I've recently started losing weight and attempting to limit my pornography usage. Consequently sex drive has gone through the roof. I'm horny all the time now, which is great, as most of my previous failures with women--who I had in my apartment, or car, or literally saying "just kiss me"--came as much due to a lack of desire as sheer sperginess.

However, right now I'm not trying to slay pussy, I'm trying to get into grad school, study for my entrance exams, etc. But due to my increased sex drive, I can't stop talking to girls, getting their numbers, trying to set up dates, and thinking about fucking them. Obviously, I'm not all that great at this due to my inexperience, but I can't stop thinking about it. I have a feeling the lack of experience is only exacerbating the problem.

The issue here is that I'm too fucking horny to do my work. I'm constantly having to stop my reading to beat off. I can't get my head away from girls even though I have more important things in my life to focus on. Goddammit I'm horny! And I have more important things than pussy to focus on. How do I control my sex drive, or sublimate it, so I can focus on my life goals?

Is there a way to make chatting up girls a habit that I do in the moment, but so that I don't worry about them when I have actual shit to do? My mission is more important than they are, but my dick clearly hasn't figured that out yet.

tl;dr: Too horny to focus on my work. Need to figure out how to put my brain before my dick.

Background: I'm very inexperienced. I've kissed one girl. Had a few girls interested. I'm in college. 5' 8" 285 lb (I know, I'm working on it). 365/265/405 S/B/D. But I need to put all that aside right now and focus on getting into grad school.

EDIT: moved (mostly) irrelevant info to background.

Not sure where else to go with this question, I've been away for a while for basic training and I made a lot of friends. One in particular was just hit with some news that shouldn't come to a surprise to anyone here.

Now that he's officially enlisted his wife has turned a 180 and wants a divorce, refuses to give him a reason, and is taking his 2 kids away from his reach.

I feel like I've heard this one a hundred times now. But it's different now that it's someone I've gotten know, someone I live with, and suffered along side with.

Legal says there's nothing he can do about it and he's deploying within the year, but his life has just been totally fucked and he has no idea what to do about it.

If there is any advice you good folk could impart to him for me I'll make sure he gets it. I asked him to ask himself but he's not comfortable with asking strangers and doesn't know about trp.

Thanks for your time and sorry in advance for any errors in the format of my question.

IIRC it was mentioned in some older threads that there are analogues to TRP outside of the english speaking world, since the info on this sub may not necessarily be easy translate directly into spanish, chinese, french, etc. (google trends appears to hold up this idea somewhat.

Are there similar versions of this sub out there? I recall Russia was said to have one, and Id be surprised if there wasnt something similar to this in a hidden corner of the internet on the chinese side of the great firewall. (dont know how exacting the chinese censors are about following feminist hate-ons for our ideas, sometimes I get the sense their government has a slightly different bent from western marxism)

Can we separate high school/college subjects in another subreddit and start verifying post authors? I have the increasing suspicion I get Field Reports and Rants from 17-19 year olds who have very different circumstances of meeting girls and are not really adults with a clear life path.

Was waiting for the progress report thread to post this, but I don't see it stickied, per usual, so I'll post here.

5 months after swallowing TRP 3.5 months since I started lifting.

I had a skinnyfat belly on a slim body that made me look way more out-of-shape than I was. Lost 70% of that belly, and it's now completely undetectable while I'm wearing clothes. Gained around 6~8 lbs. of muscle. Still looking skinny, but at least fit.

Thought it'd take much more than that to start noticing shift in attitudes towards me, but I'm already noticing differences in the way women behave towards me.

At work: - Women are touching me. Light touches, on my shoulders or hands. Women seem more at ease talking to me, and the conversations are more humorous, whereas they used only to come to me to complain about some other coworker or some shit.

In life: girls/women whom I haven't seen for a while are commenting on my body. They never used to discuss anything remotely pertaining to physique with me.

This is a creating a positive loop. The fact that I'm being treated with more respect is, in turn, imbuing me with more confidence in myself and my looks, and so forth.

Went to a couple of social gatherings to see how well I'd fare (previously I thought I had "social anxiety". In hindsight I realize it was bullshit I was telling myself to rationalize how socially awkward I was). Killed it both times. First time was with a people I had never met before. Second time was with a group of acquaintances/friends I know from way back, and back then I used to be the weakest link in the group. This time, I behaved like a slick motherfucker, kept great frame, and was very satisfied at how I presented myself.

