Dedicated to exposing all the women who complain about wanting a "good man", to show women's poor dating behavior and unreasonable standards while offering little to no value themselves.
MEGAQUE_MQHD
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We're just a bunch of clueless NiceGuys™ with kindness coins that don't seem to work in women's holes so that the sex we're "entitled to" falls out. Because apparently we weren't demonstrating good relationship material through the attention, respect and stability that women demand. We were only "pretending" to be nice just to get laid.
In response to r/niceguys, this forum is dedicated to exposing all the women who complain about wanting a "good man" after dating jerks and riding the cock carousel in the prime of their youth, and think they're deserving of commitment and financial stability when all they have left to offer is their depreciating looks, narcissistic mentality, used-up vaginas, and another man's kids.
Women in their 20s have numerous opportunities to date the decent men they claim to want, but many reject or friendzone these men for jerks and promiscuity. She takes advantage of a good dude's kindness for attention and favors, then accuses him of being a bad person who thinks he's entitled to sex.
But when she's in her 30s with depreciating looks, jerks who won't commit, the likelihood of being a single mom, and the social pressure from her married friends, she asks "Where have all the good men gone?"[1][2] Funny how back when she was chasing the bad boys "Being nice is the bare minimum", but now that she's past her prime and needs a bailout, she wants a man with nice guy traits.
Furthermore, dating jerks and riding the carousel before settling down with a good man is planned by many women, and encouraged by feminists. They then come to the dating market with unreasonable standards while offering little to no value themselves. Such women are totally unaware that the mature, stable men they now need are the same decent men they rejected, except these men remember the rejection and are responding in kind to avoid unstable, unappreciative women who view them more as ATMs than romantic partners.
The reason women end up here is because their behavior is not exposed as the lucid, self-destructive, feminist ideology that it is. And we're here to help Good Men guard their commitment and resources by exposing women who would make poor life partners and mothers of their children. Providing observations and opinions on the posts here allows us to better understand women's psyche and later depressive/miserable state when they are not held to a moral standard required for healthy, functioning relationships.
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1. No shaming men for any reason.
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2. No white-knighting or NAWALT. This is not a debate forum.
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3. No comments such as "Her profile looks decent", "She's not asking for much", "At least she's honest". No comments saying a post is fake without proof. Proof must be sent via modmail.
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5. Submissions must show a woman who is looking for commitment while also either complaining about jerks or promiscuity, needing her kids provided for, being entitled or unreasonable, or complaining that she "can't find a decent guy". (Examples, details)
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5b. No posts of women who are merely fat, post-wall, unattractive, seeking sex or money, nor women merely behaving badly. (Examples NOT allowed)
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Recommended reading:
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Dating profiles showing women's Dual-Mating strategy and unreasonable standards
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OkCupid study shows women reject 80% of men based on looks alone
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Milo - The Sexodus: The Men Giving Up On Women And Checking Out Of Society
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Women Want to Know Why Men Don't Want to Marry Anymore...Allow Me
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WAATGM mod explains why promiscuous women can't get good men to commit.
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Okay, I get it. You're sick of hearing men complain about girls only dating assholes.
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Dear Girls Who Are (Finally) Ready To Date Nice Guys: We Don’t Want You Anymore
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Dear Single Moms: I wasn't your type then, why am I all of a sudden your type now?
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The Truth About Single Moms Who Bring Young Children To The Dating Market
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Carol asks WAATGM for the harsh truth after riding the carousel
- Complete list of resources here.
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The Big Question- Carol asks "Where are all the good men?", "Why can't I find a decent guy?", "What happened to chivalry and respect?"
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Bailout- Carol wants a man to help raise her kids and provide financial stability.
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Leftovers- Carol whines about how hard dating is as an older woman.
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Dual-Mating Strategy- Carol admits to promiscuity and dating jerks but now wants a good guy to settle down with. Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.
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Cock Carousel Rider: Carol complains about being single while having a history of promiscuity.
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Entitlement Princess- Carol has unreasonable standards while offering little to no value herself.
- New Carols Unlocked!- A list of all the Carols we've identified.
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slyfox_22 3y ago
Girls are like buses. If you miss one, another one is bound to come in 15 minutes.
slyfox_22 3y ago
Very Sad
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MEGAQUE_MQHD 3y ago
A wonderful story. You're husband is a lucky man to have you in his life. It's a shame there are women like the one you mentioned who try to ruin what you two have just because of the mistakes they made in the past.
wathon2 3y ago
The delusional part? She still thinks that she is in the right. LOL.
cipherfiend 3y ago
She knew what she wanted now..him.. All those 10 years he knew that the woman he really liked is just inside his head.
scotchnstout 3y ago
honestly every time I come back to to this sub these women just keep surprising me with their level of detachment from reality
Overkillengine 3y ago
He probably had oh, ten years to notice all the ratchet shit she did or something, and it informed his decision to pump and dump.
