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Ok-Adeptness4906 3y ago
It never fails. Women divorce and expect themselves to be as marketable a commodity as when they were in their early 20s, before they got married.
brainic_computer 3y ago
“I don’t need a man,but…”
Make up your mind dude
gfgdhj5784yu8 3y ago
They guy she separated from really dodged a bullet with this one. I wonder if he knows how fortunate he is.
Every new guy they are with they think they are one step closer to finding mr. perfect----- but they are actually several steps farther. Once they understand this it is too late.
oxyoxyboi 3y ago
Unless she has cougar body and maintain her looks its tough. Even Nina Hartley types have hard time
StinkingDischarge 3y ago
The "not going to settle" line is a godsend for anyone with half a brain. Because unless you're a 6'4" billionaire supermodel with a 10" dick and 6-pack abs she's going to feel like she "settled" for you and your life will be a living hell. Stay the hell away from that shit.
WeRAllOnThisBlessedD 3y ago
Lol. I’d bet money that her Instagram is a million selfies on her sofa drinking wine with #singlelife #girlboss. She spends every weekend getting drinks with the girls at the trendiest rooftop bar and they all tell themselves how happy they are. Then she goes home, drinks more wine, and cries into her pillow wishing that she wouldn’t have friendzoned that good, stable guy back when she was 26.
This is the result of a generation of “you go girl yasss queen!” bullshit. They just don’t get it and never will.
mustangfrank 3y ago
She: but he was soooooooooooooooooooooooo boring. He didn't have any face tats, no criminal record and he was under 6'
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mustangfrank 3y ago
I was thinking the very same.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/jmjdbb/over\_2\_years\_ive\_had\_over\_500\_matches\_and\_gone\_on/
NBA_MSG 3y ago
"I don't NEED a man. I am fine."
[Cue 500 words later demonstrating she is clearly not FINE]]
[deleted] 3y ago
Alpha Chad
Beta Bux
Only took her 25 years of adulthood to realize that she wants someone who gives her tingles and pays for dinner? If only we could all be this introspective. I say she reaches nirvana by 50.
deckran 3y ago
Yeah, fact is most women want that mythical Alpha Bux. The problem for them is that these men are rare and they will absolutely get what their value is worth. That means no 43 year old separated leftover women.
Martellus732 3y ago
She just needs another helping of Christmas Cake.
reignoferror00 3y ago
In one definition from Japan, she is Christmas Cake.
https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ChristmasCake
manfrom-nantucket 3y ago
Or five....what the hell just give her the whole cake.
thefudmaster 3y ago
Dumbass doesn't realize men settle too. The woman is most attractive during the first meeting and a year or two after (usually 90 days though for women until they show their true colors/crazy). Everyone chooses who they grow old with. Do you really think our grandparents wouldn't have left each other back in the day? Hell yes they would have left each other. However, people who have been married always take used to take their vows seriously.
NoonTimeHoopsMVP 3y ago
The ones who said you are too picky are correct and are looking out for you. The ones who say don't settle are the crabs in the bucket.
GundamZero83 3y ago
She’ll make another post soon about her “pervy” ex husband dating 20 yr old college girls.
tiernach 3y ago
Man this reminds me of a woman I know. She divorced her husband because "He was boring." Meanwhile dude kept a roof over their head and provided for her and their special needs child. I've never met him but he sounds like a damn legend. So she found a guy "more exciting" they partied and did crazy shit until she got hurt really bad one night while they were partying. Suddenly she needed someone to take care of her and support her because she needed to have like 10 surgeries to put her hand back together. Mr. Exciting cheats on her and dips out. She spirals and gains a shit load of weight and the ex lets her stay in the spare room of their old house. Even says if she is willing they can try to work things out. She won't even though the only reason she isn't homeless is because of his generosity. Fast forward 4 years now and she has had a dozen failed relationships and is still single living in a shit little condo. She's now so miserable to be around her friends just made a new group chat without her to keep her from finding out about the New Years party.
squeamish 3y ago
The first time I ever really needed my wife to support me for anything she noped on out of the marriage.
mustangfrank 3y ago
I like happy endings.
reignoferror00 3y ago
Me too, that's why I pay one woman that offers massage an extra $20 for that service.
Land_of_the_Losers the-niceguy.com 3y ago
So you're saying she should've left her boring husband way earlier than that so she could've pulled-in an even hotter, even more exciting guy who might not have mangled her hand so bad? That's the only logical takeaway I can glean. "Stay with the loyal husband" being a total non-starter, who wants to do that quite frankly?
The hand mangling, did it involve the drive-train of a speeding snowmobile and a bottle of Wild Turkey?
tiernach 3y ago
Fireworks and alcohol
Land_of_the_Losers the-niceguy.com 3y ago
I hope she enjoyed the party until she held the roman candle at the wrong end.
tiernach 3y ago
That's pretty much exactly what happened
MT_Merchant_Mangler 3y ago
LOL women
jor4288 3y ago
These stories give solace to the men who were abandoned by their ex wives.
CarpAndTunnel 3y ago
I take no solace in it. This is a societal rot spreading; nobody wins
cautionTomorrow555 3y ago
The sooner this diseased sick society falls apart the better accelerationism is a good thing.
CarpAndTunnel 3y ago
Idt a society with Nuclear weapons can fall. In the old days yeah, this sick diseased thing would eventually get conquered & a new leadership with new rules comes in. That was the downward pressure on incompetent leadership. I just dont know if thats possible anymore
_Anime-Boobies_ 3y ago
South Africa had nukes and it fell hard. It fell so hard and shamefully it made apartheid look like a good idea.
