Whenever a woman's dating profile says: "Just got out of an abusive relationship and want a good man who doesn't hit women or do drugs", here's a typical backstory for why. | WhereAreAllTheGoodMen

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Whenever a woman's dating profile says: "Just got out of an abusive relationship and want a good man who doesn't hit women or do drugs", here's a typical backstory for why.

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hornetsfalcons12 Sr. Hamster Analyst 2y ago

It literally takes their life being threatened before they get out of these situations. I can barely get away with being 15 minutes late to see my girlfriend, yet here this chick is getting an ass whooping on the regular and coming back for more. Sick stuff when you put it in perspective.

Boar_excrement Jr. Hamster Analyst 2y ago

But a nice guy doesn't make her wet. So, she is stuck between her beta orbiters and her bad boy.

Men, don't be the clean up crew for a mess you did not make. If a woman claims to have been in an abusive LTR, leave right then and there. There is nothing for you but a damaged being that only seeks drama. If you do not give it to her, she will make it for you to deal with.

Walk away and let her fix herself, if possible.

Scorpion69_ 2y ago

She stays with him coz she likes it. If she didnt like it, it would be as easy for her as dumping him or going to the police with the face like that and the guy would be in prison instantly.

Instead of doing that, she took a selfie and posted it on reddit to extract validation out of the ppl. She didnt "endure" anything.

Editing here to add that she was looking for this. She chose to open her legs for a drug addict "bad boy" and go after his commitment

I didnt sleep today so maybe my take on it is wrong lol

Overkill_Engine WAATGM Endorsed 2y ago

No, no, you are spot on. She chose to ignore the red flags slowly escalating. Guarantee she's failing to mention just how many of those flags were present before marrying him and she chose to ignore them then too.

Because badboy was hawt and gave her the drama fix she craved.

mustangfrank1 Sr. Hamster Analyst 2y ago

About 4 years ago, I was in a conversation, at another site, with a man who was a stepdad to a woman. She left her abusive husband after 8 years. BTW, she had 5 kids with him. How is it possible to have 5 kids with someone who is abusive, unless she liked it? My bet, the tingles that made 5 kids overrode 8 years of abuse. I called BS to the man. He was not happy. 5 kids for her to realize he was abusive? What BS.

Problematic_Browser Sr. Hamster Analyst 2y ago

I know a 42 year old bartender (already a winner, right?) who got into a relationship with a known domestically abusive rapist drug dealer.

Later, after he went to jail for beating the fuck out of one of his women, she confided in me that during their two year relationship, he would routinely take her money, beat her, and force her to have anal intercourse.

I just said "shocker" and looked at her.

Women choose these men - they deserve no sympathy.

DextroShade 2y ago

I have no sympathy at all, she chose to marry an abusive asshole who constantly wasted all their money on blow over who knows how many nicer guys who just didn't give her tingles. I have never heard of a normal, stable man suddenly becoming a coked-up wife beater, women seek these guys out. See also: the amount of love letters women write incarcerated murderers.

NotaBene Sr. Hamster Analyst 2y ago

The hamster is strong with these long-term enablers of abuse.

While unattractive, this girl is not stupid - she has a decent vocabulary, spelling, and grammar, at least compared with most of the trash we see on here. Yet she simultaneously loves and hates the abusive relationship. I don't see another explanation.

What was going through the girl's head during the 10+ years?. Storing up ammunition to get revenge and/or public attention? Thinking she can change him? His income was a good trade off for getting smacked around?

Then she blames the doctor for not reporting a felony when she herself failed to report dozens of them.

I think there should laws that reflect this. If you are the victim of "abuse", whether man or woman, and you fail to vacate and report it to the authorities as soon as possible, you lose the right to whine about it later.

Random_Throwaway_000 2y ago

Even if she is unattractive, some of the hottest girls I know outright seek out this behaviour in men. The hottest girl I know decided to have his kid!

I guess getting knocked out wasn't a big enough red flag. Honestly, it's just that they prefer the feels of abuse over the boredom of beta.

I don't blame them for it, but zero sympathy for them too. It's their life, tehy are free to be abused.

Loneliness-inc LvL 99 Rogue NiceGuy™ 2y ago

She got with him because he was exciting.

Dangerous is also exciting. It isn't a good form of excitement, but it is excitement nonetheless.

Like the retarded animal she is, she blindly followed her tingles and other instincts. All the way to the point of sense smacking her upside the face.

Quite literally.

I guess it's good that she finally left the abusive man, but make no mistake about this - she isn't innocent.

whytehorse2021 Jr. Hamster Analyst 2y ago

That's pretty brutal no matter how you slice it. If that was my daughter he'd be hospitalized for a very long time. I had a sister that got hit and my dad was on that guy in minutes.

Junkas 2y ago

Learning how to avoid those men is also necessary to protect their fathers and brothers. This isn’t bumping into a crazy person at the grocery store, it’s nearly a decade of regular drug money fights that already escalated into gun shots being fired years earlier(edit: misread that, she was shot at years after fights became physical). Anything family members did probably failed long ago, with her playing a big part in fighting them off, and they’re not going to respond to her fighting by sending her to the hospital for a very long time.

TriumphoftheSwill 2y ago

I used to work with a woman's roller derby team and all of them had sordid stories of past abuse. If you paid attention you'd hear them constantly changing and updating long after the guy was supposedly in the past. They would constantly try to one-up each other; "No, I'm more abused. No, I am!". Then they'd get all excited and talk rapidly like they were having the best time in the world.

Now I don't believe a fucking word of it unless I saw the guy actually beating the fuck out of her. Even then I wouldn't be so sure.

abitofmemory 2y ago

i myself has very little success with women. but i will take permission to think that according to my taste this woman's appearance would at most be 4/10 when she is not beaten. so, she may just have been as desperate as some guys r to get some sex, relationship and other nice things which come to people who r not alone. so, she may think that the guy like this is the only one she deserves

woodsmoke Respectful reprobate 2y ago

A) We've no way of knowing whether any of that is true.

B) Extenuating circumstances don't change the fact she is solely responsible for her own choices. She tries to duck that responsibility even as she's farming out her story for victim points:

The ER doctor was supposed to be a mandatory reporter, but he also just happened to be my landlord and did not notify the authorities.

Throwing her landlord under the bus for failing to put a stop to the situation when she obviously refused to do anything about it herself.

This woman is not some innocent victim of circumstance. She chose to date this man and chose to excuse his behavior and stay with him even after the relationship became abusive. As @Scorpion69_ said above, all she had to do was take that photo to a police precinct and the whole situation would have been resolved over-fucking-night. Instead she waited until years after the event in question then posted it on social media for validation.

abitofmemory 2y ago

i will tell u even more. i was living with a girl. and as i can c it now we both were (and maybe still r) desperate to have some sex, relationship, etc. so, we both lowered our standards a bit. and eventually we ended up abusing each other.

so, the abuse and all this crap was not something hot or alpha, but it was a result of our insecurity and low self esteem.

i literally would allow myself to fart in front of her. i stopped doing any sports. and she would allow herself to tell me that her friends boyfriend bought an expensive car for his girlfriends birthday as a present and that i am just a garbage man. she also stopped doing any sports. i.e. we both become much worse and our attitude towards each other become awful

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