This is over correcting its best.

Past relationships = hot and heavy

Husband = nothing

This is sad, but i have been there.

He isn't giving her the tingles like chad does.

This reminds of that story where one loving husband found out his daughters weren't his and his wife cheated on him for 11 years back in their younger days, and he committed suicide afterwards. I despise these cold-hearted narcissists.

Watta wonderful weaving wordy woatail

At least just tell him out of decency. What happened to decency? Can't these women act like normal humans?

Yes the good old butterflies she used to get from thugnificent is missing with her gentleman of a husband and hence she finds it difficult to even kiss him.

Op is aliterate.

She managed to pull the eject lever just before the wall AND stick the landing after more than a decade of riding the CC but she is already alpha widowed....

From the streets she cometh to the streets she shall return.

Divorce in 3-6 years, probably sooner she might go the 6 tho just to get into "payout" range.

Poor guy is going to get taken to the cleaners but at least we will get to see her post 30 dating profile and future crying about how hard dating is on FDS....

Would also like to point out that she certainly did things with the all powerful tingles men that she won't do with her husband.

Let it be a lesson men, if she is over 25 its almost impossible for her to be worth your time for anything serious. Don't Save A 304.

POV when your pair bonding circuits are totally fried.

my previous relationships were very sex focused and intense

As other commentators said she's DG alpha widow. Cannot pair bond. The guy is surely not RPed. If he knew he would not marry her.

Poor guy, hope he DNA tests children when she gets pregnant.

Everybody else on Reddit: "Oh poor dear! I hope you solve this problem, how tragic!"

Red pilled men: "That poor fuckin' guy, JFC. "

Ahh, a stillborn marriage.

I wondered if such a thing existed.

You can’t turn a whore into a housewife.

In all honesty, this was a very sad yet confusing read.

She said she "grew to really love" her husband. He respects her and treats her well. But she can't even kiss him?

Did they even consummate the marriage?!?!

This will only end one way and sadly the husband will be the loser in all of this.

Actually, it's hard to say if there's really a winner.

Its a chilling thought that you could have a woman trick you into marriage by lying about thr fact she had wild monkey sex with other men but you get grudging crumbs of pussy and literal revulsion. But shes not damaged goods, guys, being promiscuous totally doesnt have any negative effects on women!

I know we aren't supposed to blame men, but he has to take some responsibility for this. Men have got to stop marrying women who don't have genuine sexual desire for them. She says they never went through the "hot and heavy" phase, this is because she is not sexually attracted to him and never was. Her past relationships were sexually intense because she was actually attracted to those men and wanted to fuck them. This is a classic case of Alpha Fucks/ Beta Bucks. Their relationship is doomed.

This is another reason why you should only be in LTR with women with very few or preferably 0 body counts. His wife was alpha widowed and any women who has had too many partners will not be able to truly love and appreciate their husbands unless he is the best sex she's had. When you add in dozens of previous partners, this is highly unlikely.

He respects me

And you don't love him.

Gentlemen,

The sexual dynamics in this world are such: men love women, women respect men.

Love, kindness, generosity, giving - are primarily the domain of men.

Fear, respect, receiving, maintaining - are primarily the domain of women.

Women are human beings and men are human doings. Therefore, men do all the things and women are the beneficiaries. Men give, women receive. Men are outgoing with their kindness, generosity and giving - women are trying to hold onto what they have, fearful of losing it and setting boundaries to do so.

This is why she will never love you the way you love her. Because she's a woman, not a man.

This is also why you will never respect or fear her the way she respects and fears you. Because you are a man, not a woman.

Men complain that women don't love them.

Women complain that men don't respect them.

Both are unrealistic.

Sure, a man can respect his woman, it just won't be in the way she respects him.

Sure, a woman can love a man, it just won't be in the way he loves her.

Here we have yet another example of a woman who is having trouble loving the man who respects her and treats her so well.

Hmm.... I wonder if those two things are related....

My God, modern women are so fycked up...imagine a guy writing this...he'd be torn apart and made chum.