FlowComprehensive390 3y ago
Nuclear countries have already fallen - the USSR hasn't existed for 30 years now. To think that other nuclear powers are immune is wishful thinking at best.
Lameador 3y ago
You don't need hard nuclear weapons. What you need is solid nuclear families.
In theory, polygamy can land you in jail. Too bad this is not enforced. But this should also be extended to hypergamy.
[deleted] 3y ago
I would be perfectly fine with women being so damn picky if there were real consequences for infidelity and divorces weren't given out like covid shots.
cautionTomorrow555 3y ago
It is fine with me talking to our women counterparts and blue pill types women would literally rather have a nuclear holocaust happen than give up Chad it is absurd.
CarpAndTunnel 3y ago
I view modern society as a disease. Extinction is not a...desirable...cure
cautionTomorrow555 3y ago
If this is the alternative, then I think extinction is the better option for humanity.
Outside-Primary3302 3y ago
Buy a dog and die alone
loneliness-inc LvL 99 Rogue NiceGuy™ 3y ago
jstrockmeyer 3y ago
Every single time
nitro-666 3y ago
I wonder why women give so much importance to their friends (I guess female friends) opinions. I mean, I value my friends but my personal relationships are not their business.
Avetat 3y ago
Evolutional thing. Opinion and acceptance of the group was vital for survival.
PaulMurrayCbr 3y ago
Childcare.
It's something that a lot of men overlook. Women rely on their networks to share childcare. The drive to conform, to fit in with the group is paramount, and this is why.
This also is one reason why women are hypergamous: the high-status woman, the wife of the boss can simply dump her kids on the lesser wives whenever she happens to feel like it. The lesser wife will feed and entertain the spawn, because if she doesn't the boss bitch will freeze her out of the network.
RuskinBondFan 3y ago
Sisterhood. One of the most toxic groups.
deckran 3y ago
Women are social creatures. They need and function better as part of a group. This is why for example in highschool a girl's worst nightmare is basically getting ostracized by her peers, commiting social suicide. It's also why they tend to want a more communitarian lifestyle let's say, that values security above freedom. Strength in numbers so to speak.
CarpAndTunnel 3y ago
They dont really think for themselves; women are much more into groupthink than men are. Independence isn't valued or rewarded. Its why the stereotype of all chicks being the same exists
RuskinBondFan 3y ago
Seriously. A fashion trend and all of them would look the same.
polishknightusa 3y ago
Here's what I think is happening: When men consider a woman for a relationship, in whatever context, we look for possibility in it because men really are the creators of relationships while women wait for men to approach them. Men invest in possibility while women, in the beginning, literally do almost nothing.
When such a woman is approached, or envisions herself being approached, she views him similar to how we view a timeshare presentation: We don't care about the timeshare, we care about the gift. She doesn't have to make an effort. She just sits there and waits to be entertained similar to a spoiled child at a Chuck-E-Cheese birthday party.
So consider: The one set of people she has a consistent emotional bond to isn't the future husband or even lover, but rather her friends. They are the most consistent emotional bonds in her life next to her pets. Men are conditioned to seek acceptance from their mother and women, while women are conditioned by their friends to seek acceptance from… women.
I pointed out to my wife that she needn’t have expensive bags to impress women. She could get a ripoff label made in China, the exact same manufacturing standards, for a fraction of the price but for women, it’s a matter of honor. They care about what they can extract from men similar to how us men would live up to, say, a drinking bet with a dear friend. But men wouldn’t presume to dictate to other men as to what we demand from women. We advise it, but we respect that boundary.
Women don’t. They will gossip behind each others’ backs who doesn’t exploit men or live the materialistic lifestyle. It took a while, but I educated my wife in that I come ahead of her friends and she is to consider me family (almost) as highly as her father. In the old days, when women were oppressed, a woman left her father’s home and then moved in with her new family. That’s what a wedding was about: Two families merging as the wife leaves her old family and becomes a member of the new one.
During modern courtship, a woman isn’t thinking about the man who buys her stuff or he’s handsome but rather how she’ll be able to impress her friends and stay in the pecking order. She doesn’t know if the relationship with last (because she’s been trained to shit-test sabotage it anyway.)
V_M 3y ago
The fewer materialistic friends a woman has, the higher value she is to guys.
mustangfrank 3y ago
I worked with a woman who purchased Red Bottom shoes. These shoes cost between $800-1200. I thought it was a waste of money. She was sitting next to another woman, who BTW owned a pair of Red Bottom shoes, too. It is about status between women.
OwenWentFullMGTOW 3y ago
A woman's approval is inherently more valuable to a woman than a man's approval.
The reason is because a man's approval is virtually worthless. Some level of simpdom is encoded into the male DNA. A woman receives some level of approval just for showing up and having a vag.
Another woman's approval, however, is usually harder to come by. Hence, a woman's opinion is of high value to other women.
You see this dynamic playout in the OnlyThot community, where women treasure other women's affirmation of their OF while virtually ignoring even more intense affirmation from men. Because male affirmation requires no effort or achievement whatsoever for most women.
mustangfrank 3y ago
Well said.
upsidedownbackwards 3y ago
20 years ago I was pursuing my first crush. I hadn't dated in high school, so my first adult relationship I was acting like a highschooler.
One day while I was frustrated with things one of my best friends pulled me off to the side and asked me "Do you think you're emotionally mature to handle a relationship right now?". It hurt, it really did. But he was right, I was not. It's one of the most blunt, hurtful things anyone has ever said to me but it's one of the most important, and I'm glad it was said without sugarcoating.