Plus if she makes him wait ten years she has demonstrated that he certainly was not her first choice.
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Lmao I was trying to go for this angle a few weeks ago. A girl I hung out with once always texts me here and there after a break up. I tried to just get in but she just got too bananas and I just never answered her again
shrinkshooter 3y ago
A girl did this to me after two. The first couple months after we met we did plenty of sexual things but never had sex. That was my fault, I was bluepilled and also didn't know how to escalate. She clued into this (because you can't hide that) and it turned her off. There were actually many things I did wrong that I understand now, and didn't understand then, and it's information every man should have or be taught when he's young. A lot of times a girl will do something that seems cold or mean or totally illogical to the guy, but oftentimes it happens because the guy did or didn't do something that made the girl's instincts cause her to react a certain way. Hypothetical example is something like "wtf I did everything she said she liked and wanted and she lost interest," purely from rational standpoints that's the girl's "fault."
Anyway, I became a non-sexual option for her (that's not true actually but it's too complex to get into), but we still spent a lot of time together for a couple years. She was pretty fun. Somewhere in this time frame I decided I didn't want to go with this anymore so I let her know we'd part ways and we did for six months. Then she shows up at my place of work, where we had worked together for a time, to say hi to her friends (or so she claimed, even my manager looked me dead in the eye and said "she came here for you"). So we get back in touch, keep doing fun things, etc. etc.
The very first night we spend time together again she pushes towards having me check out her apartment. We chill there drinking some wine (she got tons of it for free because of her new job). Even being bluepilled at the time I wasn't an idiot. I knew what she wanted. But I had remembered a couple years ago when she had chosen another guy over me; again, my fault for being too beta. I just didn't have the knowledge or experience; how could I? It was a vicious cycle. I found out later this other guy was the alpha to her alpha widow.
Anyway, that night I could feel what she wanted. Tension was thick enough to cut with a knife. But when I felt it was time to go I got up and said my polite goodbyes at the doorway, and I can still see her face at that moment in my head. It was a forced smile and quite obviously so, and there was a storm of emotions hidden under it. But even then, I knew that I was nothing but a fallback plan. I was a safety net for sex or possibly a "boredom relationship" meant to keep her occupied until someone who really made her tingle came along (I know for a fact she did this when she was in high school, dated a guy while waiting for that aforementioned alpha dude to "want a girlfriend again"). My ego refused to let me accept being someone's Plan B, or C, or whichever it happened to be.
And nope, I never fucked her. I had a few chances; the first couple opportunities I messed up. The ones after that I decided against. I'm convinced to this day that she probably tells herself I simply couldn't pick up on her signals.
askmrcia 3y ago
This was a good read. And this is a clear example how some guys get "lucky" after being in the friendzone for so long.
Had you went through with it, I doubt the sex would even be good because neither of you would truly be into it.
If anything she would use the sex as a way to try and control you for later on. You declining destroyed her self esteem.
She thought a guy like you was a shoe in because she KNEW you were into her at some point and figured you would remain head over heels in love with her after ten years.
[deleted] 3y ago
You’ve hit on several issues that I can sympathize with. Great response.
daniellederek 3y ago
Dude, you were most likely being set up to be the fall guy for the missed period week before last.
42252252 3y ago
Well done. I don't know why people still act like it's hard to get laid. I think it takes more self control to pass it up when it's offered. Even guys here act like it's not readily available, but for moderately average guys it's around. It's just overinflated in value. I'd rather regret not sleeping with someone than going through with it. Too high of stakes for what at best is a night romp and a some jackin' fuel.
Overkillengine 3y ago
That's not ego (in the pejorative sense), that is common sense and self preservation telling you to not let yourself be used.
bamdastard 3y ago
grats on your novel.
ShortWarrior 3y ago
/r/wroteabook
MEGAQUE_MQHD 3y ago
That's what I thought. 10 years is a long time and you really have to wonder what made her give him a chance after so long.
She probably took a chance with him since after 10 years all the options she had before are gone and he was the only one left. That or she put him on the back burner thinking he'd still be willing to commit after she had all her fun.
tosernameschescksout 3y ago
Pro analysis.
Women always deal from the top of the deck, best cards first. It took ten years for her to blow through all of the other men and finally give this guy a chance.
