I'll keep this short as possible. She's completely Alpha widowed and can't cope with the idea that a man wants nothing to do with her.
I have made the mistake of living with her and she moved out last year when we broke up. I still went back and hooked up with her a few times but have done everything I can to create as much distance as possible.
So here's a list of things she's done. Sent harassing text messages to my mom. Sent harassing text messages to my dad. Sent harassing text messages to one of my friends. Send harassing text messages to someone I was dating. Made a mess in the kitchen and bedroom when she was moving out. Broke stuff. Stole condoms!!! Shoved me during a break up argument.
Now on three separate occasions she's harassed me in public.
The first time I was at a bar on a date with someone. I saw that she was there so went as far away as possible. She brought the guy that she was with over to right in front of where I was sitting with my date and started mugging down with him. Just a couple feet away from me. I asked if they wouldn't mind taking the act somewhere else. The guy starts to talk shit. He's kind of fat and has a smoker's cough. I've done kickboxing, karate, boxing, and BJJ for years, so although I would have liked to have waxed this guy it would not be a fair fight and I try to keep it on the mats. Then she starts bumping her gums to the woman I'm with. We finish our drinks and go somewhere else.
A few weeks later I'm out with someone else. Different bar. I'm closing my bar tab and she walks up and makes a scene. Starts insulting the woman I'm with and generally running her mouth. I walk that woman back to her car, tell her goodnight. Crazy ex starts to text me, says she's sorry, and asks if we can have one drink. I say sure what the heck. She's asking me if I'll go home with her that night. I'm considering it until she is really rude to a guy there at the bar. He said we were a cute couple and she goes off, says this is my ex-boyfriend blah blah blah and fuck you dude. I tell her that she is classless and there's no way I'm going home with her. She storms out.
That was three or four months ago. Last night was the last straw. I have a girlfriend now. Smoking hot, good head on her shoulders, not possessive or clingy, not jealous, has a damn good job, owns her own house, drama free to this point. I had warned her that if we run into my ex in public this situation might arise. Ex comes up to the table where we're at and puts her face in my face. Starts going off to my new girl about what a piece of garbage I am, that I'll cheat on her, blah blah blah. My girl takes it in stride and handles it magnificently. She leaves. As I'm leaving I asked a table full of guys if I can buy a cigarette. My ex screams don't give that guy a cigarette he's a cheater. I tell them yeah I cheated. On HER. I buy cigarette for a dollar and she starts walking over to that table. This is outside. I'm trying to go to my truck at this point. I tell her loudly and clearly so everyone can hear don't touch me, don't block my way. If you do I'll call the cops. She follows me to my truck. I get in and she holds the door open so I can't close it. Her beta Orbiter friend is there consoling her. She's in tears. I can't shut the door to my truck and it also occurs to me that I don't have a light. I asked beta Orbiter for a light and he says no. I get out of my truck lock it shut the door, walk back to the table of guys. Tell them God damn when I deny a bitch the D she gets withdrawals. They all laugh and give me a light.
Beta Orbiter is back at the table with her while she cries and I'm free to leave.
So I just called and made a police report. I hate that it comes to this but it does. This is a small town (good sized city but everyone knows everyone it seems) and we are bound to bump into each other.
Also the fact of the matter is that I got divorce raped a couple of years ago, my ex wife gamed the system. So I have supervised visitation with my children (she accused me of beating the shit out of them), she has a restraining order on me (lol I don't want to be within a light year of her, much less go over to her place), and I'm on probation now. So all the cards are stacked against me in this situation. I have no choice but to be the first one to take action.
I was raised to avoid fights when possible, but was also taught that when a fight is inevitable the intelligent thing to do is to strike first.
Keep that in mind gentlemen. When a woman escalates, get the law involved before she does.
A good offense is the best defense.
She's about to get it. This is what a hard next looks like.
Bye Felicia.

