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m4t31 6y ago
There was someone saying avoid aluminium deodorants. Can someone recommend some good ones aluminium free? I have an alum stone crystal but I keep reading it also has aluminium in it. Are baking soda ones OK to use?
Skyhawk_And_Skyhead 6y ago
Has anyone ever had a plate or LTR leave to be with a Beta Provider?
FirstNamesMusic 6y ago
I actually believe Christianity and TRP can go alongside one another. Being a Christian actually makes it easier to be Alpha.
tbu987 6y ago
I want to improve myself when im waiting in the train to uni for 1 hour everyday there and back. Anyone got some things i can do besides reading books?
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AreYouChetAtThisGame 6y ago
So I am 19 and live with my parents atm, the only thing really going for me atm is College, I am gonna try to get a GF, ive read a few posts here on strategy and frame amongst other things, my main question though is what are the best type of settings to meet girls at ?
Gaming Conventions ?
Church ?
Clubs ?
I am new to this, I dont want to end up being 25 and living with my parents single, is it just a matter of getting out more ?
[deleted] 6y ago
Does trp work differently depending on how attractive you are?
I pretty much maxed my looks and was still rated only a 6.5/10. Women are not responsive to me at all and talking to them they usually just seem flustered and want me to go away. Tinder is an option but in 3 months I only got 1 lay. I honestly get more sex going for relationships than being single.
FUCK_YEA_GLITTER 6y ago
Nothing changes but obviously if you are more attractive, more people will want you. Simple economics on that one. Lift. There's always something else you can do with your looks to improve, even if it is a small improvement. LIFT.
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Maxed natty. I have considered doing S
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FUCK_YEA_GLITTER 6y ago
Find someone cause you fucked this one up. You know why.
wickeddy 6y ago
Hi TRP , i have problem to express my idea when talking like i cant find proper words or just forget them , for example i watched some movie and want to retell in my words but cant without - uuuh , oohh , there was uuh and etc. I googled but only tips i got to read more . Is there any books or blogs with good advices? Sorry for bad english im russian
m4t31 6y ago
Does this happen when you speak russian or english? I think in both cases read more of anything. Reading improves your vocabulary and optimizes it
Ananonguy88 6y ago
Need tips on how to proceed with a good dominant foreplay, creating mood and tension. Trying to avoid blue pill advice so I'm asking here first.
darchetype 6y ago
You're in control, you set the pace, you do what you want. Fuck mood and tension, initiate the kiss and get rough, grope that ass and those breasts. Be wild, fast, and slobbery with her for a bit, then randomly throttle back instantly, hold her face in your hands and stare into her eyes for a few seconds (they love this gay disney shit, and frankly I do, too). Then get right back into it. Keep her on her toes.
You own her right now and you're gonna make all her movements for her. Pull her close to you, keep groping her good parts, lift her up onto your dining table and make out there for a bit. Use those gym gains and carry her into your room, throw her on your bed. Keep being rough. No scratching, but hard groping. She has a neck, some ears, and a pair of nipples for you to suck on. Do that.
Interrogate her once or twice, ask if she's been a bad girl. Otherwise, don't say a god damn word this entire time. She should be dripping wet. If not, a little flicking of the bean should get her there. Have her suck your dick then finish the job.
luckycharm343 6y ago
Hey for lifting does anyone have advice for gaining weight faster? I'm having trouble eating a lot of calories unless I eat a ton of junk food. Any tips appreciated
LadyXon 6y ago
Have a fat based, instead of carb based, diet. Something like a 20:20:60 split, for instance. A gram of fat contains 9 calories, whereas a gram of carbs contains 4 calories. Consuming the same volume of food, therefore, you'll ingest more calories.
Stick to meat, fish, nuts, avocados, seeds etc. Avoided processed meats/vegetable oils/trans fats.
Autisticus 6y ago
I'm still quite new to all of this. I lurk more than I contribute- too stuck to Tomassi's Buffers.
Can anyone help provide some insight into girls who seem to take a long time before they're attracted to someone? I knew this girl who had a guy in her life for 8 months before she went out with him. For better or worse, that's all I know about those two.
How did that happen? Why after 8 months? What's the psychology behind that? Dick in a glass case? I mean, in hindsight, there could be any number of factors in play behind the scenes. Why do some girls take a long time to become attracted?
womans_algorithm 6y ago
Women fall in love very slow, compared to men. It takes months for a woman to fall in love in genuine way.
shutupitsunique 6y ago
I lost a street fight yesterday. My girl says that I've become cold. Should I tell her why I'm like this or just keep it to myself?
franmonkey 6y ago
Do u guys know any cool system to get a new habit or to increase productivity.im currently doing one where u just spend 25min on doing it so that it's easier to do in smaller chunks.
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BlakTheory 6y ago
How to get rid of my inner voice? I wanted to socialize myself but my inner voice won't let me do. I tried not to listen to this voice but I can't so please anyone help me... I feel like I'm living in my head all the time.
sparks_mandrill 6y ago
I k ow this is really broad, but is there a decent resource on just how to talk to women, like the actual dialogue? I don't struggle so much with approaching, but I feel like I can't just develop a conversation with a pure stranger. If we have some something in common, like attending a concert or a colleague, I can typically open without issue.
A good example was today. I got a flu shot and the nurse was pretty cute... What do I even say to that broad to open up dialogue?
MrEscher 6y ago
dale carnegies book, how to gain friends and influence.
It talks not about game, but basically how to get people to like you.
most people enjoy talking about things that interest them, their accomplishments etc.
someone with good game though knows how to manipulate the situation so that they are not the ones divulging the information, it's the other person. It's a subtle way for the other person to demonstrate their value to you, and also gives you an opening into who they are; without foregoing your air of mystery. Keeping yourself gaurded forcing them to be more engaged and commit more resources to you if they want your time.
red-arctic-tern 6y ago
There is not. Talk about things that you love and the girl will be in awe.
Tell the nurse an observation that interests you. Was her hair nice? Did she look tired? Did her hands shake? Was her desk messy?
Ackcell 6y ago
I remember reading about a group of men in ancient times who swore off women and spent all their time on self-improvement and making themselves more beautiful.
But I can't for the life of me remember where I read it or where these men existed. I think I read it here on TRP and that it was from an ancient Greek epic or something like that. But I'm not sure.
Please help me remember. Thanks!
red-arctic-tern 6y ago
This doesn't make sense. A man who doesn't have sex gets depressed.
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30fretibanezguy 6y ago
I see conflicted advice... look at the asses in the gym or not?
Ackcell 6y ago
glance, don't stare. unless you're planning on making a move, in which case tread lightly. or you know, focus on your workout
30fretibanezguy 6y ago
Alright sound. I've been making a point of not looking but you get other red pillers saying that you stink of shame if you're obviously avoiding booty, which is no doubt true.
banjew 6y ago
Hi All. I'm 38 and have a extremely strong form of oneitis. It's actually a psychological condition called limerence, and it usually last decades. There are some subreddits here about this disease but they are full of blue-pills.
Apart from that, I'm quite red-pilled, no problem picking up girls, lift like mad, in fact the limerence helps to don't give a fuck about any and all girls. Problem is, this shit is hard. I'm constantly depressed, got into trouble with police for stalking, got some suicide attempts when I was younger, etc. Imagine oneitis with some girl for years and years, no matter how many girls do you fuck or plate (and believe me, I live in a 3rd world country and fuck a lot, didn't help a bit).
Question is, is any of you having this problem? how do you cope with this? mind you, this is not regular oneitis. If you didn't had it, then you don't know how it's like. If you have or had it, I would like to hear experiences from you, as this condition currently has no known cure.
FAT_BOSMA 6y ago
Is making a decent amount of money important in terms of being Red pilled.
MrEscher 6y ago
unfortunately yes.
you can not put up with BS, true.
but weather women want to admit it or not, money is important because it buys opportunity and experience.
Nobody wants to eat at Wendys all day and go to the museum.
FAT_BOSMA 6y ago
Understood, the reason I asked this question is because I'm a broke college student, and the only way I know to make money is in the streets but I don't want to make money illegally. I don't know what to do to make money. I'm applying to jobs but my city only has full time, and a terrible job market. How would I be able to make money, on my own? Tl;dr I need to make money legally, but can't find a way.
MrEscher 6y ago
well don't feel too bad, if you're broke and in college that's how it's supposed to be.
as a man you have to earn everything in this world, all the more reason to be selective with how/who you spend that resource (time) on.
invest in yourself. Get a workstudy job, get a job at mcdonalds.
just get some income no matter how small, and save that money. Then reinvest in something that you can compound.
but more importantly get some skills. That's what this time in your life is about, developing yourself. With that comes making mistakes, and making sacrifices.