By then, it was crystal clear that she didn't actually value him.
Wait for no woman, ever. No matter who she is, no matter what she's doing. If someone else or someone else is more important than you, move on. Women aren't giving you coupons or guarantees for later. You aren't building up some kind of interest on any of your investments. Never wait for a woman, and if you aren't at the top of the deck... get out of the deck. Don't even be trying to hit that if it's not hitting.
Alturius 3y ago
When women put good men on the back burner to chase after the 'exciting' phantoms and fleeting pleasures of cads/chads/chancers/jerks, they conveniently forget we are on the stove. When they decide to check the stove, why do women act so surprised that we are overcooked from watching their self-destructive behaviour and burned from their poor choices in men? Would any woman give us the time of day if they knew they were our 3rd, 4th ... nth choice? Thought not! But that is the hypocrasy of their feminist hypergamy and dual mating strategy.
Dr_Bukkakee 3y ago
The wall is what gave him that chance.
kratbegone 3y ago
The musical chairs dating solution.
Overkillengine 3y ago
Either way it sure does not reflect well on her as a long term prospect. And that's before even considering the effect of time and thus age on a woman's RMV.
Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 3y ago
Or considering how many "boyfriends" he had to watch get their turn first.
ZealousMaths 3y ago
All the bfs he likely heard of too.
Eventually it sunk in that she was the common denominator.
mistralol 3y ago
Just did that to a girl about 3-4 months ago... This situation sounds extremly similar.
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mistralol 3y ago
I dunno. I wasn't around to find out..... Or basically no reaction from my point of view.
rvail136 3y ago
The Chad's she was fucking decided that she was old news...so she turns to BetaGuy,...and he finally decides to "walk away..."
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Kara_Suu 3y ago
Sounds true. A girl told me, after 4 years, that she doesn't look for a relationship and then went on to date 12 guys simultaneously. While having 12 bfs she told me that she loves me (despite refusing me for 4 years) and that I'll be always her "priority" or whatever, while she continues to fuck with half of a city (+ she told me she feels uneasy when she has to touch someone she emotionally likes, so basically she didn't touch me at all). I am just waiting for her to come, after some time, after her failed relationships, and try to get me. And some dark part of me wishes for it to happen, so I could ditch her the worst possible way, so we would wake the fuck up.
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Wh4rrgarbl 3y ago
Big if there lol
frikabg 3y ago
Whamen whine and complain when they don't get sex for 30 days in a row but hey a guy is supposed to wait for 10 YEARS! Just so he can hit something that half the town fucked by now... Lol yeah ok well fuck off whore he probably offered you everything he had including his future but just like the rest of the self centered nagging bitches you thought you were worth more than that the thing is you ain't worth shit and men avoid you like the plague now that you fucked half of the city and you are on the wrong side of 30! (Which is anything after 30 just so we are clear)
I-am-the-lul 3y ago
That's one thing we can thank Corona-chan for, for confirming that for us.
davidb33 3y ago
That's what you think! There's probably a lot of narcissistic women out there thinking it's acceptable to break the rules.
Wh4rrgarbl 3y ago
Can confirm.
Alakazamon 3y ago
Im surprised anyone would even hit it after 10 years. Just stay friends.
washingtonpanther 3y ago
"friends."
ha.
Alakazamon 3y ago
Whats funny
washingtonpanther 3y ago
Enough people have screwed me over that I don't believe in friendship anymore.
The very few I have left I've known for decades.
Alakazamon 3y ago
Well do you go out and meet new people
washingtonpanther 3y ago
In an ideal world, yes. In the past two years I've lost two jobs, battled back from serious illness and just within the last few months got my car up and running after over a year of trying to find someone who would work on it within my budgetary constraints. In this current climate, I'm not interested in going outside much. Secondly, my current city is notorious for a back-stabbing, self-absorbed, selfish populace.
Alakazamon 3y ago
Ngl sounds like youre just a loser
mustangfrank 3y ago
I think you are right. But he must have seen who she had before him and what crap she dished out to them, so he had a heads up what he was in for. Once in, he realized there was nothing special about her or what a worthless cunt she was so pumped and dumped and on to better girls than her. Plus, she had either hit the wall or was going so all the more motivation to ghost.
ostrieto17 3y ago
Not even second or third or 30th for sure
xdmx89 3y ago
OP, you're a dumb ass
MHGEyoutube 3y ago
Imagine waiting 10 years for sub par pussy that been ran through in those 10years
MC_Batsy 3y ago
She didn't curve him for 10 years. She curved him for a short time, and then he played her. She got played and is trying to laugh it off on social media. That's an excellent example of being an aweful person who also has poor judgement.
