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sinclaire28 5y ago
Health related advice from redpill gents.
I have a back condition which prevents me from hitting the gym. I was quite muscular since because I lift regularly.
I was aiming not to loose any muscle by eating a lot while healing. As I know, having no workout and getting a bit hungry destroys muscle fibers.
Any advice on how to keep my muscle and loose a bit of fat while not working out?
El_Bosque44 5y ago
Alright I need your guys wisdom, I’ve been with TRP for maybe a month now, when I came across it my mind was blown, because I was able to look back at every success I had and find how some TRP principle was involved. Lately I’ve been wanting/practicing really understanding dominance of crap tests, now I have a hard time identifying them, that’s where I stand at the moment. I had a girl I started talking, with obvious ioi however I failed with texting more than logistics and one session got heated where I told her she would have to show me some creativity when we smash. She then hasn’t texted me back. It’s been a weekend and the blue pill in me wants to hit her up, is this a shit test or did I miss read interest and should I just move on to another? What’s your opinion?
Anatherma 5y ago
Hi TRP, I'm a sophomore in High School who has been lurking here for around a year or so. My brother who is a senior in college is decent looking and he is in great shape, yet he has only had around 3-4 girlfriend/partners in his life. He is becoming depressed and has been in a long distance relationship for a few years and is unhappy with it. Should I anonymously direct him to TRP to try and help him?
CasaDeFranco 5y ago
I appreciate the feedback. I have penned in some time next week where I’ll step back, if I change my mind I can reopen but at the moment it’s too early to settle particularly when my SMV is increasing dramatically the last few years.
livewire1472 5y ago
How do you deal with aggressive betas and male shit tests? As you try to move forward I've realized you get a lot more tests from guys
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livewire1472 5y ago
Not sure, I used to never get them, but I feel like there are certain levels you have to pass in order to reach the top, and in order to proceed you have to deal with these subtle or agressive tests. I'll ask again on the next asktrp mega thread, I was a little late on this one.
pr0king 5y ago
Is it worth contact a girl(know her since a month had plenty of sex,etc) when she is in holiday(for one week).
Or should i contact her when she will return ?
heaven_slayer7 5y ago
How can I increase my SMV by using social media? I’m fairly inactive on social media and rarely post anything.
[deleted] 5y ago
How do you deal with a needy male friend? He texts too much tries to plan out things every weekend persistently etc We work together and I see him every day. He is married. I want to keep the friendship so I thought of introducing him to TRP but I feel it'll backfire - first rule of fight club is don't talk about it. Suggestions?
CasaDeFranco 5y ago
I've been dating a 28yo Doctor, should I pull the trigger and end it before an LTR.
Positives, well-educated doctor with a solid career ahead of her, she's hardworking and years ahead of her peers, she's literally a virgin and spends most of her free time horse riding and with her family (most of her friends are female doctors). She's incredibly loyal, easy to read, she know's my value and is a blank canvas with very little experience with men.
Negatives, she has no life outside of work and horse riding, she's culturally illiterate (I like art, film, literature, politics), she takes medication for work stress sometimes, and she's only a solid 7.
I'm the director of a startup, I don't lift enough but I dress incredibly well, have two plates and own a very successful startup at 28. I'm looking for an LTR with someone with good genetics to have children with in the future.
My question is, do I pull the trigger? I know if I have to ask it's obvious but how often does one find a woman who has very very few red flags.
Vetrpinari 5y ago
Loyalty is a quality that is rarely found in women. If you can ascertain that she won't leave you in a downturn, and there are no major red flags (it seems there aren't), I say keep her for now. At your age you have the luxury of erring several times, as long as you correct the errors as and when necessary (i.e., don't marry before vetting extensively). You will have to spend time on her -- she will need guidance and leadership.
A possible red flag that you have omitted is her love of horse riding in combination with her being a 28yo virgin / not having much of a life otherwise. The crazy horse girl stereotype exists for a reason.
Of course, I am assuming here that you have verified the information in your post. A 28yo virgin is not unheard of, but it is very rare in the western world.