I was where you were once. By no means am I rolling in the dough/pussy now. It's been about 5 years since I graduated, 9 years since I was a freshmen.
Looking back I can say: 1) it's ok if you're a broke college student. Most people in college are broke, unless they have wealthy parents. If you are mega broke like I was, this is going to be hard to swallow; but you're going to miss out on some (not all) pussy. But that's ok because this is just 4 years of your life. Better to work hard now for a short amount of time, to reap the rewards for years down the line. Believe me it's no fun watching your college buddies rolling in the computer science dough, while you're working social services cuz you were busy selling pot and not giving a fuck about your future because it was all about sticking your cock in whatever you could.
Remember: You will always lose money chasing bitches, but you will NEVER lose bitches chasing money.
2) Don't go the get it quick (illegal) route, especially if you're in college. I had friends who got it quick flipping birds and diesel after and during college. They got arrested, now they have to do that in order to make money cuz they're degree isn't worth shit due to felony. Also going this route you'll miss out on developing skills/yourself. Go study communications/marketing, computer science, chemical engineering etc.
3) if you have a hustle mentality why not sell things online?
4) you can do freelance work on websites, teaching english online, transcribing documents, working with excel. It's all there you just have to find it.
You're just starting your journey bro, the choices you make now are hella important but don't determine your life. You determine your life. Smart people focus on growing from their mistakes, dumb people focus on blaming people/situations for their mistakes.
learn -> grow -> thrive
FAT_BOSMA 6y ago
You're completely right. I kept thinking that I was expected to make a lot of money while in college. Thanks for taking the time to respond. I'm gonna keep working hard.
Krebota 6y ago
So I haven't been here very long but I find it very interesting. Lately though I've heard people mentioning the Blue Pill. I was wondering what this is, on its own as well as compared to TRP? Thanks in advance
LadyXon 6y ago
Blue Pill thinking refers to conventional, feminist narratives surrounding mating and sexual relations.
The Blue Pill subreddit claims to satirise the Red Pill.
And The Red Pill uses evolutionary psychology to inform positive, effective sexual strategy for men.
CallMeHaseo 6y ago
Why do most bluepilled people give shitty advice that's never in your best interest?
the_green_death 6y ago
Its because Viagra can alter your vision. That's why pilots can't take it.
bsutansalt 6y ago
It's a combination of a lot of reasons. The ones that jump right out at me are:
5t3fan0 6y ago
bad advice comes from ignorance or malice, or both
seaguy87 6y ago
Because they operate in a reality in which everything moves towards sustaining the bluepill world/illusion.
redpillbanana 6y ago
Two possible reasons:
bTHE66 6y ago
Because they live in their own frame. That is the average frame. They have found out that that is what works best (for them) and they actually try to help you to be like that. And these people might be your dear relatives who don't want to ill advice you. Its just how they are. Why do you want to go and seek advice from them?
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RedPillFreedom 6y ago
When you keep repeating the status quo there is no liability placed on their shoulders for your mistakes.
Scymnus 6y ago
Because giving good advice usually involves telling the person you're advising some harsh truths. Bluepills don't want to offend anyone.
bornredd 6y ago
Aka "nice" instead of actually helpful.
[deleted] 6y ago
To validate their own Life Choices.
Don't listen to losers on how to win at life
alienfromjupiter007 6y ago
How do you recognize winners? In the mid twenties like me, it's hard to evaluate if a person is a winner or not. Any ideas?
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Simple. Keep your eyes open for people excelling at things you want to excel at.
For example, don't take dietary advice from fatass land whales.
Do take advice from people who are in great physical shape.
But question everything and trust no one.
alienfromjupiter007 6y ago
Keep your eyes open for people excelling at things you want to excel at.
I like this one.
[deleted] 6y ago
I have an extremely blue pill group of friends. These are my very close friends, and ditching them is not an option.
As an example, this past weekend, my best friend and his wife went out to eat with my girlfriend and I. I told my girlfriend to eat up, because she's a twig. My best friend and his wife told me I was being condescending to my girlfriend. Later, I used the word "chick" in a sentence to describe a woman we all know. My best friend and his wife said the term "chick" is offensive to women.
My whole friend group is like this, unfortunately. Maximum political correctness at all times, especially when it comes to women. Of course, all of my buddies' relationships are controlled by the woman.
I need advise for dealing with the blue pill tendencies of my buddies. Again, these are my best friends, and we're all really close, so ditching them is off the table.
the_green_death 6y ago
Are you an Uber driver? You seem like an Uber driver.
usedsparingly 6y ago
Speak like everyone, think for yourself
Pedrao420 6y ago
I came here to writhe the same forsaken words you wrote man !
"I have an extremely blue pill group of friends."
Except I can´t call them friends.
I decided to go on lone wolf mode. Kind of. I have a very nice girlfriend and her family that I can withstand, making me sort of the alpha, except I don´t want to spend my money with them.(just my girl)
5t3fan0 6y ago
be careful bro, misery loves company and works by osmosis.... if your frame has cracks they will change you.
-law10- infection, avoid the unhappy and unlucky
Duetuet 6y ago
'You are the average of the five people you most associate with'
Pedrao420 6y ago
Your friends have girlfriends. I can´t even call my peers "friends" cause they are like, negative, uncounsious, taking a nice blue pill for breakfast and for lunch. Virgins literally, and I can´t be related to them.
poopsicle88 6y ago
Act red pill and watch all their wives get wet for you, while they pretend like they can't stand you
alienfromjupiter007 6y ago
How would you recognize wives getting wet?
[deleted] 6y ago
Dude, I would never do anything with my friend's wives.
poopsicle88 6y ago
Me neither. Cause that's a dick move. But I've definitely noticed friends girls eyeing me appreciatively. Doesn't mean either one of us will ever act on it we just recognize that it's animal shit.
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[deleted] 6y ago
Though I'm not a TRP guru, since I swallowed the pill at the start of 2017, I feel I can help with this because I can certainly empathize with your unwillingness to ditch them. It shows loyalty which, in my estimation at least, is a virtuous trait.
There will never be a shortage of people who disagree with you and who will try to micromanage the things you say to make you fit more into their reality. Likewise, from your end, you can lead the horse to the waterhole but you cannot force it to drink.
The way I deal with this situation, as I myself encounter this fairly often (though I'm blessed with plenty of friends who are natural Alpha's who've never heard of TRP) is simply to wear a shit-eating grin while saying the things you -know- are going to cause a stir among the blue-pilled. Which, in my experience since swallowing the pill, is almost everything. Its a good way to internalize amused mastery, I find. One thing this way of being and also a good amount of therapy has taught me is that people are not as preoccupied with you and your thoughts as you may think they are. Therefore, do the things you do as long as you make them feel good.
Be comfortable being the natural contrarian which you already are by default since swallowing the pill. Have fun being one, because it could get frustrating and lonely -very- quick if you don't.
alienfromjupiter007 6y ago
I can relate to the loyaly angle. I feel the same towards my friends. Even though I recognize that people (not just women) can buy your loyalty by using nice words and appreciating you, it's difficult to break that conditioning and make sure that your loyalty is not in exchange for a few sweet words.
How would you deal with that?
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Loyalty isn't bought, it's either earned or given freely. If it can be bought, it implies that the highest bidder has a right to it which makes it lose its intrinsic value.
A few sweet words mean nothing if there is no action behind them. This relatively obvious realization made me break the conditioning you mentioned.
Ultimately, your loyalty is a resource that you should feel in control of at all times. Like with all resources, its value comes from scarcity and from clever distribution. A good question to ask yourself: "What am I getting out of loyalty towards this particular person, company, institution, etc."
I admit that its a fine line to walk between personal gain and sticking to your guns when it comes to loyalty. After all, staying loyal despite a lack of returns -could- mean that you will see them eventually, and loyalty means nothing if it can switch at any given time. I would say if this is the case, however, the true Red Pilled man would voice his dissatisfaction, taking control of seeing his investment returned to him. If that avails to nothing, that is the time to consider reinvesting your loyalty into more fertile 'markets' so to speak.
Hope that helped.
Snufek 6y ago
Nexting is never off the table. You just have to consider the costs.
juliusstreicher 6y ago
Tell them how fucking rude they are. You don't correct their swinish behavior, and they need to learn some manners.