I feel like one way women exercise their natural affinity for beta-fying men they just started talking to is by turning them into the "girlfriend," the "emotional tampon," or the "friend who listens to her problems." It starts like small talk... About how maybe classes are rough/work is hard/long week etc, then I believe it grows quickly into the next stage, like a cancer, to the point where you're the shoulder to cry on-after the chad YOU had originally intended to be-pumped and dumped her.

How do you keep her in your frame here? A)Tolerate this behavior up to a certain boundary and temporary soft next when she exceeds your threshold for whiny bitch levels? B) Enforce zero tolerance and hard next this behavior? C)Ignore her totally and change topics? D)Verbally express you dgaf about her problems?

This seems like a place where we walk a fine line between AF/BB, and looking back at relationships where I was at my most betafied, this is where I saw myself fucking up a lot in retrospect. Could someone who has this situation dialed in please shed some light on this for me?

Im seeking tried and true advice for holding her to your frame throughout the convo of something simple like a long week of work/school, vs the next level shit like unloading emotions and her gf/bf problems on you. How do you meet each degree of these types of shit tests?

I'm a 58 year old divorced male. I'm pretty fit, but could still lose a few pounds. I cycle between 50-100 miles a week and work out with weights 2-3 times per week. I had a blue-pill, marriage that lasted 24 years. It was almost celibate for the last ten years of the marriage. I was "awakened while married" the last five years of the marriage. I went the route of self-improvement, lost a lot of weight, developed a healthy lifestyle, etc. The wife refused to go along. I eventually filed for divorce. Months after the divorce, I met a 52 year old woman who is still quite beautiful, extremely intelligent and loves the outdoors. All of which make her a perfect partner for me. We have been seeing each other for over a year. My problem is intermittent erectile dysfunction and I can't predict when or the circumstances in which it occurs. Viagara works sometimes, but is expensive for me. I often use a product called "Stiff Days", which works sometimes, but not others. My testosterone is ok, blood pressure, cholesterol, etc. are good. I'm wondering if my issue is psychological due to my newly acquired red pill knowledge and if the bad tastet does indeed eventually lessen and let the blood flow like it should. In my heart of hearts I do not believe that women can love a man and when I look back over my life, my relationships were doomed as they were based on being used until she could find someone better. I know that is the routine now, but at my age, it is very discouraging and disheartening. Also, given my age and the age of the women I can realistically attract, there is definitely an aesthetic decline in what is considered sexually attractive and that leaves few options in regards to the number of women suitable for my sexual attention. Can the red pill poison sexual function by its psychological effects? Does it get better? How can I get over it? Or should I go ahead and seek out a urologist and go the medical route? Thanks for any comments or advice.

ok so one last question. i am a fake alpha who is actually a beta. i just cant help being nice. i m thinking about marrying an alpha woman who is borderline ugly n a career oriented woman. do u think marriage will last? i dont care if she is not attracted to me n i dont get sex. imo money is what really matters n using money i can get side chicks, go to strip clubs etc. i just dont want a lazy ass stay at home woman who has two kids n gives occasional sex

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I have this female friend of mine who constantly touches/pets me in social gatherings (hb7). She does this especially when I'm talking to other women. This is good social proof, right? Well, actually its been more of a cockblock than anything else so far. You would think she wants me sexually, however , she made very clear that she is not and since I've done my best not to hang around her in social situations. We share the same circle and its impossible to avoid a lot of the time. My good friend told me that to people who dont know, it looks a lot like we are together....What is a good way to shake her off or make it clear to other females that we are not intimate without sounding like a bitch, losing social proof, or etc? Or is it better to just let her do her thing and playfully roll with it? If it's the latter, how would you handle it?

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To NEXT or not to NEXT?

So met a girl online, we got coffee and hit it off. She invites me over one night and we make out pretty hard on her bed. I go to take off her bra twice and she says no both times and that she doesn't want to. I say cool, and we get some drinks in us and continue making out. I end up staying the night at her place without fucking her (she ends up taking her bra off before we sleep and now I realize she was probably signaling me to go for it). Yes, I know I should've just left if I wasn't going to fuck her. We don't talk for like a week and I invite her out with some of my friends. She says yes but later texts me has a group of 12 people and won't be able to make it out. I just responded with "lol nice" and she texts back "jk we're coming". She comes along with her friend and I see two dudes there also. Right away I could sense she was not interested in either of them. They seemed pretty quiet and reserved but I still talked to them. She was pretty touchy with me that night and ends up leaving abruptly about 5 minutes after the other guys leave. My gut feeling tells me she was not into either of them. I just did not get that vibe at all. At this point a few of my friends are there so I'm not sure if she was just uncomfortable or what? I didn't ask her if anything was wrong but we hugged and said bye.

