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[42-F] approaching No Man's Land: have you ever asked yourself how difficult is to find someone normal?
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UwUkraine_RussiaChan 3y ago

Guess she should have thought of all that BEFORE she got pregnant

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beigereige 3y ago

Nothing infuriates me more than an online dating post from a woman saying “I don’t know why I’m here”

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sleepyweaselisawake Plowing his way through muck while misquoting Office Space 3y ago

Why are you infuriated? I don't know why I'm here is an admission of their lack of accountability for their own lives.

Women are saying.. I fucked all the hot dudes, went to all the parties, did all the drugs, and had all the fun.. I don't know why men I'm attracted to don't notice me anymore. I'm bored, lonely, scared, and ready to settle for someone who is good enough.

Basically, it's a massive glowing neon sign warning you to STAY THE FUCK AWAY.

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waveformcollapse 3y ago

A big red flag that people don't talk about is blaming all of your problems on someone else. It's just too big of a barrier to overcome.

The definition of a relationship is compromise. If you can't admit at least one thing that you did wrong, you're never going to be with someone.

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gfgdhj5784yu8 3y ago

She entered "No Man's Land" a long time ago..... next stop..... The Wall.

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[deleted] 3y ago

She already passed the wall

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Old_snowboarder 3y ago

42 year old single mother with young child - here's what probably happened. Early 30s and the biological clock is ticking so after a decade on the carousel she gets Bob the Beta as sperm donor and wallet. Bob thinks it's love but once she's got the kid she realises that Bob doesn't ring her bell and that even with a kid and even older she can jump back on that carousel and find The One.

She's in for a surprise.

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Bob_and_Virginia Jr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago

Hey mane, don't talk 'bout me like dat!

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DrDog09 3y ago

Chalk some of it up to a bad google translate. But still how goofy. Sounds like a throwback to the era of Peter, Paul and Mary. Same sad thoughts, same sad delusions.

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Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 3y ago

I think OP translated it himself, and her profile in the original Spanish is just that lame.

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DrDog09 3y ago

If true, that is truly sad.

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NutsLikeMelons 3y ago

She is alone, staring out over a vast untameable nothing that stretches as far as the eye can see, while the last light of day dies in the distance.

Also, there is a photo of the ocean and a sunset.

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Responsible-Insect96 3y ago

That was artistic sir. Thank you!

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JohnDax 3y ago

goddamn son!... are you a poet or something?

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scorpionandrose 3y ago

Bob Ross could not paint a better view.

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lorum_ipsum_dolor 3y ago

"And let's add a cloud. A happy cloud, without a care in the world. Meanwhile you are looking for someone to bring happiness to your world. Don't be sad, be like that cloud. Happy and free" -- Me channelling my inner Bob Ross

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Meltingintocouch 3y ago

This comment made my night

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[deleted] 3y ago

"What's missing? Oh yes. It is the Chad. The Chad was in the picture. And the Chad would go tap tap tap tap tap. Happy little Chad. Tap tap tap tap tap. But that's okay. When you make a mistake? Just put a rock over it. And remember, there are no real mistakes. Only happy accidents." -- More Bob Ross channeling

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Bob_and_Virginia Jr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago

Hahaha! Good stuff!

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NickTesla2018 3y ago

I see a sh*t storm on the horizon. Natural like diarrhea. : (

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Natuasi 3y ago

Actually, she’s been in by a dog, die alone ville, for at least 15 years now.

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SpiritualEnema Jr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago

The level of entitlement remains strong here. I don’t understand why someone would make a dating profile that reads like a disclaimer.

“I’m natural like disasters”… Yeah, I’m like a tree, I’m gonna leave.

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Enough-Staff-2976 3y ago

I'm like water, I'm going to run.

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Boar_excrement Jr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago

Claims to want facts while pining for fiction. If the man attempts to bring the facts to her attention and he will be ghosted immediately.

Not one single redeeming quality.

Sweaty, at 42 you don't have the luxury of judging the performance. You get what you deserve.

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_Nequis_ 3y ago

I like how basically she 1-2s you, mmmm.... Alright,can be relatable "im like natural disasters" wtf nope

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NBA_MSG 3y ago

Not one reason to date her in the whole profile

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Traksimuss 3y ago

Yes, she did not mention cute dog or enjoyable car in the ad.

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Overkillengine 3y ago

The more words they use, the less they say that is worthwhile.

When I see airily written bloviating screeds like this, I suddenly hear the line: "Don't try to church it up, Dirt!"

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Old_snowboarder 3y ago

Shame she doesn't have a PhD - surely that would have helped?

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ratcal 3y ago

I am not dating her and she already gave me a headache.

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jmpires 3y ago

Dating with down payment

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DontwantaFairOne 3y ago

I learned what CPTSD was last week & I’m applying it here!