StrayEnglishman 3y ago
Haha, I guess that happens a lot. A lot of women that showed me little interest in my 20s did seem to reappear in my 30s. But I was still dating women who were in their 20s; just often with much more success by then compared to when I was the same age as them. Hence, I guess that those former targets no longed seemed all that interesting.
Many a man will acquire more wisdom and resources 10 years on from supposed dating failures and then feel that they’ve dodged some serious bullets. Facebook also allows one to witness that glorious decline from a safe distance rather than actually bumping into them at some reunion or whatever.
SomeSqueakyCleanButt 3y ago
He knew from the start that's all she's worth. Why stick around the pit once that tiny amount of ore has run dry?
GeekDE 3y ago
lmaooooo, I hate women who act all superior; like their shit don't stink.
[deleted] 3y ago
How long before she claims it was actually rape?
Celticpenguin85 3y ago
Depends when the guy decides to run for president.
mustangfrank 3y ago
LOL x 1,000,000
AverageatUFC3 3y ago
Dont be ridiculous...
It also depends on which party he runs for
ElectronicStage9 3y ago
For the accuser? Not anymore
RunawayGrain 3y ago
So you walk into a bagel shop. You put in your order and the girl says it will take a while, could you move to one side while she gets other orders. So you move aside. Scores of other guys come in and get their bagel, and leave without having to pay. Finally, the girl at the counter arbitrarily looks at you and tells you your bagel is ready. She hands you the bagel. Since none of the scores of guys that came before you had to pay for it, you walk out. The girl behind the counter is then shocked that you didn't pay up.
Logic.
27KHHV 3y ago
lmao that was a funny analogy. Good one, leave them to their cats and wine indeed :)
Taguroizumo 3y ago
Perfect analogy
Tikikala 3y ago
Suddenly I want bagels
MarkMcFagofSugargay 3y ago
And think of all the toppings left after all those other bagels. You wanted plain but now it's an everything bagel
Turnup_Turnip5678 3y ago
everything > plain homie
Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 3y ago
I consider myself an analogy connoisseur, and that one was particularly delectable.
Yuuzhan83 3y ago
Had a nice picante.
where_muh_good_mens 3y ago
A woman spends a lot of her time at the beach. She naturally clips her toenails so that nobody is disgusted by her bare feet. But everyday, men walk past her clipped toes and turn away disgusted and even say 'eww' under their breath.
One day, she invites her female friend to come to the beach with her because she knows her friend doesn't bother to clip her toe nails and she wants to look better and show the guys that she is a better catch. As soon as they sit down under the umbrella and take off their shoes and socks, a hot stud comes up and immediately asks her friend to marry him. She was so frustrated by this point that she blurts out, "Did you even see her feet? Her toenails are longer than her actual toes!" and the man looks at her and says, "yeah, well at least she doesn't have visible fungus growing all over".
Women don't know what men are looking for, only what they think they would want for themselves. The woman in the story cleaned up her feet, but eventually got fat and just decided all men are trash because they are so fickle.
Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 3y ago
Wait, that guy asked her to marry him at first sight? He's doomed. :(
tosernameschescksout 3y ago
They definitely are VERY selective about what other girls they'll be friends with out in public because they don't want to be the fat or ugly one in the group. Guys don't even think like that. We'll hang out with anyone and we don't care how we look compared to them.
Somerandomshit123456 3y ago
Be the ugliest guy in the group, you'll get tired of going out(barhopping, clubbing etc) with your attractive friends in a few months. Chicks literally surround your good looking friends and try to wall you out.
SquirtBurt 3y ago
She has to be a classy woman to even post that in the first place right?
bajanbiker47 3y ago
I'll bet she only let him fuck after she notice him winning in life
MEGAQUE_MQHD 3y ago
That or all her other options went out the window after she hit the wall
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I'm sure the fact she's 10 years older, 20 pounds heavier and a 100x bitchier has nothing to do with the ghosting. Plus the discrepancies between what he thought making love to his crush could be vs...reality.
Yuuzhan83 3y ago
Good for him. He grew out of her games.
kupsofjoe 3y ago
Tasted fruitcake and immediately spat it out.
bohemian_fappsody 3y ago
If the kitten didn’t want me, I don’t want the cat.
BluepillProfessor 3y ago
I have seen this happen in marriages that are dead bedrooms.
The guy figures out he can do better. He lifts and gets in shape. He starts to stand up to her aka pass her shit tests.
