alpha fucks beta bux

there comes a point in every BP->RP conversion when one looks at a situation like this and thinks,

"holy shit, that could've been me".

wow, i dodged some bullets.

Always. the. same. story.

Blablabla I have a boyfriend who is totally great and puts me way high on a pedastal even though my looks are fading and i can see the wall approaching.

Blablabla ok, I'm not as attracted to him as I was to past boyfriends but hey - we have the same interest (meaning he now has mine) which is totally important and shit.

Blablabla I trickletruthed him a little about my past but only so he'd be ok with it - not the whole story obvs lol.

Blablabla getting stuffed by two cocks at once was great and all but now i want a provider. Did I mention the wall?

Blablabla provider found out!!! What am I gonna do??? I don't want to face the consequences of my actions. It's soooo unfair.

This stuff still pisses me off sometimes.

This woman's fiance doesn't "feel like he was lied to." He fucking was lied to. As soon as the woman realized that her 'number' was larger than his and that he had "never tried any crazy stuff," she "didn't go into full details" about her own past, didn't mention anything about her previous boyfriend (who she still hangs out with and introduced to her fiance as a 'good friend'), and deliberately generated the false impression that she had given full disclosure and was honestly and completely presenting to her fiance who she was and the type of woman she was. He thought he had a handle on her history and her behavior and attitude regarding love, sex, and relationships.

Yet women are up in arms, proclaiming it was right for her to hide her past, because it's none of her fiance's business. He shouldn't have even asked. Nobody should want to know. Why should she have to 'confess' to the man she's going to marry? If he loves her, he should marry her blind!

Why did she hide this to begin with? Because everyone knows it's embarrassing, slutty, and devalues the woman. Everyone knows a good guy with options won't marry a woman with this kind of history. A loser guy might, but not a valuable guy with options. So everyone proclaims loudly that it's right, just, and okay to hide it, to prevent her fiancee from wrongly freaking out about stuff that's not his business, and to con him into marriage, while out the other side of their mouth, they explain that this stuff doesn't matter and doesn't affect her value at all. If it didn't matter and didn't affect her value, she wouldn't have had to hide it.

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Never hide stuff about sexual history. That's a lie. Lying is bad for LTR. People have a right to know exactly who they are committing to. If you don't lie and they still want you then congrats, if they don't then move on. All lies eventually come out.

Even though I told him all that was in the past and that I love him with all my heart, he still feels like he’s been duped.

Might have something to do with the fact that HE HAS BEEN DUPED.

I used to read Bossy all the time. SO many idiots + awful dating advice.

This is why I would only marry a religious chick. None of this for me.

Fiance will be ok. Her ex-boyfriend said "Get over it bro! It was just a threesome and A2M."

Anyway the whole thing reeks of her trying to hide her past, which she is ashamed of but won't admit. She introduced her ex-boyfriend as a "friend."

as far as we know we've only been introduced to one of the guys from the threesome, the other one is her 'best' friend...

Your worth has nothing to do with your sexual experiences.

Can we popularize a parallel saying?

"Your worth as a man has nothing to do with your employment history."

Hahaha! I'm sure it'll catch on like wildfire.

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He let her have guy friends?

Bossy says: "he feels like you lied to him"

YOU DID LIE TO HIM! Why sugar coat it, this person wrote you for advice, you have to be real.

I do agree that saying "anything that will embarrass us" is very vague and there is no way I would even know how to begin telling someone the terrible stuff I've done in my life.

That said ... his trust has been damaged and his feeling have been hurt. According to the main lady this is a man who means everything to her. Why would she be hesitant enjoying herself and her partners pleasure, especially when it didn't seem to be an issue before? That seems much worse to me than her not telling her past.

Dude was lied to and humiliated in front of other people, were it me in that situation I would tell her to get a ride home with the other dude and we are done. No way I let that type of disrespect go.