Sajutsu 5y ago
Difference between standing up for yourself like a man or getting hurt and showing your insecurity like a little kid?
what_cube 5y ago
How do i stop craving love? Im dating a ltr, and as we both get comfortable after 10 months i felt i crave for more love from her. I dont want to beta orbit around her and expect her love tendency. I was thinking keeping busy which i'm doing currently. Just want to wire my brain , AWALT towards this particular girl.
rolancsa 5y ago
edit: thanks brothers, I will continue to work on myself, meanwhile, i shall delete the info i put into this comment
Entropy-7 5y ago
Eat a lot and lift. I am 5'10" and was maybe 65kg. I joined the military engineers and we ate like horses and did things like build bridges by hand. I put on about 20 pounds of muscle over the next year.
Then I was not in the field so much but rather going to the gym. All you need is 3 times a week for about an hour or an hour and a half. Bench, chin, military press, squat and then isolation movements like curls, pushdowns, situps, toe raises.
I went back to eating heavy which included a 1000 calorie power shake in the morning, a quarter pound of meat at lunch plus vegetables and salad at lunch, the same again plus starch for dinner, snacks of fruit or nuts or yogurt in between meals, and about a litre of milk a day. Some guys talk about one or two pounds of meat a day but the plain fact was that I physically had problems of eating everything on my diet as it was.
This only added another 5 pounds of mass but my BF% fell so total muscle gains were more like 15 pounds.
Anyways, in two extended cycles over the space of a few years that was a gain of 35 pounds of lean muscle.
Fulp_Piction 5y ago
Look at the fitness sub's guides.
Basically - whole foods, lots of protein, enough fat, no sugar, enough sleep, workout 3-4 times/week with a good program that works for you.
Starting Strength is a famous book for beginners to the gym, check out defranco's limber 11 for prehab/warmup.
ImmunosuppressedTau 5y ago
60 kg is really light. Eat clean but way more. Try and be constantly full. Try mass gainers if you're still struggling .Go to the gym and lift. Start off lifting light weights with lots of vol then in 3 months start lifting heavy.
h4nkz 5y ago
focus on big compound excercises, use a TDEE calculator and eat a surplus of 300kcal CLEAN which means no processed food. Peanut butter, nut mixes, bananas are your friend. If you don't gain weight, EAT MORE but keep it 80% clean. Lift hard. Profit.
RedPillpls 5y ago
I went from being 6’1” at 150 lbs to gaining over 70 lbs while lifting. The best possible thing you can do is learn to track what you eat every day and ensure that your in a calorie surplus(eating more calories then you burn in a day) there are online calculators that will give you estimates you can look up. Also I’d say to aim at gaining about a pound a week with eating a decent amount of protein(.6-1g/lb of body weight)
One extra tip I would always do is make a weight gainer shake every morning so I was always starting the day with 1k+ calories. I mixed oatmeal, protein, whole milk, banana and olive oil in a blender and it works out well.
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Shakes are a life saver. When you're full but need to get another 500-1000 calories in, not having to chew makes all the difference
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Judirek 5y ago
Just eat A LOT, I struggled with this before cause I think I was eating a lot (I'm full) when in fact I was eating at a maintenance, I'm 5'6" at 58 kg at that time (65 kg now) I can imagine you are one real lanky dude aim for 70 - 77 kg. This dude bantamweight is 5'11" at 61 kg, this other dude is 5'10" at 71 - 77 kg, use UFC fighters weight class for reference for your ideal body type, their heights and weights are displayed just pick a fighter and google search their name + body. Read about caloric surplus, TDEE and shit on fitness subreddit faqs almost all of your questions will be answered there trust me:
Don't expect to achieve your ideal body in 6 months to a year unless you are on steroids, just be patient with it just like a skill to develop it takes time and sculpting your body takes a whole lot of time. My mistakes were fuckarounditis with lifting AKA not following a program and not eating at a surplus, body is better now at 10 months compared to when I didn't lift.
AussiecuntTRP 5y ago
fyi MMA fighters cut their weight before a fight. That bantamweight would walk at about 150ish and GSP about 190+
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youcantdenythat 5y ago
Why do you ask? Why do you care what other ppl do?
ricoue 5y ago
How to find a woman who does not have problems being the submissive one in a relationship?
willowhawk 5y ago
It's natural for most. Meet more women and screen the ones who arnt
womans_algorithm 5y ago
It's a natural state for a woman to be submissive, IF you are being dominant (a man). Ying and yang.
littleblacktruck 5y ago
You are the vessel, the woman should form to you. If she doesn't, then find a different woman.
VasiliyZaitzev 5y ago
Uncle Vasya’s Guide to Submissive Women
-How to lead when she wants to follow.
Of Human Bondage – Uncle Vasya’s Guide for Men Who Like To Tie Up Young Ladies.