MrKaay 6y ago
Dont change nothing for them let them adapt to you.
RedPillFreedom 6y ago
And I thought my friend group was bad. Overtime they could adapt and just understand this is who you are. But, unfortunately people like to place you into boxes so they do not have to reevaluate you.
When you start to behave out of the box they place you back into the box. To break free from the box is usually a difficult task. That is why people recommend and just find another group of like-minded individuals that will support you on your journey. Otherwise you can waste a lot of time and energy trying to break out of the box.
My strategy to breaking out of the box was keep a distance. Eventually when they hang out with you they notice you're different because you are making changes. And to keep up with those changes they have to reevaluate you and realize their original perception of you which was the box is not applicable anymore. Because you are in motion.
[deleted] 6y ago
You've answered your own question, you made your choice and you're not happy with the results. I don't see the issue here. If you don't want to deal with blue pill bullshit then don't deal with them. Simple
Deal with the consequences and quit your bitching
bTHE66 6y ago
anyone who embarrasses (or makes you conscious of yourself in a negative way) in a company is not a friend.
[deleted] 6y ago
Im sorry to hear that. That sounds awful your friend sounds like a complete pussy. I would say ditch your friend but all of your best friends are really like this? ‘Chick’ is offensive?
Tarmyniatur 6y ago
Sounds like they are a negative influence in your journey.
the_green_death 6y ago
Like spam. If you go traveling don't take spam. It will just bring out the she demons
whatsthisgarg 6y ago
The answers you're getting so far are off the mark judging from your conditions. You can keep your friends, they aren't necessarily a negative influence.
You didn't say anything about how you REACT. I can get away with worse shit than you are describing just by laughing it off or even going further.
Recently, I pointed out that only FEMALE mosquitos bite, and then said only the females are dangerous, that's just like a woman. Eye-rolls and not-entirely-disgusted laughs ensued.
Or, Women drivers, no survivors! My wife laughed and said that is so beneath you. I said women drivers are beneath me.
The important thing is these people can decide to believe that you don't really think that if they want to. I really don't care what they think.
the_green_death 6y ago
Don't forget that women have velocoraptor DNA
[deleted] 6y ago
This is excellent advice, and it's what I'm gonna roll with moving forward. Thanks.
whatsthisgarg 6y ago
Yeah man. Just give them the oh I doan really think that lol look
PillTheRed 6y ago
Ditching them for better, more positive, like minded people is an option. You just want to stay in your comfort zone. Saying that just makes me think you are very young and haven't yet seen friends come and go. It's called life. If you associate with people like that, they will run off on you and bring you down. You want to be around people who add to your life and push you to improve.
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I've been best friends with this guy since middle school and I'm 28. I was the best man at his wedding two years ago. I'm telling you, ditching my friends is not an option, nor do I want to. They do not bring me down, generally. They're just blue pilled to the max.
DaboclesTheGreat 6y ago
The only thing you can do is elevate yourself above their judgements. Use humor. Gently jab back. "I can't say 'chick' in front of you guys? Even if I make her call me a 'rotten dick fagboy'? Cause that's what I'm into."
But also, you dont have to hang out with the same people for every event and everything you do. Branch out. Meet new people. You need this group of friends, sure, they're your past. But its sounding like you also need another group of friends who see the world closer to the way you see it now.
AyeAmScottishYaCunt 6y ago
This goes one of 2 ways then:
You continue you speak and act much less PC than your friends and their missus. They continue attempting to correct you and you continue to ignore them for it. The wife's begin turning their men against you, your friends begin spending less time with you and ultimately your ostracised from the group
You think you'd be the first person to lose friends you're practically brothers with, known all your lives, been through hell and back all because the wives plot against you? You definitely won't be. The wives have too much power over their husbands, they could get them to abandon you and delete you from their lives like it was child's play. Don't let yourself get fooled. Your loyalty does not extend both ways when a pissed off liberal pc brainwashed wife intervenes.
Get more friends, don't ditch your existing ones completely. But you need new friends and social groups so you don't have to rely on your current ones so much.
the_green_death 6y ago
It's the chemtrails. They make lady parts radioactive snd scary.
alienfromjupiter007 6y ago
What's PC? And how do you evaluate that wives have too much power over their husbands?
AyeAmScottishYaCunt 6y ago
Politically correct.
I hope that second one is a joke...
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Nordicprince 6y ago
I'm 20 years old, I've now been in college for about a month and half, and the issue I'm having is finding a good friend group. I'm army reserves, and though my active duty training was shitty at times, being surrounded by my "brothers" was great, and really did help my mental state. Now that I'm back to mostly being a civilian, I know that I'm going to be a better version of myself if I have a strong, driven friend group. I'm extroverted, I talk with a bunch of people but there's no one I've found who I'd really want to be better friends with. Anyone have any idea as to what I could do to find red pill minded friends?
B-Dubb8 6y ago
Not a question but a shit post.
I hate how this works. I hate how the more into a girl I am the less the chance I have of having her. I hate that I have to pretend not to be all about her just to keep her interested. I hate how she was initially interested in me alot and then I managed to fuck it up because I liked her alot. I hate that I have to next her instead of wait around for something that might happen but we all know that's not how this works. It's tough boys.
Pedrao420 6y ago
Buckle Up soldier. No one is giving up on my watch.
Stop hating the game, hate the players. Hate the guys that make no effort and have girs making the things you wait to happen, happen. Use that hate to build you fucking muscles. I bet you a punch in the face you don´t lift.
5t3fan0 6y ago
its called "anger phase" for a reason... it's tough bro, but it is what it is. peace
setsuna0 6y ago
It's tough but it's a push and pull game. You gotta be caught up in your life. I noticed once I sent 3 texts it was over. That alone seems like too much lately.
You gotta show interest but not too much. It kinda sucks. But if you're busy it won't bother you. Find some time to do something else too
setsuna0 6y ago
What's a weird fetish you guys have encountered? One girl wanted me to pee on her lmao I was R Kelly that day
olakrak 6y ago
How do I get rid of this intense need to brag about my accomplishments? Every time I do something worth mentioning the first thing my mind does is imagining me saying it to people and I don’t want to do it for them, I want to do it for me.
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Realize that your goals and your achievements are precious valuable coins only to be traded for the something of equal or greater value. It's not something to just be thrown away freely like it's worth nothing.
Mystery is the coin of the realm with women
red-arctic-tern 6y ago
Understand that any kind of bragging is a turn off. Revealing things slowly is better.
[deleted] 6y ago
Accomplish more. Once you accomplish enough, it will be tiring to brag about it... because others will brag for you enough as it is.
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[deleted] 6y ago
I have the same problem. Honestly, I don't have a perfect solution, but what's working for me is realizing that this is wrong, and stop thinking about it. Brains get used to it over time and you will doing it.
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NotDeadJustBroken 6y ago
What is the number one thing that gave you the most boost in confidence?
the_green_death 6y ago
Respecting people regardless of gender...
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HumanSockPuppet 6y ago
Experience. But you don't get experience without trying.
That means you're going to have to try this stuff as a complete newb, without reference experience to guide you, and accept that failure will come. This is the biggest psychological hurdle to overcome.
Do it, or stagnate. Those are your only choices.
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Replacing the words I can't with I will
Also liberal use of the word no
JuicySosa300 6y ago
For me, I felt like I had a poor time connecting with people which made me think there was a reason people didn't like me. Once I made the effort to have some good friends, I felt a lot better about myself.
WolfofAnarchy 6y ago
Realizing I actually look good and that that voice in the back of my head shitting all over me is wrong
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red-arctic-tern 6y ago
As much as I hate it, validation from others. Boss, women, friends.
tacko276 6y ago
"True confidence comes only with preparation." Larry Bird Pitting in the work and seeing the results. Weather its work, gym or girls,That's what does it for me
briskestbrisket 6y ago
Larry bird knows what the fucks up
NotDeadJustBroken 6y ago
Damn, I’ve never read or heard this quote before but boy did it really made me think.
RP_Br3 6y ago
My first MMA match. My gym pretty much only consists of older guys with at least 30lbs on me so I was used to getting ragdolled by stronger and more skilled opponents.
Fight ended early in the first. Showcased that all work I put in and all the discomfort was worth it
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TRP_MushaShugyo 6y ago
Finally getting the kind of success with women unimaginable prior to finding TRP.
alienfromjupiter007 6y ago
Did TRP actually work for you? Any stories?