She figures out that she can’t control him with her hide the vagina game and suddenly decides to screw him silly.
It is not unknown for the long suffering husband to respond with ...... meh. Next. They think men will be grateful for even a scrap of sex and they often are, but not always.
Sometimes they realize all of those years of pain and rejection was so so so not worth it because the sex wasn’t even that good.
your golden vagina isn’t and you can be replaced with somebody who is not associated with cruel manipulations and is younger and much tighter.
the_old_captain 3y ago
What we learnt today, bucko? Ain't no pussy worth 10 years of waiting
mic drop
TheApricotCavalier 3y ago
Poor guy; wasted 10 years to find out shes trash
Actual-Bell 3y ago
Shoot your load and hit the road.
Nice.
MattyK414 3y ago
He waited 10 years for her to just lay there and tell him what she will and won't do, and it's very likely she did EVERYTHING for some horrible people.
That's what happened.
MakaleaIsMyDogsName 3y ago
I so wish her Twitter was shared, my dating coach buddy would of flamed her bad!
warsie 3y ago
you can google the quote and prolly find it
Stupyyy 3y ago
Why is she mad lmao
Dspsblyuth 3y ago
Curved?
lestrxb 3y ago
Rejected.
leredditbugman 3y ago
If only a lifetime of shit decisions outweighed appearance.
Wallet_M0ths 3y ago
Saving this for the next idiot who says there's no such thing as friendzoning.
mimiczx 3y ago
Sounds like the juice wasn't worth the squeeze and he bailed.
Andrzej11 3y ago
Oh my God. SHOCKING!
beto_747 3y ago
After 10 years you learned all he wanted was to hit it and quit it, he knew you weren’t special.
11bNg 3y ago
He probally hit just to see if was worth the time wasted and it wasnt pussy was trash.
GimmeDaScoobySnacks 3y ago
Hate yourself for being so toxic. Acts toxic to a friend and is surprised when that friend disappears, no one wants toxic friends or to hang around toxic people.
blaizken_420 3y ago
Dumbass bitch lol
armanikek 3y ago
vased
dbbeebs 3y ago
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So, like, you play a man for ten years, give it up, and expect him to commit?
DangZagnut 3y ago
He’s just curving you baby. No worries.
divorce33 3y ago
Do women not know what "irony" means?
washingtonpanther 3y ago
Don't accept the friendzone.
I hope he learned his lesson.
mistralol 3y ago
Its perfectly fine to accept the friendzone. But you have to accept it fully or not at all. Assuming its somebody worth being friends with. Though later also don't accept it turning back into a releationship again either.... unless of course you want to pump and dump.
meerita Sr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago
friendzone = slave.
washingtonpanther 3y ago
secondly, 99% of the time I've tried to accept being friends with someone it's always gone one of two ways: I only ever hear from her when she wants something or she's a "friend" until she starts dating someone and then I magically cease to exist.
I'm good. My cat is my friend.
washingtonpanther 3y ago
Let me phrase it this way then. I have had many women make that offer. To this date, I have two female friends at best, largely because they're more like sisters to me than anything else. The rest of 'em can rot.
RoleplayPete 3y ago
No it isn't. It's perfectly fine accepting being a friend. It is never acceptable to be in the friendzone.
mistralol 3y ago
Yes thats what I mean by fully accept you have been friendzoned and nothing else is going to happen. ie be just friends. But if you can't accept that position then the best option is not to be there any more
mustangfrank 3y ago
Well said. There is a difference between being a friend and the friendzone.
Aldabruzzo No busted Pillsbury biscuit cans 3y ago
I guess you can accept the "friendzone". Sure. I'll be her friend.
She can
giveloan me $50 when I need it.She can loan me her car when I need it.
She can buy me a drink or three after work.
She can listen to me bitch and complain about this or that woman who's being a bitch to me.
She can drop me off at my FWB's house when I need a ride.
Yeah. Let's just be friends. Sure. But that means you have to actually be a friend to me and do friend-y things with and for me.
washingtonpanther 3y ago
My favorite "friend" story from the city I currently live in is this pseudo actress in her 50's who'd never let me talk. She'd always talk over me, interrupt me, then complain I didn't talk enough.
And there's a lot more I could go into about her, but I'll never forget her trying to talk me into going over a mile out of my way just to change out her car battery for her.
"Seriously? You're almost 60 and can't change a car battery? No thanks."
haven't spoken to her since.
Freedom's never felt so good.
