I had a girl that I met online call it off after one date with the "no spark" line. (Apparently she felt enough of a spark to let me finger her in the movie theater, but I digress)

So I politely declined her offer to "just be friends"(emotional sponge) watched her cycle through guys online, posting the occasional "why me" pity post, and waited for her inevitable attempt at a reconnect.

After a year and a half, it came. Messaged me a "miss you" hook message out of nowhere after having been no contact for almost the entire time since our date.

But since I'm in a relationship now I shot that down right away. It's like you didn't feel a spark before, and nothing has changed, so why would I bother now just because you're tired of being treated like shit and miss the guy who treated you decently?

Imagine women being brought up to thinking tingles from first time encounters are more fulfilling than a forever burning cinder of a long-term relationship, stronger and hotter the longer the relationship goes.

Re: forums.red. Those forums still lead me to a dead end "unable to process this request HTTP ERROR 500" when I try and register with my username from Reddit.

A theme I see amongst the female posters on that thread is that they give "attractive" guys chances and then "nice" guys chances, and are dismayed by both. How about you don't give anyone a chance until you vett them a bunch and just overall like them as a person? These people jump into romantic relationships projecting all sorts of hope onto them. See if you like them as a neighbor or community member first. Do you even like their presence if it doesn't entail romance? You better, because a LTR is not a fairy tale of effortlessness.

One lady on the thread is saying she is finally giving a nice guy online a chance because she is tired of how the very attractive men treat her. One, what a fucking dichotomy she is making there, like, damn lady, dispense red pills slower, please (/s)! What do you wanna bet when it doesn't work out with this first "nice guy," she's going to make a huge generalization about all guys who are eager to please.

To all my critics and detractors, all those who keep saying this doesn't happen:

I TOLD YOU SO.

People: This happens all the time. This is women's biggest SMP/MMP problem: Attracted to the men who pump and dump and don't stick around. Not attracted to the "husband material" types. It sucks for girls. I get it, I really do. But this is just life for most women.

This is why cock carouseling it is a shitty strategy for women. Best strategy for most women is find a guy by age 21 or 22, you like him well enough, you like fucking him. Lock that guy down, latch on for dear life, do what he wants, go where he goes. Most women's relationship problems happen because of vague senses of dissatisfaction and "unhappiness". I'll let you girls in on a little secret:

you're ALWAYS unhappy. Learn to suck it the fuck up, put your goddamn big girl panties on, and get on about the business of life. Grow up and start acting like the adults you claim to be. Woman up. Grow up. GROW THE MOTHERFUCKING FUCK UP.

Back in the day we would help this woman select a husband when she was young and keep her away from bad men. Women's mate selection is hard wired for arousal - not long term stability or character.

Now we no longer live under patriarchy. Don't save her - she doesn't want to be saved.

Dual mating strategy ftw!

She will find a guy who she is not attracted to and marry the loser. Then she will find some or the other reason to justify her cheating on this guy, with some one she has the "feelz" for. Get pregnant, and this loser of a guy will be raising a bastard.

Alpha fuxx, Beta Buxx.

They only advice I have is for men to run away fast from her.

She's damaged, cannot pair bond in a healthy relationship.

Will seek tingles and cheat. May even try to pin/ paternity fraud Chad's child on a good men.

Aw darn mine got caught in the filter. This one gets even worse when you view her replies later on she is completely broken brained.

They don't get it. "The tingles" are bullshit. They're your body pumping you full of hormones so you can look past people's faults and reproduce. "The Tingles" haven't had a good use since the Neanderthal days. It's our primal lizard brains trying to get us to perform one of the basic functions of sustaining life without the rational fear of consequences.

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There is one underlying problem which is not talked about often. The phrase "out of league" is always used for a man, never for a woman.

For a plain girl a millionaire handsome guy is also not out of her league. Because of this they keep going after the guys who would not settle down with her. All the while she keep rejecting the guy who wants to settle down with her. When I say settle with her I DO NOT mean to lower the standard but building something with her.

They always think they deserve better without being better themselves.

Due to this when the guy leaves she blames the guy for not making the right choice. Never introspect the reason why did he leave. From what I read in most of these posts, women think that their willingness to be in a relationship is all that a guy would need to be in a relationship with her. She doesn't have to be charming and graceful or show some promise.

When they share their problem on forums all the other women band together too to tell it's the guys fault always. Women are perfect and pristine the way they are.

Sorry Carol. In the sexual marketplace you're shopping above your budget. Yes, the men you actually want will sometimes punch down and throw you a length. Re-adjust your tingleometer to be more in line with the men pursuing you and you might avoid being a wine-besotted cat lady.

You could try giving that cooter a break for a year maybe? See if that lets you view Brad and his peers with fresh eyes. But you won't, will you. You'll howl 'where are all the good men?' until you drop from Chad's radar completely. This is about the time you'll start taking selfies with an 'I need feminism because...' sign.

EDIT: Thanks for the gold!

Textbook example of a lot of red pill concepts - SMV/MMV deviation, tingle chasing, alpha widow, etc. At least she is aware that the problem is hers, not beta billy's.

I can answer that for her.

Everything.

What a moron.

What a train wreck.

sparks = tingles

Women chase tingles instead of stability, and wonder why things aren't working out.

Has anyone been able to change this pattern? Any thoughts and advice appreciated.

Any advice?? Okay, here it comes...

You are broken.

Delete your profile and go away.

Hope that helps...bitch.

She's spoiled with those exciting "toxic" relationships of the past. I imagine doesn't even know how to look for a decent partner.

I think she needs to meet more people.

Good luck to her as the wall doesn't give a FUUUUUUCK, and she's over 30. She priced herself out of the market with little recourse, and now the guys she wants are looking for better deals.

I wonder if the women on that thread understand that if a guy is sexually confident and assertive without really knowing a lot about her values, goals, and communication/conflict resolution styles, he doesn't even know if he really likes her. If she knew this, she wouldn't be surprised when they both catch feelings after sex and eagerly project a fantasy onto each other that inevitably comes crashing down because they haven't vetted each other.

Part of wanting a sexually assertive guy is knowing you have power over him. If she is insecure this is very important. A relationship based on calm mutual attraction can be scary for the insecure person who doesn't think the other person is hooked on them. If he's not addicted to her body, it's easier for him to walk away if her character is lacking.