying.

You'll see that approaching men is much easier than women, as long as you are nice and genuine. It will help you see that people are just people, everybody has their own story. And you lose nothing by asking them about it. It is the same for women. And like I said, not only can you get rid of your social anxiety this way, you learn a lot from other men, you have new friends, and you can even help somebody who is losing their way in this mad world.

For starters. Ask them out or something if they are interested. Don't just let it go and lose the opportunity. Being scared to get experience is not a solution. Take them up on it next time..make plans, etc. do something. You can't get something from nothing start somewhere at least.

Who cares about your beta friends go make friends that are more like the kind of man you want to be. Beta friends will never help you become that man.

Again keep reading the sidebar. If you haven't fully read the side bar or rational male then the advice won't stick anyway. Trying to explain game or escalation etc to someone who hasn't read the required reading is a big ask to fulfill.

Start making plans with girls. If the mood is there just go for a kiss who gives a fuck if it's awkward or goes poorly you just need some exp unless it's very obvious she doesn't want it then of course don't try it

Hi OP,

Nice nick.

I'm 19 and I'm still a virgin, never even kissed a girl.

Totally fine, normal, doesn't matter. You'll make up for it later, but let's see if we can help get you there.

.' Three of them seem genuinely happy when I engage with them, yet most of the time, I treat them like literal 'trash' (lol). Despite this, they always seek my approval. For instance, sometimes when we meet, I'll hug one of them, but when the second one approaches with open arms, I'll ignore her or tell he to put her arms away.

Hilarious.

I find myself wanting to fuck two of them to gain experience but I'm hesitant, perhaps due to concerns about my reputation? (as i used to make fun of them), Or is it because I don’t have experience? or maybe it's something else entirely?… I don’t know… What should i do? How should I gain experience? Also everyone thinks I’m a player. But i’m just faking it.

Well you're right that this is all a journey.

Question for you...... you talk about "getting experience", but what do you WANT ?

I've recently started hitting the gym, and I’m respected. Still, when I run into old schoolmates who try to reconnect or people i know, I feel like my social skills aren't up to par, I don’t know how to keep the convo flowing. This is likely due to my overprotective upbringing and lack of freedom to explore.

Well, you're clearly very analytical. That's great but can lead to overthinking. As regards conversation flowing: just talk about random things that you're doing that interest you until something sticks.

Most of the times when i meet new people (mostly people I respect) in my head imagine my self as a little kid (but in reality I’m 6’0) talking with a giant (literally) so I’m afraid to ask them questions about themselves? I’m taking some steps to improve this and I’m experimenting, but now the way I talk feels like I’m dismissing their idea and being arrogant. It’s hard to explain but i hope you got my point. So what should i do?

Friends don't ask questions for the most part, they talk about stuff. Asking questions feels interviewy, so learn to talk more about yourself. When they talk, THEN you show interest and ask follow up questions, but you don't start by asking them stuff

My new apartment mates are quite beta as fuck in comparison to my old friends. One of them, who is supposedly in a long-distance relationship, spends hours on the phone with his chick fantasizing about their future wedding and children. When I suggest going out, his response is always a flat refusal like 'kill me, I won't’. He’s socially awkward and he rarely leaves the house, spending his days on bed scrolling through social media for hours on end. My other apartment mate is similarly the fat beta guy you could ever find, perhaps even more so. He's a nice guy, though he has a habit of lying and insists that playing video games attracts women.

You need better housemates...... but really, who cares. Let them do you. You need to find what works for YOU.

I feel like the drama and their passive attitudes are dragging me down, and I'm unsure of how to address this situation.

Rise above it, do your own thing, and ultimately meet better people to live with.

Right now, I'm planning to gtfo. I'm making an effort and actively seeking to make new friends. How do you make new friends? What steps should I take, considering the language barrier?

See my blog post on making new friends.

I'm hoping for insightful responses rather than just one-line answers. I'm open to constructive criticism and detailed advice from the community. I genuinely want to grow and develop.

To the person who complained about my lengthy previous post, this is also for you.

Haha nice.

You need experience, reading won't do jack if you don't use it. It's common to fall in the "Im not ready" trap. You'll never be ready. You won't get good at basketball by watching NBA.

Use some plausible deniability and fuck those hoes. Your reputation means nothing, especially if you're virgin noob. It's your ego that prevents you to do it.

You also suffer from inferiority complex and have imposter syndrome. Those people you pedestalize don't give a fuck about you. If you pedestalize someone, they don't have any other option but look down on you. Treat them like they're lower than you and don't take shit from anyone. Only then, your overthinking will subside.

Stay away from betas, they'll throw you under a bus in a whiff of pussy. You're the company you keep. As for now, treat them like a furniture, polite indifference. Meanwhile, make friends with guys in the gym or some hobbies who are on the same mindset and level. Such a people are hard to find, but they exist. You need charisma + confidence (game) to befriend people. You won't click with everyone, but the idea is to develop the ability to talk to everyone.

Last, no one's gonna give you anything, you need to get it yourself. Don't become an askhole and use this forum as an incubator. You'll get stuck into endless mental masturbation loop. It's all been said before. No one is gonna hold your hand and coddle your balls.

https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP

https://archive.li/7G5t9

Book Of Pook

On the main sub, sort posts by top and read the top 500.

This is your homework for the next 8 months, plus the gym. Meanwhile, isolate the hoes and smash. Best case scenario, free preselection if she talks around. The more bitches you get, the more bitches you'll get.

You are ready when you decide you are ready.

You usually have to ask a girl to find out if she is interested. This can feel very hard to do because you don't want the failure on your card (both for the world to see and for you to remember) but it still has to happen if you want to get with her. Not making a big deal of it will make it a lot easier. Try to sound her out first. You can always ask her friend. This either makes for things being a bit embarrassing if the answer is "Oh Yuk no" or it excites her to think you might like her and thinking about it can fan the flames of attraction. Then you ask her.

Women like to be courted by strong successful generous men. All parts of this sentence are true. Putting women down to show you are bigger than them is not courting. Taking them out, to dinner in smart clothes, speaking to waiters confidently but politely and leaving a tip to show your success and generosity would do you much better. As would much simpler and cheaper bringing her a chocolate bar in the morning every day and asking how her mother is. But before you waste your energy and resources doing this sort of thing, find out if they are interested by asking them. Otherwise you run the risk of a humiliating relegation to the friend zone of losers who don't make the grade but who provide free food and probably move and repair things too.

PUA crap will work if you hit a large number of women and if you practise it a lot. It tends to lead only to short term results and tends to usually work with the trashier trampier types. In your case with these women I would say "Don't crap where you eat" You know these women, they know your friends. If they are interested then go for it, if not ask them for some tips to get a girl. Personally I would leave PUA crap to guys who are either addicted to the thrill of casual sex or are desperate losers. Its best to be neither of these.