Backuponit2017 8y ago
Phaedrus, keep your distance from this woman. I skimmed over all of this and one thing stuck out: crazy ex wife, crazy ex girlfriend, and current very attractive girlfriend. Crazy is the common denominator. I’ve been there too many times. There’s something in YOU that attracts you to these types of women beyond just physical attraction and maintains these relationships. Looking from the outside, creating and maintaining drama is a driving force in all these scenarios. Step back and take a look at your own actions and see what it is in yourself that thrives on drama: Ego, Adrenaline, revenge, prior hurt, etc., we’ve all been there. In the end, it’s leading you into these types of relationships. Avoid them.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Could not agree more, man. Thanks.
sd4c 8y ago
"The only winning move, is not to play."
How the hell does this chick keep finding you?
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
I'm 6'4" and usually wear boots. Kind of stand out.
PabloAsscrowbar 8y ago
Your ex is crazy, no doubt about that. But then why did you even hook up with her after breaking up? As one poster mentioned, simply ghost. The first few months, she will go on an 'offensive' and try to get you back to the plantation. But if you ignore and ghost, eventually she will get the message. By hooking up with her, you are also sending the message to her that she still has a chance.
Maybe you wish to give her a proper closure. Don't. Women only want to play by their rules and will never honor any agreement made by you and her.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Can't disagree with anything here
PabloAsscrowbar 8y ago
Women will always claim that they just want to 'talk one last time' and 'clear up any misunderstanding'. These are traps, they have no intention to reason and they only said all these to lure you back into the plantation by playing into your sympathy and kindness. Men tend to be sympathetic, kind and forgiving and these are the traits that women exploit. You don't owe her any proper closure or those romance BS.
In the past, when I was still using dating apps and trying these out, I cannot even count how many women ghosted me even after going out with me and saying they had good vibes. Women do not play by honor, but they want men to play by honor.
Your ex sounds like she is a BPD and toxic bitch. Consider yourself extremely lucky she did not file false rape charges against you even though you two had several breakup sex.
Redpillandrew 8y ago
God, what a waste of space she is. And your ex wife divorce-raped you. Poor choices. I hope she doesn't fuck you up. Cheers
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
I learned the hard way, that's for sure
AllahHatesFags 8y ago
Your ex is nuts, we've all seen this in some form before, but what really gets me is the pathetic fat beta lapdog who is literally following some chick around as she stalks her ex. I wonder what he is getting out of this; I guess some guys just can't take a hint!
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Lol yep. He used to always say he wanted to come try BJJ with me, but then would back out at the last minute. His 24 year old wife is on disability for endometriosis. That's right. Disability for endometriosis. She needs constant attention and if she's having a bit of pain he'll do anything to make her happy, so he always had a good excuse for remaining a paunchy slob at the ready. I had half a mind to tell him it's a good thing that he never came because he'd be chewed up and spat out. Current gf said she's seen guys like that and even if they put on a little muscle it goes away immediately. Dude has full sleeve tats too. LMAO these days if you want to look like a badass you have to NOT get tats.
AllahHatesFags 8y ago
Tats don't make you look like a badass unless you have muscle and even then only to a point. A fat guy with tats just screams "loser" to me.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
I may be doxxing myself but fuck it. His name is Harley. His legal fucking name.
[deleted] 8y ago
Povitch, Springer, and the producers of "Cops' all want to buy your story.
This is a train wreck, and you are as guilty as the rest of the players.
Low rent trailer trash.
GTFO, OP. Have some more respect for yourself.
[deleted] 8y ago
Best comment here....triggered the fuck out the OP.....yet it's buried.....guess people can't handle the truth.
[deleted] 8y ago
Hey buddy - welcome back. You took a breather?
Candy from babies... I pity the fool. Why I stopped... not fair to shoot an unarmed man.
I do like how u/wate4me buried his foot in OP's ass, though.
Even if I get the feeling he's printed out my pic once or twice...