I texted her the next day and told her I wanted to take her out. I gave her two dates and she had something going on both days (bad sign, I know). Told her I was gone for a month and when I get back we can hang out. Should I next this one or hit her up when I get back?

I met a girl last Friday at swing dance event, where I gamed her and we made out (tongue, touching tits and ass). After that i ghosted her, eventhough I like her. She got my phone number froma mutual friend and contacted me yesterday (saying hey, some light flirting, you kniw what she wants). I am thinking of going to the beach tomorrow and I want to invite her, but some voice in my head is telling me this is too big of a step for the two of us. On the other hand, just inviting her for a drink is boring to me, since I've done it so many times. Am i overthinking this, or should i invite her to the beach?

Two female administrative assistants just started at my office a few months ago - they're in their mid 20's and im in my early 30s. One I originally thought was kinda cute so I chatted her up, but she seemed so disinterested in even basic conversation that I gave up. The other one was initially friendly towards me and we chatted it up and now she's gone cold on me... These two girls are friends and now when I see them together I feel pretty awkward. I've always been pretty solid in professional settings and don't typically have issues chatting with girls in the workplace.

I know that part of tmy issue is because of some personal bullshit about caring about the opinions of others, especially considering that as I typed this out, I've realized that I dont think that I really care (at least I dont think I do) about the initial "cute" one's opinion, because I truly think that she's kind of weird, and that I'm actually more bothered by the fact that the other one is no longer interested in being chatty with me (she's pretty homely if that makes a difference).

How do I stop worrying about this shit so I can freely walk past her desk to get the office cereal?

I have a mall date in a few hours. I'm meeting her then taking to Starbucks to chit chat. I have run solid game at parties that resulted in numbers and one almost lay but I'm not sure how to do that in a date. Can you give me some pointers on what to do after the coffee and how long should I be there (lol). When I was texting her she mentioned she lived near the mall with a wink emoji which I assume she's dtf? This chick is a strong 7 at most and I'm way higher value than her.

A couple of girls lately have all really wanted to know what I do for living and hobbies. These questions came before agreeing to meet. After I told them briefly they were satisfied.

Is this ASD? Or did I come off as too aggressive and they wanted comfort?

I just started an Instagram, any tips to build my brand up. Would getting a girl's IG be better than a number? Thoughts?

Teach me about taking risks.

I've been out of college for a few years, and in that time trying to get some career experience I feel I've become risk-averse and boring. I work an office job which is doing relatively interesting work....but it's still an office job. Maybe it's just me, but being in artificial lighting and sitting all day seems to be destroying my health in more than one way. Sick of giving my best years doing work that isn't exactly my passion.

It's not all bad. I've had some quality girls in that time, and can't complain about that. Been able to do some pretty unique international travel using vacation hours or in gaps between positions. Trying to pick up some creative hobbies.

But I want to just drop all of this, while I'm still young, and go out and figure out/obsessively build the career that I want. Live a more inspired life. Attract better people into it. Sounds great, but the career I really want isn't known to make good money, at least at the beginning. Should I risk everything I have to fulfill my dreams? What does TRP think about this?

Back at college and have been spinning a few plates in an effort to put everything I learned this summer into action.

One is an HB8 with a rather lackluster boyfriend from home who I took out partying last weekend. On the way out she asks if we can go back to my room but her cockblock roomate makes a big deal about how they need to get home and drags her off. My request for advise is therefore twofold:

-What is the most effective way to force her to make the first move sexually so that this boyfriend nonsense can't be flipped on me later.

-How can I effectively remove the roomate from the situation without necesarily tipping her off.

Cheers

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Had a girl tell me she

-doesn't feel safe in a relationship with me, -that I'm too unpredictable, -that I think I run shit everywhere I go, and -that I've been getting too big from lifting.

Am I.... am I becoming... alpha?? Or am I just an asshole...?

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I started lifting and I'm very thin. I've been taking protein shakes 3x a day. Working out 3-4x a week. Only at 2 weeks so not expecting much. But meal prep and workout has been good. I just have a few questions.

Should I eat even more? More gym time? I sometimes like to eat hard candy like smarties should I stop? I hear a lot about bulking and cutting. Is bulking just eating a lot? What resources do you guys use to achieve a nicer/stronger body?