-The Field Guide to playing knotty games with naughty girls.
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Usually, submissive women are not found, they're made. At least that's my experience. (I swear I'm not trying to draw attention to the fact that I'm a woman, just trying to give my experience as an example so I can help) When I met my husband, I was the epitome of a raging man-hating feminist; complete with weird hair, 25 extra lbs, and a "this is what a feminist looks like" shirt. It was bad. I don't know what he saw in me, but when we started going out (against all odds), he changed me. And that's what I've heard from a lot of the women who ended up becoming RP. It takes a real man to turn a feminist into a woman. So I would suggest looking for someone who is open to new ideas, rather than trying to find someone who is already submissive.
HeavenlyMystery 5y ago
FYI - never say that you're a woman in this subreddit.
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bossplayaintraining 5y ago
How do I get a job that’s not a dead-end job & allows for advancement in my field (finance) in today’s economic climate?
I’m 21, just graduated with a finance degree from a university in Toronto, but I didn’t get work experience in the field during my time in university. I’m worried that I’ll never have anywhere close to the career I want. I’m worried I’ll get rejected by every job due to robots filtering the hiring process now & making it impossible for everyone to get work.
I’m also worried about starting a business, because today, virtually every market is over-saturated and/or dominated by monopolies, so sustaining myself through entrepreneurship is going to be impossible.
What I’m trying to say is... how can I make money & become rich when it seems like all the odds are stacked against me & it’s impossible to do so if you don’t have a ton of money already?
HarbourView 5y ago
The odds are not stacked against you. The economy is great right now and graduate unemployment low.
Step 1. Get your foot on the ladder of working for a large corporation at a graduate level entry. If you can’t get a job like that you are not trying.
Step 2. Manage your career. Increase your pay, seniority and move employers. That will give you options down the track.
The worst thing that happens is that you end up with a big salary that underwrites your ability to have great life. The best thing would be that you end up using your capital to start your own thing.
kylerosa21 5y ago
Fuck buddy likes to text me every now and then when she sees me at a party around our campus. I usually say something to coax another response from her, then i just leave it on read. She tends to double text on occasion, and did so today. Should I continue doing this? It’s been working well so far for me
womans_algorithm 5y ago
Should I continue doing this? It’s been working well so far for me
kylerosa21 5y ago
Trying to optimize if possible.
womans_algorithm 5y ago
Allright, general things: be less invested than she is, roughly follow the golden rule, dont text too much. Pretty straightforward, hope I helped.
kylerosa21 5y ago
Guess I’m basically on the right track then. I follow all of this devoutly. I just wanted to know if there was something important I was missing. Thank you
One_time_back_when 5y ago
I'm lifting and looking to build muscle. I am trying to eat at a 200-500c surplus per day. Some days I don't hit my surplus through food alone, but with a few beers or so I will go over into surplus calories.
The question is, will the calories through the booze contribute to putting me in the surplus for building mass, or are these just wasted calories that do nothing or go straight to fat. In other words, do I still need to try and hit my daily surplus solely through food? (Putting aside any nutritional argument).
This happens 1-2x a week due to my lifestyle and I'm just trying to get a feel if this is really setting me back.
Vylasama 5y ago
Short answer: Calories are calories
Long answer: Alcohol consumption in excess can harm your muscle gaining process. You will get dehidrated, sleep worse and alcohol is a depressor for your brain.
Judirek 5y ago
How do you get your testosterone tested? Is it in the same place where a blood test is done? I plan on getting myself tested on blood and T-levels on the same diagnostic center.
Cesare_MA 5y ago
I went to my general physician’s office to get tested.
youcantdenythat 5y ago
checkout the sub for Testosterone. lots of info in the sidebar
[deleted] 5y ago
Virgin here - how do you detect/avoid STDs besides straight up asking her/using a condom?
SnowMonkeyCracker 5y ago
Never ever trust what a woman says. There is a strong drive within woman to get a load of spunk deposited in them - inverse to a man's desire to deposit said spunk - so they will sometimes hamster and make excuses to get a hot load.
Always wrap it before you tap it. The worst STD gestates for 9 months and is a parasite for at least 18 years.
h4nkz 5y ago
just use a fucking condom unless she is your ltr and got tested. everything else is a risk
gluten_free_soy_boi 5y ago
DAE ask girls the last time they've been tested, even if about to use a condom?
oplock 5y ago
Use a condom, else the STD might be draining your bank account for 18+ years.
truedemocracy3 5y ago
STD risk is always overblown by beta losers who can't get laid. It's really only a problem in poor urban communities. That said - always use a fucking condom.
