I prefer to make my own mind up about things so have spent the last few weeks dipping in and out of the material in sidebar. It's been fun and informative. Some things I already knew but couldn't articulate, plenty of the other stuff was fresh to me though and I'm in my 30s. I've read a few of the comments here over the last month or so and there does seem to be a few 12 year olds on power fantasies but generally the community is normal - sharing stories and resources, offering support and guidance. I still don't understand why it gets such a bad rap. I tried to defend the scientific honour of theredpill the other day in a thread where op was asking for help with confidence. I simply said it had scientific merit and that they should come read the sidebar material but they equated it with breaking a horse and buried me. This seems terribly intellectually dishonest to me. Why is there an assumption that if you understand this material that you become an abusive, misogynistic dickhead? It's ludicrous. First time poster so thanks for reading.