You can answer any. Thank you

How do you approach a girl in a LTR who acts jealous, insecure, and immature when it comes to other girls?

Is that red flag the death omen you believe it is?

What is everyone's definition of being a real man? In your words what makes a man great?

What to do with a whale wife who wants to cheat?

Dear TRP,

About a decade back when i was in school, I had matched a guy friend of mine with a girl I knew from my class. After school we fell out of touch.

Few days back the girl gets in touch with me on Facebook. She chats about being miserable. I ask her to meet. We met yesterday. She has gained a lot of weight but she says she is going to the gym. I don't feel any attraction for her but she clearly wouldn't mind giving me some if I nudge her in the right direction.

My question is this - I am a new red pill, still learning the ropes. I used the husband destroying script somewhat and she was impressed. But I don't want to convert her because I don't think I want to Fuck her. And I definitely don't want the marriage to end. Don't want that shit to happen cause of me. It might happen anyway. What do I with this opportunity? Should I use her to get to any friends she might have? Should I just plate her carefully? Or should I just stay the fuck away.

Her background - she's typical Indian conservative. Thinks girls drinking is a big deal (!) And has only had sex with her husband. But now that she's frustrated (they live with the boy's parents who are ultra conservative and it's a tiny apartment with zero privacy), she's interested in the world of sexual adventures. She's heard about swapping(swinging) and she's wondering out loud if sex is the solution. She says her husband's timing and hers don't match and hence sex has been on the wane.

I'm going to get berated so hard but I'm at the worst mental state I have been in awhile.

Backstory. Meet a girl through mutual friends. HB9. Plays videogames. 2K followers on Instagram, 400 likes/photo on Facebook. Very large social network.

Me. 6.5-7/10. Used to be professional gamer of the game she plays. No social media whatsoever (except Snapchat).

Acquaintances for a few months, met her in March. Played online together less than five times (rarely get online anymore).

In these few months I've slept with 2 other girls and lost a long-term plate. When she became single I made plans with her twice and she flaked both times. Forgave her the first time, made plans again a few weeks later. Flaked a second time. Expecting it I obviously had a plan B. Went out and had a good night and bj-closed an HB6.

Checked her story the morning after and saw she was at a cafe with some dude. Well, I tried. I block her on SnapChat and hard next.

A few weeks later I go to a music festival and found a girl to vibe with for the weekend (HB7). She takes my phone and uses my Snapchat to post stories, whatever ya know.

I get a text from HB9 that weekend asking why she can't message me on Snapchat. I don't respond. The next day she asks if I blocked her. I don't respond.

By the time I'm back in my state I get a call from her. I picked up and answered. She asks why I blocked her on Snapchat. I tell her I don't have time for flakes. She hamsters away more excuses but I'm not really listening. I tell her if she wants to hang out then come over (I just bought a pool table) for some pool and drinks.

She says OK and comes over that night. We shoot some pool, have a couple shots, end up in my bed and at this point I'm just frozen. Not really sure what to do. I change in front of her and she asks why guys take their shirt off like that. I ask how girls do it.

She demonstrates a little, stopping right before it passes her tits. I tell her to continue, I haven't learned how to take a girl's shirt off yet. She says, "No I'm not wearing a bra you're gonna see my tits." I tell her that's the point and she says, "you wish."

I shrug and ignore, I basically accepted the fact that she probably came over just to make sure I was still somewhat interested in her or something. At this point I have no idea why she's even there as I've put her on a pedestal in my head and consider her out of my league. Why would a girl with SMV like that have anything to do with me? I mean the last time she saw me I was 20lbs lighter, but I don't think my body's change is THAT drastic. I guess benching 185 is better than 115 though... So there's that.

Fast forward to a few days ago she shoot me a text saying she misses me and we should hang out again (????). I tell her I'll pick her up after I drop my roommate off at work (he recently got a DUI). Pick her up. Come back to my place. We smoke up a bit, and move to my bed (again).

And here's where everything that could've went right went wrong because I'm a little bitch. I won't go into how the events happened but essentially these 3 things happened and I didn't capitalize on anything.

A) We're laying in bed side by side (no contact) She says it's hot in here and takes off her sweatshirt, so she's got just a tank top on. Lays back down on my arm. I put my arm around her and play with her hair. Don't do anything.

B) No shirt on, gave her a back massage. Didn't follow up... Just finished the massage and then laid down next to her.