And I wouldn't even ask about STDs, complete mood killer
MattyAnon Admin 5y ago
You can't detect.
Almost noone tests, so no point asking.
Use condoms - these will protect you most of the time from most of the worst ones.
MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 5y ago
A lot of young women actually believe they can simply look at a person and determine if they're someone HIV would infect or not. They also tend to be woefully ignorant of their own fertility cycles. Therefore, never blindly trust what a woman says about her disease or fertility status.
For ONS or hookups always protect yourself.
In my 30+ year love life, this has meant screening for longer term involvement, even for potential plates, and rejecting women who were very forward or sexually aggressive. For me, this worked out to almost never using condoms, and never ever getting a STD.
MattyAnon Admin 5y ago
Ahhh... the insanity. I've not come across exactly this, but I've seen a consistent willful ignorance on the subject. It's like they think if they just believe a certain thing, it will come true - including going "by their gut" on STD's. This means seeing attractive men as cleaner than unattractive, while likely the inverse is true.
comcain 5y ago
Especially young women are incredibly impregnable. Use a condom!
Rgfnd 5y ago
Background: Met a cute girl travelling in South Asia. I’m originally from the same place so language, culture etc.. is not an issue despite me having spent more than half my life in North America (27m). She’s 22, serial monogamist been in 2 serious relationships and low n count (I estimate 2). Has a very strong catholic upbringing so family values have been instilled in her, and is very feminine. She’s a 7, maybe half way to 8 when she’s dolled up and is currently working towards being a corporate lawyer. Downsides: She’s been raised in sexually repressed culture and as a result I’ve had to take things REAL slow in terms of escalation. Also, her dad wasn’t in her life since she was 11, she visits him in Europe twice a year, talks to him regularly and seems to have an otherwise good relationship with him. From what I’ve heard he seems to be pretty Beta.
Questions: should I consider pursuing this as a LTR possibility despite the fact that I’ll be leaving in 2 months? If so, how should I be grooming her for an LTR? Any future with this girl would be in North America. Would she be ruined by the rampant feminazi ideology if this actually plays out and she ends up in North America?
Any further advice and input greatly is appreciated.
CasaDeFranco 5y ago
Trust you're gut, I did a post here with a similar question. Pull the trigger, absent father is usually a positive sign and your value with only increase whilst hers with do the opposite.
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unsolicitedcoonery 5y ago
Dont even consider an LTR unless you’ve fucked her a good few times. You won’t know what she’s really like until then
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-RaisedByWolves- 5y ago
I know what TRP preaches in regards to what really attracts women, but out of curiosity;
Why do so many women love super beta-ish songs with singers who talk about not being able to live without their special someone and how they’ll treat them right and do anything for them and blah blah blah? Same thing goes for movies who have the main role played by someone who has a lot of beta qualities (I.e. chasing the girl, afraid of losing her, being very sensitive etc)
Just wondering why women swoon over these types of men?
Thanks.
womans_algorithm 5y ago
Because those singers are already high status by being what they are. It's like a difference if fat ugly guy winks at a girl ("ewwww") or if hot dude does it.
Salted_Pretzel 5y ago
How do you build a rock steady inner game? I finally understand that being alpha is a mindset. Yet, I find it really difficult to build a solid inner game and mindset. Any advice?
IvyExcess 5y ago
Practice, fail, learn, practice. Repeat until success
kingbraderz 5y ago
I am still fairly new to TRP but.. mental masturbation what is that? I don’t see how reading ever really a waste when your mentally stretching different qualities to grow when reading for example vocab, ideas, thought patterns, principles to implement in life, reading comprehension...maybe I’m completely lost on the idea itself someone help?
womans_algorithm 5y ago
Lots of newbies think that by reading material on the game, they get better at it. This thinking is wrong. You get better by approaching and learning from practice. A guy who reads for months and is not approaching because "he is not ready yet" is just deluding himself.
NYdude92 5y ago
Is there a comprehensive list of TRP terms?
What is hamster? What is SMV? What is post wall?
A TRP dictionary if you will.
Dank_Pilkington 5y ago
Try googling “Red Pill Glossary” and you’ll find several sites explaining all the different trp terms
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It's in the sidebar
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womans_algorithm 5y ago
Yes, but not how BP presents it.