There's certain friends I'm okay with getting involved in my relationship. We gotta look out for each other to keep from being taken advantage of in our lonely times. I've saved my brother and one of my best friends from awful marriages by getting involved and pushing for the divorce after their wives found side pieces.
nitro-666 3y ago
That's great and I do agree, but you valued your friend's advice, not his opinion about your relationship.
[deleted] 3y ago
It's an outdated survival mechanism. Feminists thought that women would stop "being women" once liberated, and women did change in their behaviour, not their biology, and this is the result.
brooklun 3y ago
once “liberated”? by who? their partners? why are you acting like they’re animals or savages being tamed
[deleted] 3y ago
Liberated from human nature and reality itself, of
fcourse! You aren't very woke are you?brooklun 3y ago
explain how women liberate themselves from human nature.
[deleted] 3y ago
Human nature is a social construct under the white cis oppressive empirical
science. Everything we know about human nature is wrong, because men! How can be sure that trees don’t fly? We can’t, because oppressive men have decided
that trees don’t fly without even consulting not one tree about flying!
How can women liberate themselves from human nature? Simple, destroy the
base of the social construct, current society. Only when the current society
has been utterly destroyed can women be truly liberated.
But, herein lies the dilemma that modern feminism is faced with:
All the infrastructure that is required for feminist ideas to spread and
not simply die out like they would in
the social construct that isnature, is upheld by the patriarchy. The very same patriarchy that oppresses women, upholds feminism.
This pisses feminists off very much, like she can't even right now, you know? The patriarchy is the very bicycle that the fish does not need but finds itself obsessive-compulsively riding.
CarpAndTunnel 3y ago
I think thats a root cause for a huge amount of modern issues. Monkey brain trusting monkey instincts that dont work in the modern world.
hatefulreason 3y ago
i think someone is hunting you, your comments are hidden even with a positive score and i don't think what you're saying is without logic
i think monkey brain works, but like in nature, only the strongest survive
polishknightusa 3y ago
I don't think feminists really "thought" in the same context us men do. For example: I used to room with a pop psychological relationship book author in Hollywood Hills. She explained to me that feminism was about choices (for women, of course, it's called feminism after all)
See, women would get paid the same as men (or more to make up for previous oppression) of course and then, each woman could choose to either marry a nice, liberated, beta male who cooks and cleans and earns less OR she could marry a 1950's breadwinner guy that remained. "It's all about choices!" she quipped.
When I pointed out that few women wanted a househusband, she mocked me and said "Oh, if you want that for yourself, and some woman wants you, I fully support her decision!" she said. See?
It's sort of like, IMO, the American dream as a nightmare in that it's structured so that if you're a wealthy entrepreneur who strikes it rich, your taxes are low. So just start your own Amazon, Google, or Apple! Or become a movie star or NBA player! But if you're don't, well, you're on your own.
The feminists assumed that OTHER women would marry their betas while they would pick the alphas. It never occurred to them that most women wanted the alphas and the more opportunities they took from men, the fewer alphas were left and the more women who wanted them.
HarbourView 3y ago
That mistake is called the fallacy of composition. It’s like taking a box to stand on to get a better view. It doesn’t work if everyone does it.
polishknightusa 3y ago
Far out. Never heard of that. Thanks so much!
RedBlow22 3y ago
I looked this up, and learned something today. Thank you for this, HarbourView.
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Overkillengine 3y ago
And then LME is shocked and appalled when she finds out that the hunky surgeon would rather just marry the latina maid if he marries anyone at all.
maruadventurer 3y ago
Or finds out that said surgeon has no disposable income due to the alimony from the last three divorces he had.
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theLOLbird 3y ago
Its like they say :
"behind every single woman, there is that shitty advice she took from that 1 forever single GF".
V_M 3y ago
Used to be a guy on the internet, pre-web, who often used a line something like "I strongly encourage my opposition to ..." and insert any dumb technical or business idea there.
Its like a poker game where if you don't know who the game's sucker is at the table, that's because you're the sucker at that table. Nobody wants to think they're the sucker so pretend its someone else, shovel out your own bad advice in the hope someone else will take it, etc.
A large part of growing up and becoming an adult is acknowledging certain sources of "everyone knows its good advice" are universally actually very bad advice and you'll have a much better quality of life if you ignore or oppose those sources of advice. There are certain... coincidences about those sources.
Did you know the best way to get hired is to replace your resume on linkedin with cat meme pix? And everyone that falls for that is eliminated competition.
polishknightusa 3y ago
My wife had a friend whom I referred to as "Akula" (the shark). She had 4 ex husbands, chain smoked, and was generally a slightly insane person. But like Baba Yaga, sometimes she gave very useful advice. Nonetheless, she always tried to overly take advantage of you if you let your guard down.
When I told my wife we would get her a nice "new" Audi, she advised my wife "Don't get a 3 year old used car for 30% less. Make him buy you a new one!" I advised my wife that it was HER family budget too and she felt comfortable with it. This woman would genuinely express admiration for me one moment but later advise my wife to divorce me at any conflict I had with her.
I was glad when we had a falling out at a BBQ (she just kept pestering me for something after I told her no) and she didn't call my wife again. She was the kind of "friend" I really didn't need.
mustangfrank 3y ago
IsraelWentFullMGTOW 3y ago
Tenet style
Frosty_League 3y ago
For real. Literally had this girl one time telling us how one of her other friends she had should dump her new bf because he wanted to split the cost of a trip and he wasn’t dipping into his life savings to lavish her. That made him “cheap”
mustangfrank 3y ago
I thought these were the days of equality.