C) She makes a comment about her nipples being sore from the piercing. I ask what piercing she ended up getting. She asks if I want to see. I say, "you didn't let me see last time what's different now?" She shrugs and lifts up her bra. I'm playing with the piercings... Ask a few questions... Aaaaand I put my hand back on her stomach. After a few more seconds she puts her bra back on.

At this point I literally can't tell up from down because I've put her on a pedestal higher than Mt. Vesuvius and it's taking a lot of energy for me to maintain a relatively normal state. We are going on a trip in two weeks and it's an 18hr car ride (just us) and if I do anything and get rejected wouldn't that make our trip super awkward like wtf how did I get in this situation and wtf is happening.

Anyways. Long story short we were watching a horror movie and the guy was hiking in some woods and she makes a comment about how she's never gone hiking in the dark. I tell her I have a cool hiking trail I used to hit up a few years ago with a great view of the sunrise and we should go there.

Those plans were for tonight, we will be camping overnight. I was originally gonna bring a tent but I think my oversized hammock will do. I was planning on following up with a text to confirm, but while I was writing this she texted me asking what time I'm picking her up tonight.

As I write this I know what I would tell someone to do. I know what I should do.

... But why don't I do it? I have never had a girl in my bed and not closed, what other reason could there be for a girl to be in my bed unless she was interested?

However when she's in my bed I just go into fucking analysis paralysis and can't escalate. I just freeze up.

How. Do. I. Not. Fuck. Up. Tonight.

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got stuck at 325lbs since last week and had to deload squats back all the way down to 295lbs and switch to 1x3. Good news about that is now 295lbs feels easy as shit and my legs still feels very powerful. definitely some solid progress despite the deload. 1 set of 3 reps is amazing and almost feels like it has gotten me bigger than 5x5 has at lower weights.

overhead press used to crush me at 145lbs. now, even after a long layoff due to injury, thanks to heavy squats 145lbs was easy. cant wait to pass my body weight in OHP.

built my desk with my bare hands in record time, felt great.

finances have increased even more, and spending will greatly diminish from now on.

last year i worked my ass off through every single holiday due to being a top tier sales rep for my company. during this time i clearly grew tired and started hating the holiday season. Now, i am very grateful and very excited to spend this entire holiday season at home with family.

Bent over barbell rows are giving me issues. I am having challenges holding a tight lower back as the weight increases. Is there an alternative row that accomplishes similar results or do I keep at the bent over row and continue to improve the form?

Edit: Thanks for the responses. Lots of good stuff here. My row is about 50% of my DL/squat weights and I can hold a tight back on those as my form is closer to correct on those exercises. My row is about 75% body weight as I've deloaded trying to fix this issue.

Long story short, I am doing pendlays incorrectly and that's the root issue. Bringing the bar up too far towards my head and my lower back can't handle that lever arm on top of using momentum too much. Gonna try the seal rows as those look sick and eliminate the lower back strain.

Did all the right things, proved frame, spontaneous/fun/ outgoing guy, honest, probably the only thing I didn't do is make her feel like shit or play the game, anyways girl apologized for leading me on after she just wanted to be friends, she's also not over her ex. Time to move on, but just a question, do girls like this ever come an 180? My ex came around after I stopped giving a fuck, just wanted to ask trp, if these broken hearted girls ever come around to the big man

As ive joined rowing i have lost fat but not much weight, im 6 foot and 205lbs but id prefer to be around 185 with a better physique, what are somethings i can do to grow a wider back and trim up my waist line since it seems that i tend to hold onto a bit of love handle and just a tiny belly pouch at the bottom, in general my upper body is underdeveloped compared to lower body, my back is extremely strong due to rowing but i need good wide angle workouts to compensate for my core pecs and abdominals

Let me start off by saying I'm not trying to sound arrogant here. I know that I'm a good looking guy I've been told multiple times and I can feel/see women staring at me wherever I go. Because of this I feel like women are intimidated by me. I know that as my never ending journey to be an alpha I must solidify my dominance over the other sex. But it's gotten to the point where I just think women are too shy to speak with me. For example there's a hb8 as my lab partner in genetics. I try to make friendly conversation but I almost feel like she's holding back for some reason. I know she's single but I just have no clue on how to get past this barrier I'm talking about. That put together with the fact that she can't make eye contact with me for more than a second makes me think she's too scared to talk to me. Though I know I need to work on my game I don't think that's the problem. I can have a one on one conversation with women I'm trying to bed in a certain atmosphere. But a situation like this that has a low key atmosphere has haunted me more than I'd like to admit.