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Real love is more about compromise, loyalty, and honesty than the BP wants you to think. Yes, it exists, but it is not ALL fun and passion and fairytales... It's hard work.
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comcain 5y ago
I'm wondering that myself. I'm divorced.
YNGBLOOD13 5y ago
What are you favorite action dates? Trying to spin this plate, but don’t want to take her on a bullshit date
darchetype 5y ago
Ice skating, darts, billiards, rock-climbing gym, putt-putt. The setting doesn't really matter though--some of my best dates have been at janky dive bars.
Mr-Ed209 5y ago
Go do something you're good at and enjoy.
It's almost a cliche small town date, but bowling is pretty sick and if you're good enough at it that chicks are somewhat impressed by your skillz all the better. Golf driving ranges in the summer can be good if you happen to live close to a nice range. I used to live close to a cool place that had a bar patio adjacent so you could sip beers while hitting a few balls in the sun then walk over for an appie or something later.
The golf one i got from a female friend back in my BP days where we all went as a group of mates. I happen to be pretty sick at golf by general standards so everyone asks me for tips a lot of the time.
'it looks so good when you swing; you should bring girls here that you're dating'
Who would have known even golf can get you laid.
dryenz 5y ago
How is self-confidence built?
I mean true confidence, not False Bravado, I’m taking some risks like approach girls and group of girls, but It looks like nothing is changing
TrueFacets 5y ago
Don't think of it as self-confidence but think of it as self-respect. Do you do things that you respect ? If your friend would do what you do, would you think he is a cool dude ?
If you waste your day playing video games drinking beer and fapping to porn, you wont feel self confident because you dont respect what you did.
If you at least put in a few hours for something productive which makes your life a bit better the next day; Like working out, cleaning your room, or learning something useful. Then you will respect what you did. That's self-respect. You feel and be calm, in control, an competent.
And then after a while you will feel self-confident! Because you know what you do is right and good!
That's it, pretty simple once you get it. As always, there is no magic way to do it. (closest thing to a "cheat-code" that I found was MMA training twice a weak. Nothing made me mentally stronger in a few short weeks then getting hit in the face in a controlled but demanding environment)
KingRead 5y ago
Being able to be proud of who you are.
We advocate lifting a lot, because when you change your body and become fit, you respect your body that much more and won't let others talk you down.
This even works for being a high value man. If you've worked your ass off in school, at work, saved your money and all the hard things required to be successful, you know for a fact that youve got your shit together. You don't need someone to tell you.
Basically, become the star of your own movie and you'll have no other choice but to be confident.
h4nkz 5y ago
by facing your fears even if you fail and try again
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By trying and failing over and over, but learning a little bit each time, so that at some point you are able to synthesize correct answers based upon past failings so that you start to win. Plus a little maturity goes a long way.
_JustASnowFlake_ 5y ago
Confidence is where you know you can trust it. Like a new bridge, you trust it own let you down and fall. But an old bridge made of rotting rope, you would have have confidence in it.
Self confidence is the same trust in yourself. As there are different areas you will be in love, you may be confident in one area but not in another.
Sometimes by being confident in one area before moving to another area can flow over that confidence. Hence why gymbros life before going out.
MattyAnon Admin 5y ago
Confidence is built on challenge and skill and success.
IronJohnKwando 5y ago
getting back up after you fail and trying again. Confidence is knowing that no matter what happens, you can handle it.
Sermoln 5y ago
It definitely helps to have positive people in your life. It's not necessary but I think that's where all my confidence came from.
youmeare 5y ago
Each day , as soon as you wake up , you face decisions regarding discipline that you maintain in your routine, example-> should you be eating burger or fish salad? Should i skip gym today or try new workout routine? Winning these small battles and choosing the(usually) hard and right decisions builds self confidence bit by bit, which sub consciously builds true confidence in you.
satanicpriest13 5y ago
Keep growing. Try and learn new things. The first step of this is of course lifting and dressing better. Take it further. Learn a language. Fix your own car. Pick up an instrument. The more you do. The more you will fail, and learn to overcome. This is true confidence, when you know for sure there are100 things you can knock out of the park, and a know what you can't manage.
comcain 5y ago
Self confidence comes from a series of successful experiences. There are no shortcuts. The good news is you can accelerate the process by having more experiences.