[deleted] 8y ago
Yeah, good to step back now and then....but I escalated my Red Pilled life. I installed a full Olympic squat rack and bench, along with 300#'s of weights, in my apartment. It fits together well, from the couch it's out of the line of sight. I can't believe I did so much judo without lifting....stupid. Squat are fucking amazing....I was always told to bend my knees more to get into throws. Squatting heavy should help!
It's funny....I used to think "Do you even lift, bro?" (or dost thou even heave, good sir?) to be the most inane bullshit....now all I hear is "Do you do the bare minimum to be a man?"
[deleted] 8y ago
I hear calisthenics are the shit.
Congrats.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Hey man. Read your back story. Your wife fucked someone else and you took her back. Have some more respect for yourself. You're a cuck!! With your faggot ass BDSM bullshit. It's a game, not real life. Go fuck yourself dude. LMAO
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Oh lawdy lawdy I do DECLARE whatsoever shall I do? A red pill endorsed contributor (ie unreformed beta bitch) hath besmerchified my worth.
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CairoOfTheEast 8y ago
Kinda curious as to why you took everyone else's put downs in stride but lashed out at this one
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
I take criticism. I don't take shit. This guy is a neck beard in his mother's basement for all I know. Seems like he didn't read all I said, but cherry picked what he wanted so he'd get a little feel from somehow getting one over some dude on the internet. TRP is like any other forum. I'm a grappler. One of the forums I go to for that there are people that have been posting daily for years. They think they're the shit. Then you find out they actually don't train much or compete, but may act like they know more than actual high level guys that don't spend their days POSTING about grappling, but actually doing it.
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frame = shattered
By a random internet asshole (me).
Think about that for a hot minute, if you can.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Lol. Hardly. In my face you'd crumble like a bitch. On the internet you can hide and bump your gums.
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PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
I've done kickboxing, boxing, and BJJ for over 20 years dummy. I'm one of the strongest guys in my gym. I roll with NFL players and pro fighters that tell me I'm strong. And redneck? I have a master's degree. Stop sucking this dude's dick. He's a cuck
[deleted] 8y ago
You smoke and train Bjj? Nah man. Can't do both. Your gym have an open mat ?
zombieboromir 8y ago
Hahahaha heel hook the shit out of this fool
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
I have a couple cigarettes when I'm drinking. When I'm training a lot I don't smoke at all. Right now my left meniscus is kind of fucked up, so I'm laying off the last month. Which means I'm smoking more. But a lot for me means maybe a few packs a month.
Me and the girl are both quitting though. It helps to be around it less.
Also I only really started smoking a couple years ago when I got divorced, so it's not like I have years of damage recover from
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PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
In a different field. I'm a polymath. I build high end custom furniture. I'm well educated and we'll read.
Nope, I pay for my smokes. Gotta give bums like you SOME edge.
You don't know me, kid. 99.9% chance I punk you badly.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Get that picture of the dude railing your wife out of your head yet? How those sloppy seconds feel?
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PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Blah blah blah. It's Reddit.
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PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
I knock those fuckers down. They're usually pretty weak, unless I built them
MentORPHEUS Senior Endorsed 8y ago
No, you haven't!
This reads like some kind of co-dependency, or an unhealthy desire to have the last word or to somehow retcon the entire thing so it ends on a good note.
YOU AREN'T GOING TO SET THIS RIGHT. This woman sounds vindictive and toxic, and you have some issues of your own to sort out. Some relationships end badly, learn to walk away and move on.
This would be a great idea, if not for the Duluth Model, which basically means "On a domestic call, arrest the man no matter who called or what happened."
You have given up your agency in the matter and turned it over to the police. I hope you don't wind up regretting posting this prematurely. It's out of your hands in many ways.
grewapair 8y ago
This is, quite possibly, the most idiotic thing I have ever read. The problems you are having are a direct result of your beta frame. It's over, yet you keep letting her come back. So she has every motivation to increase the drama level until you are dead or in jail.