Aldabruzzo No busted Pillsbury biscuit cans 3y ago
I had this "friend" from work who said "come over to my house and jumpstart my van, please???" It was right as i was leaving for work and was in a rush and said "can't, sorry". She unfriended me on FB and acted like a bitch and basically went "well you're just not a real friend".
That was only a few years ago. And I sure do know now how women view men and "friendship" -
washingtonpanther 3y ago
I just decided years ago that FB friends ain't real friends.
I gave a few my contact info before I deleted my account.
I hear from like 3 of them out of hundreds.
I'm good.
I used to hate cutting people out. I felt like a failure somehow.
Now...whatever.
There's really something to that adage about men only mattering when they provide.
I can't tell you over the past few years how many people I've had hit me up for money or cigarettes or what have you.
It gets so god damn old.
What a lovely moment it'd be to have someone reach out and say "thanks for existing. You make my life better."
Honest_Solution 3y ago
I hate women that want to be friends with straight males. Leave them alone if you aren’t going to date them and fuck them.
RoleplayPete 3y ago
Women dont want to be friends with straight males. They have either orbiters or backup plans.
TheApricotCavalier 3y ago
Ive had a couple awesome female friends. Sure the vast majority will just use you; but a couple are chill to have around.
Jolene built me a table, I still have that table, it is quite a nice table. She was a good friend
MEGAQUE_MQHD 3y ago
There's nothing wrong with a straight man being friends with a straight woman, the only issue is when the woman expects the guy friend to do all the boyfriend stuff while not actually being in a relationship
mistralol 3y ago
Yup the other thing that often happens is the guy is really into her at the start and then accepts that shes just only ever going to be a friend. Then she decideds differently... So the guy has a session and leaves because he realises shes not really a friend and also not going to really be releationship material either.
In reality thoose kinda setups don't work cause you kinda skip the honeymoon period of a new releationship as well so they normally last for less than a month or so.
meerita Sr. Hamster Analyst 3y ago
Unless there is no sexual intention, it's ok. But most of the times, you're friend of women who: are taken and you know its impossible, and the ugliests ones. Plus, being friend of a women is not the same friendship you get from a man, it's like a half of full friendship.
Honest_Solution 3y ago
That’s just my point, I’ve never once seen a friendship between a man and a woman that was not lopsided towards the woman. The two times I’ve tried I’ve gotten my ass burned badly. It’s soured me from ever making friends with ANY woman again. Friendship to women doesn’t mean the same thing as it does to a man.
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where_muh_good_mens 3y ago
All women will take advantage of men in plutonic relationships. The only way to guard against it is to not be attracted to them. If you are attracted to them, she will serve herself favor at your expense.
Whether or not you think that is wrong is another story, but the correction is that all women will leverage men for their resources if given an opportunity. They already do that on a larger scale with welfare and income taxes. Women make up the majority of welfare recipients, and men make up the majority of net tax payers.
where_muh_good_mens 3y ago
Rule #2 bro.
Honest_Solution 3y ago
Maybe they aren’t but I’ve touched a hot stove twice to know I don’t need to touch it again. I don’t like putting myself in a position to be used and shit on and that’s how I view friendships with women because that’s been my experience.
MEGAQUE_MQHD 3y ago
That's understandable
VRisNOTdead 3y ago
Yeah i have plenty of legit friendships with girls. Some have been prior relationships most are not and none of them take advantage of the terms of friendship. I also have seen men attempt to use me then claim "friendship" when im not into pushing my boundaries for their gain.
You can be friends with whoever you want to be friends with.
BluepillProfessor 3y ago
He is trying to explain that what you say is only true if you have loads of options and don’t want her as a sexual option.
If she has a sexual thumbscrew then she will use it 100% if the time- and it will not be a reciprocal friendship but an exploitive relationship. This is true in marriage, ons or “friends.”
100%.
VRisNOTdead 3y ago
Don’t get oneitis and youll be good.
Dspsblyuth 3y ago
What kind of boyfriend stuff?
MEGAQUE_MQHD 3y ago
Emotional tampon, the one who she confides in and listens to her rants and what not, that and validation, fishing for compliments and stuff like that
All these things a regular girl would have her friends or a boyfriend do
Dspsblyuth 3y ago
While banging other dudes?
MEGAQUE_MQHD 3y ago
Precisely
Dspsblyuth 3y ago
You gotta be seriously fucked up in the head to listen to a woman’s emotional shit all the time without getting some pussy payments
saberwarthog 3y ago
Well, not fucked up in the head, just blue pilled & enamored of someone...
It happened to my best friend : he was into a girl that was, well, you see how porridge could be bland ? Blander than that (but he surely saw something in her, so, to each their own).