SideWindStoic 6y ago
When I spent nights with three different girls in 5 days without the feeling that I had actually tried at all. I was just having fun those nights and everything really just happened without any effort.
NotDeadJustBroken 6y ago
Nice bro! I’m working on myself to get on that level.
the_green_death 6y ago
You just have to get the basic-bro package. Contact admin. I bet you can get a discount on Groupon.
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briskestbrisket 6y ago
I understand it to be BP behavior to validate women off the get go and validate them freely. But how does a RP go about giving a sincere compliment? Never? Sparingly? Wrapped up inside of a neg? Is being nice in any circumstance just totally off limits for RP men?
red-arctic-tern 6y ago
"I like your picture. You used to be cute." "Why do you give me that cute smile? You trying to seduce me?" "Come here, I want to feel that nice butt of yours.
Nordicprince 6y ago
I'm 20 years old, I've now been in college for about a month and half, and the issue I'm having is finding a good friend group. I'm army reserves, and though my active duty training was shitty at times, being surrounded by my "brothers" was great, and really did help my mental state. Now that I'm back to mostly being a civilian, I know that I'm going to be a better version of myself if I have a strong, driven friend group. I'm extroverted, I talk with a bunch of people but there's no one I've found who I'd really want to be better friends with. Anyone have any idea as to what I could do to find red pill minded friends?
cherryCanSuckMyDick 6y ago
What would I need to determine if two brothers were generically related (same parents or only half brothers) and what would the approximate cost of genetic testing be? Could it be done with only hair samples from each?
franmonkey 6y ago
Ancestry DNA uses just spit and also gives you your genetic background
whatsthisgarg 6y ago
I really, really want to know the story that motivated this question. Either here or make a post about it.
cherryCanSuckMyDick 6y ago
not much of a story, and its too personally revealing. I have no proof of any kind, just suspicions
whatsthisgarg 6y ago
Those kind of doubts can suck, for sure. At least tell me which side of the doubt you're on!
I have 4 siblings, and we all look COMPLETELY different, but I at least looked almost exactly like my dad, so I knew I was good.
Try 23 and me or whatever it's called. I think you just send in a inner cheek swab.
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How do you deal with/reply to girls who start taking about having kids, settling down etc. at initial stages of dating? Happened with me quite a few times.
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SocietalEngineering 6y ago
You are being seen as beta bucks.
Increase aggression by 40% and call me in the morning.
alienfromjupiter007 6y ago
How do you increase aggression? Any examples?
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alienfromjupiter007 6y ago
Doesn't this sound creepy? Almost violating a person's boundary? Coercion?
SocietalEngineering 6y ago
Use your judgement, obviously. If it's too much, it's too much.
No amount of advice given here is going to teach you how to read women's emotions and comfort levels. You need to learn that from practice.
theoracleofbromaha 6y ago
How do I deal with a HB8 that is a single mom definitely alpha widow and still gets hit on by high SMV men? I try to use my frame and equal SMV but she is reliving her glory days and still thinks she can get Chad because of fucking Instagram validation.
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Work_In_Progress92 6y ago
Why are you hung up on this one?
Abundance motherfucka, abundance.
theoracleofbromaha 6y ago
I want to bang her but your fucking right.
JaXan_27 6y ago
When you're in a slump how do you get out of it? On the journey to gain discipline there must have been times where you didn't feel like it, otherwise I don't think it could be called a journey, so how did you get yourself back on track?
aolders 6y ago
Lifting: How long did it take You until women generally were positively affected/impressed by your muscles?
the_green_death 6y ago
Well, it's all in how you prepare them. Be sure to clean them properly and remove their beards. Next sautee in olive oil, white wine, garlic, scallions, and fresh tomatoes. They will appreciate the effort and enjoy the meal
TheSmashingPumpkinss 6y ago
It's possible to look good in 3 months in a shirt if you bulk - however you'll look pretty doughy without one. Cut for a month and although you'll look smaller in a shirt, but better than 80% of males without one
red-arctic-tern 6y ago
Women only like your muscles when they are already attracted to you.
Tarmyniatur 6y ago
Random women? 6-9 months.
The caliber of women I wanted? 2 years I think. Maybe 3.
1v1crown 6y ago
Exactly. There are no shortcuts.
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Morphs_ 6y ago
"If I drink something without alcohol they can assess me like a child."
Sounds like a weak frame. You can also rock a glass of water and be proud of that very fact, not caring what other people think. You don't owe anyone an explanation.
red-arctic-tern 6y ago
Drink non alcoholoc drinks. They are cheaper and no one can tell the difference.
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Get hobbies and meet people there. I joined singing and dance lessons, met more than 100 people there.
Laruss 6y ago
How do you internalize Red Pill theory so it shows in your daily actions naturally? Apart from going out socialising a lot more what other steps can you take?
the_green_death 6y ago
Frosted tips worked for me. Plus I now try to talk about CrossFit as much as possible. I don't do CrossFit but bitches don't know. They're too busy checking out my sick fade.
AnjaJutta 6y ago
clean your diet and systematise your workout. Learn how to take care of yourself without the help of others (cook healthy, clean your self/clothes) e.t.c
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Through time and repetition. You internalize shit you're doing every single day.
DamiensLust 6y ago
I've only been actively trying to practice RP in my daily life for a month, but I learnt about the whole alpha/beta dynamic, read "The Game" and David DeAngelo and the Book of Pook when I was 17 (24 now) and I've seen those fundamental truths about women play themselves out time and time and time again. If you see it confirmed for a significant period of time in your daily life it will start fundamentally changing how you see the world and male-female interaction, without you actually having to do anything. But don't make that same mistake I did - apply the fuckin self-improvement starting yesterday. Knowledge that's not applied is useless.
RedPillFreedom 6y ago
Experience
Do it Everyday... It really adds up. Till the moment, you look in the mirror and are awestruck by the change.
Peter_B_Long 6y ago
Improve your overall life every day in any way that TRP suggests. Not just socializing / practicing game, but lifting, dieting (I suggest IF), reading, learning skills, improving your looks, etc.
Basically, whatever you read on TRP you want to keep in mind as you're going through your day. Just saw your HB10 co-worker get a slap on the wrist for a fuck up that you would've gotten fired for? Well now you know it's halo effect / pussy pass. TRP gives you the lens, and all you have to do is watch the world with them.
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AlphaGrad 6y ago
Is this diet advice legit?
MrOpppo 6y ago
Dieting is simple; just make sure at the end of the day that your caloric intake is less than your basal metabolic rate (BMR) which is the least amount of energy (in calories) that a person needs to keep the body functioning at rest. If you want to gain weight, just make sure you eat more than your BMR.
It doesn't matter what kind of food you eat if you're looking to just lose weight. Although eating healthier foods will make you feel much better than eating McDonald's or some other garbage like that.
tacko276 6y ago
Im hatting my job right now and im burnt out. how do you guys deal ?
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clammastak 6y ago
look for a new job. also, the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
tacko276 6y ago
Starting up a business on the side. Confuses crossed. I think I just wanna work when where and how I want. The grass definitely isn't greener. I think I just want out of the rat race But don't we all ......
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You are burnt out and you started a side business? Doesn't seem logical to me.
tacko276 6y ago
I hear ya. But I love the side buis and hoping I will turn into my primary source of income
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I see. Hope it turns out as you want it! I admit I don't know much about jobs, but can you ask your boss to give you different tasks or that you change your position in a company? Something to get your life more diverse. Just a thought though.
jefferson_ 6y ago
Views on actually wanting an LTR? I feel like I'm in the right place for one.
What's the RP attitude in regards to this? Specifically upgrading a plate to main to LTR?
Bent6789 6y ago
I got in to an LTR a while ago with what I suppose is a plate. I hadn't heard of red pill back then so didn't realise. Since finding and looking in to TRP I've come to a realisation that there a no men more equipped for a relationship than a fully developed red piller. a red piller gets the important facts of female behaviour and what a man needs to be to be successful in life and a relationship. But I mean fully developed red piller. Not in the first finding of RP, not deep down still blue pill and definitely not the anger phase. So if your not there keep working on yourself. The most important thing is to be happy without a LTR. Know that you are good enough to exist by yourself. Know that you can get woman and know puss is not the only thing in life. If you tick all these boxes go ahead. As much as everyone rips them here LTRs can be good. Whatever you do though keep working on yourself. Always. We can always make ourselves better. And if you get an LTR keep going and above all make sure you keep giving her tingles.
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foggydew42 6y ago
Don't actively pursue an LTR. You can only be open to the possibility of one.