You are simply an idiot. You don't need the police to do anything because 100% of the problem here is you. Cut contact. The end.
One more thing: you're a moron.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
I've cut contact dude. Haven't talked to her in months. Didn't make that clear in my original post. But I've had her blocked (and all.her friends) on phone and social media for over three months. Only contact was once on email to coordinate dropping her shit off. She can't handle it so keeps bugging me in public if our paths cross, especially when I'm with a fine ass woman.
grewapair 8y ago
Because you keep sleeping with her and drinking with her, so she thinks she has a chance. Here's a good rule for the future, once the break up occurs, no more contact. You are a ghost. Don't reply, ghost. No more conversations, no more drinks, no more sex, just fucking move on. When you do that, they'll try a few times and then get the message that it's OVER.
You, on the other hand, kept sending her a message that it's not over. That if she just did <insert drama here>, she could win you back.
You don't need the police, you need to ensure she gets the message its over, and you do that by not responding. You'll be lucky if you don't end up dead or in jail the way you've approached this. Stop replying to her. If you see her in a bar, just zip your stupid fucking lips and walk out -- don't even acknowledge her existence because if you do, she thinks she has a chance. At some point, she'll realize she shouldn't waste her time.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Not for a good four months or so
Can't disagree with that
Not this bitch
I'm getting the cops involved so she doesn't first because she's vindictive and knows she can fuck me over
Dead? Come on man. Jail, maybe.
I don't reply. She's blocked.
Fair enough. Unfortunately she's noticed me before I noticed her
halfback910 8y ago
Wait, you two just happened to be at the same bar? What?
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
I know :/ I've run into her four times, in four different bars. Goddammit.
halfback910 8y ago
Out of how many times you've been to bars over what time frame?
Like four out of what kind of sample size? Like four times out of hundreds of bar trips in the same area over four years? Or four out of seven in the last three weeks.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
I'd say twice a week or so over the past six months.
halfback910 8y ago
So like 8%. I guess that's doable if you are both in the same area and it's not super densely populated with people and different bars. Particularly if you have the same taste in bars, which would not be out of the question at all given that you were together a while.
If you're in a large city, though, it seems very unlikely. And I would recommend checking the security of your electronic devices. If she has resources at her disposal she could have had them compromised at some point.
This is assuming, of course, that you're telling the truth. Which I am assuming.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
I'm in Austin. There are a lot of douchey bars to avoid lol
halfback910 8y ago
Hm. So a sizeable city. 8% is really high, then, imo. There are a couple possibilities, all of which revolve around information I don't have:
1: Your ex wife or whatever is going out a LOT. We have no idea how frequently she's going out, maybe every single night.
2: You are both concentrating on the same or a highly overlapping number of bars (i.e. you both live in the same area or work in the same area and so are kind of working with the same cluster of bars).
3: You've both developed very similar tastes in bars.
4: Sheer fucking luck (highly unlikely).
5: Your ex-wife is somehow putting her finger on the scale.
To explain briefly why it's just so unlikely, let's take two random people who are both going to bars for 6 months, twice a week for a total of eight visits/mo. Let's say they have only twenty bars to pick from. To simplify matters let's not worry about actual hours and schedules and just say that there are two time slots each night. So that if they do happen to pick the same bar on the same night there's a 50% chance they'll be there at the same time at some point that night. Which is probably about right.
Each week you two random people have a 1/70 chance of being at the same bar at some point. Over six months there is a 30% chance of you meeting once. One time. Two times drops to 9%. Three times drops to 2.7%. Four times is lower than 1%.