NoonTimeHoopsMVP 3y ago
Not when there is a check to be paid.
mustangfrank 3y ago
Or when the boat is sinking or the building is on fire.
mimiczx 3y ago
One of the replies to this post.
"I know exactly how you feel!! I had a short lived relationship also I recently met a man who I thought was decent. We went out Talked everyday. Then he made dinner plans and stood me up. And apparently now I’m ghosted** he has disappeared. Well good luck to him. I WILL NOT SETTLE & I will keep my bar high and hope for the best. You should too Know you are not alone Everyone is dealing with something."
The blind leading the blind. I can't stop laughing
warlocc_ 3y ago
It amazes me that they think they're the ones settling, not the dudes picking up the used goods.
getRonaldo 3y ago
Ahh music to my ears this
Boar_excrement Jr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago
"Who knew it would be so hard to find someone?"
Sounds like she should check her privilege.
Your average guy, you know, the one who bears the searching costs, the financial expenditures and the risk of rejection (not to mention false allegations) knows how f*cking hard it is to find someone.
SpideySurreal 3y ago
As usual Gentlemen, another idiotic modern woman overvaluing herself and underdelivering in relationships. RIP!!!
[deleted] 3y ago
I don't know if that's laughable or tragic. Probably a bit of both. Either way, one reaps what she has sown. Loneliness and worthlessness in exchange for heartbreak and betrayal. There's balance in all things and she is a fool for thinking she deserves better without paying any price.
vtec__ 3y ago
OLD are full of these bimbos in their 30s and 40s.
Fancuku 3y ago
Fixed.
Thinguy123 3y ago
Okay, pass the info about which site these Bimbo MILF's are abundant, because i never see any
former-bomshell-Blonde soccer moms are my weakness
vtec__ 3y ago
where do you live
No-Cry-4771 3y ago
“Chemistry”
Noitrasama 3y ago
"While I dont necessarily need a man.."
She needs a man or else its cats and depressants. She's already made the choice. She just doesn't know it yet
gfgdhj5784yu8 3y ago
Unless she has some serious money/assets or is freakishly attractive for her age...... it is over for a woman that hits 40. Over.
PirateDocBrown 3y ago
Nah, she could easily find some older fellow.
ronoda12 3y ago
Chemistry == only got pump and dumped by chad and tyrone. Thats the only thing she will get ij the market.
thestructuralguy 3y ago
This resonates with me. Recently started talking to a girl who was enthusiastic to date me and she asked me out. We were supposed to go on a date this Sunday but she cancelled on Sunday morning. When I asked her why? She told me her friends didn't approve of me because I'm short and not attractive enough. I later found out she went out with a Chad she had been pursuing before meeting me who only uses her for sex and she still keeps pursuing him. I don't want to be hateful and bitter but my God I wish karma catches up to her.
[deleted] 3y ago
Wait - what? She literally told you that she cancelled a date because you're not tall or good looking enough? Imagine if the sexes were reversed and you cancelled on a woman for being too fat - on the say so of your friends. You'd be doxxed and cancel cultured into oblivion!
thestructuralguy 3y ago
Pretty much. It wasn't as direct but one can obviously read between the lines you know? Her exact wordings were "Well (insert Chad's name) has changed. Also my friends think he dresses really nicely, plus he's really tall. All the girls like him. He also goes to the gym regularly" I'm actually an inch shorter than the girl but I didn't really care and I go to the gym FYI. And yeah, she ran off after him.
mustangfrank 3y ago
I have had the same thing happen to me.
HedgeRunner 3y ago
Dude you dodged a bullet. Any women after 25 that still chases Chad is pretty much off my books. It's just too risky and hell how would I know when that Chad itch comes back to bite her ass later.
Not worth the drama mate.
thestructuralguy 3y ago
I don't think it ever left her. Her ex cheated on her and the girl he cheated on with is his new gf which tells me he might be Chad and now she's going after the same type of guy. It's almost funny how she keeps going back to the same place that treats her like shit.
deckran 3y ago
I've read situations similar to yours so many times. They pretty much always end the same way. Girl chases Chad. Chad uses and then dumps Girl or she gets pregnant and he bails. Girl looks to pawn off her baggage/child from Chad to the guys she rejected before. I would say you should expect her to reach out to you in the coming months. Get your karma by rejecting her in turn hehe.
thestructuralguy 3y ago
Thanks dude. I've deleted her number from my contacts and won't be responding to her anymore. She can go die for all I care. I'm done with her.
Jihocech_Honza 3y ago
Think on Gollum:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fWweqP_ZWbg
mustangfrank 3y ago
I disagree. Use her as a side piece. And be rude to her all the time. Let her know her place. If she complains, dump her. Make no plans other than to F her. that is the game plan.
deckran 3y ago
I know the "bad boy" persona works but personally i just can't do it. I'd rather keep it moving. Plus in 2021 with a single accussation being able to destroy a man's life, you don't know what sort of bs she might try to pull when she feels like it. But if you got the game and confidence and know what you're doing, sure go for it. Just make it abuntantly clear that you only see her as a FWB situation.
Goldmansachs3030 3y ago
A woman who has been a FWB is not a wife material.They themselves should know this.
deckran 3y ago
That's the problem, they don't realize this. They want to have their hoe phase and then when they get bored/broken find the retirement plan marriage most likely. That's why you should make it clear that's she's just a FWB and will never get something long term out of you.
rubberseatbelt 3y ago
I'm 55 and I can't find someone and I'm ready. Unfortunately, I need somebody with a PhD level brain, although I've dated PhDs and found them to be one trick ponies.