It took about 3 to 4 years for my friend to get out of this, and meanwhile she got everything from him, gifts, moral support, an ear to listen to her shit, he even was the one she would choose to go with her to family reunions...
The only upside was that she was so emotionally immature that she never fucked another guy on the side, but in the end, he was fed up with it and got out of this by himself.
I tried to help him and wanted him to see the pattern before that, but as some here say, only women redpill men...
Honest_Solution 3y ago
The two women that friendzoned me were also emotionally immature. I think it’s that lack of maturity that makes them not be able to see what’s in front of them and continue to make mistakes when it comes to choosing the type of guys that would give them a healthy relationship.
saberwarthog 3y ago
Yes, that's one possibility to explain that, there's also the hypergamy unleashed, or other things...
Plus you can't discuss & argue attraction, so in the end all you can do is count your losses and do the healthy thing for yourself.
And personally I won't blame anyone in this situation, the only thing that kept myself from doing something like that is that I'm kinda emotionally blocked by years of bad interactions, so I don't bother with all of this (or at least I try).
drewc99 3y ago
This is ambiguously written. Did he smash and dash, or nope the fuck out? Either interpretation is possible.
MEGAQUE_MQHD 3y ago
You're right. I completely dismissed the latter and assumed he just hit and quit. I still think it's hit and quit but thinking about it him declining being intimate with her after giving him the opportunity is probably even more sad on her part
SQUARELO 3y ago
I'm pretty sure "let him hit" means they banged
drewc99 3y ago
No, it could mean that she decided she felt generous enough to allow him to take her on a date, she texted him "What's up", and he never responded. In her hamster mind, she was generously giving him a chance to possibly impress her enough on the date to win some snoo snoo, but he missed his audition. In the thot brain, this qualifies as "letting" him hit it.
My interpretation is more likely because 99.99% of the time when a woman friendzones a guy for 10 years, she friendzones him for life.
Even more reason to believe this is the case, she's probably signaling to her orbiters. "Just because I haven't responded to you yet, doesn't mean I won't have sex with you. Keep following and liking my pictures! Tee hee!"
Jakeybaby125 3y ago
What the fuck did she expect to happen?
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imlastin 3y ago
Tell your wife to beat her up
Buchwild 3y ago
That's sad
AshyBoneVR4 3y ago
10 years is a loooooooooooooooooooong time for women. By the time she let him hit, she probably lost her looks or got fat. Dude just wanted to fuck to check her off the bucket list. It's a great feeling to fuck someone you wanted to fuck for so long. But it's like the idea, never meet your heroes. They'll never live up to your expectations. The sex might have been wack, or the dude had the good sense to git while the gitten was good.
houseoftolstoy Unchivalrous Christian 3y ago
How dare he reject me after I showed no interest in him for 10 years! He should be at my beck and call, as I am entitled to his attention whenever I decide to grace him with my presence!
Men are not looking to be your backup plan, nor are they want to wait until you are done "having your fun" so that you can "get serious" and leave none of the passionate energy you freely gave other guys for the man who you claim "wins".
MEGAQUE_MQHD 3y ago
There's a saying, "if you can't love me now, don't love me later." I honestly can't imagine what she expected to happen with her and this dude after 10 years of having his advances denied (possibly in favor of other options she had at the time). No self respecting man is going to be in a serious and committed relationship with someone who put him on the back burner for a damn decade while she went out with other guys
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Might be a bit off, but that scenario reminds me of the time I was looking for a job.
Passed my application to a certain company I liked (let's call it Company A), but instead of waiting until pigs fly and crows turn white - I passed my resume to a bunch of other companies. Fortunately, some of those other companies replied telling me that I made it in. Ended up working for one of the other companies I applied, and never heard from Company A ever since.
10 months in the job, an HR person from Company A messages me about a job vacancy there and how my credentials fit the position. I tell 'em bluntly: "no thank you, I'm gainfully employed for 10 months and counting."
Lesson here? Time you would have spent waiting can be used to look for other opportunities. Good on the man to have done so, instead of wasting a decade on this broad.
otakuzod 3y ago
Ghosted and roasted. I don’t know who he is, but I’m proud he didn’t fall into the relationship trap.
thecherry94 3y ago
Same thing happened to me.
Bitch was mad as fuck but I'm glad I made that decision.