There is some fuzziness to this because a majority of advice here will say to plate for 6 months before LTR. But most girls worthy of an LTR won't be willing to be a side piece for 6 months.
That said if you think you want to upgrade your plate go for it. Just be very aware that an LTR is much more difficult to maintain than a plate who you can next whenever you please.
jefferson_ 6y ago
Facts, thanks for your comment!
Compeliminator 6y ago
can someone recommend a good strength training routine for a 53 year old guy. i have some inflammation in my left elbow and right shoulder . i still train fairly heavy but ive been giving myself more time to recover between exercises like bench press that aggravate these joints .right now im going 3 times a week .
Salted_Pretzel 6y ago
How does one meet like minded people? Or like people with similar goals. It would be cool to find and meet people in similar situations.
Peter_B_Long 6y ago
You find them along the way, you don't go looking for them in the streets. You go to the gym and you end up meeting other bros with the same goals as you, because you're already doing the same thing. Meeting people at concerts who like the same music as you because you're at the same concert. Get it?
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MrKaay 6y ago
Use your imagination, visualize how you want the interview to go (in detail), so when you enter the interview you will feel more confident becuase in your mind you have already done the interview. This is becuase your brain cant tell the differance between imagination and reality.
YamanekoBlues 6y ago
First: Realize that you ultimately don't decide whether you get this job. You could ace the interview, be exactly what they are looking for......and some executive's son might just be graduating and need a job. He'll get in before you, despite being less qualified. Get comfortable with that. Now, stop thinking about it.
Second: What you can control is how you prepare. You have 100% control over planning, memorizing, and practicing how you present yourself and your qualifications in the interview. This is where you should focus all of your energy. Your goal should now be reframed from "My goal is to get this job" to "My goal is to show these interviewers that I am the perfect person for this job." From a goal you had only partial control over, to a goal that you have 100% control over. Notice that, by achieving your rephrased goal, you are also giving yourself the best chance to get the job.
Third: If you don't get the job, don't worry about it. It's not part of your path, or your fate. Not worth even thinking about anymore. Rinse your hands of the mess and find a new opportunity. Repeat.
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Look up the STAR method for interviews. Best advice I ever got.
Also, if given the chance to use the restroom during the interview, take it. Use it to check your appearance.
The-os2 6y ago
Try to find out who you'll be talking to. Depending on your job, they might've authored papers or anything of the like. Dropping a hint that you read their work (or the equivalent of it), helps.
tacko276 6y ago
Be prepared. Know the job description and know the company. In your head Make it a conversation more than an interview
sirfuckboysupreme 6y ago
Also do your research on the company: who's their biggest customer, what technology do they use, what percentage of the company is owned by other companies. Show you put in some effort!
Orsick 6y ago
Your dream, life goal, journey, whatever you call, how did you manage to find it? For the most part of my life I've just followed the stream and I am finding very hard to find it, or when I think I have I'm not sure if it really is what I want to strive for (wich incline me to believe it isn't.). How you guys did it.
nebder 6y ago
Once you have these in place, every decision becomes much easier. Does X fit into my code and mission?
My abridged mission is to provide a healthy upbringing for my kids and to earn money through a location independent set of incomes. Ideally a mission doesn’t have an end state as it’s a guide through your journey.
That’s the short version. I’m fleshing this process out as a guideline. I had similar thoughts as you and felt like I was simply existing at times.
TRP_MushaShugyo 6y ago
Orange Juice is right, but you should also do Dr Jordan B Peterson's Self Authoring Program. The Future Authoring program helps you find your life mission and also how to best affect the rest of the world. Also check out Corey Wayne's work.
https://www.selfauthoring.com
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You try a lot of things and find the one. I tried football, basketball, ice skating, swimming, swing dancing, playing piano, playing guitar, teaching, ... a lot of things, and found out that I most enjoy teaching and I never got bored of it.
insensitiveTwot 6y ago
You're a teacher posting in this sub Reddit? That's horrifying.
DaboclesTheGreat 6y ago
You're gonna have to explain this one big guy.
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clammastak 6y ago
no escalation is not a big deal if she is interested in you enough. she may think you have strong frame and play by your own rules. on the other hand, if she's a tinder sloot, she may move on to the next. text her and see how it goes.
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Wait minimal 3 days, up to 1 week, than contact her and set up next date. Something like "I am going to this awesome party/festival/whatever, wanna join?" or straight up "join me", depends on how you presented yourself to her on the first date.
red-arctic-tern 6y ago
Action dates are the best, even if it's nothing more than playing pool. Never again talk for 3 hours.
Gallobrax 6y ago
I live on a very remote island. So small that everyone literally knows everyone - this has created a tight knit blue pill community. With this in mind how does one play the numbers game in this situation? For example if one resets (I prefer in person interaction) tinder there are perhaps 50 women before you run out of perspective matches. This means you gain a reputation (good or bad) very quickly and as I have to work one must be mindful of this fact. Thus, something tells me I will eventually have to look elsewhere but I'm sure many of you will call this an excuse. Indeed I don't exactly want to move either as it's home but it's by no means what I'm used to in a major city.
Which brings me to a rather interesting thought which was inspired by a post last night. In this post the OP suggested that every interaction you have with the opposite sex is an exchange, and while he went a little to far with it it got me thinking. Why don't we look to the Far East/Eastern Europe for a perspective partner if at the end of the you build your SO into who you want them to be. Why not start off with a truly blank slate.
Would be interested in hearing thoughts on each item. Thanks!
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Bang the hottest one you can as soon as you can. The rest will find out and want you too, unless she is ugly..
Gallobrax 6y ago
That would imply targeting one specific woman? See my issue is once you do that and say you mess up, and you continue to mess up a reputation is then earned. Most of the theory here seems to make approaches out to be a numbers game. Targeting one girl would seem to be very blue pill to me. Still I'm currently focusing on getting my blue belt (with lifting of course) and getting out of the hole I'm in work wise.
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TooMuchToDoo 6y ago
Take a look around you and find out what you want in life. Make some goals based off of this. Start to develop a sense of discipline in yourself and ruthlessly work towards your goals. If the going gets tough, remember the reason why you made those goals in the first place. Be Hungry.
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Hit the gym and stop eating like shit
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Is this a troll ? Can you be negatively masculine?
[deleted] 6y ago
Yes you can. Tyler from fight club went so far as to make that group who did bad things. There are men who beat wives, just because they can and they want to let out their bad feelings. Etc.
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First of all this is just a movie.
Second of all women are responsible for the majority of violence in families. - not for being beaten they themselves beat their children and husband and men often can't do anything about it because even defending ourselves we could be charged with batter.
Don't subtly push marxist newtalk like "toxic masculinity" here.
DamiensLust 6y ago
Are you serious? Excess testosterone can be harvested positively - e.g. what this entire sub is about, and negatively - aggression, rage, even Nazism and terrorism are all the extremely negative effects of testosterone being harnessed in the wrong way. Yes, we are all aware of the problems with women and their position in society today, but to deny that they are the less aggressive sex & that it's the testosterone in men harnessed in the wrong way that leads to these social problems is delusional and ridiculous.
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Terrorists are cucks who want to control their women because they lack the T. Mate guarding is rather a sign of unsure, low-T males.
What we are having right now in our society is Reverse-nazism where the low T cucks @google @youtube etc. are censuring the internet for wrongthink.
Betas with lower testosterone are of a much larger threat than high T males, for one example - "the perfect gentleman" as he called himself.
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Fight club is a RP movie, vast majority of TRP agrees on this. Just because it's a movie it doesn't mean everything in it is pure fiction, not applicable in the real world.
You are using straw man argument. I wasn't talking about domestic violence per se, but how masculinity can show it's negative side thought this this type of violence. So you didn't give counter argument to my actual point, although I completely agree with your statement.
Also, I never said toxic masculinity. So please, before you write another comment, take a deep breath, read my argument, think about counter argument and make a constructive comment. I won't answer another half-ass angry comment of yours.
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Fight club is literally satire - written by a homosexual. Its about zen and the ethical lapses in zen (imo).
EpicLevelCheater 6y ago
There is a reason we do not allow examples from fiction.
Fictional characters can be made to say or do anything, and reality can be made to respond in any way. The author controls all causality.
You are drifting dangerously close to concern trolling. Watch yourself.
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Forgive me for going over the line here, but there are a lot of mentions on TRP what some character from movie said or did. There are comments mentioning Don Draper from Mad men, various characters from Game Of Thrones, and other movies.