One woman I dated had her PhD in, of all things, epidemiology and became a pediatric allergy specialist. She had recently retired and spent her days reading medical journals and answering email. Once we stop talking about the genetics of the COVID-19 virus as well as the lack of hallmarks for genetic engineering and probable vector routes in the pandemic, there was nothing left to talk about. She literally did nothing else and had no taste. Her decorations all were out of a catalog as were her clothes. Prepackaged lifestyle.
I dated a woman who spent 8 months in Antarctica and built robots who was, amazingly attractive, but we couldn't find anything else in common to do other than have sex, which was not enough for her because she had been away for 8 months, and The rebooted Doctor Who. Again, not much depth.
My college girlfriend became an ER doctor. I was first attracted to her because she was an artist who played piano, but she gave everything up to pursue academia to the point where she became an automaton.
In short, I'm way too picky, but if I don't find somebody who can keep me interested, I turn off and when they start approaching me about being unemotional, I start to resent them, so I break up with them.
I need a woman who can tell me to shut up, sit down, and tell me 10 things I don't know.
nickmando 3y ago
you are looking for an entire community within one person. Don't be an atomized individual who looks to your partner for everything, she WILL disappoint. Have an array of friends and mentors and spend time with each of them for the relevant task/topic. I would say the same to women who complain that their husbands are boring.
Rimeheart 3y ago
I would say stop depending on women for your own intellectual growth.
HedgeRunner 3y ago
I'm a little younger but faced similar issues. The problem is twofold: one, intelligent woman by conventional degree and career isn't enough for us. And most of these women (and men for that matter only have intelligence in their niche field but lack critical thinking in anything else). Two, they are too materialistic and thinks too highly of their money, career, and status.
Bonus number 3...most conventionally successful women I met are too fucking selfish. They don't do any charity work, don't help friends with their careers, and do not give fucks about the state of society in general. It's always me me me. That is an extreme turn off for me. Funny enough these women are smart at game and knows I like kind women so they'll act kind but kindness can't be...faked. It requires giving without reciprocity and they never do that LOL.
Luck mate.
PirateDocBrown 3y ago
I call it "generosity of spirit", and it is indeed gold.
One-Move 3y ago
Women with higher education much more than men tend to be narrow minded, every female MD I dated knew only her narrow field, world science history politics geography zero. Ok without being to arrogant in 52 years I met only 2 women who could run with me intellectually.
HedgeRunner 3y ago
Literally what I just said. Also dated a few MDs a s MD students. Gosh the ego of these women. Some of them don't even make that much because they picked an easy area to resident and yet it's all about the doctor title.
"I'm a doctor. I'm so sexy. I'm so pretty on a boat cuz my doctor friends have boats."
Good lord.
One-Move 3y ago
Yeah yeah Dr. I have a PhD I am a real doctor
One-Move 3y ago
rubberseatbelt 3y ago
I hear you, and used to think that way, but I've met lots of men who are equally as narrow.
Most people, when they become specialized and educated become narrow. That's because most people only have a certain amount of brain power.
Polymaths are few and far between.
The question is, are you looking for a polymath or an educated person who is well rounded.
I'm looking for a polymath but I will settle for a well-rounded.
Sadly, well-rounded is also a rarity among the general public. Most people just know what they grew up with and what they studied and then they stopped learning and start repeating patterns because they stop growing.
One-Move 3y ago
I agree, I am a scientist and maybe a bit spoiled there.
PirateDocBrown 3y ago
I'm the opposite, I'm the PhD, and I'd rather have her wonder what thing I'll be talking about next.
rubberseatbelt 3y ago
Do you expect her to understand or do you just want to impress her?
I'm actually toying with going back for a PhD. Most of my studies will be to learn just enough math to find out if it's even worse pursuing. The joys of theoretical physics.
PirateDocBrown 3y ago
Mine was in something more practical, my undergard was Chemical Engineering, and I went for my Chem PhD, made me very employable.
And yes, I want a woman to admire me. My intellect, my worldliness, my polymathness, my autodidactness, my wealth, my capability.
rubberseatbelt 3y ago
I'm thinking about going back for a PhD in theoretical physics. My undergrad is a BA in English literature and I'm three classes shy of a BS in physics, the three are in the middle. I skipped over some classes I thought were boring in order to get to nuclear and particle physics.
I want somebody who is an equal. I don't feel a need to impress anybody. I used to, but I found those relationships very unfulfilling and one-sided. I got the same amount of intellectual stimulation from a house pet and it just did nothing for me.
Good luck in your search, I'm sure there are plenty of women who would be impressed by your accomplishments.
PirateDocBrown 3y ago
Get the physics BS. Don't worry about the PhD. BS is much more employable.
rubberseatbelt 3y ago
I own a business. It's not about employment. I'm 55. I'm planning on heading back when I'm 60, if possible.
Thank you, though.
PirateDocBrown 3y ago
I'm 57, so we are in similar places.
Blackbarnabyjones 3y ago
Oh man, I wish you luck.
You are searching for my version the unmarried, childless, 28 year old mexican woman.
We're Hosed.
rubberseatbelt 3y ago
Actually, if you're looking for a Mexican woman, you're golden. I'm sure you could place ads in Mexican sites. It's connected. The pandemic is going to end soon. You're in America. If you're smart, you see where I'm going with this.
Thanks for sharing and best of luck.
Blackbarnabyjones 3y ago
Damn man, you're hardcore.
I like it.
rubberseatbelt 3y ago
Well, I like Indian, Italian, and Greek women. There's something about that brown-eyed Mediterranean toned look that just blows me away.