PhaedrusHunt 5y ago
Be the man you'd want to be with if you were a woman
blue-jean 5y ago
No such thing as confidence.
The outward appearance of confidence is merely "looking right for the job". If you want to get the ladies, look right. Lift, dress well, practice the right mannerisms, posture etc.
The inward appearance of confidence is merely the ability to change your pessimistic habits. Be optimistic, and practice until your habits improve.
stephenjlizard 5y ago
How much time has passed since you started approaching?
Also, what are you doing for yourself, in addition to going out and approaching girls?
dryenz 5y ago
1 week, approaching, I just typically ask for advices
reborn-phoenix 5y ago
Met a 8-9 level hottie via friend's girlfriend, went to club, started kissing her, got to her place, it was already too late and she was drunk, so she just fell asleep next to me in bed. In the morning she won't let me do anything, second night also the same, she was ok sleeping with me in the same bed but no sex. What should've I done? I probably shouldn't have wasted the second night with her and just nexted her after the first night.
daymi 5y ago
Leave. I'm not being facetious. She has to think that you have options and if she doesn't put out she's out.
So either just leave. Or better yet, call someone (anyone), then leave.
I'm not necessarily saying that it will help you with her (though maybe it will), but that's what you ought to do anyway - your time is precious.
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Dank_Pilkington 5y ago
What you should do is come to the realization that YOU are the most important thing in your life, and that you are responsible for your own happiness. No one owns you anything in life, as rough as that may sound. Invest in yourself, put in the work, realize that you can take care of yourself and have some fun.
womans_algorithm 5y ago
Learn few chords on guitar, write her a song, buy a bucket of roses and a pizza, and try to get her back.
Dank_Pilkington 5y ago
Iron rule of Tomassi #7
“It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.”
womans_algorithm 5y ago
And I thought my comment was sarcastic enough to not need a "/s" at the end.
MarcosDomingues 5y ago
How do I convince someone that AWALT and that there are no unicorns? Literally, I have this friend who has told me many many stories from other people and first hand that only prove that AWALT. I have been trying to redpill him because we're really close, we both lift and do chit together. He basically agrees with everything I say about the sidebar material, but when he talks about new girls he meets he always thinks they're different and immediately thinks everything I said doesn't apply to them.
womans_algorithm 5y ago
He has to experience it, you can't force it down his throat.
m7871 5y ago
your friend is a dumbass, let him discover it himself
MarcosDomingues 5y ago
Believe me when I say he experienced it multiple times, but he's always like, nah maybe this girl isn't really like the others. Im not forcing it down his throat, I just casually bringed TheRedPill when he was telling me what had happenned in the summer, so many stories that could be post material here, even though I won't post them. Sometimes he asks me to clarify those stories with TRP glasses, and he's always amazed at how accurate this is.
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Why can't someone reach Les Brown and get him jacked so I have an ultimate hero?
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Sove131 5y ago
As I see these increasing propagandas I wonder whether in case of feminism taking over the reddit and shutting down this sub(future?), is there any TRP2 subreddit, or community website that could be used as an alternative (when the time comes)?
womans_algorithm 5y ago
trp.red is a backup website in case this subreddit gets flushed.
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seever 5y ago
Do you mind sharing your collection?
MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 5y ago
TRP dot red.
Sove131 5y ago
Didn't expect to need that so soon.
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CasaDeFranco 5y ago
Are you a working professional?
If yes, no.
If you are a student, ask someone who is not a friend, are you more attractive with or without long hairs (reddit has a place to ask this question).
Thirdly; if you ask the question you know the answer.
Blackfang28 5y ago
I'm currently talking to a co-worker that I like and we have been talking on Snapchat mainly. I asked her to hang out so I can get to know her. (We went to a burger parlor and went to walk around the beach where there was a small outlet) During the hang out, we talked majority of the time and there was only a few times that there was silence. As of currently, I have a her number and asked to hang out with her next week.
My question is: When should I ask her out on a date and I can't tell the signs if she is interested in me or not.
P.S. I have been out of the dating game for more than 5+ years now.
madrealworld 5y ago
my answer is: dont shit where you eat
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Hello there. I've been digesting the sidebar for some time and am now trying it out in real life. My only issue is as follows: whenever I try to be more confident, I mostly sound like a dick. Should I worry about that? I'm aware people don't like change, but should I just not give a shit about what people think about me? I've read a lot about IDGAF attitude, but wouldn't that be social suicide?