I am not trolling or trying to be "funny" in any way, I'm presenting my point of view. If I have wrong thinking, I would appreciate people here correct me on it.
EpicLevelCheater 6y ago
You are not being warned for referencing fiction, although that is the reason why your argument is weak.
You are being warned for this:
You are making an ethical judgment, and ethical judgments are not permitted in this sub.
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I understand, eventhough i think discussing negative masculinity can be beneficial, i suppose with stronger arguments.
EpicLevelCheater 6y ago
You are either a troll or an idiot. I don't care which it is.
Banned.
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"Debaters invoke a straw man when they put forth an argument—usually something extreme or easy to argue against—that they know their opponent doesn't support."
It seems that you do not understand what a straw hat argument is.
You used the example of domestic violence, If I were tu use a straw hat I would have to invoke it but in this particular case you did. I just rebutted your example and now you are sore that I did.
The point I was trying to make you understand is that domestic vioelence is not a trait typical for men/masculinity, "surprisingly" it is more of a trait of the modern female.
You failed to show an example of "toxic masculinity" and I do not blame you because it does not exist. People can be shit, be it male or female, unfortunately it's more often the latter.
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Let me put it more clearly:
My argument: "Negative masculinity can show through man on woman domestic violence."
Your counter argument: "domestic violence is not a trait typical for men/masculinity, it's more of a trait of modern female."
Do you see how your statement doesn't counter mine in any way? You purposely misinterpreted my argument at best, which is straw man argument.
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I have simply shown you that it is not a trait of masculinity.
"Negative masculinity can show through man on woman domestic violence."
This is not a trait reserved for masculinity nor is it typical for it, I wrote it in my last response and it seems that you did not read it or you did not understand it.
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It. does. not. matter. how. typical. it. is. My point has NOTHING to do with how anything is typical, or atypical, or reserved, for anything. Stop pushing this shit toward me, I don't want it.
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What is the best way to transition from engineering to business?
I have skills in risk analysis, decision analysis, project management, monte carlo sims, stats, etc... but I don't have a finance/business degree.
I want to get into strategy or cost/benefit analysis, some pretty high level work. Not sure how to do so.
Pedrao420 6y ago
You hope to transition from one line of work to another, are not sure how to do so, and want some "pretty high level work"?
Its dissonant, either start low, or do some research, gather experience in the area. Otherwise you will be used to operate some software boring as fuck that will burn numbers on your cornea
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ADHPEE 6y ago
I have no problem swallowing the red pill, it's shitting it out and not fully digesting it that's the problem.
Everytime I get into a solid routine, I absolutely see positive returns. Within a few weeks, though, I find that I slump and ultimately fall back into my base blue pill-ish routine. Like I don't care or am content.
I think I know the answer already, but it all comes down to sleep, energy, and motivation for me. I've never been much of an exerciser. I could care less about lifting. I realize how incredibly important it is to us though.
How do I break these swathes of "fuck-all" and depressive states? How do I break my pussy perspective?
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nebder 6y ago
Lifting is pushed because you get obvious physical appearance improvements AND it sets the stage for making lasting habits through discipline where the payoff is not immediate. It’s that second part that you’re missing. Most of us are so used to instant gratification that we are lacking the capacity for long term goals.
You have a discipline problem. You solve this problem by making yourself do something until it becomes an ingrained habit. Motivation is an emotion and it doesn’t last. I’ll skip/reschedule an occasional gym day but I look forward to it like hey it’s deadlift day this afternoon and I love feeling like a beast after deadlifts. Took me maybe 4-8 weeks to get to that point. Hard to say exactly when it became my unthinking routine.
You can look into books for habit forming. Read all you want, yet it won’t do any good unless you take ACTION.
bornredd 6y ago
Small changes. Add 1 change a week maximum. 2 if the are interrelated. Give yourself time to adjust to the new routine.
Your mind runs out of willpower if you overdo it, and prefers to run "on auto". Use this, don't try to overpower it or else it is like trying to lift too heavy - you will fuck up, backslide, fail, and screw up your progress for some time.
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Heavy weight lifting.
If you don't care about gym time, make yourself care
RedPillFreedom 6y ago
Understand that you are in this for the Long Haul.
Consistency is key.
Listing of 5 lb dumbbell two times a week is better than lifting a 15 pound dumbbell once a month.
Aim to do the littlest thing every single day.
["I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times."
Carefree_bot 6y ago
You DO care?
^^You ^^probably ^^meant ^^to ^^say ^^"Couldn't ^^care ^^less"
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SocietalEngineering 6y ago
Learn how to live life future oriented. You want about 90 percent of your attention to be in the future. Everything you do is just for the next thing, and that's for the next thing, for the next thing, for the next thing.
Also, take pleasure out of the equation. If you are feeling bad, it means at other points your are feeling good. Reduce the ups, and you reduce the downs. Flatline your emotions so that you can actually produce something.
alienfromjupiter007 6y ago
I like the live in your future aspect. But flatlining emotions - don't you think it could make you numb? And decrease your enjoyment of life?
SocietalEngineering 6y ago
I know that part is s bit controversial, but I've had huge success with it.
Emotion has never helped me achieve anything. Not even the "good" emotions. I am always more effective at whatever I'm doing if I simply feel nothing at all about it.
I focus on the product that I'm supposed to be getting, not the emotion that supposed to come with the product.
For example, if I'm trying to bang a chick, I don't focus on the joy that I would feel if I succeeded, and I don't focus on the disappointment I would feel if I failed. I only think of the product. The sex. That's all. Get. The. Sex.
Same thing at the gym. When I'm pumping iron, I'm not sad or happy about it. I. Just. Pump. Iron.
Without emotional consequences, there's no pressure. There's no undue influence on me. There is only pure action.
And when I win, I feel a certain sense of satisfaction. A certain knowingness of accomplishment. But that's all - I don't allow my body to be flooded with feel good hormones, I don't jump for joy or anything like that. Because if I did, what would happen when I failed next time? I would feel a heavy loss, on an emotional level. And that might disrupt me from trying again. I might have to take time to recover.
Remove all emotion, and all you have left is your focus on your product. All true masters are unemotional about their work.
and this doesn't mean that you can't convey emotion to others. Showing enthusiasm and excitement to a girl is absolutely necessary to get her in bed with you. But the trick is to use emotion to communicate something, while not actually feeling it.
In my opinion, emotions are tools to be used. They are not an experience to be had. Create emotions in others, create emotions in yourself if you feel so inclined, but never let your environment create your emotions for you.
Be the master of your emotions - don't let them control you. That's the moral.
seserta 6y ago
So basically when the emotion wells up in you, you don't react to it and carry on? How did you go about achieving this? Did meditation play a part?
SocietalEngineering 6y ago
I'm actually not a fan of meditation at all.
The basic rule of life is this: the mind is a mechanism of repetition. Your mind will always seek to repeat what it has experienced. The more you experience something, the more your mind will seek to repeat it.
So the more you react to emotion, the more you will react to emotion in the future. The more you focus on your product and ignore emotion, the more your mind will automatically seek to do that.
The problem with traditional meditation is that it makes you very comfortable doing nothing. You never want to be comfortable with taking no action. You, as a man, should always be in action, should always be full out in hustle mode achieving your goals. Mediation makes a person passive. It is literally an indoctrination of passivity. This makes it a great exercise for women, but a terrible exercise for men.
An alternative is to practice "'mindfulness", or just being very aware of your present-time physical surroundings while operating throughout the day. Practice being very there. Strong emotions generally only occur when you get sucked into the past. Staying in the present, or better yet, planning into the future, actually limits emotion.
Another thing you can do is emotional drills. Literally sit down and practice generating different emotions, and practice turning them on and off, and varying their intensity. Be angry. Then turn it off. Be a little more angry. Be a little less angry. Be as angry as you can get. Feel no anger at all. Etc. and do that with every emotion that you want control over. It's one of the great secrets of this universe - you can never stop that thing which you cannot create. Learn to create emotion so that you will be able to turn it off when you need to. Then you will have true emotional control.
seserta 6y ago
This is great advice. I never really thought it from this perspective. And I've read a bit about mindfulness and whatever little I have been able to implement in my life, it has definitely had effect. Thank you for sharing. I will try this out.
DamiensLust 6y ago
Why would you strive to reduce the ups? I love riding the waves of positivity that come with self-improvement, and if the positivity is cultivated right - into positive habits - then it needn't crash & break. I think trying to harness apathy is an awful strategy - most of my success with women has come from being both dominant & energetic/upbeat.