Unlikely things happen all the time, of course.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Damn dude, good, fast stat analysis lol. Ex girlfriend, not wife. We dated just over a year and she's like this already. And yes, she goes out a LOT. Her drinking was actually a big turn-off to me. I addressed it, she avoided and made excuses, blah blah blah. I'd say I have about ten or fifteen bars on my roster, there is definitely some overlap in the places we like, and with her being out every damn night, the odds of running into her are high enough. Funny thing is, two of the places I saw her are places she never went to at all when we were dating. She went to each one once, and both times I took her.
halfback910 8y ago
Okay yeah if she's going out a ton and there's overlap and fewer than 20 bars that substantially boosts the chances.
And thanks.
[deleted] 8y ago
You certainly attract a lot of pissed off, crazy women. Wonder why?
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monsieurhire2 8y ago
Shouldn't your really be cutting her a check for all this guerilla marketing she's providing you? I mean, she's practically a walking advertisement for how great you are, because your absence drove her crazy with withdrawal.
KnowBrainer 8y ago
I don't know. My ex turned immediately to smoking crack. I'm not sure "his cock broke me" is a good thing.
monsieurhire2 8y ago
Well, that's not your fault. Don't make the mistake I made years ago and beat yourself over a weak, mentally unstable person's abreaction to a breakup. Don't feel guilty about it. If the shoe were on the other foot, she wouldn't give it a second thought. Easier said than done of course. We all have choices to make. She could have responded by getting healthy, getting hobbies, networking. There are armies of men out there waiting to wife her up. There's really no excuse, even for fugly women. Their worst enemy is themselves.
Troll_Name 8y ago
If she turned to smoking crack then her new friends are the crack community. They're not going to remember the lies she tells about you, and you're not going to value their opinions even if they could remember.
Regular cocaine: extreme rush, extreme crash. Whenever someone acts like Chris Chan I think to myself "yuuuppp, cocaine" because they remind me of my father and some folks his age I worked alongside because it was the only job in town. (And not necessarily cocaine any time recently.)
Crack cocaine: it's stronger, and also it's usually cut with dirty things. You generally don't come back from this one, which makes it better than regular cocaine. The only variable is how long you curse your family before finally disappearing, which seems to depend entirely on the family's luck.
Meth: it's like you don't exist anymore, but yet you're still there to make everyone else dry heave. Teeth gone, face twice as old, dementia similar to cocaine, your kids had about as bad a childhood as it gets. Cousins with meth parents had it worse than I did.
Heroin: Kills people on their first time. Otherwise sleep standing up, start genuinely looking like a zombie out of a movie, or die at the wheel of a car full of kids. Not a care in the universe other than running out of heroin.
Coke/meth/heroin are the big three - on a survey of narco police narco paramedics narco ER doctors etc. Anything else on that level is generally going to be misuse of hospital drugs. Michael Jackson was given anesthesia by someone who was not an anesthesiologist, who failed to keep his air passages open.
FuckRightOfff 8y ago
SWIM banged a chick who smoked crack. That wasn't horrible, the real horrible one was the chick who was on XANAX. Now that shits fucking crazy. Imagine having a docile 'relaxed' woman one day, and ape shit fucking crazy insane the next. Beta roller coaster of d00m
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Lol. You're thinking like a Texan, friend. I still haven't dropped the nuclear bomb of hamster caffeination on her. Which would be to ask her if she's figured out yet which one of her friends I banged ( for the record I didn't actually bang any of her friends but got real close with the hottest member of her friend group. LMR kept the panties on that night).
But in all seriousness I'm really left with no choice. With my current legal situation if she were to say anything to the authorities along the lines that I was harassing her, I'd be sunk. The feminist imperative is coming back to bite her in the ass.
halfback910 8y ago
That made me laugh out loud. That's fucked up. It's like that prank where high school kids released nine pigs in their high school and numbered them one through ten, skipping six or something.
Troll_Name 8y ago
You can sink a woman. Flaming retards sink women in California divorce court; even my crackhead father at one point. (Being a helpless burden on society might have helped his case.)