Mumbai is a lot further away than Mexico City.
HedgeRunner 3y ago
Gonna say .be careful with Indian women in America. I've met a few friends of friends in top schools across the US, most are solely concerned about the status and title. They all want to work for Google, even those not in remotely tech related fields LOL
Blackbarnabyjones 3y ago
I just want tortillas at 3am. Is that so wrong?
mustangfrank 3y ago
rubberseatbelt 3y ago
You can want tortillas whenever you want. That doesn't mean you're going to get them. Once you realize that, life will be a lot easier.
Blackbarnabyjones 3y ago
LOL. Thanks for the advice but my shit has already sailed!
I had a mexican Virgin at 25-30 I met in college in a small town and we stayed together. After college we moved to a big city and she became the worst and so did I for it.
BeholdTheHair 3y ago
There's your mistake.
Most women behave like a liquid: they take whatever form the society they live in dictates. So you found a nice Mexican girl, presumably from a small town where her family and the wider community expect her to maintain positive values like chastity, fidelity and humility - then moved her to a big city where there is no community and all her new girlfriends are going to drag her down to their level to share in their misery.
Hopefully you've learned your lesson. Good women are made, not born, and due to their generally high level of agreeableness that making must be actively maintained not just by you, but by the people with whom you surround yourselves.
rubberseatbelt 3y ago
I'm confused.
Blackbarnabyjones 3y ago
I have already LIVED the part where I don't get tortillas at 3am.
I have accepted this.
I was just talking out loud about what I want.
SoulKeen 3y ago
These entitled bitches don't realize that not everybody stay...
Women are going to learn the hardway.
Dunkman83 3y ago
".....tale as old as tiiiiiimeeeeee, beauty......and....the.... wallllllll"
TheBomb999 3y ago
I wonder what’s the gender of the people who tell her not to settle
mustangfrank 3y ago
If I had to guess it would be one that have 2 XX chroms
OwenWentFullMGTOW 3y ago
The plethora of choices that existed for her at age 21 is long gone at age 43.
Of course, the part she's leaving out is she's determined to find someone approximately her age. There are plenty of men in their fifties and sixties who would probably accept her.
But nope, that's not good enough, she wants a "peer". And pickings are slim.
mustangfrank 3y ago
She: Why don't they chase me at 43 like they did at 23?
Me: I wonder why.
jmpires 3y ago
I assumed I’d have a downtown penthouse, a Lotus Elan, six week holidays in Bali and a permanent supply of tiger shrimp in the fridge, and the way the world keeps failing my assumptions is just preposterous.
Who knew it would be so hard.
PirateDocBrown 3y ago
Bali is not all that.
jmpires 3y ago
Yeah... but I'd still like to go there at least once, even if only to say so by myself! Never got any closer than Hong Kong.
CarpAndTunnel 3y ago
I browsed some of the forums of men in similar situations for advice; hopefully this can be helpful to you:
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Who hurt you?
Why dont you take a shower and leave your mothers basement?
Men dont owe you anything.
Get a job, loser.
Frosty_League 3y ago
Lmao. Wish we could spam women’s posts with garbage advice like this. Imagine swarming FDS with “who hurt you?” It would be glorious
FormerBTfan 3y ago
If this post wall chick wants chemistry she is probably best off going to University for a BS in chemistry. On the dating apps lol. no doubt she has a shopping list 2 pages long that no guy can match up to anyway. She is probably getting enough simp blue pill boy attention and validation that she is never going to snap out of her farcical fantasy.
She had a chance...... kicked probably a good man to the curb figuring she could do better and did not and can not. Like always with most women will not be able to own it and admit she is where she is at on the road she chose to drive was her choice her fault.
Blogginginvicecity 3y ago
You got me with that one!!!
reignoferror00 3y ago
"chemistry" AND a "good person"
tingles plus someone to put up with your shit longer term don't usually come together preassembled as a package deal.
"miss having a partner" ... to entertain me, listen to my bullshit, and of course to pay those pesky bills.
With what you've shared, as I peer into my crystal ball, I do see you soon meeting a suitable long term partner* (*batteries not included)
Frosty_League 3y ago
The older they get the my unreasonable they become too
Recently saw a 43 yr old woman on Hinge who answers the what makes a relationship great prompt with: being nice, vulnerable, and open communication, but with the passion of a toxic one (typical 50 shades of grey bullshit)
There at probably less than 1% of men at any age who are capable of giving a woman a relationship like that. And NONE of them are looking for a washed up 43 yr old 5/10(at best)
Snoid_ 3y ago
Feline, from the shelter
PirateDocBrown 3y ago
Mechanical, from the novelty sex shop.
Flashy_Glove6208 3y ago
Her husband was such a good deal in retrospect.
Love to observe how the pump and dump train wrecks her.
She knows very well she messed up big time and there is no coming back. Looking for symphacy and a false hope in her post.
Men have none to offer. I hope her ex husband lives his best life without her.
Frosty_League 3y ago
Wish there was a Remind Me bot for this woman’s life lmao
Buster_Cherry92 3y ago
If that was true, it wouldn't be so hard to find someone. This level of cognitive dissonance never ceases to amaze me.
Objective-Ad6322 3y ago
Chemistry = good looking, handsome.
Good person = has a college degree, high income, high status career, has own home and other financial assets.
Now do you see why it's so hard.
ZarBandit 3y ago
Top comment worthy
Buster_Cherry92 3y ago
Ahhh, yes. Thank you for the translation. The college degree always makes me laugh, I'm a high 6 figure earner and have been rejected for not having a degree.
