This is my experience—take it or leave it as you will.

In my experience, dating a 20 year old woman is far easier now that I’m 49 than when I was 22. It’s also more rewarding for both parties.

Most younger women think they won’t like an older guy, let alone want to date one, much less sleep with one—but the funny thing is, once a young woman gets in a relationship with an older guy, she rarely goes back to dating “age appropriate” boys.

There are some young women who instinctively like older guys. But they don’t like them because they have daddy issues. They like them because when you get into middle-age, you are confident, in control of your environment, and you have a few things settled.

One, if you have half a brain, you're probably financially secure. If you are, then financial security oozes out of your pores in a way that's hard to miss if you're looking for it. And younger women—working shitty jobs, saddled with student debt—are looking for it.

Two, you’re confident around a hot young woman. If you've lived a life, you have come across a lot of attractive women before. So a young hottie now doesn't faze you, or even register, quite frankly—which is why young hot women are not only surprised out of their comfort zone by an older guy not giving them that much attention because of their looks, these young women will actually go out of their way to impress that older guy who is more-or-less ignoring her. That’s been my experience at any rate.

Three, you don’t pedestalize any woman ever, and any shit she pulls, you’ll likely either ignore it, or smirk openly to her face—or leave her. And the things of it is, a younger woman will instinctively know that her older bf will leave her if she gets out of line.

Apart from having your money, your status, and your mind settled, you also have an additional advantage: Your competition. If you’re an older guy, your competition for these young women—i.e., younger guys—are actively working in your favor.

One, younger guys are clingy, needy, whiny, insecure—all qualities which younger women despise. All qualities which an older guy either won’t have, or have the self-discipline to quell.

Two, younger guys are broke, so they can’t easily show a girl a good time. Not so older guys.

Also, older guys are smarter about dropping their money: It’s all about ROI. For instances, a girl I was seeing in March (21, HB9), mentioned she’d forgotten her make-up bag when she came to visit me. The next day, without a word, I took her to Selfridge’s and told her (with deliberate, casual un-fussiness) to get whatever she needed that would make her happy, no limits. All in, I let her spend £300 on makeup, leaving her ecstatic—and was rewarded with mind blowing sex over the course of the next week. A young guy wouldn’t have wanted to spend that money on something that he couldn’t enjoy as well. But to me, a few hundred pounds was more than worth it to see the ecstatic look of surprise and joy when I told her she could get whatever she wanted.

Which leads me to the next point.

Three, younger guys are boring to younger women, at least when compared to older guys. Younger guys’ dramas are small-bore, their conversation is boring and geeky, and often as not trying to show off how smart they are. Whereas an older guy has no need to show off how smart he is—his very life and financial stability is a testament to his brains and acumen.

But most of all, younger guys are boring to younger women because younger guys think younger women want to engage intellectually—whereas an older guy knows that what young women want is to feel emotions. That impromptu shopping spree I mentioned? It was the surprise of it, as well as getting all the goodies that made the girl feel fantastic. Young women want emotions, strong emotions. They want to get drunk on the stuff. They want stories that are funny or awe-inspiring, they want to go places where they feel excitement or wonder, they want to see beautiful things, and have to dress up fancy to go to a nice party. They do not want to sit around over a $1 beer at the Olive Garden, talking about a fucking superhero movie, and being told why Iron Man 3 is the best of all the Iron Man movies or whatever.

Furthermore, young guys are constantly saying, “Some day I’ll do this,” or else, “When X happens, I’ll do that.” In other words, they’re waiting for their lives to start. They don’t have the ability to break out of their current rut or routine. Not so an older guy, whose life is by this time on cruise control. Next week I’m taking my current gf (24, 5’11”, 100-to-110lbs. maybe?) to Paris for a few days. Why? Why not. I've got a surprise for her: We're going to go up in a hot-air balloon. I know she'll squeal like an excited puppy over it when I spring the surprise on her. A hot air balloon ride is cheap, only a couple of hundred euros—but a younger guy would never have the wit to surprise her with something so innocent and fun. That kind of instant, novel excitement turns younger women on more than cocaine or money.

Now, sexually speaking, here are a few truths:

One, most girls don’t really care if you’re ripped—they only care about getting a good fuck. You say you are balding, pot-bellied, and hairy all over? Like me? Well, bud, I’m here to tell you: They don’t mind a bit, so long as the D is hard and working as per the manual—and o.c., you know how to use it.

Two, by way of simple experience, a middle-aged guy knows what he wants in the bedroom. So he won’t hesitate or dither. Which is an instant turn on to young women, because girls are generally insecure in the bedroom, and prefer it if a guy takes what they want, rather than be all tentative and equivocating and pleading (like younger guys are).

Three, an older guy will make sexual demands that will push a younger woman’s boundaries—which is exactly what she wants, and which will make her more committed to the older guy. Again, he won’t hesitate, let alone plead—he’ll demand. Which is why he’ll get what he wants from her. Get what he wants from her gladly, no matter how extreme.

All these things (and a lot more) make younger women feel secure—which is at bottom what they want to feel. They want a man who controls the reality around them—they want to be able to swim in that reality that the older guy provides safely and securely—they do not want to wait around while a younger guy figures out the world, while giving her a running commentary about his experiences, little triumps and failures.

Young women want a finished product. And they want a steady stream of strong, positive emotions.

Since younger men have been socialized by blue-pill culture to be all tentative and talky and equivocating, they simply can’t compete with an older guy who doesn’t say much, but makes a young hot woman feel confident and secure.

Finally, as an older man, you’ll know when the 19 year old you are banging is getting bored even before she realizes it. So you’ll be able to adjust accordingly: Either change-up the relationship (if she’s worth holding on to), or let her ease away (if she’s not).

And finally finally, the most powerful thing of all that an older man has over a younger woman: Options. She will know that if the older guy she’s currently with landed her, then he can land any girl he wants. That built-in dread—that certainty—that the older man she’s with can replace her without much trouble makes her compliant and docile and eager to please him, so long as he wants her around.

At least that’s been my experience.

Hope this is of interest.

TL;DR: Older guys get with young women a lot more easily than younger guys can. Older guys have money, confidence, and know their place in the world. They also know that what young women want is safety and security, as well as periodic doses of strong positive emotions.

Edit: If anyone wants to see what I look like, go to my YouTube channel, “Coach Red Pill”.