Got a lawyer? Trust your lawyer. Don't got a lawyer? Get the big one. If you were a wealthier and better connected man then she would probably already be serving her 90 days.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Funny thing is she comes from a respectable, very well connected family, but conducts herself in the lowest manner.
race_car 8y ago
awalt. the trashiest girls in town are always the daughters of the police chief and the preacher man.
monsieurhire2 8y ago
True, true. I was mostly being facetious. She would have to provide evidence of your harassment, and you could probably easily provide more evidence that she was harassing you. Nonetheless, it would be a debacle, so preventative measures are best.
bidextralhammer 8y ago
For what it's worth, one of my friends had a crazy ex. He got a restraining order against her, it was deserved. She then got one against him and it caused serious aggravation, to the point where he had problems with jobs. You already have a restraining order from your ex. I'm wondering if anything else could be done.
[deleted] 8y ago
Yep. In a sane world you would just shake your head and let her rage, no reason to fuck her over. But you have to protect yourself.
kick6 8y ago
Why the FUCK did you agree to have a drink with her? "What the heck" was NOT the proper response.
zyqkvx 8y ago
Right. When I read that I knew he was at least part of the problem. No doubt at this point it's wise for him to be the first to make a police report. I'm not a lawyer, but I"d think the good move would be to get a restraining order on her. No need to tell her they aren't enforced by police. A restraining order sets the tone of who is the problem down the road. She's so wild if he didn't put in a report, she is ripe to put a restraining order on him.. after that. Case closed. Society will deem him another abusive male in a relationship. No proof required.
IMO, if OP doesn't go no-contact then he's part of the problem and deserves part of the shit show they are creating together.
Troll_Name 8y ago
Never
ever
EVER
meet alone in person with someone you're taking to court. They talk to your lawyer or your lawyer's hand.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
We'd been broken up for a bit but had still hooked up a couple of times. I was just thinking about that
kick6 8y ago
Pussy excuses this? Come on, bro...
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Why's it bug you so much? I knew I'd be seeing her around sometimes. I was just downgrading her to plate for a minute til I just dropped her completely. You never got that extra hot sex when it was just over and you were just treating her like a cum dumpster? That shit is raw dude. I highly recommend at least once in your life. At the end of the day it was a good lay
zyqkvx 8y ago
<cricket noises>
not with crazy chick who is ripe to testify against you
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Dude this chick, she gave me drama but no legal bullshit. Besides, she'd be behaving the same way when I ran into her whether I'd banged her again or not.
I don't know why the fuck all you guys are acting like you'd never fuck a crazy ex
zyqkvx 8y ago
Really? You've been in this forum and have no idea?
I'm trying to bust your balls not punch you in the face. Now that you filed a report, she might get some ideas of her own. Especially, if she's talking to female friends. The other side sounds more like, "We're not going to let him get away with that"
Honestly, you are there. You have all the facts and I don't. Doesn't mean you aren't f'ing up. Hart to tell from here.
Hope things go the right way for you.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Well look, I get AWALT. I've been on the wrong side of false accusations. I've also been in like four or five LTRs that ended. Only once did something like that come up. So my gut tells me she's not gonna get the law involved, especially when SHE has gotten crazy and violent with me (not too violent, just puffery, shoved me a couple times, broke a lamp once, slammed doors and shit like that), but I've never raised a finger to her. First whiff I got that maybe she'd be vindictive in that way, I ghosted hard. She's blocked on everything, hell I have a new number she doesn't even know.
Me calling the law is a way of saving my own ass. Insurance policy. And a way to get her to actually leave me the fuck alone in public.