One-Move 3y ago
I have a PhD but 5 7” makes it harder.
Buster_Cherry92 3y ago
Such a sickening society we live in. The good news is our lives will continue to get better while they smash into the wall at warp speed. It's quite entertaining to watch... Almost like going to see NASCAR. You're not there for the race, but the big crashes.
One-Move 3y ago
The older and (I hope) wiser I get, the more I understand, that humans need religion (I am an atheist). Since we in the west po po the traditional religions, people (especially women, more agreeable) turn to new religions with being part of a greater cause, dogmas, chanting, holding hands and hating non believers. Marxism, Feminism, BLM, environmentalists, extinction rebellion….
Braucifarian 3y ago
She always assumed she would find someone when she was ready. Yup guys are just a dick in a glass box break in case of emergency. She would find someone the moment she chose to.
She likely can find someone: the thing is it will not be a male her age it will be a male a decade or two older than her. But that thought repulses her. She believes she is entitled to be with a high-value guy her age because her entire life before marriage she was waiting at the finish line for such guys.
IoSonCalaf 3y ago
Translation: when I separated, it was because I thought I could do better. I didn’t realize that as I aged, my value would go down. Now I’m old and I can’t find the HVM I thought I would have access to.
brooklun 3y ago
maybe you should start reflecting on why a woman’s value should go down when she ages.
ransay3277 3y ago
Truer words have not been said.
mustangfrank 3y ago
She: I monkey branched, and the branch broke.
finger_milk 3y ago
The other similar translation is "I left a great guy when I was 21 because I had been sold the CC life by my friends. He went and got married to someone else and now I regret that I gave up the best guy who I ever met because I had never been taught how to appreciate what I had instead of wanting more"
Bullet meets foot.
mustangfrank 3y ago
BobbingForBunions Sr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago
At some point, rational women realize the product they're selling (themselves) has lost most of its value, similar to a used vehicle.
They're not going to get MSRP. Not even close.
brooklun 3y ago
so, basically, you’re not only comparing women, to “vehicles”(objects) and also “products” but you’re also completely ignoring the belief that women will have less value as they age? do you have that same mindset about your own gender?
Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 3y ago
Heh.
mustangfrank 3y ago
But the problem for them is that is takes many years to realize this and their value keeps falling all during this time.
V_M 3y ago
I've seen people try to sell into a housing crash. Gotta discount more and faster than your neighbor or it ain't sellin. Many sellers literally never get it, they ride the crash all the way down, getting more confused and angry at every discount. There will be many bitter old women like that WRT dating.
Mundane_Worldliness7 Sr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago
Notice she says”..at this point I am just looking for chemistry and a good person…” This implies that such things weren’t important prior, I wonder what she was looking for before…
Ok-Adeptness4906 3y ago
Because chemistry and good person don't go together. Chemistry comes from bad boys, good person comes from good boys.
She wants a purple unicorn - even a white unicorn won't do.
HedgeRunner 3y ago
This is a VERY critical comment folks. Test for this on dates.
A lot of girls will use stuff like mental health, learning about myself, or other random shit to cover this up. But it's all a facade because there's no excuse for bad decision making. As if, ok, you had mental health problems and instead of seeing a therapist you jumped on CC for 5 years. Really? Sure maybe that helped you but I can't touch the likes of you LOL.
mustangfrank 3y ago
I don't think this is true. I think she had a list of qualifications as long as her arm. Well, no man measured up, so now just 2 parameters. Soon the only qualification will be a heart beat.
Noitrasama 3y ago
She was looking for Bezos money with 6 abs
cautionTomorrow555 3y ago
The translations and reading between the lines are one of the more enjoyable parts of this subreddit.
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I know, right!
omegajelly200 3y ago
Abs, pecs, jaws, penises, money, in no particular order, and being super picky about it on top of that.
Le gasp, men like that have options, and that's why marriages with such men don't tend to last long!
GutsGloryAndGuinness 3y ago
Well if she was looking for penises plural I can see now why she hasn't found the one.
Cristoff13 3y ago
It actually implies she was looking for "chemistry" and "good person" before, but she had other qualifications stacked on top of those, such as money and education probably. Now all he has to do is make her feel like a giddy schoolgirl (the "chemistry" part) while not displaying too many red flags.
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What about the possibility that she has tried chemistry for so long that she is noticing a pattern where chemistry does not equate to "good", so now she is looking for chemistry plus good and then she will be haaaappy. Where are all the good men?
maruadventurer 3y ago
yep, but to late to make it happen.
mustangfrank 3y ago
You are correct, women choose good men, last after jerks, thugs ex-cons, criminals and control freaks.
V_M 3y ago
Her problem is by 43, those men are married to women better than her.
squeamish 3y ago
Not always, some married women just like her and came to their senses.
CisgenderPig 3y ago
What do you mean that 40yo Chad Bigdickington with his successful businesses doesn't want a busted ass, used up, empty egg carton divorcee? We're the same age, why is he dating 20yo bimbos instead of an experienced, mature woman like me? Cosmo told me I'm everything every top 10 percenter wants!
maruadventurer 3y ago
Yeah, But Cosmo's batting average with stock picks is the same.
mustangfrank 3y ago
And Cosmo told her that 40 was the new 20.
V_M 3y ago
Cosmo can say anything they want, but it doesn't and can't obligate actual men to dance to their tune.
Or, somewhat less diplomatically stated, she was lied to.