I take a different approach to this. She didn't fuck up by having fun as a young chick. That is all well and fine. She lied to him about their social acquaintances. That is where the biggest betrayal is. He isn't going to feel better by getting into a FFM threesome with this girl: he's angling for some sort of reciprocity, as if the sexual decisions made before she met him entitle him to more of the same. Fuck that noise. Their relationship now has this one-upmanship that is unsustainable. She was selfish and now he is. The best part of the advice was the writer positing that it might not work out. From that profile, I assume it wouldn't: one partner lied, leading to social devastation - the other partner is focused on some sort of sexual reciprocity. The relationship is doomed. One cannot honestly think that he'll drop it after the threesome.

If I used to spank submissive girls during my younger days, that doesn't force me to have to spank my new girlfriend, especially if my sexual tastes have changed with time. That guys analysis is selfish and opportunistic: he should just dump her, grow up, and join a fetish kinkster group.

Chris Rock said it best, women will not go backwards in lifestyle, Men will not go backwards in sexuality. Once this guy found out the chick was into freaky stuff, she had better be into freaky stuff with him. "How about I wear clear heals tonight?" "How about you wear clear heals every night!"

Wow. Stories like this just make me sad. I hope the guy comes around.

When I was in Public Speaking last spring semester I witnessed numerous students give speeches about their lives up to this point. Three or four times there were students that spoke about difficult relationships or mistakes in the past. Every single time it was the girls that said that despite the difficulties their choices wrot on them, in hindsight they wouldn't change anything about the way they've lived their lives and it made them who they are.

He acted as he should and she is panicking because she is in serious danger of losing her "beta bucks" without out putting in some work.

She is going to have to actually give him, what she gave every other alpha (for free).

I'd get a couple of 3somes out of her, and kick her to kerb.

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I know some chumps who married sluts and didn't know it.

One guy married a girl I used to date, and she did the most filthy sexual things. He thinks she only had "3 prior boyfriends" and complained at the bachelor party that she only did vanilla sex when he was really drunk, and that he would miss blowjobs. Oh if he only knew...

One other guy there was also an ex-boyfriend of her's. We knew each other. Neither one of us were the "3 prior boyfriends" of her's. We gave each other the "Oh if he only knew" look during the poor groom's speech. No we never told him. We were there as a courtesy essentially (we were the bride's guests).

I have dated enough losers and jerks in the past to recognize this. I don’t want to lose him. He is the only man I have ever wanted to marry.

This statement tells me exactly what role she sees the finance in.

FYI: Don't be this guy.

it wasn’t an attempt to deceive but rather not to reveal things that were not integral to your relationship now.

have to love this part. A lie by omission is still a lie. However, didn't she flat out lie when he asked her about her past, since she obviously knew she was concealing things as she states in her letter.

I realized, however, that his “number” was lower than mine and that he has never tried any crazy stuff.

This is a big hint that she's either a slut, or he's beta/blue pill to one degree or another (possibly both). When it comes right down to it guys should have more sexual experience than women they date and here's why:

Men are usually older than women by a couple years thanks to hypergamy, and in the aggregate being older translates to having more partners. If you stick to Rollo's 13 year SMV gap and settle down with women roughly 13 years younger, you should have a lot more experience. If you don't you're doing something wrong.

Even though I told him all that was in the past and that I love him with all my heart, he still feels like he’s been duped. He’s also extremely angry that I hadn’t wanted to experiment with him while I had “no problem” experimenting with the other guy.

This smells of alpha fucks, beta bucks.

Ok, look, I know my old girlfriends used to get sirloin and champaign for BJs and you get McDoubles and Diet Coke, but if you are the one, you'll be ok with that.

How do these women not understand that if you are sexually permissive, and then stop, it's a real buzzkill.

This bitch just got demoted to plate status and doesn't even know it. When whores whore around they have to pay the price. One of the prices of that is that no man will respect them like they would a virgin. We don't hate whores but we sure as fuck don't respect them. This girl will never gain the respect from her man that she used to have no matter how much she pleases him sexually. She will only be proving his point that she is only good for her holes.

From the comments:

“Wow, how’s the view from back there in the 50s?”

Matrimonial.

The hamstering is quite entertaining.

"He shouldn't be conncerned about the past"

Yet she hides it, proving she knows there is sonething wrong with. And there is.

