Fuck, now I have another reason to become a MGTOW.

Am I the only one who feels this is...almost...wonderful?

Think of the horrible genes that are going to fail to reproduce upon her menopause.

He needed to just Ghost this bitch. Feminists dont deserve a reply text.

This. For the man on the date. If this happens, and someone fucks with your credentials, be done, okay? Be done. Just end it. Silence! Ghost. Be done!

No need to engage, insult or otherwise (though we all know you want to unleash that tirade...) Hold frame, manuever game, i.e. how you react to the world. Just say, "No, I'm done." Or nothing...

This is why I completely avoid western women. Women like the one in this post deserve to get stoned.

"Don't apologize, the damage is already done, enjoy your woman shaming, I'm out."

See? She's shaming HIM, while accusing him of shaming her.

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This incident proves as good as anything about how hateful the modern American woman is. They are just plain, manic-depressive, kooks.

Sure there are exceptions, but it seems not worth the effort to look for them.

I just feel sorry for women like that. Theyve been brainwashed to be offended by nothing and are going to keep pushing away good dudes.

Flip the script. "I didn't realize you were insecure at the time. You seemed pretty confident to me". You've changed the subject and now she will debate about how she's not insecure and/or you're an asshole. Double down with at "you seemed great but honestly this isn't going to work if you get hung up because I seek clarity in conversation. Specificity is the soul of narrative"

Maybe I just like backhanded compliments.

Gentlemen, this is why the vetting process is so important if you have a high profile position like college professor. Firstly, ensure she is no way affiliated with your institution BEFORE the date. If she is, date is off. Secondly, If she is in anyway involved in, or graduated from a psychology degree program, she is fucked in the head. I'll put money on it. Date is off. All it takes is one vindictive cunt to ruin your career. Trust me, they will try if you you hurt their feelz.

Bullet dodged. From now on I'm going to spell out every little thing to ferret out girls like this, LOL.

LOL means "laughing out loud" btw.

BTW means "by the way" ofc.

OFC means "of course", natch.

Natch is short for "natually" iirc.

IIRC stands for "if I recall correctly" LOL.

LOL stands for...

This woman is clearly using this as an excuse. There is most likely some other reason why she feels this way and is using this as a crux. Maybe she feels inferior to him because of his job. Who knows, but this is not the real reason why she is putting on the brakes. My advice to the dude, count your blessings you found out the crazy on this one before the damage was even done.

I would have had no idea what the fuck NSF was.

This NSF story sounds unbelievable, but I've had a similar thing happen with a couple girls I dated, thankfully with no vengeful epilogue with her contacting my employer.

It's flat out confusing when this happens. The outing as a whole might be fine, but that one little statement that would have been innocuous in all other contexts got misconstrued as an insult. I'm not allowed to give my very reasonable perspective. The hell?

Bright side? She weeded herself out early. Next.

Smells like a giant turd (shit test)?

I'm starting to hate people because of idiocy like this.

I always say I'm a self employed contractor, with no set workplace.

People are actually defending this nutcase:

"On the gripping hand, you didn't address her concerns very well when she texted you. She may have jumped to conclusions, but you didn't do anything to show that you were taking her feelings and experiences seriously. Instead of going straight to "I didn't do anything wrong," next time try "I'm really sorry if that's what it sounded like, it absolutely wasn't my intent. I know my job gets pretty jargon-heavy, so unusually spell things out more when I'm talking to new people." She's not psychic, she doesn't know what kind of person you are, and she has had many, many men talk to her like she's an idiot over the years. It's easy to get jaded when you get treated poorly in a specific way for a long time. She accidentally lumped you in with the scores of idiots she's had to deal with and while it was a mistake on her part, your best bet now is to treat it like a reasonable mistake. (Even if you think it wasn't. Pretend.) You'll look like a smart, empathetic person, hopefully your bosses won't think "bitch be tripping" every time they see her, and you'll all go away satisfied."

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This is just one crazy bitch. Not evidence of women in general.

I refuse to believe that the OP didn't make that story up.

(then again, this is how I would expect Trigglypuff to behave, so...)

Takeaway: asking for them to elaborate in this kind of a situation never ends well. When you're about to go "??", that's your opportunity to choose between stepping into their frame, or going with A&A / silence.

Edit: After her response there would've been another (slimmer) chance to turn things around, with something like.. "Oh you got the wrong idea, see people always think NSF stands for <something stupid and sexual>".