Mundane_Worldliness7 Sr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago
The sad part is, if she is 43 and looking beyond looks, she’d literally be happily married with kids had she adopted such an ideology earlier in her life. Unlike men (who might never really get any chances) all women always get multiple chances at marrying good and decent partners.
mustangfrank 3y ago
Just like the site says
Women in their 20s have numerous opportunities to date the decent men they claim to want, but many reject or friendzone these men for jerks and promiscuity. She takes advantage of a good dude's kindness for attention and favors, then accuses him of being a bad person who thinks he's entitled to sex.
CisgenderPig 3y ago
Play on tutorial mode and still fail to get the good ending.
cryptothrow2 3y ago
Game journalist mode
biccat 3y ago
*journalist mode
SeparatePicture 3y ago
It's not even a tutorial it's like a damn cutscene life.
V_M 3y ago
Its like a rail shooter where all you do is press the button to move on to the next theatrical experience.
The problem is they advertised the game such that the last cutscene is white picket fence happy house full of kids and 10/10 husband no matter how she plays the game up to that point, yet in contrast, the actual last cutscene is a quiet lonely dirty apartment full of cats and empty boxed wines with 'live laugh love' stenciled on the wall. But maybe she can distract herself from the disappointment by daydreaming about travel and eating a lot, or just mainlining more cats and boxed wine.
I mean the game review industry was unanimous that she's playing the best game out there and anyone who doesn't like it has wet knees or orange man bad or some other NPC cliche.
cautionTomorrow555 3y ago
I have to press a button? THIS IS UNFAIR PATRIARCHY OPPRESSION! It is so easy dating as a woman all you have to do is put down the fork, don't be a bitch, don't have a kid, and settle down before 30 and you will date a guy out of your league. Somehow most women fail in at least one of those categories.
maruadventurer 3y ago
Dating as a woman all you have to do is put down the cell phone....
FIFY
Traksimuss 3y ago
Fail only in 1 category? What is this? year 1980?
mustangfrank 3y ago
She: I thought 2021 was the new 1980.
squeamish 3y ago
I'm a successful 45YO business owner and you couldn't pay me to be around 20 year-olds.
kidruhil 3y ago
You prefer the company of 45yo women? Lol wut
squeamish 3y ago
Good Lord, yes. The pleasure of being inside a 20-something is way more than outweighed by the pain of interacting with the outside of them the rest of the time.
Looking back on my life I think every major partner I've ever had was older than me. Most by less than a year, but my most recent ex was 6 years older. She was fantastic.
3v1ltw3rkw1nd 3y ago
you're definitely an out-lier on the bell curve bro
squeamish 3y ago
All of my friends my age are either married to or date women approximately their own age.
I can't imagine any of my friends wanting to be around a 25 year old. Just...why? Because they're nicer to look at? That's fun for about an hour.
3v1ltw3rkw1nd 3y ago
my wife is 3 years younger than me and I wifed her up when she was 25. what I meant was it's unusual for guys to marry women older than them
kidruhil 3y ago
Lol it's funeral bro
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Like it or not, if a man is given a choice between a 45 year old and a 25 year old that are otherwise identical, he's going to choose the younger model every single time.
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Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 3y ago
A) if what you say is true, you're an exception. Congratulations. I've known other such exceptions, including my wife who was hotter in her 40s than most women are in their 20s. However, the existence of exceptions don't make the generalizations any less true.
B) it appears that you "need reading comprehension", as he said "that are otherwise identical". If 2 such women existed who were otherwise identical, for what possible reason would a man choose the older one? Unless he prefers wrinkles and sags, there is no possible reason because the two are otherwise identical. And no, such a situation never happens IRL, but he was speaking hypothetically.
C) both of your comments in this thread have been removed for rule 2. Please familiarize yourself with the rules on the sidebar if you wish to remain here.
[deleted] 3y ago
Mid forties here. Sure, women in their twenties might look nice but I have NOTHING in common with them at all. Hell, I have a daughter in her twenties. I relate better to women my own age and they are uninhibited in the bedroom. "But they look older!" Yeah, and so do I.
What would I have a conversation with a 20-25 year-old about? The latest BTS single? The latest season of Love Island? Yikes!
Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 3y ago
In those situations, the older woman and the younger woman aren't otherwise identical as he said in his hypothetical scenario, are they?
I get where you're coming from. I married a woman older than myself. However, just because exceptions exist doesn't make the generalizations any less true. Had one of the younger women I was seeing been half as awesome to me as my wife was back when we were dating, then I'd have chosen one of the younger ones. Then again, had I known what I know now, I'd have never married anyone, at all, ever.
This isn't a debate sub, so this discussion is ending, but a small tip for your future use elsewhere: appeals to emotions such as "yikes" aren't going to convince anyone with a brain in his head.
car23975 3y ago
My ship set sail a while ago. I will come back in my 60s and accept a relationshit if state has a gun to my head. That's the only time. I wish them gl looking.
Tidoooo 3y ago
If hitting the wall was a person.
bananadude19 3y ago
What they describe and what they will actually tolerate are two different things.
michael1962-01 3y ago
I'm 59. I'm with a natural young fertile beauty half your age who's rich. Good chemistry - fits onto my rollercoaster life... .. . Tell me one, only one reason i should choose you? .. . . One. . Only one.
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warlocc_ 3y ago
Doesn't even matter.
She's 43 expecting the same results she had at 21. It's biologically impossible.
Impressive-Cricket-8 Founding member of FapGPT 3y ago
Oh, sure, listen to what your friends are saying. Not like that would backfire on you. Besides, how many of those who abhor settling are in a happy marriage? I'm sure they know their shit.
On the other hand, if you never settle, some poor fellow out there will be spared. So let's go with that.
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all the level-headed people who told you knew