Red Pill Purgatory | TheRedPill

The Red Pill was never meant to be a Purgatory in which men stay permanently confused or angry after they find it. However, many men who find it simply do not understand what it is supposed to be no matter what they read about it; so, they become stuck in between the space of being Red Pill unaware and true Red Pill acceptance.

The Red Pill is merely a Praxeology for the intersexual dynamics of men and women: in short, the study of human action and behavior (in so far as it pertains to sexual strategy and the downstream effects of it on the broader culture and male identity).

That is all The Red Pill is supposed to be. It is nothing more; nothing less, for the most part.

There is no "correct" trajectory for using Red Pill as it is a toolbox and not an ideology. I find that the men who get stuck in a state of non-progress or despair after finding The Red Pill fall into a state of Red Pill Purgatory – a plane of mental existence described by partial awareness but inadequate RP comprehension:

Many men who find The Red Pill get stuck somewhere in the Denial and Anger phase of unplugging, just short of Bargaining and far short of Acceptance. The process of becoming Red Pill aware is similar to the 5 stages of grief and that it's not supposed to be a place of infinite demoralization about the gynocentric social order. When men do get stuck on this phase, his Anger Phase turns to Black Pill thinking and gender sperging.

For those unfamiliar with the Kübler-Ross five stages of grief model, the process is as follows when one experiences grief or exposure to intense realization in 5 sequential stages: denial > anger > bargaining > depression > acceptance.

This was similarly written about by Whisper in his The Five Stages of Red Pill, and how to read r/TRP textposts essay

The Red Pill aware man who finds himself in Red Pill Purgatory with a profound sense of sadness and apathy is not deeply despaired because he has reached the depression phase of the Five Stages of Red Pill; but rather is sad from the intense anger burnout of his off-the rails Anger Stage and lack of self-purpose outside of female validation – female validation he may have never even had prior to and after finding The Red Pill.

His anger phase never reaches the Bargaining Stage of unplugging because he refuses to figure out what he needs to do to adjust after the allure of the Disney fantasy ends. Instead of reaching the Bargaining Stage of grief (which is its own turbulent journey of dispelling misconceptions and impossibilities), he is subsumed by his Anger Stage into quitting the game altogether by going full Black Pill or extreme MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way).

This isn’t Red Pill unplugging, but rather a defeated self-indulgence and self-pity derived from only half-unplugging from the Matrix and failing to see how Red Pill awareness actually benefits a man.

The Acceptance Stage of Red Pill thinking is supposed to be FREEING, not depressing:

Acceptance: "Women aren't bad. My expectations of them, and theirs of me, were based on faulty premises. They are creatures of instinct, just like I am... but of different instincts. If I learn what those instincts are, and teach them about mine, we can develop realistic expectations of each other and get along just fine."

~Whisper

The Black Pill is the ultimate Red Pill Purgatory, because these kind of men obsess about Chad’s success, female promiscuity and hypergamous inclinations to the utmost extreme and ultimate conclusions.

He focuses ad nauseum on the most depressing manopshere content and gender rage bait that he can get his hands on. He essentially defaults to giving up on himself and on women entirely for reasons that are actually within his control, but that he refuses to accept as being largely within his control.

The Black-Piller seeks refuge in his self-indulgent anger instead of improving his stature in life because it is his dopamine hit of choice that is far easier – though far less rewarding – than putting in any actual substantive risk and effort to better himself and attain realistic standards.

I don’t entirely blame the source of why many Black Pill men are in Red Pill Purgatory because they have entered the workforce, dating landscape, and adulthood in a world where they lack much of the social and financial power that Boomers – and to an extent Gen X – got to enjoy before stripping Millennials and Zoomers of the very same opportunities they had.

The generations before these men achieved this socioeconomic destruction of the average male potential through voting for representation that passed various atrocious policies that shifted the landscape in favor of a dysphoric gender role hellscape of affirmative action and immigration initiatives that have dismantled many male-dominant roles in favor of diversity incentives over merit-driven placement.

Additionally, in the span of the last decade and half, most young men have experienced the post-dating app and #MeToo movement that destroyed many men’s willingness to even approach or engage in intimacy with women out of fear of false accusation. It is not hard to see why the average newly Red Pill aware man without much success spirals into Black Pill thinking, especially and particularly if he is also not successful with women.

Apex and masculine men do – after all – play by different rules and to the average man that reality is near-completely beyond their realm of comprehension. They do not have much success with women, even though it is more than possible to succeed with women and people without much power. Look at the average game success that any broke and unemployed alcoholic on probation who has always struggled to hold down a job has with women if you need any proof that the right frame of mind can still get results.

So, regardless of what obstacles men endure today, it is is still faulty thinking to default to a such a state of defeatism and fail to unplug all the way with the abundance of knowledge available online or otherwise on how to do so.

The thing is, one of the ultimate end stages of Red Pill acceptance is loving women for who they are and not who they can never be. Red Pill unplugging is supposed to free men from the burden of Disney fantasies that women will never live up to and for men to rely on themselves whilst maximizing their own sexual strategy.

If fate so happens, Red Pill knowledge serves to allow men to potentially meet a woman who fits within the purview of realistic but higher expectations of feminine polarity that is in accordance with realistic expectations and a peaceful life with a woman that meets HIS needs and standards.

Men want to be treated awesome by someone okay. Girls want to be treated okay by someone awesome.

~Whisper

What Red Pill is Supposed to Be:

The Red Pill is supposed to teach men to prioritize themselves and their own journey as men, while accepting women as they are; not what they once wished women to be.

It is supposed to teach a peak end point of male sexual strategy to get your shit together and to be happy on your OWN terms, all the while having realistic and complementary expectations of women.

It is supposed to teach men that women should be accessory and complementary components to their lives and not the prize of their lives. That women are supposed to be along the for the ride and not the destination. That women are supposed to be the first mate to their lead as the captain.

The only way to get out of Red Pill Purgatory is to understand that The Red Pill is a Praxeology and a toolbox for success and awareness-based strategy, not a reason to hopelessly crash out into obscurity. You are meant to fully unplug with Red Pill awareness, not get angry and give up.

You are a Man. Use your agency and natural competitive drive to your advantage in this world. Use the Red Pill tools and awareness available to you – and use them correctly – to build your own personal empire in the image of your choosing instead of becoming another male statistic.

Hell, use your Red Pill awareness to keep yourself away from bad women and make yourself available to better women instead of getting upset at all of them for unrealistic standards you grew up believing in.