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She's a carousel rider whose dating a "not my type guy" and poor guy even married her... Damn she's settled for him

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Probably 6-24 months before her lack of attraction morphs into rationalizations on why she should cheat or leave her husband. Sometimes it takes the old cognitive hamster a bit to catch up with the tingly feelz, but it always seems to happen. Self awareness (like her post) are fleeting moments at best.

Giving herself a reason to ride the cc.

So is this what you guys mean about a woman's "tingles"?

I feel so sorry for this guy, as he might be feeling like he found his one in a million woman and she secretly feels like this!?

The stuff of nightmares.

Gods, I hope he reads this!!!

Impressive title.

What should I do?

Understand you've lied to, misled and cheated this man you claim to love. Accept full responsibility for your sins and set about making things right.

Sit your husband down, explain the situation, apologize for deceiving him and agree to an annulment of your marriage. Do not ask for or expect anything from him following this decision and do not allow him to give you anything out of any sort of misguided sense of obligation.

Have the both of you get together with an attorney to go over the separation with a fine-tooth comb to ensure there's absolutely no legal way he could ever be compelled to offer you any sort of support.

Contact his friends and family and explain your misdeeds to them as well. Once again, apologize for the damage and distress your lies have and will continue to cause.

Do not seek forgiveness, whether from your ex-husband or his friends and family. You made your bed. Now you get to lie in it.

Once the separation is finalized and he's fully free of you, commit to never again ruining a good man's life simply to satisfy your own selfish desires. Consider joining a convent and devoting your life to service of others in attempt to find some measure of redemption for all the pain your selfishness has caused.

There are posts that have 100s of comments regarding 'women who settled for a husband, how is your life like?'. The answers are truly horrifying and enough to ensure that any man who ever reads it will not touch the topic of marriage with a 10 meter pole.

Just proof that her previous cc riding destroyed her pair bonding. She’s looking for any reason to cheat now. What’s worse is the poor husband probably thinks all is well. She’s gonna cheat, make some bs excuse when caught, and then divorce him.

Nobodys gonna mention the alliteration in the title?

Free lesson: She's describing the problem but she's not actually seeking answers.

Rather, she's looking for permission. She wants someone (preferably a woman) to tell her that it's okay to refuse intimacy to her husband. She's not looking for answers; she's looking for permission.

She already decided what she wants to do. She just wants someone to tell her what she wants (i.e., a sexless marriage) is totally fine and if her Beta Bux Billy husband doesn't like that, obviously he's an asshole.

Step two, of course, is having an affair with Chad.

You can't negotiate desire. If a woman is really into you, you'll know immediately. Otherwise, cut your losses.

As soon as you hear spouses saying their spouse is their "best friend" it's game over. Your best friend should be your best friend not your husband/wife.

You can't have it both ways ladies, he is either your husband or "best friend" which is just another way of saying friend zoned.

The tingles! The tingles! Another poor bastard whose not really her husband, but a "lifestyle sponsor". (Stolen from a YouTube comment.)

I have to wonder - in a situation like this, would the best advice for hubby be: "develop a coke habit and slap her around a bit - soon she'll crave wild sex with you"?

Marriage... not even once!

I don’t know him, so I can’t say he is or isn’t a beta. By his marital attitude alone, I think it’s borderline to call him a beta. If he’s established his home, can provide for them and isn’t a raging violent asshole, it doesn’t mean he’s a beta.

I’ll agree, however, that the relationship problem lies squarely on her shoulders. I’ll make an educated assumption that she grew weary of the give all/get nothing from her “alpha fux” lovers and decided she needed a stable man who had his shit together.

The root of this dilemma is that her mind has been poisoned by feminism and 50 Shades Of Bullshit into believing that if she’s not in a constant state of arousal it must not be “love”.

She will definitely gravitate toward the feminist echo chambers, take horrible advice, leave her good life and end up broke, pregnant, and working two jobs. And wishing that she had a time machine.

why would anyone in the right mind marry with someone who they cannot even kiss without puking ? just why ?

What does it say about you when kissing your husband - a nice man by your own account - makes you literally sick?