They're flaky because they have options and no consequences for flaking.

Not really a big mystery.

Because they know you're that guy who just pumps and dumps.

This is why you see hot girls with ugly, beta cucks, specially the young ones. Many idiots around here say that "oooh, a man is more than just looks, muscles and frame" implying that those fucking chumps have a clue about what they are doing.

This is all false.

The reason they are dating/ltr'ing them around is because they know that they will not cheat, since they do not have any options at all. Also, they might just be a literal ATM for her or have a mortgage payment on their own place.

Nonetheless, none of this is important. Red pill incels here will tell you that you need to have so much money and status, just to score some average 6's and 7's, like most guys do around here.

Those girls are usually fucking chad on the side or get pumped on the girls night out. most gen Z women that are in LTRs are open LTR, on her end, whether he knows or not.

So if you want to keep those hoes around for dating or fwbs, you have to be more than just a cock and some nice muscles. You have to be interesting, live a life of social abundance and hobbies, display frame and status through your actions and feed them scraps in regards to possibly fantasizing about a future with you at some point. Sometimes, you have to play hard to get too, in the right context, push and pull, tease the lay to postpone it shortly after, not really when she most wants it.

It is a delicate balance

90% whores in clubs already are there in a relationship who want attention. They don't want their partners to know the night after

You're scoring first night bangs with them, so winning.

I'm reading that you want a relationship though, which is fine but you're approaching that backwards trying to lead with that. It's a mistake I made too as a rookie back in the '80s and wanting a relationship badly, too badly.

Women are the gatekeepers of sex, men are the gatekeepers of relationships.

As the man in the equation, your job is to get to sex. It is the WOMAN'S job to get him to stick around for a relationship. If you make this seem too easy, it gives off a desperation vibe and absolutely dries up pussies.

Forget clubs and bars. Find better places to recruit from a better class of women. If you're still having problems getting past a couple of talks or dates, come back with a new post about how that's going and we'll help you calibrate things.

Don’t try to date girls from tinder or from bars.

Just fuck. If the vibe is good you’ll get repeat business. Part of good vibe is not being overly thirsty

This will seem counterintuitive but, do not escalate past the first kiss if you can't/won't fuck her the same night.

I know what you're thinking: "But, the more I arrouse her the more she'll crave my dick the next day." Wrong! Men think like that, not women.

Doing anything past the first kiss, such as grabbing her ass, boobs, pussy and even kissing for a little too long will trigger ASD as soon as you get out of her field of view. She'll get the shame of having sex with you without the bounding of having sex with you.

OP = "I keep picking up sluts and I'm amazed that they think and behave like sluts. None of the sluts I pick up in bars seem to want a relationship? What gives?"

is this post part humblebrag? Or are you really a bit slow on the up take? Are you wondering why the girls ghost you the next few days? I'll tell you why - they're not responding to your texts because they're too busy doing what they were doing when you found them a few days ago - having sex with strangers that they found in bars.

I sounds like you are looking for a relationship in the wrong place? A good rule of thumb is that you only find rubbish in the rubbish bin.

I read both the screen grabs from your txt messages - were they girls that you banged first night?

I think you might be taking their responses too literally. As always, you need to sort of run it through a translator in your head.

I'll attempt to translate:

"I'm a slut, so what I do is go to bars and sleep with strangers. That's what gives me tingles. But now we know each other, so you are no longer a stranger, so you don't give me tingles. Soz about that. I'll be at the bar later, looking for a new stranger, coz that's how I roll. We can get together later, maybe in 9 years, once I am over 30. But rn, I have to focus on "exploring", so that I can be "genuinely authentic".

The other one is saying

"I love going home with strangers that I don't know for exciting sex, BUT I don't identify as a slut. You know what I mean? I spend a lot of effort on maintaining the cognitive dissonance because my behaviours do not match up with my self identity. So... now that you know that I am a slut (because I banged you without knowing you at all) we can't hang out together, because you know that I am a slut, and that conflicts with my self identity. Does that make sense? Ok - take care!"