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SnowMonkeyCracker 5y ago
What you desire and what your SMV can manage are two different things. I am guessing there is an internal conflict between what you imagine yourself to be and what you really are. So when you fail to get the women you desire your illusion collapses and it feels like part of you has been murdered.
You appear to be attempting to gain validation by the status of the women you can seduce. Stop that. Women work up the SMV ladder which means men must work DOWN the ladder. Of course, it is natural to seek the best you can find but you can't find what is not available to begin with. Recalibrate your search pattern of women.
KarmaKill23 5y ago
How do I overcome fear of her hamster?
An unfortunate side effect of my RP journey has been this newfound fear of women's hamstering. I mean specifically when a woman flat out lies, says you both know is total bullshit. Something that you could all but guarantee she will flip on or outright deny saying shortly after. Seeing her hamster work that hard is an indication that she is willing to make things up. And then MeToo pops into my head and fear gets the better of me. It's especially prevalent on dating apps like tinder where ADS have become so half assed that its almost a turn off. Although that is more frustration than fear. What are you gunna do? Unmatch me?
Point is: As a RP Man, I need accept the hamster that comes with a woman. But I am just frustrated (and yes, intimidated) with the bullshit that hamster can spin up. How do I make peace with that.
af_007 5y ago
How to deal with a relationship being a red piller?
ex_addict_bro 5y ago
Focus on being a red piller. The relationship will sort out by itself
womans_algorithm 5y ago
Specify your question a little more for me please.
youcantdenythat 5y ago
Search for the Levels of Dread in this and the marriedredpill sub
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womans_algorithm 5y ago
Why did u took it as a challenge and got pissed?
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womans_algorithm 5y ago
Ok, why do you have this opinion? On what reality is it based on?
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I'm remaining at my college for the summer. A girl from my class whose number I got is going back home. It's unlikely we'll be able to meet up as I'm pretty sure her parents keep a tight leash on her.
How often should I text her over the summer to keep myself in her memory banks?
Cesare_MA 5y ago
I probably wouldn’t text her at all, especially if you didn’t text very often during the school year. Maybe snap her every now and then if it’s something interesting/referencing a common experience you both had.
grlahmb 5y ago
As limited contact as possible. Don't show even a hint of needyness. Reply if she messages you but using less words/texts. Break up with her in your own mind and pursue other women.
Following this will give you the best chance of seeing her again. I have plates at university and home and they wait for my return. Texting a lot will ease your insecurity but increase the chance of her sleeping with someone else.
Word of Warning Expect lots of shit tests on her return. My plates always feel the need to do this on my return. Takes a couple of bangs before the fall back into my frame.
TL;DR Be indifferent. Being willing to lose her is the best protection against losing her.
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What if we were never an item though? She was never my plate or anything, I just sensed some interest from her.
grlahmb 5y ago
You need more abundance. You are overly invested in the girl that hasn't earned it. You know it, she knows it and it asserts her as the one with more value. Girls will often show interests in order to feel validated by men perusing them.
Withdraw attention (validation) immediately. If she's interested she will reach out, if not she categorised you as a no penis wielding beta Teddy Bear.
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Fuck damn it you're right!
This summer is about me improving myself. There will be other women to talk to in the area. Thank you for the clarity.
womans_algorithm 5y ago
I was going to the gym for 3 years and got a very nice body. I stopped going in June 2017 because I had some medical problems and because I was burned out. Since than, I naturally lost some muscles, and gained some fat. The fat is on stomach and in ass. I will soon start losing weight, so my question is: are there any tips for my specific problem (fat mostly on stomach and ass), or do I just consider myself generally fat and go with normal routine (for instance the one described in trp / comments / 8g8zx3 / guide_for_weight_loss ) ?
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How the hell do you lose the muscle dude? That is not natural. I have managed to keep my gains if I took any breaks by just eating right.
xdurabolin 5y ago
There were a lot of posts recently about the benefits of fasting for at least 12 hours, or even longer periods.
Overall it piqued my interest greatly and I plan to start fasting next week, however there is one thing I was not able to find a clear answer to: can you use BCAA supplements during a fast, or this will cancel your fastened state?
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It contains calories, so no, I wouldn't recommend it.
Red_Faust 5y ago
I use BCAA before training, just as per the leangains system.
Supposedly BCAA won't break your fast (technically it will, since it has calories, but it doesn't have enough calories to interrupt the benefits of the fasting).
