Oftentimes, we see some people defending the profiles of single mothers we showcase in our sub. Their excuses mainly fall in one of two categories:

  1. It was not her fault. She made mistakes due to a lack of maturity. Now that she is mature, you need to treat her like an adult.

  2. It is not the kid's fault. Just because her mom is a whore does not mean the kid has to suffer. Rail on the mom all you want, but we should make sure that the kid is treated fairly.

We know that excuse number one is bullshit. I've had an entire post on how women don't really mature and how they only use the path to maturity as an excuse for promiscuity.^1 Every regular in our sub has heard this nonsense and has had enough experience to understand the folly of this sentiment.

Number two, on the other hand, is tricky. Although it sounds noble and idealistic, it is impractical, unrealistic, flawed, naive and prone to misuse.

Women, whether they want to assume responsibility of this or not, are rational adults of legal age and are capable of making decisions for which they will have to face the consequences. Choosing to go for piece of shit men is something these women did of their own volition. The action and its consequences are entirely on them. Just because she made poor choices does not mean we should bail her out for her shitty choices. This suggestion completely removes all the accountability from a woman who chooses to go for such men.

While I sympathize for the hard road ahead for the kid, I do not necessarily think that it is anyone's responsibility to bail out that kid. If anything, it is the responsibility of the single mother to be a great role model to her kid. Having said that, if she fucks a thug and suffers the consequences, that's on her. If her kid suffers because of her inadequacy, she can put the kid up for adoption. If she does not want to keep the kid, she should abort. But you won't see these women do that nine times out of ten. This is because of several reasons. Primary of those is that these women don't consider themselves incompetent. Worse still, society does not consider these women incompetent. They actually cheer these incompetent women, praising their incompetency in finding a suitable partner to raise a kid with.

One of the other reasons, that is bound to draw some ire, is that these women don't really consider the well being of the kid when they decide to keep the kid (just like how they lacked forethought when they fucked that future abusive ex). Along with the motherly instinct, these women keep their kids for selfish reasons also. They want to achieve some goal that is precious to them through motherhood: passing down her genes, locking down that thug etc.^3

Women who put their kids before themselves give up their whorish ways, put their kids well being first and toil to provide the kid a better life than they themselves had a chance at. After all, that is the point of being a parent, right? Unfortunately, that is not what a lot of single mothers do.

The father and the mother play different roles in a kid's life. Both are essential and complimentary to each other. When someone decides to kick out (or to do without) one half of this equation, as single mothers often do, both responsibilities fall on them. If they fuck this up, that will be on them on top of fucking up in choosing a good life partner in the first place. Now, people might not consider it fair that the kid has to suffer because of this mess. But, life does not give you safety nets like society will. It does not matter it was the mom who fucked up. The kid will, inevitably, have to face the consequences for her fuckup. This is what people do not realize about poor parenting. As with almost everything, you either pay upfront or you pay with interest later.

Moreover, when you decide to go against the tried and tested rules of society, you can no longer expect society to have your back. As the famous saying on crime goes, "The problem with living outside of the law is that you cannot count on the law to save you". And that is the point of contention for most people who use the second excuse. They want to extend the same benefits to law breakers that are offered to people who are incentivized to follow the law. They might think it is a noble gesture but doing so would fuck up the stability of the society by fucking up the functional reward system in place. We already see the effects of this currently all over the world.

On the other hand, looking at excuse No.2 from an evolutionary point of view, this suggestion does not make any sense either. If you reward a whore for fucking a degenerate, take a guess on what kind of people this will encourage to reproduce. There is a reason societies all over the world have certain rules and incentivize certain behaviors over others. Just because we want to save everyone does not mean everyone can be saved or should be saved.

Taking a closer look at the psychology of the single mothers in question reveals another major issue also. Notice this photo. Specifically, notice...

I want my ride or die.

