Married for years and always said I don't really want kids. Background: I had rather fair frame but girl was not as spoiled I guess as today gurls. Moved abroad where I failed to develop my SMV and she POSSIBLY cheated around year 15 [most of the LTR abroad] [considering plenty of cheating marks, in retrospect]. When she supposedly cheated she was around 38 so skipped her bio clock. Although there was some fun along that time.

Anecdotal but true.

I did always say it is not good to bring a kid to life if there is no support for it. Although to be fair it has changed around y15...

This is the fundamental risk of entering an LTR and making it work long enough.

At some point, the girl WILL want to see where your commitment is going. If as a dude, a guy doesn't know what he wants in a serious relationship, this is what happens. Surprised Pikachu as you said, when she finally asks shit like this

Unfortunately if your friend has wildly different long term goals than her, he needs to be prepared for her to walk and that she'll find a man who shares what she wants.

She is 27. It would take her several months of sampling other dudes looking for a similar guy she likes, and if she went a comparible 1 year 6 months with another LTR, she'd be 29. That's not even counting how many relationships she might get into that end up being short, that's assuming she gets another LTR like that in that time frame for just long as your friend

She'd be 29 at the best by then, with her biological clock rapidly ticking. She probably knows this. And assuming she has multiple relationships thereafter not work out, she's gonna be like 32 by the time someone settles down, wifes her up, and gives her kids.

She knows this stuff more than likely and so your friend's days are probably numbered. He has to accept that this is the risk he took by staying in an LTR for so long without a solid game plan for long-term commitment. She's gonna branch to someone who has what she wants

"I view a healthy relationship as two individuals with their own lives who come together and spend quality time together and help each other out without living together.. that's my take on it. I also do not want children as you know. If you truly want a child and to live with someone I have to be honest I don't know if we should continue what we have. I care about you a lot but this seems to be a turning point for us".

He already told her how he feels. Whether she feels bad or not is not his fault. Your friend needs to be able to consider walking away a good thing. He's young, she's about to hit the wall. They are looking for different things.

I suspect that she will return and if he lets her come back the situation will repeat. It's best to break up and let her find someone who wants to get married.

She's in the process of branch swinging. She's distancing herself, may have another guy already in the wings ready to move to, in case your friend doesn't (step up) in girl speak.

She wants a committed LTR, living together and kids. She's communicating that, your friend doesn't want that, and not with her.

Sounds pretty clear. She's 27, Wants commitment and kids

Your friend should expect a major blow up, or her just continuing to distance herself, end it.

He should do what he wants, but need to remind him, why has he been saying he doesn't want kids or to even live with her. He doesn't want that , why would he change his mind? Is she worth it? There's many more girls out there and he's young, take your time dude. Figure out what you want in life and go get it, don't settle for what she wants.

Red pill advice wont help a bloop.

Firstly, I would not be giving advice about this at all. Relationships days are clearly numbered and he’s just gonna drag it out to keep fucking that pussy as long as possible before she ends it. Nothing you say is going to influence that.

Secondly, having an exclusive relationship with no intention to cohabitate or have children is boneheaded in the first place. Why be exclusive if not to raise children? There’s pretty much no other point. Not to mention emotionally healthy women want kids and aren’t going to stick around if they don’t get them. His “view” of a healthy relationship is completely unsustainable, ironically.

Ultimately it’s all your friends business but his big mistake was being unprepared for a relationship to end that was clearly doomed from the start.

My friend wants me to ask this for him

Does he not have internet?

Over the last 3 months his LTR has been increasingly distant and recently messaged him saying that she wants to know where the relationship is going and that if he has interest in living together, and she also mentioned that she does eventually want a baby.

Ok, this is the standard female playbook.

Decreased attraction, decreased interest, INCREASED DEMANDS, increased expectation of commitment.

Cause: lack of attraction causes desire for increased payment for her (declining) sexual services. He has shown providership potential or has engaged in provisioning, and now she has lost attraction but feels that she can lock him down as a provider.

Obviously this is a shit deal, because the more provisioning and the lack of control (divorce = expensive, child support = expensive), the more she'll go off sex.

My friend does not want to move in together and does not want children and has told her this prior.

Right. And now we find out where logic and the female mind mix like oil and water.

He said to her "I view a healthy relationship as two individuals with their own lives who come together and spend quality time together and help each other out without living together.. that's my take on it. I also do not want children as you know. If you truly want a child and to live with someone I have to be honest I don't know if we should continue what we have. I care about you a lot but this seems to be a turning point for us".

Great.

He is getting very emotional about it and even said to me he will visit her on the weekend to see how she feels but didn't want to see the situation for what it is.

He is hoping she'll say "oh.... ok...... no kids and no marriage: no problem".

This won't happen. She'll move on to find someone who'll give her what she feels entitled to.

What you said is right, but he needs to learn this the hard way.

Sadly 27 is roughly when they hit the wall and demand marriage and babies. You can't fight biology, but you can find a new girlfriend.

Drop a nuclear red pill truth bomb. "I don't want to live together or get married or have kids because a woman's vows are meaningless and she can yeet her family for no reason and walk away with cash and prizes the moment she gets bored. The kids will be used as pawns and raised to be school shooters that pee sitting down all while hating their father. Plus I don't like the taste of other men's cum while I eat my wife out."