I am 22 years old and I lost my virginity at 21, I lied to my girlfriend that I had others before her because I was ashamed. I was so afraid of sex that I thought I would cum right away and things like that so she took the lead herself, but when it came to the situation I calmed down, put myself in her and saw that none of the things I was afraid of happened, I was even pretty good. tips: look on the Internet how to insert nicely, kiss her on the neck, choke her, insult her within normal limits during sex, doggy is prob best for first time and you will leave a great impression

I was pretty nervous once I started getting chicks home as well, but you know what helped me? I decided beforehand on the day of the date I would do it no matter what and I decided that if I do it, I really do it, I give it all I got.

I got so good at game itself that I knew the only thing holding me back from sex was if I’d take them home, so I decided before the next date that I’d go for it.

For me it was essentially like deciding to sing karaoke: there’s huge perceived pressure once you are on stage, you want to pussy out and activate your coping strategy but you know what? If you decide to give it all you got, people will love it.

That’s a general life lesson you should learn: once you decide to take a chance on something, then give it all you got.

What helped me as well to knock it out of the park was being informed on what women generally like (strength, dominance, assertiveness) and what they like in bed (sex god method would be an example). If you prepare for an exam, you are not as nervous. Also, you shouldn’t see it as a do or die event. It’s normal. There are so many guys who are shit in bed that you’ll easily hit top 50% if you even try, so don’t worry.

The most important part may be that you are not in your head but in the moment. Enjoy the girl and her femininity.

Advice? Read the sidebar.

And then stop overthinking. Lose your fear of failure. Don't put pressure on yourself. Accept that the first time you have sex, it will be crap. For both of you.

Lose the fear of failure, and then go forwards.

while I lack on the 6 feet tall department

GTFO with this blackpill shit

I'm afraid of sex....

1. Not the scare ellipses to evoke a certain reader response...
2. And? Unless you want to go the rest of your life without it just do it. Unless you want to end up like this situation get some experience. Who cares if it's awkward the first time, read up on how to escalate beforehand (not hard at all) and it should be fun instead of awkward. It's only awkward if you don't do the bare minimum to understand how sex goes beforehand.

Sex is basic as fuck. Escalate in a way that's not retarded and then just pace yourself during sex, wear protection, and just keep your dick about 3-4 inches in near the roof of her vagina where her g-spot is. Just keep it around there until she makes a noticeable change in reaction. That's when you're on it

There is no reason to be afraid of sex. Doing the right things during sex can be chalked up to a highly predictable science.

I was terrified losing my virginity. I could have lost it a few times before, but I was soo anxious about everything that could go wrong. I remember a girl from Tinder would invite me invite me over and I would quickly get a panic attack because I didn’t want to disappoint her or have her find out I was a virgin so I never did it until I found a girl I was comfortable with. I built that comfort by not jumping straight to sex, we would talk and hang out before having sex. First it went to talking, then kissing, then making out (tongue and groping), then sex. I was terrified that since it was my first time getting hot and heavy, I would blow a load in 10 seconds. Thankfully, I lasted about 45 minutes because I had a condom on and I was soo nervous. I strongly recommend finding a girl you’re comfortable with, which means you’ll have to date her for a bit.

I believe my game is on point, while I lack on the 6 feet tall department I make up for it in other aspects. I'm pretty confident some women straight up hate me for not escalating.

You have some self-esteem issues. First off, you don’t need to be 6’4” for women to like you. It helps, but it’s not a requirement and NOT a guarantee for any girl you want. I would know because I AM 6’4”, white and 200 pounds at 13% body-fat. But I have some serious confidence and self-esteem issues from a fucked up childhood and a lack of social skills. Point is, I still have problems with women and a lot of them are self inflicted. When you feel like you’re not good enough, it’s almost like you instantly MAKE other women reject you because you don’t like yourself. You need to convince yourself that you’re just as good if not BETTER than everyone else and there are women out there that would love for you to fuck them. It’s disgusting how there are men who have convinced themselves that they are “incels”, it’s the most self destructive mentality a person can have. I get being a virgin sucks, but it’s not as bad as I thought because I knew people that lost their virginity at young ages to ugly chicks just to flex that they weren’t virgins. I digress. Find a way to stop thinking soo poorly of yourself. Find things to be proud of yourself instead of constantly looking for things to belittle yourself for.

Anyways, wear a condom and kiss her you’re together alone and things will naturally escalate. She’ll likely be grabbing your junk if you don’t get touchy with her. I’d also recommend maybe drinking a bit of alcohol to calm you the fuck down and being a more ballsy with doing something you were MEANT to do.

I'm pretty confident some women straight up hate me for not escalating.

This happens when women are attracted, sometimes. Not always.

Since I'm a virgin and while I can read things about foreplay and stuff there's a huge difference in doing it.

Right

(But I afraid on how things will go if I don't know anything which stops me from trying) It's not like practicing game for the first time where you can just go up and talk to people if they don't reciprocate the same interest then you move on.

As I'm typing this and rereading it, damn do I feel stupid. I was wondering if you have any advice?

Actually I do.

Basic fact is that you've got to do it to be able to do it. Riding a bike, getting a job, blah blah it's all the same..... you gotta just get on with doing it.

The reason you're worried about it is that you want to do it right or correctly or not do it wrong. You're putting 100% emphasis on the one time you have sex, rather than seeing it as a journey in which you have sex and then have sex again in future.

Basically yeah, just that. See it as a journey, start doing the journey.