If I went up to a woman's car that was trying to leave and held the door open sknshe couldn't drive away I'd be arrested as hell. She wants to be a feminist? Here's your equal rights. Explain it to the cops why you can yell in my face and cause a scene.
meowsero 7y ago
Was there any reaction from her once she learnt about the police report against her? (And what kind of police report, like restraint order?) I am in kind of a similar situation right now where I getting harassed by some crazy fwb and don't want any blowback of I actually try to file something against her .
zyqkvx 8y ago
There's two kinds of vision. In the first you see an eagle in a marble block then chip the eagle statue in to existence, or you see yourself as built then go to the gym and 2 years later are built. Then there's the other kind of vision. Your vision is a check in the mail because someone told you the check was in the mail, or you, your girlfriend[sic], and a cop are all standing in one place and the cop is saying to the girl, "Explain how you can yell in his face and cause a scene and not be the bad guy?" That's not how it will go down. What makes sense and how things go down are two different things. Read some family court stories.
This all said. I'm probably over the top. I mostly believe she is harmless by how you describe her. It just doesn't click with me to do all this dance with crazy chic when any chic can say, "he raped me", "He <whatever>" and everyone will go along so they aren't seen as misogynistic.
I guess some of us have just seen some uglier stuff than you have. And again, I don't have any real facts. I'm going by red flags.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Dude read some of my other posts in this thread. I'm LIVING a family court nightmare with a BPD psychopath. That's why I'm noid about this cunt
sendwhenpenguin 8y ago
Good for you. Keep us updated.
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Good that you filed a report first. Now it's on record.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Unfortunately she's leaving me with no choice. Telling me I can't go to a bar I've.been going to since she was a kid, saying it's "her" bar. Thing is she's in a bag every damn day. I've run into her in FOUR DIFFERENT BARS since we broke up. Only time she didn't start a show was when she didn't see me lol
[deleted] 8y ago
Small towns sound crazy man. I've never had to deal with this. After high school, once something was over that was it. I never see them again.
Sarfanadia 8y ago
Sounds like you keep digging yourself into the same hole over and over again.
First lesson: crazy ex wife
Second lesson: crazy ex girlfriend
Third lesson: current girlfriend who isn't crazy and is smoking hot and can do no wrong and you fuck her all the time (guess how your previous relationships started out)
Gonna be real with you. Dump your current gf before it gets to the point of your previous two relationships. In the meantime, do some self improvement and soul searching so you don't get fucked over by another psycho.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
I'm in a lot better place now than I was in either of those. Both times by this point I'd already run into problems. Don't get me wrong bro. I in no way consider her a unicorn or oneitis. I'm being exclusive but reserve the right to start spinning plates again if shit gets bad. I also didn't really think about the idea of holding frame in the past. I just keep dominant now. Women love it. They want to be led. Gotta lead them, then they become like little angels or concubines or something. I can't explain it. Lol it's all good man.
Herdsengineers 8y ago
Crazy bitch after crazy bitch was the story of my life up until 4 years ago (I'm 42). Took a few years off, monk mode, got myself straightened out. I got to the point that I couldn't be happier with the thought of being single and spinning plates forever, I met a chick that has turned into a RP type woman that loves I'm her Captain. It's true that when you finally stop looking for real, the right kind of woman shows up. It's like they have radar for you at that point or something.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
I'm with a chick that's already basically redpilled. She's never heard of TRP but parallel thinking. Easy. She actually appreciates that I bust my ass working for myself and am not always available 24/7. Didn't push for exclusivity. Cooks, doesn't expect me to pay for everything. Does my laundry, all that.
Herdsengineers 8y ago
Yeah, I'm still not certain if it's genuine and forever or if that smile she has after she's folded my clean laundry up real neat is her just trying to butter me up more. The follow up blow job is either proof or the extra cherry on top of her act!
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Similar situation. I'm 39. Fake it til you make it. But at this point in my life, nexting is always a viable option. They have to sense that, then magic happens
MonkeyClam 8y ago
"have done everything I can to create as much distance as possible." Except, you put your penis inside her.
And why are you constantly running into this person in public. Can't you find new bars to go to? Is your city that small?