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RedMeatTrinket 3y ago

Can you imagine being her little mouse (her son), growing up as a teenager? Mommy has to spend every second with you. Even the pet name for him. The poor kid is gonna have a complex.

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3-10 3y ago

My ex did that with her son and now my daughter. Friends outside of school was a no no, he could stay home and play video games or be around her.

Now he is a pot head, doubly-so, when the father that left him, he found out is married and raising 3 kids.

Saddest part is that my lawyer said I have like a 29% chance of being made primary in court. So my daughter will get abused too. At her mom’s she is left on the tablet, my house? Friends, in the neighborhood and grandparents.

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SpiritualEnema Jr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago

This is one of the reasons there are so many kids with messed up priorities and beliefs out there. They’ve been catered to and made to feel the most important their whole life.

Ask any of the gen-z young adults if they want to have kids some day, that’s a no for the vast majority, and who can blame them? These kids were often raised to be little narcissists and view parenting as more of a butler type role, with the corresponding authority. Who wants to sign up for that shit?

My ex was like this. She was always catering to the kids every conceivable whim, regardless of whether it was good for their long-term health and well-being or not. I was always having to be the voice of reason. It was constantly a source of conflict in our marriage. We finally took a husband/wife trip when our oldest was 14. The kids were very happy for us, they could tell we needed it. When the kids are excited that you’re taking a vacation without them, you know something is seriously wrong. You can probably imagine how she was without the kids to mother. No sense of self outside the role of simply being a mom. Of course I was the “selfish” one for wanting a balanced life and some sort of minimal normal adult interaction with her outside of twice a month starfish sex. The end wasn’t long after that.

I think my take away from that relationship was to date the person you’re going to marry for a long while first. She got knocked up very early on when her “diaphragm failed” about 6 months into our relationship while I was in pharmacy school. This is 100% my fault looking back. My whole family thinks she baby trapped me.

A quarter million dollars later plus 6 years of alimony for a 13 year marriage and I feel like an idiot. She, along with the court system, red pilled me hard.

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jzdelona 3y ago

Helicopter parenting is the absolute worst thing for nurturing healthy self esteem and self sufficiency, and is a nail in the coffin of happy parental relationships.

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SpiritualEnema Jr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago

I’m not prepared to date a woman a couple years older than my daughter, but I like your thought process.

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3-10 3y ago

Feel you. Woke up from surgery after a rescue op on deployment went bad. Got a Dear John phone call from my fiancé.

First girl I dated after that, slept with her and then the red flags came out. Kicked her to the curb…and then found out she lied about BC. Daughter is mine, I loathe that cunt. Mentally unstable and manipulative of everyone.

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UwUkraine_RussiaChan 3y ago

her “diaphragm failed” about 6 months into our relationship while I was in pharmacy school.

Hahaha! Oldest thot trick in the book that one!

"This guys gonna make a whooooole a lotta money, better hedge my bets!"

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SpiritualEnema Jr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago

Fuck man, I wish you the best. This is what female empowerment has gotten our society. Every relationship is disposable. For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, should be replaced by “until I run out of social media content”.

Never again will I get married, it’s just not worth it.

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3-10 3y ago

I doubt I will either. I mean, I am what a lot of women would want.

In my 40s, fit, served in the military, attended graduate school, a network engineer on my way to 6 figures, sit on the the board of a non-profit school for helping Hispanics get out of public education. I would have loved to get more kids, but in the last 3 years I haven’t met a woman I would consider marriage material.

I can even deal with a kid from a previous marriage, but good luck finding a single mom that raised her kid to not be spoiled or out of control.

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sleepyweaselisawake Plowing his way through muck while misquoting Office Space 3y ago

They're consistency amazes me. Once they become single moms and the guys who pumped and dumped them have all disappeared they're suddenly looking for something real and some kind of stability. Too bad those things didn't matter before.

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lorum_ipsum_dolor 3y ago

the guys who pumped and dumped them

I'd bet dollars for donuts that many of these older women had stable marriages they decided to nuke because they became "bored" or "unhappy". They seem to think there's some magical land of milk and honey (and Chads) waiting just outside their door during the death throes of their marriage.

Edit: Spelling

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upsidedownbackwards 3y ago

I fully blame my brother's divorce on his wife's friends poison. They fell for the "I can be a cool mom in my 30s, it's my husband that is holding me back!" thing and one by one they fell. Misery loves company so they all act like everything is great when they haven't been able to have a girls night in months because of their schedules with their kids/husbands. Plus now they have nobody to drive them and since girls nights are so rare, none of them want to DD! Sucks cuz I actually liked being DD. They'd buy me all sorts of bar food.