SocietalEngineering 6y ago
I've found huge success in eliminating emotional response entirely from my life.
This doesn't mean I don't create emotion, in myself and others - it just means that I am not subject to emotions that I did not create myself.
The problem with the highs is that they will always contrast with the "not highs", and thus create lows.
Also, I am not talking about a feeling of satisfaction, or a feeling of achievement or something like that. I am talking about dopamine rushes.
DamiensLust 6y ago
I disagree. Perhaps we are wired differently. Dopamine rush is a very vague term, but it's literally impossible to try to restrain your response to dopamine. You can sensitize or desensitize it depending on the stimuli you expose yourself to, but removing external vices will merely heighten your dopamine response to other facets of your life (which is great and exactly what we should be achieving), but you can't by force of will dampen your own neurological pleasure response, and neither should you strive to.
As for highs leading to lows, I think that's a temperamental issue. For instance, I've had many occasions where I've been in fantastic moods that just level out to relatively normal or content, and that's what I strive for. I also have plenty of experience with riding an unrealistic high until you crash & burn and suffered with (albeit short) pretty intense depressed/"empty" feelings as a result.
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HunterRave 6y ago
How do I set a sexual frame without ever saying the word sex? My kino feels forced, and I use push and pull but don't know how tease in a subtly sexual way.
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1.) You say things that are not sexual in direct meaning, but can have sexual undertone. For example, we all know "pussy" can mean 2 things, so saying like "we have such a good pussy at home, she's awesome" can put sexual frame in work. It's a lame example and I wouldn't use it, just wanted to make an example.
My personal example that happened to me: I accidentaly sent a girl same SMS twice in a row, she said in a jokey way "better 2 than none" and I said something like "stop, you're making my dirty imagination go wild :D". I never said I meant 2 dicks and not 2 SMSs, but you get it, it's the undertone.
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Always find a way to be side by side with her. Touching is natural side by side.
HumanSockPuppet 6y ago
Read my guide on teasing bitches. Sidebar.
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CallMeHaseo 6y ago
Just started my first steroid cycle and did my first pin of test last night (yes I had a good build natty). I can't help but wonder when this stuff will "kick in" if you know what I mean (yes a know how to eat and train it's not rocket science just discipline and impulse control).
owlsden 6y ago
Depends on the ester of your test. If its enanthate, probably a couple weeks before you really notice anything. 4-5 weeks before it really kicks in.
CallMeHaseo 6y ago
Will I literally "feel" different? Or will I just look different and have more strength?
owlsden 6y ago
Yes, probably but the difference is subtle. Increased confidence for sure, but I think much of this is the result of a positive feedback loop. As you get leaner and more muscular and your lifts go up every week you'll feel great about the progress you're making. You'll also get more attention from women and respect from guys. All of these things make you feel more confident - its hard to say how much of this feeling is purely hormonal.
Also, can't stress this enough - make sure you've researched how aromatase inhibitors work and the appropriate dosing when you're on cycle. If you don't have a good supply on hand, get your hands on some immediately - either aromasin or arimidex, but aromasin is better. You don't want to end up with bitch tits or other nasty side effects.
Wheysteve 6y ago
Definitely get ready for increased aggression and confidence in 4-5 weeks
CallMeHaseo 6y ago
Really it's like that eh? Good looking out mate
bigj0e51 6y ago
I can guarantee it’s not because I’m not lifting lol. I’m a college football player and lift often. Albeit I’m a little chubby because I’m a long snapper and need the extra weight for the season, I’m still well built compared to most guys. I’m also not approaching chicks that are dimes, so I know my own limitations. I’m just looking for better ways to get them to hang out. Your first suggestion does make some sense but I rarely text girls right away or too often.
bigj0e51 6y ago
What's the best way to close after getting a girls number?
I'm a sophomore in college and have had success getting phone numbers but it seems like every time I try to invite them to hang out it's met with excuses of why they can't. I rarely text girls for the sake of conversation just because I feel it's more effective to make plans and talk in person, but I feel that might be what's holding me back.
the_green_death 6y ago
Dick pics are too obvious. They are bored with those now. Send them a pic of your asshole. She will respect you for going a different route
PillTheRed 6y ago
You probably are sounding needy to them. Are you waiting a few days before contacting? Or, are you doing it the next day after you get it? You gotta let that hamster stretch it's legs and run a bit. Make her wonder why you aren't calling after getting the number. Also, I'm seeing a lot of guys in here not lifting and thinking that simply understanding the concepts here are going to get results. Just no. You also could just not be attractive and they are giving you their number out of sympathy. Do you lift? If so, how much? You can't negotiate attraction, and lifting is pretty much rule number one. If you aren't doing it. That's your problem. Women don't see you as attractive because you are out of shape, fat, or simply don't stand out from not having a nice body. That is very, very.important. When I got started here I kind if tried to do that. Take in knowledge but not do the real work in the gym. Once I had been lifting for a solid year and put on some muscle. They couldn't keep their hands off me. Once you get there, you will know what I mean. Muscles are almost hypnotic to women. The amount of times they just stared at me with their mouth open, or when they would uncontrollably have to touch my chest or arm and then do the lip bite. You know you made it.
That's my guess. You arent lifting because you haven't seen the results once you do. That needs to be your number one priority. You are wasting your time here if you aren't lifting at least a few times a week.
TRP_MushaShugyo 6y ago
Read Corey Wayne's book and check out his videos as supplements.
I_Luv_Procastinating 6y ago
I've never solo travelled before. TRP has helped me be more socially outgoing so I definitely want to meet cool new people and change my perspectives on life if possible.
Where do you guys suggest going to get a mix of partying, meeting cool people, adventure and maybe gaming girls?
the_green_death 6y ago
Check out https://furrymate.com/. It's where the players play.
sirfuckboysupreme 6y ago
Hostelworld the website will set you up with other travelers. I used it for the first time this weekend and my group of guys ended up with 3 girls on a night out and we had a great time. Confidence + hostel + hostel bar in the evening + traveling with likeminded people = fun.
Morphs_ 6y ago
Hostels indeed. I went on my first solo vacation this summer. Hostels allow to you meet a ton of people who are solo traveling just like you. The easiest opener is "where you're from?". So simple and effective. Just have your phone with you and you can find the best placed to go out, etc.
therealjesus999 6y ago
I feel like I have entered monk mode, reading TRP like its my bible at work all day everyday for about 3 months, lifting etc.etc problem is, i noticed i developed a serious case of IDGAF attitude towards literally everyone (especially girls) and i just wanted to ask is this normal? anyone else share the same feelings? thank you.
the_green_death 6y ago
It's normal. There is an app for people feeling like you. Check out Grindr. You will meet other like minded guys who dgaf about girls.
therealjesus999 6y ago
Are you trying to imply from one comment I made that I'm gay?... lmfao
the_green_death 6y ago
Grindr not gay, is it? I thought it was just dudes who liked other dudes company. This explains a lot.
therealjesus999 6y ago
Your coming comments are the most idiotic things i have read on reddit. congrats to you good sir, keep it up.
the_green_death 6y ago
I don't think i mentioned coming...
kupakuma 6y ago
Not an advice, but a word of encouragement to you and to myself. I entered monk mode 6 months ago. I've been waking up at 4:30am to hit the gym, and then the office for a 9-5 job, and then to study for my credentials exam for a high paying career. At this rate I'm probably gonna be in this mode for about 2 years til I feel comfortable about my finances to finally hit the sexual market place to get some puss.
Hang in there fellow monk. I believe in you.
And yes I've been slowly not giving a fucj about girls for a while. But not like MGTOW, I'm just planning on coming back to the sexual market place to slay when I'm done with the mission i have at hand. I think it's a good sign that you are adequately motivated to complete the goals you've set for yourself.
Pedrao420 6y ago
are you seriously accepting that you are going to be 2 years out of the market ? Where will you store your balls. I mean you are in monk mode, are you trying to stay 2 years without nutting is that it ? lol
kupakuma 6y ago
I tried no fap. Longest I've lasted so far 15 days... lol. I'm not sure what to make of the nofap movement, since it does seem to have benefits if you have a porn addiction.
As for my actual goals, 2 years seems to be the a pretty reasonable deadline seeing that my goals are pretty large. I'm trying to double my income within those 2 years.
Without going into too much detail, I'm trying to become an actuary. (Google what they do.) The career path to becoming one basically constitutes passing multiple mathematics credentials exams. There are currently a total of 10 tests you need to pass in order to become a fully certified actuary. The current rule of thumb is that you need to pass 2 or 3 exams to gain an entry level actuarial position. Each test is about 3hrs and 30min, and generally increases in difficulty with more tests.