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Man, we broke up in August. Last time I banged her was maybe the first week of November? Anyway it's been a while. After that I dropped her shit off and never contacted her again. And yeah, I don't get it but I run into her all over the damn place. It's Austin, so a decent sized city but you seen the same people everywhere. I mean hell dude. My number two plate loved just a few houses from her parents. I dated a chick before her that I knew in a completely unrelated manner that grew up with her. Found out about it later. I don't fucking get it, there's over a million people here but sometimes it feels like it's just a couple hundred.
Even the woman I'm dating now. I used to bang one of her friends from school-- college (she has no idea)-- and she has a real close common friend of another chick I dated before
This town is the world's most slowly moving orgy
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PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Honestly I think she may have started going to spots I like more to try to run into me. These are places she never wanted to go. And yeah, Austin is big, but most of the bars suck, so there aren't that many to choose from.
lrb6805 8y ago
edit: just saw you already made the report
Some advice to you, before you go make a harassment report, look at your State's penal code and make sure it meets the minimum Elements of the Offense. Depending on what evidence you have it may meet the higher charge of stalking, where you can actually get a Protective Order that is enforceable by local law enforcement (restraining orders are not). If it doesn't then nothing can be done on the criminal side, civil side is a different story though. Criminal law operates on Probable Cause (more concrete) where Civil side operates on the Preponderance of the evidence (lesser). (That's why OJ Simpson was cleared criminally but lost civilly)
Also, in case you're thinking of a restraining order, just be aware they are not enforceable by Police. Police officers only deal with the criminal side of the law (Protective Orders for violence) whereas Restraining orders are purely civil. It may be different where you are, but just do your research and/or ask a lawyer/local police so you know what to expect on how things are enforced.
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Yeah I was talking to a friend today and she told me the difference between a protective order and a restraining order. I actually had no idea that they were distinctive from each other.
I don't feel threatened by her just simply harassed and annoyed. She's a spoiled rich girl that's used to getting her way her entire life.
Honestly I feel like just a call from the cops is enough for this soft ass person.
The where was explained to me is it she'll get a call or maybe a visit, they'll tell her to lay off, and if she lays off fine, but if she keeps it up you could be charged with harassment.
I think if I wanted to be a total dick about it I could have it charged with assault for holding my truck door open. But honest to God I don't want any drama I just want her to bug off.
My refusal to engage is what drives her craziest
BewareTheOldMan 8y ago
You're smart to report this to the police and highlight her pattern of behavior. It doesn't matter if she's dangerous or not, this behavior is unacceptable when men do the same - hence equality in the form of police correction.
The police reports will save you much trouble and aggravation if this ever goes to court.
Agrees_withyou 8y ago
I can't disagree with that!
nyskate94 8y ago
Good for you. Sounds like my last ex that almost ran me over with her car when i went for jog. Thankfully that was the last time i ever saw her lol.
trashtalker123 8y ago
I Love the 3 !!! Marks after the stole condoms sentence
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Yeah she was ready to jump back on that cock carousel lol
JW8614 8y ago
Wow, this woman is crazy. Glad to hear you filed charges. Make sure you save all emails & texts from her too.
Michael_Negron 8y ago
Gotten a restraining order on my ex before, not fun. Good luck dude.
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Gozsayin 8y ago
Judging by how she behaving you are clearly the Chad in her life or were lol. Nice. That being said I think cutting her off at this point is the best thing u can do but you know that already
PhaedrusHunt 8y ago
Man, I've cut her the fuck out already. Bitch won't take a hint so gotta take the next step. And yeah I was her Chad LMAO. I've been chad a few times so what can I say. Sometimes I make bitches crazy lol
satellite779 8y ago
Are you sure she's not a narcissist? Sounds like you caused her a narcissistic injury by leaving. That's like a death sentence to narcissist. They need to be in control in order to feel they are not the worthless piece of crap they are. Also, she used triangulation by bringing another guy to confront you. Narcissist love to do that to feel they are worth something.
Francko93 8y ago
Good! Be careful though, some of these women makes the joker look like a sane man.
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