There's a slight chance that I'll be seeing 4 mothers in one vehicle for a DWI accident in the local paper.

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UwUkraine_RussiaChan 3y ago

Because that's what social media, celebrity gossip magazines and television tells them is going to happen. By the time they realise that it was all bullshit it's already too late and they have ruined theirs (and their husbands) lives.

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PirateDocBrown 3y ago

Clearly she needs a guy who's "special" and that she can "connect" to.

Well, she's in luck! I know a ton of such guys!

Sure, they are short, balding, and unemployed. But those things shouldn't matter to such a "clear and natural" woman like her, right?

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silly_birb_Banned 3y ago

A big euphemism for

"i did the wrong choices but i want you to fix my life"

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beigereige 3y ago

Not even confirmed if that is even ‘her’ in this photo. Could’ve grabbed it off any stock photo site. But yeah ‘authenticity’

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V_M 3y ago

"Have you ever asked yourself: how difficult it is to find someone normal ?"

They're easy enough to find, they're with their wife and kids at home, not on online dating.

Her problem is she's in an auction market, and she waited until after all the good stuff got sold off before asking, "where are all the good auction items?"

If I went to an antique auction and there were three pieces I'm interested in, and I F'd around until the items I wanted were sold off, then and only then started asking "where's my items to bid on?" I'd rightfully get laughed at.

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[deleted] 3y ago

Flairs: The Big Question, Single Mom Tears, The leftovers,

Transcription & comments:

Have you ever asked yourself: how difficult is it to find someone normal?

Yeah, I know how hard is to make Chad commit to you. Billy the baker is invisible, of course.

I'm natural like disasters!!! Clear like the water!

Bipolar, nice to hear that.

The reality is that I don't know what I'm doing here...

Yes, you do: try to find the impossible.

I guess I feel a little lonely. My time belongs to my little mouse (my son) and if I have to share it with someone, that someone has to be special.

Of course, the father isn't special anymore. I wonder how he is

My son is my world. He comes first, you after him, me and my pet. But if you are truly truly the epitome of chadness then I will break the rules.

It's hard for me to connect but when I do it.

I know it's hard to find attractive and arousing an average male because you make him pay for everything and comply all the rules you put. But when Chad appears, then you connect like crazy, no rules for him.

I do it and it's true.

We know you do, darling.

Words are only words if they are not accompanied by facts.….. if there are no facts, I'm leaving quickly.…

Of course, Chad's words never transform into facts. Ah, promises, why Chad promise the world and don't give it to you.

But there's one detail, one little lie you say here: you don't leave, he leaves you.

You don't leave chad, you just always lose him.

I'll make your ghosting and mine easier for you!!

You already do it for him, not for you, because you're in the need to explain you're leaving someone means you never had that chance.

Pitiful. Enjoy el desierto de Sahara.

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CreepyAssPenis 3y ago

Broken down & analyzed better than Madden with a telestrator

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Flashy_Glove6208 3y ago

Very good analysis.

This profile screams I screwed up my life! What now?

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comptejete 3y ago

It's worse than that:

I screwed up my life! FIX IT!

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Land_of_the_Losers the-niceguy.com 3y ago

Suggested profile headline: "Let me fail harder."

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beigereige 3y ago

“Billy the Baker” I love it.

I use ‘Brian the CVS Manager’

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[deleted] 3y ago

Happy cake day!

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beigereige 3y ago

Thank you!

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deckran 3y ago

She seems like one of those "the universe is going to fix my life" girls. I guess magical space man is going to fall from the sky and give her that "special" connection even though she admits she's hard to connect with and has no time to get to know someone because of the kid. Gotta wonder if she even thought this through for more than a sec.

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Impressive-Cricket-8 Founding member of FapGPT 3y ago

She seems like one of those "the universe is going to fix my life" girls.

All she needs to do is find a black hole and jump right in.

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reignoferror00 3y ago

"Have you ever asked yourself: how difficult it is to find someone normal ?"

Great opening sentence for your thesis! - states your topic and conveys what you're going to provide about your topic. While you never explicitly define what normal is, you display both in your language, your priorities, and both what you say and don't say how far away from an idealized normal YOU are. At least natural disasters usually have an ending time frame; you're a disaster that will continue to be one for your whole existence.

You'll try to latch onto someone stable and then pull him down and drown him with your unrealistic expectations, instability, and the chaos that your crave. While you'll fully take advantage of and take for granted any financial stability he has, you'll be more and more repulsed by the personality that accompanies it.

If you were a cereal would you be the one flogged by Tony the Tiger or a bee? Can't decide which you are more of - something flakey or something nutty.

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hornetsfalcons12 Sr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago

“How difficult it is to find someone normal!” /normal man messages her “Sorry your job isn’t high income enough, and you’re not tall enough”

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