Her value has significantly decreased. I like my fruit analogy:

When shopping for fruit, you always go for the best looking fruit. It could be in the front or in thr back. That could be from people jumbling them around or them just always being there.

But typically those in the front are the first to get picked up and inspected are those in the front or those that at first glance look much better.

This is just like girls; picking it up and inspecting (with penis) the one with easiest access or most promise first.

After you set it down, it now has your germs on it and is more likely to be bruised than a fruit that was just sitting there. The fruit on the front is probably also turned around to be hiding dirt/bruises when it is set back down, unless the last shopper left it up for the world to see.

Knowing this, the obvious choice is the fruit in the back as it is likely way cleaner and less chance of being bruised; thus less chance to make you sick, and also likely tasting better.

That being said, if girls are like fruit why the hell woulld we ever chose to only look at the front row to pick a fruit? We dont.

This analogy could still go much further: talking about how we want fruit at a certain stage of ripeness; talking about how drunk hookups are like buying a shitty fruit because its cheap, using the good parts, and throwing away the rest, etc.

Discussion. Go!

TL; DR. Shopping for girls is no different than shopping for fruit.

The bitch advice columnist says "he feels you lied to him." FEELS? SHE DID FUCKING LIE TO HIM! I didn't even finish reading the whole "advice"part, I was cringing so hard.

First, she writes:

He wants to try stuff he has never tried with another woman. I have so far resisted even though what my fiancé wants is not really new to me - I had those experiences with my ex.

Later, we read:

He’s also extremely angry that I hadn’t wanted to experiment with him while I had “no problem” experimenting with the other guy.

And she doesn't know what to do. She writes the newspaper column, because, she can't figure out why the guy would be upset.

smh.

Fingercuffs?

Finance? Was that a freudian slip?

Finance found out threesomes are expensive.

Fingercuffs and double penetration. Her just loving it and getting splattered on the face with moneyshots after.

I'm sure that's all his fiance can see now whenever he looks at her.

Porn has ruined our minds.

Man, I really like this particular reply to a guy who called her out on her alpha fux/beta bux bullshit.

"Yes but have you ever thought that maybe ‘threesome guy’ isn’t the kind of guy you’d want to have as your husband?

Come on man - guys do the same thing!

I’m sure there are plenty of men that have slept with ‘hot women’ that are nowhere near ‘wife or mother’ material.

Lust and love and not always incited by the same person, although it’s better if they are!

Usually, guys that are more caring etc, simply don’t incite a HUGE level of lust. They may incite SOME, but it may never be completely crazy - i.e. 70% instead of 100%

Some women are willing to forgo that extra 30% of ‘wow/lust factor’ in order to have a male partner that will actually stick around and not be off screwing everything with a pulse.

Surely you can see the logic in this… as men do this too.

I see many families walking around and believe me I think there’s little chance the Dad is lusting heavily after the Mum behind closed doors… but I could be wrong."

I believe that is a hamster trickle-truthing itself. Quite fascinating to observe it in the wild, really. Even when it admits the issue, it still won't take responsibility for it. It will always have justification for it's own bullshit.

Here is what i never, and will never understand about the hamster.

Former slut finds guy who has money, intelligence, and she wants to marry him and have him provide for her forever.

However, having crazy sex in order to accomplish this is completely out of the question!?! The ONE THING a slutty chick actually has to offer (you know all that blah blah blah sexual prime in 30s shit they spout) she'll refuse to do with the "man of her dreams".

I was foolishly hoping the response to this idiotic chick would be "Well if you want him so bad, fuck him like you do." No, the response was literally " If he is the ‘real deal’ - or rather if this relationship is the real deal - then he will come around." Yeah, don't do anything to try and remedy the situation. That might require actual effort on your part.

Of course, we all know what would happen once she got hitched: Zero sex drive. Eventually she'll whine about how sex feels degrading and probably make something up about abuse and eventually wind up divorced.

This is speculation, but there has been so many stories from the Captain Save-A-Ho chronicles and they ALL end in the EXACT same way: late 30s single mother.

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