MEGAQUE_MQHD 3y ago
Good for you man. Women like this don't seem to understand they can't friendzone guys like this and still expect them to feel the same way they did about them 10 years ago
ZealousMaths 3y ago
“I made a dude wait 10 years to have sex, and once he got it, he bailed. Men sucks.jpg”
Two potential outcomes:
Dude wanted relationship. Knew she was single. She kept him on leash for 10 years. Guy figured out the games women play and slowly just went for sex with women at some point. Banged her past her prime, but bailed learning their supposed friendship was just an excuse to have his attention and feel special while she banged other hombres. She acts oblivious/innocent of leading dude on, goes on social media to post-justify her shitty behavior.
Or two, which is more hilarious. 10 years ago he wanted to hit it. She said no. She kept his number. 10 years later she hits up with a DTF. Easy coochie so he hits and leaves. She convinces everyone online that a ONS was really a relationship seeker acting bitchy because she ignored him. Justifies her 10 year collecting of ONS fucks as men are trash.
Prophecy_Germany 3y ago
They literally keep every number they have ever received. I saw womens phones crapped with hundreds of numbers, you know, just in case.
Happend a few times that I received text/WA asking to hang out ect. I always had to ask who the heck it is because I clean out any number, relatives excepted, which I have not heard from/used in 30 days.
mustangfrank 3y ago
Or maybe she was just a worthless person to be with. 10 year of men bailed on this dumpster fire. The guy finally gets his chance and realized what 10 of other men found out. She was a POS as a person.
TheApricotCavalier 3y ago
A lot of girls think "Friends" are people you use for free shit
mistralol 3y ago
3rd option. Been in this situation about 10-15 years ago I realised that is what happens. So... I panted a bunch of "seeds" and kept the friendship ticking over with minimal effort. Now you get to discard the rotton fruit without tasting it. Taste the good fruit and then throw it away when your finished.
What really funny about that is when they decide to give you a try it actually requires nearly no effort because you have always "been there" like the last one basically took me out for dinner and paid for it then about 2 weeks later invited me to a home cooked meal....
ZealousMaths 3y ago
Oh minimal existence. That’s essentially 2nd though just extended over a period...
[deleted] 3y ago
How dare he reject this queen when she finally decided to reward her friend with the biggest prize which is herself .
HellishGod 3y ago
Get used to it, whore! More and more men are getting red-pilled and becoming disgusted by retarded low-quality women like you..
SnowMan878 3y ago
GOoood
officer-maggot 3y ago
what's 'curved' mean?
MEGAQUE_MQHD 3y ago
Another word for friendzoned
MEGAQUE_MQHD 3y ago
Another word for friendzoned
lorum_ipsum_dolor 3y ago
I spent the first two years of college having the hots for this one girl. Finally went out with her and when I kissed her it was the biggest letdown imaginable. It was so lifeless as to be kinda creepy.
I wonder if this guy had built her up in his mind only to find her the most boring lay he'd ever had. Wouldn't surprise me.
Dr_Bukkakee 3y ago
Good on that dude.
largepaycheckaddict 3y ago
Haha nice
toas7ers7rudel0 3y ago
King
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Pussy must have been trash
noothersinvolved 3y ago
Maybe once he got with her he found out she was shit in bed. Or had bad personal hygiene.
cracksniffer666 3y ago
Dude WHY did 70 thousand fucking people like this?...... I fucking hate being human
MEGAQUE_MQHD 3y ago
The likes were for the guy not her. The comments section was tearing her a new one while calling the dude a king for what he did. It, was truly a beautiful sight
Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 3y ago
I'm so glad to read that. I'd have expected the complete opposite.
Powjos92 3y ago
Have been the dude in this situation. Feelsgoodman
Harrymego 3y ago
It's absolutely bizarre how inept this person is.
Global_MGTOW 3y ago
He probably realized he wasted 10 years of his life chasing mediocre pussy and bounced.
SolenoidsOverGears 3y ago
Maybe she's actually just that bad in bed....
loneliness-inc LvL 99 Rogue NiceGuy™ 3y ago
And maybe her cooch really stinks.
Sumfuc 3y ago
He tried it & was apparently quite disappointed with the product.
xfallenxwolfx 3y ago
Dude believe me most men have gone through this shit, even alphas. There was a girl I wanted to fuck for years, that friend zoned me. When I got my chance to hit I did and ghosted her. Never spoke to her again.
jocelynflores 3y ago
Yesssss king
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loneliness-inc LvL 99 Rogue NiceGuy™ 3y ago
You have the rest of the internet to white knight. Not here my dear.
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Typo-MAGAshiv asshole. giga-shitlord. worst mod EVAR. 3y ago
Dude, he warned you. We have clear rules on the sidebar.
Out you go.