TL;DR- I compare some dating sites and hopefully get you laid some more by telling you to do less.

“The Red Piller’s Guide to Online Dating": Browsing, Tinder and Supermarkets of Men

There’s a fairly easy method of improving your odds of having an LSSW likely to meet up with you. I like to call it the “window shopping method”.

The process is simple. Instead of initiating with all of the women you’d enjoy sleeping with, just open their bio so they see you’ve viewed their profile and move on. If they view your profile in response, you know that you’ve piqued their interest.

But why does this work?

First let's discuss the unavoidable investment.

The Unavoidable Investment

Note: Yeah, yeah, I know, reeal "witty" title, LaLa. Screw you, I'm out of coffee.

The last article focused primarily on how over-investment works between two people in that, as I’ll quote again:

“In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.”

By initiating without any form of IOI, while it can be seen as a dominant frame in-person, online it can easily be misconstrued among the other “approaches” from the dozens of other beta men messaging her, some of which might even be succinctly initiating just like the Alpha (“hey” or “hi”).

If this is the case, it could prove to be an uphill battle to get her to see how genuine your under-investment is especially considering the catch-22 we mentioned in the last post (the more you try to prove your SMV, the more invested you become in her opinion). It’s always a step into her frame.

The very act of initiating online, no matter how succinct or under-invested you make it, is an investment into her moreso than she in you (she didn’t reach out because such an act would be overt and women primarily communicate covertly). Remember, online we can only deal in the perceptions garnered by our texts, messages, pictures and bios as that’s all she has to base her judgements on our SMV off of.

There are two ways at which you could reduce this deficit of initial investment between the two of you. You can,

a) not open with high levels of investment i.e. “hey baby, what’re you up to?” which would only serve to increase the already-unavoidable gap in initial investment

b) garner some IOI to close the deficit gap a bit, should you try window shopping.

c) offset yourself from the other men by not messaging her as soon as you see her profile, which is also achieved by window shopping.

More on option C, think about it from an LSSW’s perspective: an attractive woman who is overly-accustomed to receiving a combination of profile views then initial messages from a wide variety of men checks her profile and sees that some hunky Alpha dude looked at her profile once then moved on (yes, girl think about shit like this). It bothers her. “Why didn’t he message me like the others? He saw how attractive I am.”

She’ll then visit his profile and her hamster will spin up some convoluted plot as to why you brushed over her. Then, a few hours later, she gets a message from the Alpha and she’s equally as invested. He made himself relevant by not doing anything (the best kind of relevance).

That explanation was a bit dramatic, sure. And it won’t play out that way every time (some will completely miss it/skip over it) but the ones that responded to me looking at them by looking back at me (in some cases they’ll even overtly reach out and initiate) have been some of the fastest/easiest escalations I’ve experienced with LSSWs.

Note: A long explanation for a simple method, surely. I feel that it’s important for us to understand why and how these interactions work so that with time we can tweak these inner-workings to suit each of our personalities. It’s like figuring out why a computer turns on when you press the power button. Pressing the button’s easy, but learning how it works provides insight which births innovation.

Implementation

How to window browse in practice is really easy:

1) Take a few minutes a view all of the profiles of women you’d sleep with. Nothing more.

2) Check back later to see if any have viewed you back.

3) If they have, bake for a short amount of time (depending on their SMV, longer for more attractive).

4) Initiate.

Note: That’s all there is to it. As simple as the implementation is, even if you don’t agree with me, at least give it a go. I’ll normally switch between this method and my method from the original “RP Dating Guide”, but it’s up to you.

Now let’s get more analytical. I’d like to go back to a previous comment I’d made regarding a “step into her frame” on dating sites and use that as a means to address how this varies between different sites (buckle up kids).

The “Free Markets” (Plenty of Fish, Badoo, OK Cupid, LOVOO, Skout, Jaumo, Hot or Not)

This free market “step into frame” on dating sites like POF, OKC and Badoo is usually abhorred by LSSWs as it gives men they’d perceive below their below their Beta Ladders endless opportunities to attempt to “convince” them of their SMV, thus flooding their inboxes.

LSSWs only respond to men they would either place on their Beta Ladder or Alpha Ladder, so all of the extra spam is seen as unnecessary and annoying, especially for the more attractive LSSWs. Not only do women not like reaffirmations from low-SMV men, they resent it and the men giving it.

For them, a low-SMV man that considers her attainable enough to reach out to her causes a negative reaffirmation (introspection) on how attractive she really is, which is counter to the feel-good stimuli she generally expects from dating sites. Matches, likes, favorites and communications with betas (as faceless validation sources or potential provisions) and Alphas (for FWB, ONS and NSA) is all women want from dating sites.

This is ultimately why sites like Tinder, CAB and Bumble are so popular amongst attractive LSSWs; on “free market” dating sites, their inboxes become so flooded that it’s difficult to filter out the Alphas from the betas, etc. etc.

The “Supermarkets” (Tinder, Bumble, Coffee or Bagel, Happn)

On Tinder, her inbox is directly controlled by her; only the men she deems “worthy” can even begin to speak with her, and only after she “swipes right”. To her, it’s like online shopping. She swipes right for guys she thinks she could use for either sex or validation based upon their profile pictures (people rarely look at the bio on Tinder) and swipes left for the guys she perceives couldn’t meet her standards.

Because of this, on sites like Tinder, physique is much more than a prerequisite to attraction. It’ll determine how you’ll begin each and every LSSW interaction. It’ll determine whether or not your battle will be uphill and how steep the slope. It’ll determine which ladder she leans towards for you before you even initiate.

Bumble is worse on terms of giving the LSSW control of the interaction.

On Bumble, even after you’ve both "swiped right" ala Tinder, the woman must make the first move and initiate within 24 hours in order for a conversation to begin. This is counter to the very nature of women's preferred method of communication i.e. covert communication.

Initiating an interaction is very overt, which means there's a strong likelihood that an LSSW matched with and one who openly initiates on Bumble will be dominant by nature (and thus akin to more overt methods of communication). What's more, by having to wait on said initiation the man must begin the interaction men even deeper into the LSSW’s frame than normal.

It's the purest version of online validation. The LSSWs get all of the likes and matches and reaffirmations of their SMV they would get on any other dating site, they can control whomever they actually converse with, when the converse, etc. and after 24 hours the LSSW will disappear with the man’s wasted time, effort and validation.

The man literally becomes a product on the shelf at a supermarket. This is why attractive women flock to it. No risk, all reward, all control over the interaction. It takes what little dominance that could by garnered initiating off the table.

Note: I'm not saying don't use Tinder, Bumble, Happn or CaB. Just be wary of how heavily female-catered these sites in particular have been crafted. It's always better to know exactly what you're up against so you can form a strategy around it rather than resort to blindly throwing the dice or throwing your hands and not playing at all. The former's what TRP's all about.