Seeing that the suggested study hours needed to pass these exams are 100 hours of study time per 1 hour of exam time, I would need approximately 350 hours of study time per the first three preliminary exams. Since I have a 9 to 5 full time job, and I go to the gym consistently prior to work, the only time I can study is after my work. Even having plates are pretty much a distraction for me right now.
I just see my financial stability to be my weakest point. I'm actually quite adept in social situations, and I dont think I'll have any issue getting laid if I tried, it's just, my finances have been a huge Achilles heels for me in all aspects of my life. This is the way I want to tackle the issue.
So ya... that's basically a very long way to say I'm prepared to not get laid for 2 years.
Pedrao420 6y ago
Ok.
Now I see the path you have chosen, I had a very different perspective in mind, but your explanation was insightfull. Very well, you have a very solid goal, very solid routine, just sail the winds of sucess
alienfromjupiter007 6y ago
Gymming is the #1 advice on this forum. Does it really bring that kind of benefits? Can it change the attitude and mindset of a person from beta to alpha that effectively?
It almost feels like a cure-all thingy that's thrown around in this forum.
DickBlowens 6y ago
Yes. It holds multiple benefits including, but not limited to growth in strength, physical appearance, discipline, self development, health, endurance, etcetera.
Honestly if there's one thing you should never give up, it's the gym. If you're not already doing it, then sorry bro, you're retarded.
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Yes, it's normal to put more weight on yourself than on others. You are focusing on yourself more than you ever did, which means you can't think of others as much as you did before monk mode.
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AlphaGrad 6y ago
What accent best conveys power and high status in the U.S. and Europe?
I'm a guy from India on my way to the U.S. for that bobs and vagene...actually it's grad school.
I can already do an Easter European/Russian accent and I've got time at hand to learn one more accent. So what's it gonna be British or American?
Thanks guys. I've decided to learn the Queen's English. Have a look at Ian Richardson's accent.
the_green_death 6y ago
I find that a strong antebellum accent. Think Designing Woman but deeper.
AlphaGrad 6y ago
In 'MURICA, Is it preferable to Daniel Craig's (007) received pronunciation accent?
bornredd 6y ago
Go high end British accent. From an Indian guy it will have more appeal than your other options and has the automatic associating with class and status.
AlphaGrad 6y ago
Okay, I've decided to learn the Queen's English. Have a look at Ian Richardson's accent.
bTHE66 6y ago
Also work on grammar. My understanding is that there is a serious correlation between grammar and accent. You just can not speak in British accent with slang grammar. So my suggestion is to use good grammatically structured sentences and also simultaneously work on accent. That will help.
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owlsden 6y ago
Odd question. To be honest, Americans tend to find Indian accents among the most irritating and classless of any possible accent. Eastern European or Russian is only slightly better, but probably not if its fake.
Americans tend to find British and Western European accents appealing. South American too, but more in the sense of exotic and romantic than high-class.
I'd recommend you develop a manner of speech that is as free of accent as possible for the area you're living. Most Indians learn British English, so a slight British twist won't hurt you but an Indian accent definitely will.
AlphaGrad 6y ago
I anticipated that. Thanks for confirming it man. I personally find the Indian accent horrible and would rather be labelled a hypocrite or faker by learning a new accent rather than live with it.
Okay, I've decided to learn the Queen's English. Have a look at Ian Richardson's accent.
seserta 6y ago
I am Indian. I have a slightly posh sounding British accent. I can let it go and switch back to Indian accent when talking to Indian peers if needed. But otherwise it's my default. Works well with the 'westerners' for sure. My partner is British Irish and her friends tell her I sound more posh than they do!
Also, the northern Irish accent is pretty thick so I guess they are easily impressed but you get the point.
navayan 6y ago
I am 37, married and want to plate young 20-25. is it possible?.Special tips for the same, please.
the_green_death 6y ago
Step one, get divorced. Step two, start a YouTube channel where your show your MLP collection. Step three, explain to your neighbors Megan's law.
Peter_B_Long 6y ago
I believe it's possible for you. Read the sidebar.
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JamesSkepp 6y ago
Special tip - what do you think you should be doing?
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MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 6y ago
Possible, yes. Easily or without risk, not so much.
We'd need a lot more info on your situation to be able to advise. What is your marriage like? Kids? Financials? Fitness and game on point?
There's always a chance of a plate bringing an STD or drama into your home life, or going on a vendetta resulting in an extinction-level event spanning through all of your relationships.
I recommend the Blackdragon blog and More Than Two website for in-depth coverage of plate and poly relationship geometries.
navayan 6y ago
I am well build.do regular cardio and self weight training.I am well built, athlete person.I am ok handsome.i get looks here and there.
navayan 6y ago
My married life is once in a three months sex.i am not attracted to my life.i have a 5 yr old kid,love of my life.I earn to run house and spend on myself.i am completing PhD,which will increase my income by 50%,by end of 2019.i don't own house or car.would purchase sports bike. What websites I should read,I am in India.
banjew 6y ago
Once in a three month sex is not a marriage. Me and my ex-wife went as low as once every week before divorce. And that was terrible.
navayan 6y ago
Yes,I agree. I am choosing to stay in marriage.planning to get LTRs and spin plates.Need your help guys in the journey.May the force be with us all.amen.
cocaine_face 6y ago
Start lifting weights. Start going and doing other activities that are exciting.
There's a decent chance your marriage may implode if you start spinning plates in your current situation.
navayan 6y ago
Thanks brother, I am doing things you mentioned in 1st paragraph. Regrading second paragraph what could be my options for release and sexual satisfaction.prostitution I don't want to go.I have deleted option of fapping from my life. I am happy with my life overall.I need that moderate supply of sex.
How can I work it out.suggestions.
cocaine_face 6y ago
Have you tried Tinder? I'm not sure if it is around in India, but it worked fantastically for me in China.
just_keep_stroking 6y ago
I'd like to hear more. Where did you go?
cocaine_face 6y ago
Beijing, Shanghai and a few other cities.
I'm white, short, in decent shape, and I was getting 20+ matches a day. That is not an exaggeration. I typically had 3 or 4 offer to straight up meet up with me a day.
You need to look halfway decent and have decent text game though.
navayan 6y ago
Have tried,did not get much response.I have tried locanto and got very close to get laid in single and only date.it was fun lots of kissing and stuff.
navayan 6y ago
Have tried tinder for short time.did not get laid. I tried locanto and almost got laid on first date.lots of kissing and stuff.i dropped idea of fucking her.ahe was ready to do it on second date. She told me she did not know dating was this fun.she was older but fun lady. I can start tinder for 6 months stretch to see reaults along with locanto. I guess I may get laid sounds ok. Are you chines ,I am indian buddhist.
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thecandydandy 6y ago
TL;DR at bottom
I met this chick over a game and was able to get her info to contact her through another app. I sent her a nude, then contacted her a few weeks later saying I might be down her way and I would be dtf. She responded in kind with a nude of her own and I started talking about all the dirty things I would do to her.
A few days later she contacted me asking if she could send a nude and I said sure, but she sent it as my gf was coming so I quickly unfriended her and blocked her. When she contacted me on the game we met on I gave her some bs story about thinking she was my girl then when I saw the pic realized she wasn't and when she asked about me coming to see her I told her she was talking to my roommate and not me.
I thought she bought it but realized she didn't when she took me off her friend list in the game. How can I get her back?
TL;DR: Messed up with a girl with a cute face and hot body and want to know how to make things right again.
PillTheRed 6y ago
You can't negotiate attraction. You lost, move on. Or, enjoy the friend zone. Sounds like oneitis. You need to have at least an n count of 20-30 before you even consider an ltr. Which, is what you wanted from her, because if it was just sex. It wouldn't even be a big enough deal to post about. You got that pussy on the pedestal...
Morphs_ 6y ago
Get more congruent with yourself. As far as I understand you were trying to cheat on your gf. Instead, develop a frame of mind that you want an open relationship because that's how you behave and communicate that to women.
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https://www.trp.red/p/mattyanon/260
navayan 6y ago
Marriage is once in a three months sex marriage.I am not attracted to my wife.she is been gaining weight.i have 5 yr old son,love of my life. I have some savings,I been doing my PhD,submitting my thesis.I would be able to earn 50% more with the degree.I don't own any house,car etc. I am in india.Pune to be specific.
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