I have not been "in love" where I am mad with passion for the girl. But I have loved a girl and continue to do so to this very day. She had a heart that was pure. She had no problem asking you about an action you took that she didn't understand. She would not judge for the action, she would not presuppose regarding the action. She would ask you to explain so that we could be on the same frequency. She loved me back. She cared for me. She learned from being with me as I learned from being with her. She knew I loved her which made flirting with other girls in front of her ok because in the end she knew where my heart belonged. She had a realistic approach to relationships. Hollywood romance only entertained her, it did not influence her. She respected me and I respected her.

In the end, however, we were too different. Our upbringing and ideologies are far too different and beyond the non-serious phase of our relationship, we would have surely crashed and burned.

Love. There is no such thing. Only Oneitis.

Infatuation is the only thing that exists and it is what determines whether you find someone attractive or not.

High levels of infatuation eventually lead to Oneitis. Therefore, you must guard against this idea of 'love'.

The moment you lose your ability to pull the trigger to NEXT her, you've lost the game.

Don Draper describes love

Thought I was but it's all bull shit.

I'm really tired of people using "love" as an emotion.

Love is a verb. It is something you DO as an expression of your positive affection for a person. It is not the feelings that prompt those actions. As long as you understand that love is a verb, not a gross pile of needy, codependent, possessive feelings, you see why it's not only possible but necessary for a Red Pill man to love the women in his life.

Note: Not "fall in" love. There's no action taken there. It's just code for succumbing to those weak, negative emotions.

I dunno, my previous relationships in retrospect make me think the only thing I lost when I thought I was in 'love' were actually my ego illusions.

I dated a dime for like a year and when we broke up I was fucking devastated. For a couple YEARS after I thought it was because I loved her so much and she was purrrrrrrfect and shit but after TRP I realized it was more because I thought I would never get it again and her breaking up with me was a blow to my ego.

I have certainly been 'in love', but it was most assuredly under the false pretense that I was receiving the same type of love in return. A hint: I wasn't. There can be no doubt that she did in fact love me as much as a woman is capable of such, but hypergamy and unrealistic feminized ideals have a way of reducing one's world to ashes.

Women build contingencies innately, they're always looking for plan B. It's hardwired into their base instincts to always seek out the best and most efficient path to resources (obtaining said resources themselves never seems to dawn on them, though). Men don't really see the need for constant upgrades in their life. Once they have a working system, they move on to other problems. Sometimes we fail to maintain our working systems though, and they fall to ruin. Relationships are no different. In fact they are astronomically worse because women need constant reassuring that you're the best she can do, which unfortunately in our society is an almost impossible standard without resorting to classically immoral acts like cheating. (FYI, an affair by the man is probably the best medicine for a failing marriage. If preselection doesn't fix it, it's beyond repair.)

Men don't care about constantly maintaining our feelings. Women make it their primary day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute obsession. Both parties project their wants and desires and relationships ultimately fail. Relationships are supposed to fail - we aren't a [sexually] monogamous species.

So yes, I have been in classical romanticized love. Unsurprisingly it failed - romanticized love is unsustainable, it will always fail given enough time. Anecdotal responses of "my aunt and uncle have been married for 50 years and they are still in love" don't hold water. They aren't still in love. They have found a happy place where the companionship and comfort outweigh the desire to seek out other lovers.

I'm a man. I'm hardwired for polyamory. I can love multiple women and I now see no moral fault in doing so. My 'love' comes from caring about women in my life, but romanticized monogamous love? I see no reason to go down that road ever again.

There are women who are actually interesting and have depth and intelligence.

Sexually they are perceptive and react similarly to other women, but of course this is only a biological imperative.

These are the women you have LTR with or a red-pill marriage.

"Love", as our society envisions it, does not exist.

You will be unable to love women until you get over your anger that they are not female men.

Once you accept that women are and should be the way women naturally are, you will find that you can love women. The way that love feels is probably not the way you expected love to feel before you took the pill, though.

There are men who love their dogs, yes?

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Men are more capable of authentic sacrificial love than women.

Women only have that love towards their children (in best case scenarios. I'm sure you've heard some mom horror stories).

To men, that kind of love isn't actually exclusively towards women. You can have that towards your country, your friends, your family, etc. The combination of "love hormones" and mens instinctual genuine love is just a potent concoction that really convinces us that this woman is that "thing" for us.

It's a beautiful feeling, and that's what it is. It's a feeling.

True love, is an action. It's what you do, how you do it and why you do it. Never forget that over anything else when it comes to love. Loving is doing.

If you ever notice... women are the ones most often confused by love. Men, when they are in love, are rarely confused by it. They know what they want, they know what it means to do it, they do it at all costs, all sacrifices with no problems or concerns, or questions, or whining. They are there for it.

Women = "Love is so confusing!!"

Again, individuals will vary, but by and far this is the mode of operation.

I think I was when I was a teenager. I still think about the feelings she gave me when I meet new girls who give me similar feelings.