Martin Berkhans explains it over here: https://leangains.com/early-morning-fasted-training/
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MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 5y ago
If she doesn't naturally know how to woman, she is probably on the spectrum or axis II. RUN!
youcantdenythat 5y ago
either hold frame, or if you can't, then next
pretty-legit 5y ago
Does high n-count matter for entertaining the idea of an LTR why/why not? When is it too high?
newName543456 5y ago
High N-count is correlated with higher divorce rates. Whether there is a causal link, remains to be seen.
womans_algorithm 5y ago
Yes: https://img.4plebs.org/boards/pol/image/1490/41/1490411769854.jpg
plvic52 5y ago
Did I fuck up? Last weekend I was at a bar with friends, and (im new to this) I was still too much of a bitch to actually go up to some attractive girls and talk. But, this one girl started bumping into me clearly showing she wanted to grind, so I grabbed her waist and we were grinding. (I didnt even get a look at her face cause it was dark) And then her friend came up to me smiling (and she was very hot, like a 9) and told me "you can sleep on our futon :)". So clearly she was saying that they want me to fuck this chick. Then, I got a look at the girl I was dancing with, literally a 2 that looks like a troll. So in my head im like "fuck that, is there any way i can turn this around and fuck that 9." Couldn't think of anything and wanted to leave this situation as soon as i could, so as they started planning shit, im like "im going to go to my friends." And i left. They clearly seemed disappointed. Is there any way I could have done this differently. Obviously, i should have been going up to attractive girls in the first place tho..
ex_addict_bro 5y ago
Classic. Ignore the 9 focus on 2.
VasiliyZaitzev 5y ago
Tell her she has to be in on it.
willso86 5y ago
Theres an episode of Seinfeld about a similar situation
humblecognac 5y ago
I'm an absolute newbie. There is so much study material here. Have you guys thought of boiling down all this stuff into a crisp 200-300 page booklet? It'd be useful for revision. It could have the most basic and essential tenets of trp. It would also serve as starting point for noobs. I'd do it but I clearly don't have the depth of knowledge. May be such a book already exists, if so, please let me know. Also if they crackdown on this sub, we'd always have the basics with us at least.
ApexmanRP 5y ago
Do the reading, do the work.. there is no substitute..
Stop looking for short cuts and quick fixes, there aren't any.
IronJohnKwando 5y ago
I'd suggest The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi.
VasiliyZaitzev 5y ago
Start at the top of the sidebar....work your way to the bottom. Then start at the top again.
Rudeyyyy 5y ago
http://a.trp.red/files/RPSidebar.pdf
here ya go
Fulp_Piction 5y ago
Nope. Closest thing is the red pill handbook. Just take your time and read the sidebar, it's not a race.
HostandPony 5y ago
Anyone have a guide for good skin care? I know that when my skin clears up I look so much better but have a hard time keeping a routine. There are tons of different guides so I wanted to know what worked best for you. Quick info: 23, typically get cystic and red spots but nothing major. Oily skin
DeMoNzIx 5y ago
Don't fap, eat healthy fats like avocados, olive/coconut/fish oils, and take cold showers. Also check to see if you have a zinc deficiency.
gilly8885 5y ago
How do you guys read? reading a self-improvement book is great but it is a form of "mental masturbation". Do you take down notes? Most of it is not absorbed and applied because it can easily be forgotten.
nme112 5y ago
I mean if you read something that involves you applying principles, apply them and it’s not masturbauion. I.e I read how to read friends and influence people and actually use those principles pretty frequently still. You can write stuff down if you want but I think it’s more of taking what works for you/adding to your perspective rather than memorizing material
ApexmanRP 5y ago
I read a lot so am in danger of heading down the mental masturbation route, so I keep a piece of paper with each book I am reading and write down up to the top 3 actionable things, and then transfer those into my plans.
Cum_belly 5y ago
I take notes if it’s some serious wisdom but I always tend to summarize the information in my head after each chapter (or so) at a minimum. Try like summarizing it to yourself as if you were going to teach it to your younger self.
IronJohnKwando 5y ago
audiobooks for me. Taking notes in conjunction with listening has been helpful for retention.
dcmcmd 5y ago
For books related to my work, I make structured notes and read back through them. I'll also try and find friends to explain interesting bits and pieces to, from said books. Good help with remembering what you've read, plus a test of how well you've understood it.
For non-professional books I worry less about retention and just let it wash over me. Important to enjoy reading for its own sake at times too.