For those who don't know, Ride or die was used to denote biker chicks who ride the back seat. The phrase is used to denote a woman who is so devoted to you she will risk her life for you and that if she can't ride with you, she'll rather die. Notice how the woman here flipped the gender. Most of these single mothers who chase after the alphas (AF then AB) tend to assume the position of the alpha in the relationship themselves when they settle with betas. Although this is true of every girl with an enormous n count, this is glaringly true in the case of (most of the) single mothers. This is one of the reasons why these girls are the worst bets a man can make. There is not one family that I've seen, where the girl was in charge that was successful. Not one.

Women are followers. They value strength. If you make them leaders, they will look down on you and will turn all their contempt on you. They don't know how to treat people weaker than them. Look at how liberal women treat poor people. Other than the masked condescension these women show, their display of compassion serves the main purpose of them showcasing said compassion to the world. There are only two kinds of people I've encountered who do any kind of public service: people who are relatively happy and want to make those around them happy and people who are miserable and want to fill that hole with something else. People who want to uplift others or people who want to distract themselves from their actual problems.

Most women who protest for anything are not the first kind. They are there to make themselves feel better. I've known women who are fanstastic on paper. They set up protests, rallies, support and fight for minorities. But, in private, most of them have confessed their desire for a strong husband. If only they had a good man, they would have everything in life. These women, as you might have guessed, were all old, lonely and miserable. The vigorousness of their protests was directly related to the level of misery they had in their lives. On the other hand, I've never seen women who were happy with their family participate in many of these rallies. Sure, they might support these rallies morally. But you will rarely see them on the forefront. Because they have other shit to do and to take care of. Primarily, their families.

Women love differently to men. She will never be your equal. The disney love is never meant to be. A woman's love is admiration, respect and devotion. That is the dynamic the phrase "Ride or die" emphasizes. These women are not capable of that. Worse still, these women look at the entire ordeal as a Hero's journey and, of course, they place themselves at the position of the heros.

While society and feminism has done a bang on job convincing women that they are the mental point of origin in their life and that they need to be utterly selfish, their psychology does not agree with this. Women value strength in men. They want to lock down one of these strong men and make him emotionally invest in them. That is the essence of their dream and the crux of the Alpha bucks phenomenon that they so want. Unfortunately for these women, they do not understand that opposites attract. A strong man has his eyes on a feminine woman. By the very nature of things, they cannot attract a strong man when they "toughen up" themselves. Any man, especially betas, only serve the role of an accessory to these women.

Look at any "Strong woman RomComs" and you will see a few things play out. Locking down an Alpha bucks by her "uniqueness", turning an alpha fucks into an Alpha bucks by her "uniqueness" and, especially, the Alpha capitulating his power to this woman and allowing this woman to be the primary player in the relationship. By the very nature of things, this is never going to happen. There is no way an alpha, who knows his value, is going to do this. A man who had to build himself up, through hard times, is not going to supplicate. Experience and maturity makes men hard. Women want you to be the lover and a master at the same time. You cannot get both, especially the longer it takes for a man to become accomplished.^2 Guys who are good to fit the role of the master will not let his subject dictate his actions. These women, to satisfy their egos, go against their very biology. As part of that, not only do they assume the role of the alpha male in the relationship themselves and relegate their men to accessory roles, they use their children as accessories also. These children are used, knowingly or unknowingly, to gain sympathy in life and in dating. The demands single mothers used to have does not go away. Matter of fact, every demand they used to have will now come with the justification of their status of single motherhood. She wanted the best before being a single mother? Now she must have it because she is a single mother. You see, it is just a pre-requisite for her position.

It should be clear, at the end of this lengthy post, why single mothers are reviled for what they are. It is not just because of their lack of character or lack of restraint or lack of forethought. There are deep rooted psychological reasons why they are unsavory to any man of noticeable worth.

^1 Maturity myth post.

^2 If women had to chose, they will always go for the master. But if you ask them, they will say that they will always prefer the lover.

^3 One of the common misconceptions people have is that the only unconditional love you'll ever get is your mother's love for you. But, even that is not unconditional. At the very least, it is predicated on the condition that you are her kid.

Edit: Just came across this post. Goes very well to show you some of the things being talked about here.