This is one of those moments when you realize that there is truth in "Female Logic."

Can be observed for the OP. Law 9: Win Through Your Actions, Never through Argument.

I agree with everyone else that he took this too seriously, but then again the fact that he texted her and now has evidence will help his case. All he has to do is come and show the text and he should be fine.

This guy is fucked, his bosses bosses now know him as that guy that "had that sexist allegation against him"

I constantly rail on about how allegations don't have to actually make sense for them to effect your career.

People have this naive idea that "Oh I'll never say anything controversial on the internet"

Motherfucker, EVERYTHING you say is controversial on the internet.

It's like talking to the Police. "Anything and everything you say will be held against you"

He should have texted her back.

"Ah, AWALT".

confuseddateguy[S] 9 points 1 hour ago We work at the same university. :/

What kind of fucking moron goes on a date with a grown-child that WORKS AT A UNIVERSITY? DO / NEVER. They aren't just victims; they farm professional victims. This idiot needs to go punch himself in the balls for an hour to knock some sense into him.

She'll regret treating men this way when she's 35 and firing up OKCupid for the 8,000th time

Assuming of course she has the self-awareness to connect the dots

He should have her served with a restraining order for harassment for trying to get him fired.

Sorry, I don't think I did anything wrong there..."

NOPE YOU FUCKED UP HERE!, first you openly questioned yourself and then you even apologied

Of course you don't. Don't apologize

SEE? from the horse mouth!

as side note, her massive insicurities' projections are covering half of jupiter's surface

Not engaging or entertaining nonsense like this is your single most powerful weapon. Shut down like a power grid after it's been hit by a solar storm and go Jason Bourne radio silent. Women absolutely despise being disregarded and ignored. Responding to this nonsense in any form will do more harm than good.

I'm a Patrice O'Neal attacking sort of nigga when it comes to women and dumb shit and I've realized that sort of style and attitude only wins battles and can only take you so far. You can win every battle and still lose the war. Focus on the ultimate goal which is winning the war, never the petty battles women will try and start with you.

The cognitive dissonance is real folks

Educated women. Gotta love 'em.

His mistake was not ending the date when she told him her diploma is in Psychology. Everything that came after he invited as a result of this oversight.

"We shared literally a sentence or two each about our jobs and that was it, I don't get how that is me being misogynistic not saying "NSF". If it bothered you why didn't you say something then?"

This was where he entered her frame. The woman was texting nonsense, there is no reason to respond. Who cares if she thinks his behavior is unacceptable? Next.

I swear they all have a fucking dictionary of tumblr buzzwords and circular reasoning that they parrot.

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Feminism is a mental disease.

me- "We shared literally a sentence or two each about our jobs and >that was it, I don't get how that is me being misogynistic not saying >"NSF". If it bothered you why didn't you say something then?"

This is where he fucked up. He took this seriously.

What he should of said: "whatever"

me- "Sorry, I don't think I did anything wrong there..."

Second, third, and fourth fuck up. He apologized, further validating her concern. Then defended himself, but also put the word "think" in his sentence while defending himself.

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If she continued after "whatever", he should have said, "chill out".

Here's how it should have gone.

"U R sexist?"

"huh?"

"U used a full word and not an acronym b/c u think i dum!"

"Hello?"

"hellooooo? Answer me!!"

"hellooooooo?!?"

I love the top comment that says "you did nothing wrong and your phrasing was perfect."

Translation: You did well trying to reason and explaining yourself with her and your beta behavior was perfect.

Just checking if i'm shadowbanned. Respond if you can see this comment.

My buddy went on a friend of a friend meet and greet with a black "empowered modern feminist" yoga instructor. She pulled the race card 6 times in the first hour of interacting in a public place, normal protocol for SJW bitches like that but here's the kicker, my buddy was born with one eye and shut her the fuck down by pulling the handicap card every time she opened her mouth. Hilarious to see her speechless. She proceeded to get shithouse drunk and on the way back too his house puked twice in his brand new A6 Sport, she didn't clean it up and never apologized directly, so maybe she got the last laugh. Await motherfuckers, Awalt.

And FYI, my buddy has 1 fucking eye and still closes. Makes me laugh when I see guys on here with all the bullshit reasons they can't get laid. One fucking eye, think about it.

Edit: fuck you and your insecure beta down vote. Argue my point instead.